Stressed Free Day
Saturdays are usually for weddings in my country, sometimes when you just feel hungry or you bored at home, you can just get dressed and take a few walks, you will surely see a wedding event and you can just join them to celebrate, that's how I usually do most Saturdays, lol. Just joking cause I nor use attend parties uninvited, even if it's my relative that is hosting the party, if he/she didn't invite me, I seat at home and do other things.
I know most of my country people must have attended one or two weddings today and they have definitely eaten all the food they brought back from the event, well, that's how life is sometimes, so I guess from the title, you will be anxious to know how my day went and why is stressed free, without wasting your time, let's begin.
My day started like every other normal day always start, just that I slept at church last night, yesterday I left the office late and went to deliver our office gadgets to my boss in church, it was very late and there was traffic on the way, I decided to stay with them in church since is all-night rehearsals they want to do, so I slept at the church and woke up by the grace of God, I put somethings in order for my boss, and I took off to my friend's barb shop, I waited for him to come because I was at the shop very early, after some minutes he arrived, he put on his generator and cut my hair, we chatted and I left for home because I was feeling sleepy.
Oh sorry I forgot, yesterday while I was reading articles in my notification, I came across @Fexonice1 article titled " I got burnt out " in the article, he wrote about how he quit his job and become a full-time blogger, he started having less communication with friends, because he was always focusing on his grinding as a blogger, when he explained what he meant by burnt out, immediately I realize that I am facing the same thing, though I'm new in blogging, for the past few months I have been communicating less with friends and I hardly even have time for myself, if I have free time in work, I will be on read cash and be going through articles in my notification one after the other and I no longer have the time to do so many things have been doing before, including my graphic design. Today I decided to take up his advice and take my time to check on myself and enjoy my day without stress for the grinding never stops. https://read.cash/@Fexonice1/i-got-burned-out-what-shall-i-do-now-f677e3a3
The first thing I did was to skip work today (not that working on Saturdays is relevant for my office, but I took it on myself to be working on Saturdays) I read some articles before opening my laptop today, I felt like I was slowly losing my graphic design skill, so I decided to work on a client picture.
PS: I didn't start and finished it today, I just continued from where I stopped and I was done with it today, he's actually a Bitcoin fan.
After I was done with it, I went on and created a logo for a client, though the logo took more time than I expected and my eyes were kind of burning, lol. But I have to finish it today cause the client has already paid me and I have eaten the money already, though, lol. Thank God she's a patience lady and she wanted the best job, that's why she didn't disturb me.
This is a rough sketch of how I want the logo to look like
And this is another picture I screenshot from my PC, these circles around the "U-J" is actually there to give me a perfect shape, as a professional graphic designer, I have to maintain the shape of my logo design so it won't have rough edges
Here you can see the final results of the logo design
So to make it presentable to my esteem client, I decided to put it in a mockup.
I zipped the entire file and sent it to her, she really loves the work and I'm indeed happy for another satisfied client
That's how my day went, very productive and stressed free day, I came to realize that we can always find time to do other things if we really want to do it and there's actually nothing like, I'm too busy to check on myself, always remember that "na who dey live dey enjoy life ( the dead can no longer enjoy the things of the earth)" health is wealth, always find time to check-in yourself first before anything else, remember that the grinding never stops.
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23/10/2021
Gbomo Gbomo (The spirit with no head)
TGIF (Thank God it's Friday) how did your Friday go and hope you are doing fine. Enjoy reading my article and God bless you.
**This event happened years back when I was in basic school.**
It was a very cold morning and a rumor started roaming around the school that, there are spirits living the school, people said started saying stories about their encounter with the spirits, some paid it was a lady on white, with no head and blood is on her white garment, some said she was killed in the school and that's why her spirit is still hurting the entire school.
Some said she has killed so many children in the school and would dispose her their body to an unknown place, some said the spirit always comes out early morning and midnight, so people won't spot her, there was this guy that was telling us the story that, he saw the spirit face off, (he was the one that was describing how she looks like) according to him, He came to school early that fateful morning, there weren't much people around the school premises, he went to pee at the bush inside our school, that's when he saw the spirit from afar, he couldn't move or say a word, for he was speechless, the spirit keeps approaching him and he was peeing on his body, so the spirit grabbed him and was dragging him to the bush, the boy was screaming for help, but no one heard him, the spirit with a head, dragged him to an abandoned toilet that was inside the bushes in the school, he said he saw human skulls, bucket of blood and a lot of things, he told us that the spirit tied him and left to hunt for another human, luckily for him, the spirit didn't tied it well, so he freed himself and ran away before the spirit came back.
After telling us the story of the headless spirit, we all were very afraid and we were avoiding the bushes in our school, so we won't be caught by the gbomo gbomo (that's what he called the headless spirit) we told our teachers, but they said it was just fiction and there's no such thing in this school, but we didn't take their words for it. They're a time when our class teacher shared us in a group to be sweeping the entire school, she said we should be in school as early as 5 am to sweep the school before the teachers resume for the day, I and my classmates were very afraid, because of the story of the headless spirit, we always move in groups anywhere we want to sweep, so no one would be taken by the headless spirit.
Continued the sweeping for a week plus and everything was going fine, until one day that one of our classmates decided to play a fast trick on us after sweeping, he shouted that the headless spirit was approaching our way and we should run for our lives, all of us took off so fast, that some of us forgot our broom in the school premises when we got to the roadside, he told us that it was a prank, we were laughing and told him not to try it again.
Conclusion
This is was based on a true-life event, but we never saw the headless spirit ourselves, we only heard it from the guy that claimed that he was a victim, though there was a time when I was in basic 5, a pastor came to our school and said that our school needs deliverance, the entire school went into prayer that afternoon, something appears with mirrors all over the body, the pastor burnt it and everyone was amazed at what they saw, for it was unexpected.
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22/10/2021
I'm not lazy, I'm just avoiding unnecessary stress
Good morning from my time zone (it's morning here in my country) hope you had a wonderful night and I wish you a productive day ahead.
Have been reading articles about "Laziness" a prompt hosted by @JonicaBradley and I have been able to gather enough details to fund my article on laziness too, I think I am ready now to write my own opinion on laziness.
We all know the definition of laziness and how it affects our jobs or perhaps daily activities negatively in one way or the other, though there are still advantages in being lazy, I can't think of any though, lol, lazy is not a befitting name that anyone likes to answer, I remember years back when I find it out to do house chores, my siblings always call me the lazy one, because what will take them 20 mins to do, I will just be looking at it for over an hour before doing it, as time flies I began to prove to them that I'm no longer that lazy boy that they use to know, I started running errands in the hard, making sure that they all see that I'm sweating.
Was it worth it? Yeah, I guess, but I later found out that, I am just giving myself unnecessary stress, What do I mean by unnecessary stress? Unnecessary stress is when you start doing things the hard way, just to prove to someone that you are strong, I know you might think that there's no easy or simple way to get some things done. True, not every work has an easy way to get it done, because someone has not discovered it yet, maybe you can be the one to discover it, if you continue with your lazy habit, lol. Just joking.
**Unnecessary stress**
I remember years back when I was running errands, I usually trek to the place for an hour or more, under the heat of the sun instead of me taking a bus, I thought that I'm being strong and I should do things the old ways when there was no bus then, I never knew that I was stressing myself unnecessarily and it was affecting my health.
Washing your clothes with a washing machine or taking it to the dry cleaners is not laziness, remember that if everyone decided to wash their clothes themselves, the dry cleaners won't have money to feed for themselves, I believe that if you have the money to pay for the comfort that you desired, I don't see reasons why you shouldn't do it, bring a maid to the house is not laziness, it's just job employment for another person, either ways you are still the one working for the money.
There's no price paid for over-stressing yourself, And you don't have to prove yourself to anybody that you are strong, remember that if hard work is truly the key to success, then the bricklayers would have been the riches set of people in the community, I'm the kind of person who prefers brain work to heavy lifting jobs because my brain can be strong enough to handle things and make it work, but my body is not made for the heavy job, I could faint there if I carry a lot of heavy kinds of stuff daily, smart people made things easy for us so we won't have to stress ourselves over it again, I remember years back when gas wasn't so common in my environment, we were using firewoods to cook and the smoke was affecting our eyes, we always see those people that use gas as lazy rich people, but we never knew that they were being careful about their health that's why they prefer using gas rather than firewoods.
You don't have to do things like everyone else to prove that you are not a lazy being, if you find a way to do it simply, do it, I know that people might criticize you for some while, but sooner they will realize that most things don't worth stressing over.
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21/10/2021
20/10/2020
Today is 20th Oct 2021, Something terrible happen in my country that we can never forget in our lifetime, I decided to write on this event today because, in my previous article, you can check the article here link https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/if-i-were-a-president-d0066030
I wrote half details of it and I know you will like to know how it all started
How it started
I won't say in the very beginning, but rather I will tell you when it all escalated into a protest followed by a massacre.
In my country (Nigeria) Police and other security agencies popular known as SARS, SARS are police that fights crime in my country, they mostly kidnapping and heavy robbery case that involves bullets exchange, (SARS are like United States SWAT). They started harassing youths in my country (most especially male child) cause they were driving big cars and spending too much money, ones they see a young man with dreadlocks or carrying a laptop or even driving a big car, they will automatically declare him a yahoo boy (internet fraudster) both the innocent and the guilty were being harassed daily by the so called SARS, they started carrying POS (means of withdraw money without going to the ATM) to congregate money from the youths and if you don't have money to pay, they will take you to the station and declare you a certified fraudster, so many families was being affected and people was afraid to come out or even run to the SARS for protection while being chased by arm robbers, they will prefer to robbed than fall in the hands of SARS, These events continued and the governments was doing absolutely nothing about it because their children are living happily abroad, while the child of a common man suffers in the hand of the security agencies that are supposed to protect us against robbery. The situation was getting out of hand because the SARS operatives took it to the next level and both internet influencers and models were being harassed too, so many youths were gunned down by the SARS operatives for resisting to pay them money.
