Time varies; don't despair.
Literally speaking, I had no prior idea to what I intended to draft as my today's article, this came directly from my personal experience, it's more like an advice to myself and to everyone out there.
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Today's blog.
Time varies; don't despair.
Time
the measured or measurable period during which an action, process, or condition exists or continues
One of the causes of greed is jealousy or envy towards the progress of others. We sometimes forget that we might just not be meant to make it the same time or period our friend makes it.
Let's use nature as an example:
There are different seasons in a year and these seasons have their specific timing.
Autumn or fall.
Summer,
Spring
Winter
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.
The sun has its time to shine, so does the moon. I don't know about you, but I've never seen the moon shining at twelve noon. Neither have I seen the sun shining in the night.
Everyone's timing is different.
Oh you didn't get admitted to college sooner, your friends are already in school and you're still trying to figure your life out.
You didn't get married at your planned date, whereas your school daughter back at college; is married already with two kids.
You've been married for the space of five years and yet no children to show for it,but your friends and younger sister have birthed their second child.
You wrote your exams a couple of times and failed, whereas your friend; who is not as brilliant as you are, wrote it at a go and made her papers.
You graduated with a first class degree, but even at that; you're there, jobless. Whereas your friend that barely crawled through school is already counting his salary in millions.
It could be difficult, wait; did I just say "could?." It is difficult, believe me; I know. I'm still here.
With the way I pictured my life, I should be wrapping up with my educational life by now, I mean; some of my mates have.
There was a day I cried.
Why did I cry?
I saw one of my juniors, back in high school; in her matriculation gown. Don't misquote me, I was happy for her, but I was sad when I remembered the age I was; when I wore my own matriculation gown.
This girl in quote is just 16years old and she has already entered a prestigious University called; Obafemi Awolowo University and I'm here, struggling in a ploytechnic, it was like a great slap to my face. I started wishing I had figured out my life in time, I started wishing I got admitted into a university instead.
You can never be late.
Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting.”
During this waiting period of yours, don't despair, always remember that: in due time, it'll work out fine.
Don't weigh your friends achievements with that of yours.
Don't question your abilities all because your friend seems to be made
Just learn to smile and be happy.
Start learning these tips.
Learn to sincerely congratulate others.
Anytime that depressive feeling knocks on the door of your heart. Learn to remind yourself that you're good at what you do and that even if it's not now. You'll surely be who you've dreamed of someday.
Always wear a smiling face even in the face of challenges. This way, your heart and mind would start getting used to happiness.
Learn Self motivation: Sometime last year, I was so tired of writing, infact I was at the edge of losing myself and that was because, people on my WhatsApp contact list left little or no feedbacks as regards my poems and all. I needed motivation from them. I needed to hear words like: "I love this poem" "this was inspiring" "what's the meaning of this poem" I also wanted to hear critiques like "you shouldn't have put a comma after that letter" "simile would have worked better in that phrase...."
I wanted feedbacks!!. Was that too much to ask? So I almost lost it, it was then one of my spiritual fathers told me: "Learn to motivate yourself, don't always wait for others to motivate you." These words sank in and since then. I tried my best to start motivating myself.
Congratulate yourself: Just learn to congratulate yourself, tell yourself sweet things, remind yourself of your previous accomplishment, always remind yourself that "this is a phase, that would soon be over." Tell yourself in, "Mr Macaroni's voice" "you're doing well."
Whenever those worries starts triggering in, just smile and try to remember only good memories.
The wait might be long, but tell yourself this: "I'll get there."
Learn not to feel bad if your friend makes it before you. Be happy and smile for your own day of celebration is soon to begin.
Always remember:
Time varies, don't despair.
Some people get married at the age of 25, and gets her kids within the space of a year.
Some, gets married at the same age but gets their kids within the space of six years.
Some; don't even conceive at all.
Serah in the Bible, conceived at the age of 90. (Way above menopause).
Some people; immediately they are done with school, they get their dream jobs, in their dream company.
While some have to wait for few years of movement, sweating and submitting curriculum vitaes' from one company to another before they finally gain employment.
In all, let's just patiently wait for our time, one of the reasons why you hear of "rituals in Nigeria" or "fraud" "killing" is basically because of greed and impatience and ofcourse lack of conscience.
One of the reasons why a best friend would go about "seducing her friend's" husband or boyfriend is jealousy and that jealousy is sometimes; triggered from impatience and despair.
Most people these days just want the results, they are not patient enough to wait for their own time.
Above all:
Time, they say; is money, so use your time well and use it wisely.
It is here, I'll drop my pen. I'd be glad to read your beautiful comments, I'll love you hear your views on this.
Till we meet again in my next article and in yours.
Thanks for reading.
Well technically we only have 2 seasons In this damned country lool, but that's besides what your whole article was about... I've never really thought about these things you wrote, people having their own time and all, that would mean I believe in destiny or fate. Where as I feel "there is no fate but what we make", maybe it's cause I don't really react to things the same way normal folks do, but I'd do well to keep all you wrote in mind.