Broken home?.
June hasn't even gone halfway yet and I'm already having a big issue with consistency. I'm actually working towards a change; hopefully, this week would be better.
Without further ado, yesterday being Sunday was a very spectacular one; spent in the presence of God.
Moreso, issues were discussed, so many questions were asked. I'll call the theme of that session: "How to raise a godly generation of children," with the recent news of the funny and terrible things underaged children are presently doing.
It was basically talking about being a good parent to your child, properly nurturing and seeing your child grow in a godly way.
So many questions were asked and answers were rendered, but for today's article I'll slash out some questions and discuss basically on a particular remark from one of the facilitators of yesterday's show.
In my next article, I'll make reference to another question that was asked, still in respect to Sunday's teaching.
The remark.
To summarize what she said:
She basically stated that divorce isn't allowed and that's why one must be very careful before choosing a partner. She said that if a marriage is going through crisis, it's better to put it into God's hands than getting divorced.
Then she said:
"If my daughter brings a man whose parents are alive but aren't together, I'll never allow her to get married to him."
This remark definitely sparked up gestures from the congregation, some were in support and others were opposing. Others like me.
I'll still love you to air your views as regards this.
"Would you allow your child get married to a person from a broken home?."
There was this lady who sat beside me, from the way at which she engaged me in a conversation, I'm guessing she read my mind through my gesture.
She plainly agreed with the facilitator, she argued that a man or lady who is coming from a broken home would see having a broken home as a normal thing and should incase any issue arises, instead of fixing, he'll surely opt for divorce.
Sighs...
Oh yes! There's so much sense in what she said, her answer was completely brilliant, but then I asked:
What if God was the one who orchestrated their Union?
As a parent, would you still say "no" to God's will?.
She gave this brilliant answer by saying:
There would have to be proper checkup on the man or lady, to be sure he's nothing like his parents, or to be sure he'll never opt for taking/making irrational decisions as regards his marriage.
That has basically answered it all.
My answer is this:
"It depends."
A broken home isn't the fault of a child, a child shouldn't suffer the result of his parents irrational mistakes, and as a parent, it's always best if we consider our children before doing some things.
A person becomes what he hears, sees or read.
The eyes and ears are really powerful sense organs.
Some of these murderers we see in the world today were trained that way; right from their young age.
Some prostitutes were trained to be prostitutes right from small.
It might be hard to convince people in these categories amongst others, that their way of life is abnormal, they grew up believing it was normal and it was through hearing or seeing that from either of both of their parents, friends or just anyone around.
A person from a broken home should be taught and trained by any of the parents he/she is with; to understand that not all marriages end up that way.
The deed has been done, but then even though the home is broken, the parent in charge of caring for the child should make sure the child doesn't grow up with hatred. If possible, such parent shouldn't cry when the child is there, else it might prolly make the child feel it was the other parent that made this particular parent shed tears.
Also, parents shouldn't make the child feel that the other parent wasn't a good father/mother.
"Your father is a good man, but we just didn't work out fine." Is better than saying:
"Your father is vile!, Don't ever talk to your father again, the day you talk to him Is the day I'll sign out from being your parent."
A person from a broken home might not necessary have a broken home. It all depends.
Above all:
It's always better to reason properly before playing the game of marriage. There's every tendency that our children become what they see us do.
Just like one of the facilitators said, as a parent, how do you react when you're:
Stressed.
Angry.
Sad...
If you're a parent and you can't control your anger, there's every tendency that your child would grow up not being able to control his/her anger.
Apart from thinking wisely before playing the game of marriage, one should also think wisely before getting pregnant for an irresponsible man, who might not be willing to claim responsibility to being the father of a child.
We presently have so many children who have been denied by their own father, all because he's scared, probably not ready to marry their mother, not financially able to fend for his child, irresponsible, a play boy amongst all other names I can't remember.
That'll be all for today's article, it'll surprise you to know that up till this moment, I've not found a suitable title, guessing I'll just call it: "broken home?."
Till we meet again in my next article and in yours.
Thanks for reading.
I don't know if I should laugh or be serious about what she said and also the other person that added to it. Firstly I will like to say that if you guys play sports bet or any other bet, you will understand what we call odd, odd is the other name of possibility, the lesser team always has the high odd because people believe that they won't stand a chance against the strong team, but at the end of the same, some of these odds win, funny how some people are quick to judge someone for what they don't do, how does the parent's mistake become the nightmare of the child, always hurting the child and the same people will say that it's not good to judge someone when they clearly don't do what they preach, I have seen people that were brought up by responsible parents and with love end up being violent to their spouse, someone background can't be his or her future, everyone has their own way of thinking.
I heard a story of two brothers, one was a drunk and the other was a responsible person, they called both of them to ask the first one, why do you drink, he said he saw his father drinking that's why he decided to follow the father path, they asked the second one why he didn't like drinking? He said he saw his father being drunk and sometimes ending up in the gutter, this motivated him not to be like him and go down that path because there's no good there. These are brothers from the same parents but with different perspectives on how they view things.
Instead of judging someone because he came from a broken home, why not get to know the person for yourself and see if really he will go down the parent's path or be inspired to build a better home because of what he faced in the past.
I hope will these few points of mine, I can convince you and not confuse you that someone's background is not the person's future. 😅😅