Then the youths started speaking up and it all started with an internet protest (mainly on Twitter) we couldn't take the harassment anymore, we planned on meeting a particular sport the first week and only a few people came out that day because the majority of us was afraid of the security agencies, planned another protest again the following week on operation #EndSARS, few people also came through while others were protesting on the internet. The turn up weren't much and people was discouraged if they should continue with the protest, so we planned another protest and to our greatest surprise, a lot of people came out to protest, the turn up was so massive and swore not to destroy properties because it's a peaceful protest, during the protest we needed money to be able to continue, people was coming to the protesting hungry and some was discouraged because of hunger, we opened a fund raiser account and people was sending in money to support the protest, both those abroad and in Nigeria, the government tried to block the account so we won't be able to withdraw the money, but we converted it into crypto currency (since it's not owned by the government) so many people were joining the protest, food and drinks was available for all that came out, there was electricity through out, celebrities came out to join the protest, artiste was performing for free to entertain the protesters so they won't get bored, so many people lives was changed for the better.
*There was this lady that lost one leg to incident years back, she came out to join the protest with her one leg, grace spoke for her and we bought artificial leg worth 1k$+ (I don't remember the exact how amount) for her during the protest, the family was very happy, Jack (CEO of Twitter) took to his page to show support for the protest and he also opened a cryptocurrency fundraising account for the protest, people was sending in all BTC to support the movement.*
The protest spread throughout the states in Nigeria (about 29 states out of 36 states) the government started calling on us to end the protest, they said we should send our leader and his vice to the office so they can talk things out and we told them that we don't have any leader because they wanted to bought them off with money. There's this artiste his name is Falz, he is a loyal and also a performing artist (musician), he was very active in the protest and I admire him a lot.
Governments were sending hoodlums to hijacked the protest so they will call it off, but together we stood against the hoodlums and they ran off to hide, though they destroyed so many properties, all were later taken care of by the kind-hearted people in the protest. They tried all they could but they stop the protest, they now decided to get the army to involve.
20th October 2020
In the morning that day, they went to the place we usually meet, they turned off the lights and also removed the CCTV camera at that sport, the army was roaming around like is a state of emergency, we went to the same sport with the National flag (green and white) and we were protesting, unknowing to us that the army has surrounded us and they were waiting for the perfect time to open fire, it was about 5 pm or so (I can't really remember) when we started hearing gun fire, some was shouting and praying, we try to run out but they have surrounded us, thank God there was a celebrity dj in our midst who started a live video on Instagram for others to see and be aware of what is happening the spot, people was hit by bullets that night and some couldn't make it, they opened fire for more than 3hours straight, tears was rolling down our eyes as we were seeing people being injured by bullets, "I started to pray for Superman to come and save for that night". People were praying and calling on God to save us, then they stopped shooting at us, an ambulance that was coming to treat the injured ones was sent back by the army, the army took the bodies of those that died during the gunfire and they dispose it to the mortuary**. It was a massacre**
*The government denied the allegations and they that, those people weren't the army, they were just hoodlums in army uniform, how come hoodlums were shooting at peaceful protesters over 3 hours and there were no police or army to stop them ?.*
Days later so many people were declared missing by their loved ones, these cold-hearted people didn't even bother to render an apology, instead, they declared a curfew on all 36 states, so the protest won't continue again. CNN investigated the massacre and they provided footage was taken from satellite to back it up that people were shot at the protest.
This year we tried to bring in phrase 2, but a lot of people were afraid to come out and the few that came out was arrested and beaten by the security agencies, these governments give houses and shelters to terrorist and beat up the citizens.
Closing thoughts
I know today being the 20th of October will be painful to some families for the loved ones they lost, I pray God comforts them through the years and also fight the evildoers, they no longer hide their face anymore, they are now coming out in daylight perpetrating evils.
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My blood my blood
Today is Tuesday and the second day of the week, it's a public holiday in my country and a lot of kids are at home relaxing and watching TV, one of my younger sisters that is still in basic 2, woke up early this morning and she went to turn on the TV so she can watch her favorite show in Nickelodeon and I know she won't want disturbance.
I was supposed to continue the story of an article I posted yesterday, you can check it here, but while scrolling through Facebook, something got my attention that's why I decided to title this article "My blood, My blood", I guess we all know what blood is and how to function it is in the human body system, well that's not the kind of blood I'm going to talk about, In my country, we normally use the word "blood" as a slang to describe someone dear to us, for example, **this guy here is my blood o, I nor dey use ah play at all (this person is very dear to me and I don't joke with him).** https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/start-over-im-tired-af32c862
While I was scrolling through Facebook this morning, as usual, to check if my favorite author "Reno Omokri" has posted on his page, I saw a post by one of my Facebook friends, he posted a picture of a man who was poisoned by his friend in Indonesia.
*A Nigerian man, Chisom is popularly known as Mikky Miguel has died after he was allegedly poisoned by a friend in Indonesia.*
*One Prince Ebukason Victor, who disclosed this in a Facebook post on Monday, October 18, said the deceased father of two, who is married to an Indonesian national, buried his late father a few months ago.*
*"What a Wicked Word, he buried his father a few months ago, and now they have to poison him in Indonesia. Some people have the mind to take a life you didn't give. What will you gain by k!lling someone who did nothing to you, because of jealousy and you have to poison him to end his Life halfway. Guys let's be very careful who we hang around with not everybody that calls you blood or laughs with you are real, some are dëvil. Mikky May your soul rest in peace." he wrote.*
*Meanwhile, friends have taken to social media to mourn the deceased and rain curses on his alleged killer. One Nzeh Sunday described Mikky as an angel in human form.*
I have seen similar events occur in my environment and I can't help but wonder, how can someone just wake up in the morning and come to their mind is to bring someone else down to six feet, don't they have the fear of God in them, don't they think twice before proceeding with their evil plans? Then I realized that the Bible warned us in "Jeremiah 17: 9 and I quote **The heart of a man is desperately wicked"**
Can't imagine the kind of pain the wife will be going through now and also the kids that haven't gotten to enjoy their dad as well, this is purely evil and the worst part is that these kinds of evils don't come from enemies but friends, especially the ones that call you My blood, my blood, they are the worst set of people in this universe, to be honest, there was this video that @Kushyzee posted along his article days ago, A guy took his friend out for lunch and he went to use the bathroom, the friend brought out the poison from his pocket and put it in the other guy bottle of coke, if not that someone saw him and told the other guy not to take that drink, he would have just succeeded in taking his friend life just like that. https://read.cash/@Kushyzee/the-acrostic-challenge-can-i-do-it-ea89a195
I know you might think that the people around you are not like this or like that, they are always loving and show support, but you never can tell who has bad intentions over you because evil thought nor dey show for the face (evil thought does not display in a man's face), let's try to be extra careful these days in everything we do, to avoid being a victim, remember hatred is like a seed growing in the heart of someone.
Just the other day here, when I was going home, a man faulted with his car, so as I was passing, he called me and told me to check if fuel was popping in his engine, it was night and this man gave me his phone to hold so we can start the car, can you imagine that? What if I had run away with his phone ?, I had to give him his phone and use my phone light instead so I won't be tempted to run away, though I need a new phone, the phone he gave me to hold was new and attractive, he might nor know why I used my phone instead though. Well, I won't blame him though, cause I also trust people easily too.
Closing conclusion
In everything you do in this life, never leave your drink or food in front of a family/friend and come back to eat it, it's better to take your drink to the toilet than be poisoned.
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19th October 2021
Start over: I'm tired
**S**ometimes in life, we feel like we can't go on, because of the circumstances and setbacks, it never gets easier on the way, we just have to get stronger and if possible learn kungfu, in case physical combat is needed, lol. I started chasing my music career years back (not that long though), when I started my journey as a recording music artiste, I told myself that it won't take up to a year before I become a big star, because I know that I have good music that people can easily relate to, that became my motive to put in more efforts in my music career.
**T**o be honest, I never knew that life has a different path for me, I quit my job and became a full-time artist, mama wasn't pleased, she was against me quitting my job because she thought I'm going to end up being a smoker or an armed robber, I explained to her that salary can't pay me enough money to give you and my siblings a better life, she told me I was being greedy and it's not good to be greedy, she said I should be satisfied with what I have now, that was how Dad was patient for so many years and he couldn't build a house with his job, Dad smiled in pain" sir I didn't mean to disrespect you I was, no need to explain son I understand your point "father replied" mom please try to understand that I need to do you this for us. https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/why-cant-we-be-satisfied-4aa3517a
**A**bel! Abel!! Abel!!!, How many times did I call you, three times ma, I will ask you this one, what are you going to do now that you have quit your job, I want to chase what papa didn't chase, I want to become an artiste, you want to be a child of the world Abel?!, Don't you know that we named you after Abel in the Bible, you think we didn't see Cain, I know mom, but the kind of song I wan to bring into the music industry it's different what you thought, hmm, okay let us hear one of your songs (I played an instrumental from my phone and began to rap for Mom and Dad) tears started falling from their eyes, then I asked, why are you both crying, Mom, replied that is tears of joy and they both prayed for me to excel in my doings.
**R**ight after that moment, I knew that if I want to make it big, I have to leave Edo state and head to Lagos where my destiny is, but how will I go, where will I stay when I get there? Even the money I saved from my previous job won't be enough to save me there, well I have to start my music career here in Edo state, I just have to start from somewhere, when I start earning money here, I will move to Lagos and continue my journey there.
**T**he journey of a thousand miles starts with a plan, so I took my pen and person and started planning on how I'm going to be recognized in Edo state, but nobody like rap song here, they prefer singing to rapping here, how I'm even going to get audience here in Edo state, even some of my friends and relatives always skip my song while playing music for their playlist.
**O**h Lord, it's chasing my dreams a good idea? If yes, Lord please I need fans so I can keep pushing on, I need people to believe in my dreams so I don't see reasons to give up, please Lord I know that I choose to go into circular music instead of gospel music, I hope you under and help me, Lord.
**V**era was at my window listening to my prayers without me realize, oh I forgot to introduce vera in, vera it's my neighbor who loves good music, but she's not much of a singer though, after listening to my prayers, she walk past without me noticing, the next day she approached me, wow why would vera approach me this morning as if I stole her stuff, I was asking myself because I know that she doesn't even talk to normally not to talk about approaching me, well I kept my cool and I asked her, what's up, how was your night, she replied and told me.
