Do you also sometimes talk about money with your parents? How do you talk about it? Is it positive and encouraging that you feel motivated to work and grind to achieve your dreams, especially your financial goals? Or do you also feel negative vibes whenever money is brought out to be the topic when you talk with your parents because they have a different mindset from yours?
I don't always get to talk with my parents, but when we do, it's sometimes about money. Well, perhaps, because we are not that financially stable yet and money is always a problem in our household. I mean, we need money every single day to buy our basic needs, especially the food we eat. When we buy groceries for our necessities, we always need money. That's why sometimes the lack of it is the cause of misunderstanding that leads to petty fights between my parents.
I have been very vocal about my life that I wasn't born with a silver spoon in my mouth. Although both of my parents didn't really come from poor families because I can say that their parents, especially my father's side, have a lot of land properties. However, my parents were not that financially ready when they got married and started a family.
I'm not complaining about our social status and their financial capabilities. However, I have to admit that sometimes, I think the other way around. That what if my parents should have thought a little longer before deciding to get married and make a family. Perhaps, we shouldn't have to endure a lot of problems brought by their lack of financial incapabilities. However, I'm still grateful for my parents because they are responsible and hard-working enough that they get to provide for our needs and some wants even if they needed to go through the needle hole.
Meanwhile, what I just don't like about my parents, particularly my father, is that he doesn't want to be rich. He has this mindset that whenever he has a lot of money, he needs to spend it all on food so that he gets to taste the fruit of his hard work. He doesn't think much about the future and he doesn't save up. Well, I couldn't say a thing about how he spends his money because it's his money anyway. So his money, his rules.
The other day, he said that he doesn't want to be rich because we will all die someday and that those riches we have will only be left behind as we can't bring them in the afterlife. It's okay for him not to be rich because he is already satisfied and contented with the life he has.
I'm fine with that kind of thinking but what bothers me sometimes is when he tries to dictate to me what I should do with my money. He would always tease me to withdraw all of the money in my bank account already and make use of them. Sometimes, it really irritates me but I'm trying to be patient with him because he's also growing old already.
I don't know what I'm blabbering here but I just want to release my frustration about it. It's just really so hard to grind and hustle in order for me to provide a more comfortable life for them when one of them doesn't even want to get a touch of a better life. I mean, I have a lot of goals for them and in order for me to accomplish that, I need to be rich and have a lot of money because life itself is already expensive, how much more about my goals and dreams in life.
My father have the traditional mindset when it comes to money. He always focus on the present and don't think about the future. Lagi ko ngang binibigyan ng advice yon na habang maaga pa, save some money. Syempre hindi naman sila bumabata, tapos mga ilang taon nalang magreretire na sya. Maganda sana kung may business syang mapapatayo pag wala na syang work.
Si mama naman medyo naiimpluwensyahan pagdating sa financial planning. Dati di sya naghuhulog sa SSS, ngayon kahit paunti-unti nakakapaglapag na. Sabi nya rin na ayaw nyang totally umasa sakin pag tumanda sya. Pero syempre mag giveback pa rin ako. Nakakatuwa lang medyo alam ko sa sarili ko na di ako masyadong mahihirapan