**E**ver since I heard you praying about fans I decided to ask your siblings to send me one of your songs, where you pipping on me, she said no that she was going pack some of her close and blah blah blah, that's not the issue, I want to let you know that you have a very good song and the world can't just wait for you to fine.
**R**ejection has been on replay ever since yesterday on my playlist, it felt like you were expressing your inner self on the song and I didn't know where years started dropping my eyes, I wrote that song when I was going through a lot in my life and I couldn't say it to anyone, then I put it into music and let people hear me through my lyrics "I replied" that's really nice, I just want to let you know that I'm officially your number one fan.
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Love bus
Happy Sunday from this side of the country, hope your day it's going pretty well, mine is going well too, yeah I went to church today and I hope it won't take another two months for me to attend church again, lol. Today being Sunday on my way back from church, I saw a lady on the bus and I couldn't get my eyes off her, because she has the kind of shape that I like, lol, my love for fine girls with curves, it's getting out of hand.
I tap her from the back and said Hi to her, she looked and greeted me Good afternoon, I replied and said happy Sunday, I introduce myself to her and she did the same, so someone came down from the back seat and she has to come and seat for the backseat, wow what a day of Bliss for me, I said, we started getting familiar with each other and she is a very talkative someone and I really like her though, so I asked if she was in a relationship, she was shy to reply, then she later said yes, my heart cut a bit and I ask her why was she shy, she said that I'm cute and she really likes the way I talk and she told me the truth because she likes me won't mind being my girlfriend, I smiled and asked if she was serious, she said yes, we exchange contacts in the bus and we were still talking when she gets to her bus stop, she had to get down from the bus, as a gentleman I had to the bills and get down with her, I was following her to her house so we can continue talking.
She showed me some of her favorite places in her street and we even stopped at a barbecue shop there, we barbecue and hollandia, I wanted to buy it individually but she requested I buy one so we could share it, I said okay but they should bring two glass cup for us, she said, can't we share one glass cup or is my mouth smelling, I laughed and said no o, I will love it too but your, she laughed and said that is just normal for two friends to drink from the cup now, I said okay, after eating the barbecue fish and drinking Hollandia yoghurt, we decide to continue the walk to her house, when we got there, she invited me, which I gladly accept, she ask what she can offer me, I laughed and told her that we already ate now, she insisted I should eat her home prepared meal so I can rate her cooking skill, well who I'm not to talk accept the Queen home meal, she went and serve me oil beans with yam, wow how did you know the meal that was on my mind to eat? She was there smiling and said that, well from your face I know that you are the kind of that like eating beans, lol. Hope you also know that the way to a guy heart is through the stomach, she was calm for some moments and decided to seat very close to me, our eyes meet and time became very slow, I felt her breath in my heart, we were getting close to kissing each other, she resisted for some moments, I said it's okay if you don't want to, She drew nearer to me and was about to kiss me when.
I woke up from my sleep, only to realize that it was all a dream, damn that was so real to me, so I asked if we have reached my junction and he said that he had already passed there and I will have to take a bus back to the place, that sound like the only choice now though, so I have to do as he instructed me, oh I didn't take a bus back to my location though, I began to walk back home for hours because I don't have already exhausted the whole money that was with me today, it was indeed stressful for me. How did your day go?
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Why can't we be satisfied https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/why-cant-we-be-satisfied-4aa3517a
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17th October 2021
Testimony Time
TGIF (Thank God Its Friday) what a day for, my day almost got ruined by ignorance, well, I'm grateful that God came through for me when I prayed and confess that I am ignorant sometimes, let share the testimony here
I woke this morning by His (God) grace after sleeping on my phone last night, got ready for work and took off like a rocket launch, when I got to office, my colleague was already waiting me, because I'm the only one with the key (aside my boss), she wasn't smiling as usual, because she has been waiting for me, well, it's not my fault though, I woke up as early as 5am.
I discovered that my data was still on, because I slept when I was reading articles in my notification, so I continue it after praying for a brand new day, I was reading articles while time was running, I still don't understand why time runs like that, whenever I am reading articles, i read for like 3hours, before realizing that it was already after 8, I had to hurry up and get ready for work, my boss didn't come early so there's absolutely no way he's going to find out, power supply went off 9:14am and I can turn on the generator yet because there not enough fuel in the tank, so we had to wait for my boss to arrive office.
The caretaker of the complex and his wife started fighting, the fight nearly turn bloody because the caretaker was holding a knife and he wasn't smiling at all, people started rushing to separate the fight before someone do what he will regret later, I was just in the office reading articles from where I stopped un-bothered, caretaker left in anger and the fight became the topic of the day, in the environment, everyone say blaming the man for bring the family fight outside in public, well let's leave it like that now, I think that it's better for couples to know each other very well, before venting into marriage, to avoid public fight and embarrassment, after reading @Princessbusayo article this morning about laws in relationships, I believe that a lot people especially ladies can also learn many from the article before getting into marriage, I feel for the kids though, if the couples decide to split ways, the kids will be the ones to suffer it the most, because they would have to deal with a broken home at a very young age and maybe they will become a laughing stock in school also. https://read.cash/@Princessbusayo/the-laws-in-relationship-3dc221cc
Oh, I almost forgot about my ignorance that nearly spoilt my day, when my boss and his wife arrive, one of our neighbors started telling them what they miss, lol, neighbors can be something else when it comes to gossips, we carried the generator downstairs to turn it on, before I turned the generator on, I add oil to it, because I didn't put oil yesterday, I try turning on the generator, but it didn't on (I never knew this was a sign telling me to change the whole oil in the generator) I kept on trying the generator to on and the generator eventually on.
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I went upstairs to switch over, not up to 30mins the generator gave bad sign and off, first thing that came into my mind was that "hope this generator engine never blow like the last one (hope the generator didn't spoil)" I went to check it and the generator wasn't responding as normal, ah, this can't happen today, why didn't I changed the oil? Why didn't I get the memo when the generator didn't respond the first time I on it, I was praying inside of me for this generator not to spoil because my boss won't be happy with me at all, after praying inside of me, I told my colleague to bring the oil in the office so I can change it now, with faith I changed the oil and decided to turn it on, behold the generator responded, what a miracle, nobody knew that I was under pressure that moment when the generator wasn't responding, God, came through for me at that moment, I won't joke around, when the generator starts giving me signs of oil again, lol. I remember two generators went down because of my ignorance in the past.
Closing thoughts
*It is good to praise the Lord, hallelujah, it is good to worship God, hallelujah, it is good to pray to God, hallelujah, thank the Lord hallelujah, pray to God, hallelujah.* I'm very happy today that today wasn't a bad day, sometimes little signs we ignore can bring a big misfortune for us, I have decided not to overlook things again, especially things that look little.
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**15th October 2021**
Why can't we be satisfied?
Weeks back I was planning to write on contentment but @FirstCity wrote something similar to what I wanted to write, you can check it here if we're to be living in the same house I would have said he stole my idea, lol. But such is life though, everyone might have the same ideas but the approach is what differential them. https://read.cash/@FirstCity/we-are-all-victims-of-uncontentment-85abe6e7
For the title, you must have to know what the article is about, and I might be using some people as an example, with due respect don't think it the wrong way if your name is mentioned here, I'm just trying to make the explanation simpler, thanks in advance. I will be using satisfied instead of contentment, so it won't be too obvious.
Can humans be satisfied?
Last week I was asking myself these questions when going home after work hours, I was trying to put in one or two ideas together, so I and my other selves was having a boarding meeting in my head about the question.
I have come to realize that humans can never be satisfied, no matter how hard we try to act as if we are satisfied with what we got, deep down inside of us, we still have the hunger to hunt for more, it takes great discipline to control the hunger, most people who can't control it usually end up destroying themselves. Let's take a look at Solomon in the Bible (I won't be writing Bible verse) Solomon was the wealthiest and wisest man or perhaps king on Earth, for those of us who don't know the story of king story, I will summarize it, King Solomon was the son of King David (David that killed Goliath) King Solomon offered a burnt offering to Jehovah God and God told him to mention whatever he wants, King Solomon said he wants wisdom, God gave him wisdom and tipped it with wealth (just like Rusty tipping us), that's how King Solomon became the wealthiest and the wisest man ever, but still, he wasn't satisfied, how can one have everything in life and still not satisfied, king Solomon had 700 wives and 300 concubines (girlfriends) I wonder If he could sleep with all of them, lol. King Solomon wasn't still satisfied, to cut the story short, his hunger for more lead to his downfall. When I read the story in the Bible, I called him greedy and ungrateful at first (when I was a kid though) but as I began to grow up, and started to experience life in other forms.
A few days ago @Niazi420 posted an article about having a bad network and not also getting much attention as he use to get from Rusty, you can check the article here, after going through the article I understood him and something came into my mind at that moment, I know we have gone through it, including the pros here, when you started publishing articles here, you told yourself that if you are making 1$ per day here, you will be satisfied right? But as time flies and we started making more than 1$ per day, our hunger for more is now increasing and 20$ per day it's not even enough now, we want more than that, we keep pushing on and making unique contents, well that's how it is, we humans can never the satisfied even if we are given the whole earth, we will still want to take over heaven, lol. I know that everyone is guilty of this, ha hahaha. https://read.cash/@Niazi420/fkin-network-connection-noise-cash-and-read-cash-0050372f
Closing conclusion
In life, we always say that when we get to a certain level, we will relax there, but when we eventually get there earlier than expected, we look at it and say it's not enough and we set another goal again to go even higher and higher by doubling our hustle and most times we have sleepless nights and the brain will be working under pressure.
**Sometimes we just have to seat without doing anything and start remembering when we are coming from so we can appreciate where we are today.**
Like I said, @FirstCity has already written most of it, lol. Do check out his article with the link above.
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**14th October 2021**
Why not acrostic challenge: I couldn't say a word to her
**W**hen you hear the word love, what first comes to your mind ?, It's it your family or your lover, friend, or even your crush (according to @Ruffa ) love is indeed a beautiful thing (love it's not a thing though, cause things are seen and usually touched, but love is invincible and untouchable) I know that you think about a particular someone when the word love pop up in your head or a conversation, for me I usually start thinking about a girl I met two years ago.
**H**ellen is her name, we met at a show (a party) and the very moment I set my eyes on her, my brain left my head and I was lust after her beauty, she is very pretty and has a nice curve before I forgot, I and my crew (music crew) went to perform in the show that I met her invited though, lol.
**Y**ou know as an upcoming music artiste, we have to put our heads in every show both invited and uninvited ones, I saw her before the show started, I and my crew arrived at the event early so we could talk to some people in event that we want to showcase our God-given talents, but Hellen took my attention when we got there.
**N**ever thought that it was going to be this way before the show started, I was staring at her, when my crew was telling me that we should go and meet one of the show planners that we want to perform, I told them to wait that they are still putting things in other, they continued doing what they were doing, but my eyes were still on Hellen.
**O**nly one of my crew members noticed me and he told the other one that I have been looking at that girl over there, they told me to go talk to her as she's alone and no one was around her, I told my other guy to help me go talk to her because I was a bit shy, but he hesitated and said that if I am ready, I will go myself.
**T**ime flies and it was already evening, the show has started, when everyone was looking for a good position to stand during the show because a star was coming (Fireboy dml), I was at Hellen's side, looking at her when the show was going, I forgot what brought you to the show, my crew members was calling me so we could go and meet one of the event planners in the show, but the place was crowded and I couldn't leave Hellen side if I did someone else would take my position.
**A**s the show was going on, the MC of the show noticed me and how I was stalking Hellen, he told me to shift away from her and everyone started laughing, including Hellen, she laughs so beautifully and I was more in love with her at that moment, I could Invision both of us as a couple already, though I haven't even talked to her.
**C**an she be the one? I asked myself quietly as the show was going on, I started a board meeting in my head, lol. I and my other selves started talking, what if the reason I'm here today was because of her, not the show, what if is God that planned us to meet each other today, what if she's my destiny and I have to talk to her because we run out of time.
**R**andom questions were running through my head at that moment, I still can't find the courage to talk to her, she's just too perfect to be single "I said in my head" but I will never know if I don't ask though, I was still by her side and was using one eye to be looking at her when she looks at me, I took my eyes off her as if I wasn't looking at her, then she said to me that why are you looking at me like.
**O**h my God, she talked to me, what should I say to her, should I say that I love her, but we barely know each other, should I say that I like her body curve, what if she doesn't like to hear these from a stranger like me, I had so many words to say but I couldn't find the right word at the moment then I told her that the reason I was starring at her was that she looked like my mom, what why would I say that? What if we know find out that she's my lost twin, that means all these feelings I have for her will go to waste, she smiled and focused on the show.
**S**he then left the position she was standing (maybe she went to the bathroom), I took it on myself to be her body guy and I was securing her position for her hoping she will come back, it was over 20mins and she aren't back yet, some persons were already taking over her position, then she came but her position was already taken, she can't go to the back of the crowd so I offered her my position as a gentleman and decided to stand at her back throughout the show.
**T**he very moment the show was over, everyone was leaving and I lost her to the crowd, what I lost her to the crowd, why did I even take my eyes off her, well I felt bad that moment because I and my crew didn't perform at the show and I also lost the very person that didn't make us perform to the crowd without even knowing her name, not to talk about asking exchanging contact with her.
**I** and my crew member started scouting around the place hoping we could see her before everyone will leave the premises, we searched and searched and searched, to no avail, so we decided to give up on the search cause almost everyone has gone out already, maybe God didn't want us to be together, after all, well I started praying for a second chance that I won't misuse it this time Lord.
**C**alling on the God of Abraham to help me out on this, I can't lose her, as we were about leaving the premises she called me from afar, when I saw her, I quickly ran to her like a child who has seen her mother, lol. I started taking everything in my head, she was laughing, I asked her why was she laughing, she said I didn't even ask her name, I gently asked her name and we exchange contacts that night. Truly God answers prayer, I'm a living witness to answered prayers in under few seconds.
Did you notice the highlighted letter of each paragraph, yeah I decided to hop on the Why not acrostic? challenge by @McJulez to test my writing skills and I think I did great, though is my first time trying a challenge like this, the truth is that, we will never know that we can do it unless we try it and if it fails, we try again and again till we get it right. https://read.cash/@McJulez/why-not-acrostic-f4980389
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**13th October 2021**
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A father's love
The love of a father
Father's love for the children is usually underrated compared to mother's love, maybe because they are not always available for their kids when growing up, so the children see the mother as the one who truly loves them, without realizing the sacrifice of the father.
As a man and soon-to-be father someday (when I eventually fined The One), I will be defending my gender and will also give you some points why you should understand your father for not showing much love as your mother does.
Let's know who is a father
In my definition, A father is a man that has decided and pledges to take responsibility for his children, be it financially, physically, mentally and etcetera, most people often think that being a father is simple, is just for you to get laid with a lady and when a child comes in, automatically you have become a father, If you have such mentality, you should start erasing it from your mindset because you will just bring an innocent child to this world to suffer.
Let me tell you a short story
**Years back I watched a movie (I can't remember the title) is about who newly wedded couple, they were both working at different office, they have money to afford what they want and what they need, I don't think that they lack anything in the marriage, 3 years after marriage they had no children, people was suspecting that, maybe the wife is barren or the husband can't produce a child, people started talking and trying to find out what was happening so they can have a topic to gossip about, the gossips was spreading around their environment and the wife couldn't not hold it anymore, she tried talking to her husband about what she has been hearing, the husband told her to ignore them, following morning the mother in-law (mother of the man) arrived to the couple house and decided to stay for some few weeks, during her staying at the house, she called the couple one night and asked them in person, has them not given her a grandchild, the wife explained everything to the mother in-law that, the husband is not ready to have kids now and that they have been using promotion ever since they got married, the mother asked her son (the husband) why don't he want a child now, the son (the husband) said that he's not yet ready to handle the responsibility of a child now.** (I end the story here).
I was wondering and I still didn't understand what he met by that word "I'm not yet ready to handle the responsibility of a child" This man has a company of his own and his wife also have a high-paying job, what responsibility are you talking about sir. Now I understand what the man meant by that word, when the man said "responsibility" he didn't mean financial responsibility, he meant being able to be there for the children and always show them that daddy loves you.
There are two types of fathers (if you are lucky enough you can find both of them in one)
**The loving and always available fathers** are usually the ones that are 100% for their kids and mostly loved by the kids more than they love their mom, they are not financially able to provide all the needs of the kids but their presents alone can go along way for kids because they are always at the kids' graduations, they are always there when the school calls for PTA meeting (Parents Teacher Association), the kids are more open to them than their mothers and etcetera.
**The rich and not available fathers** are usually absent when it comes to the kids activities, school graduations, PTA meeting and etcetera, the kids often feel like the father don't like them, no matter the amount of toys or gifts they get from their father on birthdays or Christmas, they still feel like there's something missing, when they see other kids and their fathers playing and enjoying happy moments together, they often feel sad (I won't use the word depressed) most times they ask their mother why daddy doesn't like them, the mother will now start pampering them and letting them know that, the father is working for them to have a better future, when these set of kids become teens, they won't feel like they want the present of their father anymore and they always love their mother very much, the father might start getting close to his children but most of the kids always feel like, since the last wasn't available when he was growing, he should stay far away for him now too, these often result to a fight between the father and the child.
**If you are lucky enough, you will get both fathers in one, but if your father isn't doing any of these, just know he is not your father, he is just a sperm donor.**
The second example that I gave, is the most reasonable people often love their mother more than the way they love their father, the father might try to let the child understand that, he has to hustle more to keep food on the table and also for them not to be thrown out in the streets, the kids might not understand because they will think that he's just saying it as an excuse, but as the kids grow up, they will start to understand why the father was not always available on their birthdays, graduations and etcetera.
Closing conclusion
Fathers do sacrifice a lot for their kids too, fathers also want to be able to talk to their children one on one, fathers also want to attend the birthdays or graduations of the children too, but if they are always available for the kids, who will sort the bills if the minds of can be opened and seen by all, maybe the kids will see that fathers are trying their best to show love in ways that they can still be able to provide their needs at the same time, it's never going to be easy to handle both equally, one has to be given more attention than the other, for it to balance.
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The encourager needs encouragement
Tuesday is the second working day of the week and usually one of the people's favorite days of the week, because after stressful Monday (as most people will call it) there comes Tuesday that won't be so stressful as Monday.
Few days when I was going through @Chelle18 article titled Depression kills him I had a flashback of an event that occurs years ago, probably when I was still a teen back then, I told her in the comment section that I'm definitely going to write on this too. https://read.cash/@Chelle18/depression-kills-him-bb4dc820
This event happen years ago in the formal street that I live, There was this lady that everyone admire in my environment because she was well brought up and she has respect for everyone (both elders and young people), She was a very happy person that you can never see her angry at anyone or being sad, she always encourage people never to give up on life that, there's so much more to life than we see from here, and the people will be motivated with the positive energy that always move around her, I remembered one time when the mother of boy was beating his son for going to play football when he was sent an errand and the lady quick rush there to stop the mother for beating his son, she asked what happened, why are you beating your son like this ma, the mother explain everything to her and she was like, haba madam, I know that you want your son to be a doctor or an engineer, but sometimes in life we just have to let our kids have fun sometimes, maybe he might turn out to a professional football like Jay Jay Okocha ( Jay Jay Okocha was once a professional football star in my country Nigeria and he was also one of the best in the world of football years back, Ronaldinho once called Jay Jay Okocha his mentor), the mother smiled with joy in her heart and started petting the little boy to not cry again, the neighbors around love the way she handled the case and they were all amaze at her, they see her as the most happiest person on planet Earth and nothing can ever make her unhappy in life.
One thing they didn't know is that Even the encourager needs encouragement too, This lady was passing through life and nobody knew about it, not even her family or friends, something occurred in the past that was traumatizing her so deeply, she hardly sleeps at night, the only thing that kept her going was her will to help others, cause she finds happiness in helping as many people as she can, life was tough for her but she didn't make it obvious.
***Sometimes in life, we make little injuries sound big in hears of others with knowing they themselves are going through, we normally say, If you know what I've been through ehn, you yourself will know that I'm strong to alive today, last month I saw a comedy skit of men drinking beer and one wasn't drinking, they asked if why are you not drinking, he said he has alot of problem at hand now and drinking can't solve it, one of the men now said that, if you know what we that are drinking now are going through too, you go melo down (you will be surprised) the man that wasn't drinking said, let's put our problems in the table now (they used bags as an icon of their problems) the man that was making it obvious that he as a lot of problems, brought out his bag of problem, to cut the story short, he was the one with the smallest bag there and when they were to collect their problem back, the man was left with the biggest bag, lol.***
Days went by and no one has seen or heard from the lady, maybe she traveled overnight, they thought until dead body started smelling in her apartment, they were knocking and nobody answered, they now forced the door open, when the door opened, they saw the lady lying dead with a note on the table (I didn't know what was written in the note) when they read the note, tears started dropping from their eyes, when the new spread around, so many people doubted that it was that nice lady, how can it be her, a lady I saw just last week here, she was so filled with life and love, I can't believe that, may is not her you people saw. No one believes that she will ever take her life, so many people attended her burial and were talking about all the good things she has done, I pray she's happy wherever she is now.
Moral lessons
Always try to check up on your loved ones, never admit that they are fine just because you see them always smiling and laughing, most people we see on the way are going through a whole lot, some has given up already, the only thing stopping them for committing suicide is that suicide is a sin against God. Someone you see today, you can see them no more tomorrow, life is not a promise, we are just living by his grace, a lot of people that died has plans for the future too, but life ran a fast one on them, make every moment count, never heavy or carry malice with someone, when you are opportune to offer help to someone, don't hesitate to do so, the thing the lady was very happy about before she died, is that she helped a lot of people before her death, what will you be remembered for? (According to Mama iyoko), One says we will leave this world behind, spread love, and have a blessed life.
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I met an old friend after so many years
What a great day to start the week. If you missed my previous article, check it here 5 BCH in less than two months and it can only get better from here, amen. https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/5-bch-in-less-than-two-months-54a96b21
I got my first sponsor
It's not easy for someone to start sponsoring another, Thanks @Greatwolfman for being my first sponsor and I know that more sponsorship will surely come because I believe that it makes one man or woman create the way for others to follow.
I meet my long-time schoolmate today.
When we were in Junior secondary school back then, we use to be very close and most times we do things together as paddy, we were planning on graduating from the school together too as friends, but something happened, this classmate of mine lost his mom, it was a terrible day for him, he didn't come to school for a whole week and we don't know his house also, news got to us that he as traveled to another state (Lagos State), hah but he didn't even say goodby to us, we were also praying for God to comfort him, cause we know it's going to be easy for him. Years passed and we didn't hear from him, after graduation from senior secondary, we all went our ways to pursue our purpose/dream. I got a friend request on Facebook 3years ago, behold it was him that sent me a friend request, we started chatting and he was asking about the others, they are all, I said, I took his WhatsApp number and we have been chatting on WhatsApp ever since then, I asked him if he's ever coming to Edo state again and he said that he's not sure for now, because he's staying with his elder brother in Lagos State and he's not really financially capable to be traveling around, I told him that I understand where he is coming from, cause I'm kind of in the same situation too. This morning he messaged me on Whatsapp that he's in Benin city (Benin city is the capital city of Edo State)
I asked when did he arrive in Benin, he said he arrived in Benin yesterday Sunday and he will also be living today Monday, it's been a long since I last saw him, I told him I wanted to see him again, so could talk a bit, he said he came because of his younger brother as they are going to carry him along to Lagos today, I went to meet in at our school so were we talking a walk while chatting, I fell into a gutter and my leg was covered in mud, it was kind of embarrassing my me though, we had to look for a shop to buy water so I can wash the mud off my body, after that we chatted more then we shake hands and before I left, I told him that shey eh nor go take another 10years for we to see again (hope it won't be another 10years for we to meet again) He smiled and I went back to my office where I work. The joy I felt today can't be compromised by any negativity.
Closing thoughts
Waking up to check my notification and saw that I have gotten my first sponsor in read.cash made me happy and all I could do is to just keep smiling while looking at the mirror and seeing my old schoolmate again after so many years felt really good, just like old times when we use to play table tennis together, if there was table tennis around the place we met, I would have challenged him to a game of table tennis and see how he has gone so far, if had quit playing table tennis or he has become a legendary table tennis player, either ways today is indeed a blessing to me.
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5 BCH in less than two months
It's been a month plus since I got there, thankful to the person that introduced me to read.cash, today is Mondays, most people don't like Mondays because they think it's too stressful and is always longer than other days, most especially weekends, for me I like Mondays. After all, it's a new opportunity to set a goal and work towards it through the week.
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I got a new profile picture
I know it's not that perfect, but I hardly have time for myself these days, I will promise to get a better one soon, when the coast is clear, lol.
I was thinking about a topic to write on today that is Monday, after going to church yesterday Sunday, I wrote an article on it here 2 months of not attending Church https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/2-months-of-not-attending-church-79fae202
A random thought just flash into my head, then I asked myself what if I earn 5 BCH in less than 2 months here in read.cash? Of course, it's going to be a huge breakthrough for me, Then I decided to write on it.
What will I do if I earn 5 BCH in less than two months?
Firstly I'm going to withdraw 3k from it, I don't mean 3k$, I mean 3k naira (my country currency) that's about 7.30$, I will use the money to buy barbecue fish with one big Hollandia yogurt, because I don too suffer (because I have gone through a lot), lol. After eating the barbecue fish and drinking the Hollandia yogurt, I will take a long nap, not too long though cause I can't pass out to meet my father (God) now that I have made it when I wake up, I will know playtime it's over and it's time to calculate and work so I won't go back to where I'm coming from (so I won't go broke again), I remember I told @jane that I prefer typing than to hold a pen and paper
Well, I'm going to hold a pen and paper to calculate how I'm going to spend my money and keep a proper record of my money.
**I will buy gadgets**
It has always been my dream to own gadgets so I would be able to pursue one my career as a content Creator, just as articles are flowing in my head, that's how good video content is also flowing in my head, but I'm limited to it because I don't have the gadgets yet.
**I will purchase an apartment**
Last week I posted an article about Dealing with noise while writing I easily get distracted by noise and I prefer writing at night when everywhere is calm, well now that I have 5 BCH I won't be waiting till midnight to write articles or do any other thing that is turned off by noise, I will purchase a house in lekki or banana island, that will have clean and noiseless environment, I will make sure that the bed will be very soft and I will have a swimming pool to in apartment too, so when I'm experiencing writer's block or can't think of a better topic, I will just and relax in my pool so my body will be cold. https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/dealing-with-noise-while-writing-5648060c
**I will purchase a car for my Parents**
When it comes to parenting, I believe that mothers always put in their best, though it's not the fault of the fathers for working hard and making sure food it's available at the table, I'm a man and someday I'm going to be a Dad also, I pray I do love me as they love their mom, my Mom won't be walking to the market anymore as she uses to, she will be given more respect when they see her always cruising in her new whip ( cars are normally called whip in my country) I will also purchase for my Dad to balance the love I have for both of them.
**I get married and build a family**
I'm surely going to get married to someone as intelligent as @Ruffa , a lady that knows how to hustle for herself so we can be build up a family together, I'm just imaginings it though, what if it eventually happens ( distance between us might be far but when it comes to love there's no place that far according to **Westlife**) maybe we have **Quadruplets** 4kids, but I prefer **Septuplets** 7kids cause I love kids very much, when they age 5years, I'm going to open read.cash and noise.cash for them so they can start writing articles, short post and start earning Bitcoin Cash too. ***You gotta build with someone who wants it as bad as you do. A power couple is two hustlers, not a hustler and a leach*** - **Jay Z**
I will won't forget to offer help to the needy and also remember those that had my back when I was at my lowest and also do something huge for them as a sign of appreciation.
Don't think I will forget to invest more into coins especially Bitcoin Cash, I will take my time and study about new coins if they are going to pop anytime soon, so I will be able to earn more in cryptocurrency, I will also invest in real estate and I will invest in businesses also, so I can have employees because Pocket weh Dem dey take and take from without putting it back, dey always dry (If you keep eating your harvest without reinventing, you will end up being broke in no time).
And I won't forget my the members of read.cash community.
Closing thoughts
Motivational Monday: I believe that if I can dream it, I will be able to achieve it once the vision is clear because even the buildings, phones, and the internet we use today were ones a dream to the developer of these all, even read.cash started as a dream to the admin to create a platform where people can earn while doing what they love (writing articles). I have come to realize that it doesn't matter how long you had the dream (the idea), what matters is how far you are willing to go for it.
**I'm still going to get the 5 BCH soon though.**
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2 months of not attending Church
It's Sunday over here in my country, how did your day Sunday went? Mine was really good though, I felt peace again for a very long time.
After 2months of not stepping my foot in a church, I decided to attend church today, I know you might be thinking that I have backslid and I'm slowly becoming an unbeliever, I thought of it too.
I don't have any excuse for not being able to attend church for months, but one thing I know for sure is that the Covid 19 lockdown contributed to it though. I still remember life before Covid 19, I use to be a vibrant and strong believer who don't miss attending church service, though I weren't early all the time I believe it still counts back then, life wasn't so complicated then, people could meet and shake hands without being afraid of Covid 19. I remember when the Lockdown started to reduce the spread of the coronavirus, many churches refused to close down their church because as a believer we are not moved by the things of this world, not even virus, but the government insisted that churches should be close and any church they caught open will be taken to court for a legal charge against Covid 19 rules, they banned parties and clubs, it was affecting the businesses also like so many people that rely on salary couldn't feed, most churches standing online streaming on Facebook and YouTube, (if Muhammed can't go to the mountain, the mountain will go to Muhammed), people where now live streaming church service at the comfort of their home.
*I just imagined if the Covid 19 had come in 2001-2002, I guess it would have been worst, cause many people don't have access to the Internet then, there was no Netflix, no Facebook to keep you connected to your loved ones, no Instagram to follow your favorite celebrities, no Twitter to tweet how your day went, no YouTube to watch funny videos, no TikTok to create nice videos and no Read.cash to write articles about it.*
Many people would have died in silence or being unable to reach their loved ones, The comfort of live streaming church service on your mobile phone/ personal computer got into most of us and we became very lazy to attend church these days. When the lockdown was called off they placed a curfew because people were complaining of hunger and not being able to afford their needs, churches were opened but they were given conditions though, people were not going to church as they use to, most of them backslid completely, I resumed church the first week and I miss seeing a lot of people in my Church.
Why I didn't attend church for over 2months
My church is far from my house, so most time is kind of hard for me to cope with transport I don't have a job, I'm a freelancer and I don't usually get clients too, every time I render my service to someone I usually use the money to cover my needs that's how the money usually went, lol. But still, this is not an excuse though, I'm just saying this so you won't think I'm backsliding too.
Why did I go to church today?
I felt guilty about not going to church and I was slowly losing faith, I had to pray for forgiveness and make a decision to resume service today and I pray I won't return to Egypt ( I don't mean Egypt of this day, I mean the one in the Bible days).
Closing thoughts
Maybe you might ask if there's no other church by my house for me to attend since I don't have transportation to attend mine, of course, there are other churches around (more than 2 in my street) and they are all churches of God, well one that didn't make me attend other churches within these past two months, I don't want to become a new member in the church, in Nigeria ones a new a person comes to the church for the first time, they usually give them a warm welcome (some churches also gives refreshments) and they will now convert you again into a Christian " like I'm already a Christian sir, I'm just here for a visit sir" that's one of the reasons I don't stand up when they are welcoming new members in church unless they are about to share refreshments, I will definitely come out "like who don't like free refreshments" lol. Like I said it's not an excuse, I'm just saying it.
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Dealing with noise while writing
I have read a lot of articles about writer's block and how to overcome writer's block, I have experienced it myself most of the time while trying to write an article about a particular thing/place. From the title, you will surely know that I'm not going to write about writer's block, cause I'm sure there's a lot of articles about writer's block here and I don't want it to be too obvious.
I will be talking about noisy environments
Have you ever written an article in a noisy environment? If yes, how did you cope with the noise while writing, As for me, I like to write my articles according to my moods, if I want to write about loneliness or depression, I normally seat alone in my room and turn off the lights so I can be in the mood of writing if I want to write about happy moments or love story, I sometimes play love songs in my airpod or be around my family and friends for inspiration, Days back I was writing an article titled **None Smiling Couple** you can read it here https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/none-smiling-couple-4cf40bcd
Sponsors Block (?) https://read.cash/@Read.Cash/get-sponsors-a2b66c10
But the noise in my environment that day was too loud and I couldn't concentrate on writing the article, I had to draft the article till midnight when everywhere was a bit calm. Today I decided to write on it let's address the issue of a noisy environment.
What is noise?
Noise is a sound that is unpleasant to hear, be it loud or low, most times when people are talking about things that we don't like, in my country we usually tell the person, you too dey make noise (what you are saying it's nonsense) because what he/she was saying is unpleasant to us.
Noise can be seen in a photo or video that doesn't have a good quality lens. You can also see noise on TV due to bad/low network connection problem, most pictures were taken in the night usually has noise due to lack of direct sunlight.
In the United States and other people countries, you can call the police on your neighbor for making noise with his/her music or etcetera, but in my country, it's otherwise, lol. I'm from a country called Nigeria (for those who don't know) and we are used to hearing unpleasant sounds (noise) anywhere at any time, the government hasn't addressed these issues, cause they know that they are the cause of it in the first place. My country celebrated 61years of Independence on Oct 1st and we don't have a steady power supply. We normally use generators here for power supply, most states or city rather has not seen light in decades, they rely on generators and I know sure the governments are gaining huge amount from if that's why they haven't addressed the power supply issue.
There's this generator called "I better pass my neighbor"
This particular generator can disturb an entire community, lol. These kinds of a generator are old modem though, the generator companies also have new generators better than this, your pocket normally speaks for you when you want to buy a generator. We use generator sounds in my country to the extent that the sound becomes pleasant to us, lol. But what is bad is bad, we might not know this now, but the noise that comes out from the generator can affect our eardrums negatively and it will become a problem in our old age. Generators often produce smokes that pollute the air when they are getting old, though the generator is not the only noise in my country, I believe that any leader that can address the issue and made it possible for us to have a steady power supply without a generator, the leader has solved 60% out of 100% problem in my country.
The noise in my country it's enough reason for one to give up on reading/writing, the pain only makes us stronger, I didn't even mention the shoemakers (people that repairs shoes), the iron pickers (people that buy/picks condemn mental), street hustlers ( new companies that are creating awareness for their products in the streets and they often play loud music that becomes unpleasant to you). The amount of noise in my country is extremely high that sometimes I wish I was in another country like the United States so I could call the police whenever my neighbor starts playing what's unpleasant to my ear, lol.
You can't even think straight without disturbance from a noisy neighbor, that's why most times I usually write my articles at night around 2 pm cause they would off the generator at that time, cause of the smokes produces.
*Generators are not safe to use while you are asleep, because the smoke that comes out from a generator is called carbon monoxide and is unhealthy to the human system, The company always advises buyers to turn off the generator when they want to sleep or living the house to avoid hazards.*
Closing thoughts
The government and citizens should join hand to hand on this to reduce noise in the country, most of our leaders here travels to UK and US to get some peaceful time without noise, I believe that is only the poor masses that are suffering from noises in the country. One day we are going to have a stable power supply and the noise will reduce.
*I will like to know how you are coping with noise in your environments too if you don't mind, write it under the comment section let's discuss.*
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If I were a president
After reading @Kushyzee you can read it here https://read.cash/@Kushyzee/if-i-were-a-god-8aa6ab05
@jane you can read it here https://read.cash/@Jane/if-i-were-rusty-fdff6498 and
@JonicaBradley you can read it here https://read.cash/@JonicaBradley/writing-prompt-18-if-i-were-da1868a8 article on the prompt she hosted (if I were) I decided to hop in too. It took me time to choose what
If I were the president of my country, I know will do much more good than evil.
With great powers comes great responsibilities, one of the reasons I would like to be the president, is to make my country a better place both for the rich and poor, I will make sure that there won't be room for oppressors in my country everybody will have equal right as a citizen of the country, I will make use sure that the case of child trafficking will reduce from 50% - 0.01%, I know that they will be people who will be working against me to bring my downfall as the president, I will fish them out and through them to lion, lol. I won't do that though, I will let nature take its course on them.
What I'm about to tell you it's really sad.
This time last year in the country, we were protesting against bad governments and we thought that we were winning cause a lot of people joined the protest, even celebrities in my country came out to protest
The government was kind of afraid of our unity and they sent hoodlums to disrupt the protest, but we stood as one Nigeria against the hoodlums are they took off.
though they managed to destroy some of our properties we weren't shaken, instead of more people was joining the protest, everyone that came to join the protest was so United that we didn't give room for religious discrimination or tribalism, our goal was clear and pure, we didn't destroy any property of the government or the citizens, the CEO of Twitter and some other international Celebrities did show support for the protest too.
Why I'm I telling you now?
**20/10/2020** (a few days from now) was a dark day in my country, the government in my country brought soldiers to shoot and kill innocent harmless protesters who were only fighting for their legal right as a citizen, they turned off the CCTV camera so it won't record anything, they carried out their operation and killed a lot of people that day **20/10/2020**
The youth was shaken for the fallen heroes, the government did what they know how to do best, so many families were in mourning, the protest couldn't continue because they also declared a lockdown curfew to prevent the spread of the Covid 19.
1st of October was supposed to be the independent day of my country as we aren't so independent after all, cause a lot has been happening here, people are being killed daily, the naira it's losing value to the dollar, kidnapping has become a legal business in my country
If I were the president, I will make a lot of changes to the situation of the country by first cleaning my government very well, cause one corrupt man can affect a whole nation negatively, I believe that's why my country it's getting worst over time flies, laws don't apply to a certain tribe and a certain religion (I won't call names for reasons by known by me), we have a long way to go as a nation, one of the things I will in my first year of office, I will surely give 24 hours power, cause I love to charge my phone and I hate darkness.
Lasting if I were a president, I will make a law that no woman/girl will be allowed to barb hair, lol. I know it sounds funny right, I don't really like seeing females on low cuts, they are kind of a turn-off for me, though so many of them look good in low cuts, I still feel like they will look better on the female hairstyle.
Closing thoughts
I pray go heal the family affected by the attack on the innocent and harmless protesters, I pray they will know that those that lost their lives in the protest are heroes and heroines, even if their names are not written in the national book of heroes, they should know that most of the world greatest heroes don't like their identities being review, cause they are not doing it for the applauds.
I hope this article didn't scare you though.
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Gambling and Sport betting are the same
Friday it's a usual weekend in my country, so how is your weekend going? Are you planning on going clubbing in the evening? Always remember to stay safe out there.
Today being Friday, I was reading articles while searching for a topic to write on, when I read @HappyBoy article about sports bet, you can read it here https://read.cash/@HappyBoy/sports-bet-8c4aad0d I decided to write on it
I remember years back when I was working as a cashier in a sports bet shop (bet9ja), I myself thought that the business (sports Betting) was a get rich scheme for the poor
When people comes to play bet, they normally tell stories of a certain person who won millions of naira (naira is the Nigeria currency) in this sport bet and that is enough motive for them to continue playing sport bet, when the league it's over, most of them usually go into virtual betting and they will lose alot of money trying to win money, most times they win and be very happy,I worked there for over a year plus and I can openly tell you that betting it's like a spirit, when you are into it, it will only take the grace of God for you to come out of it, I remember one man, he was my regular customer back then, this man is an engineer, he refer playing Virtual sport to real sport, cause virtual sport brings out results early, this man was playing nothing less than 50 thousand naira daily that's about 140$ then, most times he will lose and sometimes he will win, the man was fully addicted to betting, he use to tell me that when he hasn't gotten married, that he always playing bet of half a million naira daily, that's about 1,400$ then. I was shocked when he was telling me, this man was still staying in a rented apartment back then.
The way he was saying it as if is an achievement for him, these bet companies know exactly what they are doing, according to @HappyBoy there's no one who has made it big through sports betting, they are just deceiving you, people, by providing invalid millions won.
One thing I have observed it's that you won't see any betting shop in a wealthy men environment, but you see more than 5 sport betting shops in the street of a local environment, These sport betting companies know exactly where their customers are, they call it **Rewarding passion for sports** instead of **gambling**, so it won't sound like an illegal way of making money. @HappyBoy also said that they now use football legends to brand the sports betting business so when the youth sees it they will like to play sporting betting more, same goes with beer companies also though.
I have also seen so many people going into debt through my days as a cashier on a sports betting shop, so used their standing fan to stake games and still end up disappointed, someone usually buys games from some people who believe that they can predict games very well, most times they win and sometimes they lose more, I remember there was this man who was also my customer back then, he came to stake a league game in the morning on suite (it was on Saturday morning) I asked him why did he wore suite this morning, he said that he's on way his way to his own wedding then someone sent him a game, he quickly told his wife to be that he left something at home and he has to get it fast (Saturdays are usually weddings in my country) I was surprised like what is really happening here.
Confession
I was into betting myself, you can't be selling food and still, be hungry, to be honest, the way of best it's extraordinary, you will feel on top of the world when you are winning and there's a spirit that always whispers to your ear to play more than you have high chances of winning, if you planned to stake 2$ for that day, you will end up staking 20$ and you will still want to play till your whole pocket it's empty, I remember I lost 15 thousand naira, that's about 42$ back then. That day the spirit of sporting betting left me, lol.
Closing thoughts
I don't think that they will ban sports betting anytime soon, because the governments are gaining big from it, Celebrities are becoming ambassadors to sport betting companies and they are influencing the youths more to earn big by staking their money, if things continue like this, I'm afraid that the next generation would see gambling as a career or a course to study.
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None smiling couple
I'm still trying to overcome writer's block, I spent my whole morning thinking about a topic that I can write on but to no avail, I even asked my Yesterday I wrote about **smiles on faces** you can read the article here https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/smiles-on-faces-b6d7ff63
I'm still trying to overcome writer's block, I spent my whole morning thinking about a topic that I can write on but to no avail, I even asked my colleagues at work but they couldn't give a good topic, then what happened yesterday between my colleague who is a male and our neighbor who is a female. That's why I decided to title this article **None Smiling Couple.**
There's this lady in the complex where I have been working for over a year now, she doesn't always smile, seeing her face every morning it's kind of scary for me, every morning when I'm passing her, I will always greet and it usually takes time for she to respond to my greetings, but that didn't stop me from greeting her cause I'm a simple person and I was thought to always respect my elders. In my country we don't have a 24/7 power supply, so we normally use a generator to generate electricity, sometimes when the lady it's not around, we normally on the generator in front of her shop and when she comes the following morning, she will be quarreling and she won't respond to my greetings, though it's my fault cause she has warmed be countless times never to put on the generator in front of her shop.
Early September a new guy came to work in the office that I work, the guy it's not a fan of smiling though, the first day he came, I could tell that there are many things about this new guy, and smiling it's not among them, lol. But both of us vibe easily cause we had something in common. Everyone in the complex notice that he doesn't smile and they are kind of afraid to send him an errand, the only person who can send him a message is our boss cause he respects him very much, even the kid in our complex was afraid of his face. Yesterday the guy was coming and he saw that lady sweeping, he walked past her without greeting her and I was like, bro why didn't you greet the lady, he said that the lady it's not old enough for him to greet, are you older than the lady, I asked him, he said that she might be older than him but that it's not enough reason to greet her, I was shocked, he forward said that he stepped on the lady's broom while coming because the lady swept sand on him. I laughed and jokingly said that both of them are a perfect couple, since they don't like to smile, the guy laugh and said it won't happen.
I just imagined that, if they were a couple, they would have been called the none smiling couple cause of their face, I feel like they are meant to be, but in my country, they don't usually agree with a marriage where the old lady it's older than the guy, they said the guy would be the junior in the marriage, truly there are so many things we have to change in this Africa cause it has gone too deep in our soul. I feel like the article it's kind of boring, but I hope you like it.
Closing thoughts
I realize that people will always take advantage of your simplicity (not everyone though, but the majority of them) on the very short event I wrote, I'm the most simple guy in the office and most of them are looking down on me, when they sometimes send me an errand and I will go with a happy cause I respect them, now that the new guy it's not a happy kind of guy, they will know my value in the complex and treat me with some respects, cause my head no dey house na me just dey control myself to not show my kolo outside (I'm not a nice guy, I only control myself so I won't let loose of my temper) which it's not a good thing to brag about, now that I've to know that they are afraid of my colleague for not smiling, I think I will roll with his flows so they won't take advantage of my simplicity any longer.
Let's normalize not being nice always
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Smiles on faces
This article was actually written at noon.
When we talk about smile, what do we mean, smile it's the beauty of one happy face, no matter how ugly you are, when you smile you become cute, lol. I often smile for no reason and people will be like, what's doing this one, they don't actually know the reason for me, even when I'm in pain, I still find a way to smile so you won't think that she has got me down, lol. Life doesn't have gender though.
I find it unhealthy to be sad/angry in the morning, I know that life it's actually giving you many downs than ups and things aren't going too well for you right, always try to smile no matter the circumstances.
Difficult times will always come, no matter if you are rich/poor, big/small, young/old, but the way you handle such situations when it comes, that's what matters, I remember one time when I was very sad about my situation and I felt really down like I was cursed, I was always putting on an angry face, people were afraid of me most especially kids, my elder brothers were always making fun of me and I didn't like it.
What made me start smiling always?
I can still remember it like it was yesterday, I was on my way coming back from work tired and stressed out, while going home I saw a man who was always at the junction, he was always greeting passerby while smiling, maybe he was homeless though, the man called me and asked how was my day, I angry answered then he said young man why are you always sad and angry, I didn't answer, he smiled and pointed some people passing by, he said that, look at those people over there, some are laughing, some sad and hungry, some are going through rough day, but you still see all smiling while walking cause they don't have to make it obvious that they are suffering from one thing or the other, he also pointed a disable man and said that, look at that man over there, though he can't walk like us or jump like us, you can see him smiling while on wheelchair, son so many people died yesterday and so many are in the hospital praying for a quick recovery so they can smile again, but here you are privilege to work and laugh still you decide not to smile, I was speechless for so minutes, then the man continue and said that he has been homeless for about 10years now, he said that he lost his job his family when he lost his job years ago, the wife couldn't keep up with him anymore and she filed a divorce with lead to him losing everything in court, I didn't know when tears starts dropping off my eyes cause I really felt for him so deeply, the old man now brought out an handkerchief and told me not cry as he wipe the tears of my tears, after a long talk with him, I went home and thought about everything he told me, I managed to fall asleep that night, the following morning I started smiling for no reason, the whole family was kind of surprised like what have gotten into me, I smiled and went to dress up for work, I went straight to the place the old man usually stay and he wasn't there, I asked around and nobody knew him, I was kind of shocked, what how can you all say that you don't know the man that usually smile and greet passerby, they all was looking at somehow, how come no one knows the old man that is always smiling, I asked myself, I wanted to be smile but I remembered that the old man told me to always smile no matter the circumstances, then I smiled and continue my movement to where I work.
That's not how it happened though, lol. That was just my fiction (imagination) of how I started smiling for no reason, the truth it's that after I thought about how kids were afraid of me, that's why I decided to change and start being jovial, and ever since then I am becoming handsome every day, sometimes I look a picture of me 5years back and look at my presence picture, I can spot the difference between both, oh less I forgot, kids are now running after me, lol. My love for kids it's like a fish's love for the water, it's a bond that can never be broken by anything or anyone.
Closing thought
I believe that smiling it's also a perspective as happiness, if only we can visualize pain on someone's forehead, you will see that most people that are always smiling are in deeper pain than yours but they still find a way to smile cause they don't want to lose their beauty to the hard side of life. If a blind man or a crippled man can still smile understand the situation they are in, who are you not to smile?. Put a smile on your face today and see how things will start working better for you.
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Why am I afraid?
Why am I really afraid to fall in love ?, Is it because my heart has been broken in the past? Or it's because I don't dare to start the love thing all over again? Well like they say, you never know the outcome of a thing unless you give it a trial, I can remember my last heartbreak like it was yesterday.
It was few months (not up to 3months) I was running an errand for my grandmother, at the junction where I was buying groceries, I saw this beautiful light skin beauty lady, she was just there standing with her kid sister, immediately I couldn't get my eyes off her, especially her hot legs, lol. I went and made a move on her, while we were talking I discover that she came to refill her gas, so I helped her to carry it to a keke park (tricycle park) and I gave her transport out of my allowance so she could pay for the ride, she thanked me and went her way, that's why I realized that I was running an errand before I met her, I quickly ran back to the market and purchase all the groceries in the list my grandmother gave me. Oh, I forgot to add that I took her contact at the junction tho, that evening I called her and we chatted over the phone before continuing the conversation on WhatsApp, that night when I went to get some chips, It felt like the moon was following me, lol. Not true though, we became very close and she usually calls every evening to check on me, I felt love was true at that moment, cause in my country, girls don't usually call guys especially when you are broke ( when you don't have enough money), it was like a week after knowing her that's when I opened up to her that I like her and I would like us to be very close, she was like we are close friends now, yes I know but I want us to be more than friends, she was like "you want to be my brother or father", we both laugh over it for some minutes, then I took a deep breath and pour out my feelings to her and she was like, I don't do this dating stuff but I'm feeling the same way about you, let's give it a trial, wow I was very happy that night I screamed out loud, many people thought I was insane though, lol. But they won't understand the kind of joy I felt inside of me, I was overwhelmed. We started dating and the energy she was putting in was encouraging for me, she was always there when I called her, she checks up on me, she sometimes brought lunch for me, to be honest, she was someone I never planned on losing not now not in the future.
*I have come to realize that most people usually talk bad about their ex after a breakup that him/her is bad at this and bad at that, when you were enjoying the early morning and goodnight love text, you didn't know that he/she was bad when you were calling him/her "baby you are the best thing that has ever happened to me", you didn't know that he/she was bad when you were doing TikTok video of him/her while eating each other lips, you didn't know that he/she was bad, now that you have broken up, you now start to talk bad about them so people will not get close to them, I don't know why most people always like that. I can never do such a thing to my ex, even if she's the cause of the break, cause I know that there was a time I saw her as the best that has ever happened to me, I will only be making fool of myself if I was talking bad about her, one thing about me it's that, ones I know I'm the one at fault, I will admit it and give a sincere apology, so the issue wouldn't escalate into something else.*
Let's continued from where I stopped, she was a good listener and also a good adviser, we usually chat a lot in the evening after work, she usually asks me to tell her about my day how it went, some days I had a rough, She will be encouraging me not to give up on my dreams and purpose in life, we did a lot of things together she was my dream lady and I never thought I would be writing this article in tears, remembering the awesome moments with her it's making me completely emotional down, I remember one weekend when I was playing football at my street, she was just there starring at me with a beautiful smile while clapping, she was my number fan although I'm wasn't a celebrity yet.
I know you must be wondering what cause a breakup like this is suppose to be a perfect relationship.
I believe that sometimes no matter how badly we need someone, they still won't be available for us, the break-up wasn't her fault though. It all started when she was about to write WAEC (West Africa Examination Council), she told me she was going to travel to her hometown to write the exam and that she won't be calling me as before, I now said it's fine as long as I won't lose you, we laughed about it and she traveled the upper week, we were chatting on WhatsApp though, but she wasn't always, I reach reaching her phone but it wasn't going, a few days later she called me and said that they are through with the exams and she would be back very soon, I was very happy to the extent I forgot to eat that night, I remember I was always looking at the picture we both took as a couple, my heart was celebrating as if it was Christmas, the week she came she called me and told me that has arrived and she's tired, I told her to get some sleep since it's a long journey. The next day I called her to ask how she was doing, she said she was fine and she would love us to meet, I said okay we can meet at my place, she said no that we should meet at the first junction we first met, I said okay it's fine by me, so she picked a time and we met at the spot, when I saw her I hugged her tightly like the world it's going to end, then we chatted a bit and she said she wanted to tell me something, I said I'm all ears, she now say that she don't know how to break it to me, I asked if she's pregnant, she laughed and said no, what is it that you want to tell me, she said that she don't know think she can continue this any longer, I was like babe what I have done, tell me so I can apologise, she said I didn't do anything, what now it's the issue, she said that she wanted to focus on her studies and God, I was to heart broken and I couldn't hold my tears as a man, I took off immediately with pain in my heart, for weeks I didn't go to work, I was alone in my room, very dark thinking about my life, one day I decided to leave the house and was on my way to purchase some groceries, I saw her younger sister and she greeted me nice, I answered and asked about her sister, she said she was fine, I said okay as I was about to walk away, she called me and told me that, it wasn't her sister idea to breakup with me, that their father persuaded her to break up with me, I was lost in the moment like, why didn't she told me so, she said that she didn't want you to see the father as a bad person, I said okay and we went our separate ways.
Until this very moment, I still can't get her off my head, she has been a big part of me and I don't think I can ever get over her, her hugs, her touch, the way she talks and so many things about her I can't get of my mind so easily. This is the main reason I'm afraid to fall in love, cause I'm tired of starting all over again and again. I think I will give it a rest now.
Thanks for reading my heartbreak experience
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Happy and sad
I haven't been active for days now due to reasons best know to me, it's a new week, and I promise to put in more efforts to be active daily, though it's not going to be easy and I'm willing to try.
Why I'm happy
This morning when I log in to my read.cash account, I found my earning has increased from what I last saw, I went to check my notification and guess who came around, @TheRandomRewarder visited my articles and did what he's good at, I couldn't hold my happiness when I saw the notification.
And I have also gotten my first 100+views on read.cash, that is double congratulations to me right, this new week has been good for me so far, though it's still Monday over here, lol. I believe that things will get better and better for me.
I remember a few days ago when I writing without gain anything, I thought that I wouldn't earn a dam as a newbie and I was a bit discouraged though, thanks to @Kushyzee he has been a great help to me, he is the one that introduces me to read.cash and he didn't stop there, he also thought me things one/two things in this platform, I remember when I was splitting my articles into four places so I won't stress myself, he told me that my articles are short and here at read.cash lazy writers don't earn, I thought about it and read most of his articles and also @Ruffa articles, @jean articles, and many others, I started relearning, now I can proudly say that I'm trying and I will continue to put in more efforts here at read.cash.
When I saw the turnup on some of the members' articles, I always tell myself that these people didn't get there overnight, they were dedicated and they always put in much time and smart work to get to where they are today, this has become my motivation.
Today is Monday in my country, how is your Monday going over there?
Last night I dose of when I was writing an article (I haven't finished it here) when I woke up, I realize that my night was fast, it was like I slept for a minute the thing I saw that it's already morning. I was chatting with a friend this morning and I tried to explain what just happened to her and she said it's because I didn't sleep early
I guess I use to sleeping late at night, I know it's not good for my health but it's like I'm addicted to it, even if I'm not doing anything, I will just be counting the stars in the sky till it's late, lol.
Why I'm sad
Something happened this morning when I woke up, I found my phone was beside me the battery was down, so I decided to charge it before leaving for work, I plugged it and it was charging very well, I left for work when I got to work, I try to charge my phone but it weren't charging, I thought maybe it was the socket I plugged it to that has fault, so I tried it in some other ones but still didn't work, I was kind of chill for the moment, thank God I have power bank, so I use my power bank to charge my phone for some hours while relaxing while checking my notifications on read.com, I decided to stand up and take a walk, unknowing to me that my power bank was on my stomach, the moment I stood up the power bank hit the floor very hard, I didn't even check if it was broken of not, in it after few minutes, the power bank was getting hot and went off, I was trying to turn it on unto no avail, I even plugged it with my colleague's charge, still won't work, I was very worried that my charger and power bank can't spoil at the same time, I was thinking cause I have no money to buy new power bank and charger, so I remember one word I always tell myself when I feel down or angry "**no matter the circumstances you are passing through, always remember to eat when you are hungry for an empty stomach can't solve issues"** so I went to have lunch and came back, still the power bank was still hot after hours, this evening my mind flashed to the power bank again and I decided to check it, whole and behold the power bank was now on and working very fine, I'm very happy now that nothing cut my joy short, though the charger didn't work, but it's okay, the power bank it's most important to me right now, cause most times we don't have electricity and the power bank became my only survival, lol.
*I'm still at work now charging my phone from my PC and I will charge the power bank when I get home, maybe when I get home will look for a charger, cause according to some persons, charging a phone from a laptop it's not healthy for the laptop, I don't know if it's true or not, but I don't like putting my stuff on risk in other to prove a point.*
**How has your day been so far? I will love to hear about it, if you don't mind, I'm a good listener and I also do give good/bad advice, I don't give bad advice though, just kidding.**
In conclusion
I think worrying about something it's stressful and it will distract you from so many good things that are standing in front of you, if I had worried too much about my charger and power and decided not to eat, maybe I would have been seeing double now, like a drunkard, lol.
Thanks for reading my article and I hope you do have a wonderful week ahead, always remember that a bad day it's not a bad life, keep pushing keep going forward, even if you are crying always cry while going forward. One love.
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Welcome to October
I'm just here in my room lying down with my phone in my hands, I just realized that I haven't been active here, I can't be a newbie for too long. I can't say it's because of my work that's why I'm not active though, because it will sound like a lame excuse I won't lie, but the truth it's that I get some much in my head right now, I still trying to find a balance to what I want and what I need, my head has been working more than 24hours daily, lol.
Oh I forgot to welcome you all to October, my prayers for you in this new month
I pray you to get a notice by Rusty this month, I pray you will get sponsors to encourage you to keep writing this month, I pray all your articles will have a massive engagement this month and most especially I pray you won't run out of articles or ideas to write articles. As you type amen in the comments box so Sha it be.
It's kind of hard to be mixing work and writing articles every day, but come to think of it nobody said it's was easy any, so we move. Last month has passed and it's a new month now, I don't think I did well last month though, cause I know what I'm capable of and I know what be expected from me, I'm not going to make a promise to myself or anyone else that I would be consistent though, but one thing I know it's that starting from October, I will be doing better than I did in the previous month/day.
When I came to read.com a few weeks ago, I thought that this is going to be like the tip of the iceberg, though @Kushyzee warmed me that I have to be consistent and interact with people and get to know them cause we are like a family here. However, we might not know one another physically, I still believe that family it's a group of people with a bond that bonds its love between us here flowing freely, I think we should consider hosting a get-together party in each state, lol.
Some of the things I have observed about read.cash that made me love it.
I have observed that the members here are so friendly and also encouraging, like" it's not easy to tip someone from your tip when you know you need the tip, that's what genuine love feels/look like (when you still manage to give the one you have, though you want they truly need it) I will love this energy to continue between us.
Another thing I have observed it's that, I haven't seen two people quarreling about a topic in the comments section or how the author of the article wrote it, truly I can beat my chest and say that read.com it's more like a community.
And another thing I have noticed that got me tripping, it's that I haven't seen anyone being racist or discriminating against another person religion, and believe when I first came here, I thought that it would take me a year to feel at home here, due to being black from Nigeria and I don't anyone here, I'm not even up to a month here but I'm feeling like this is my home already and the only thing that it's missing now it's my items of baggage and gadgets, lol. If it was possible I would have probably come through.
Again one last but not least thing I have observed about reading cash, it's the free will to write an article without waiting for approval before it can be published, I remember years back when I was going to start writing articles, the site I first came across discouraged me because they don't normally approve my articles, that made me to gave up on writing articles as first. But read cash changed my perspective, as long as I don't go against the rules it's fine by me, cause I'm a good boy in reality though, lol. Someone should tell Rusty that I am not planning on breaking any of the rules soon, lol.
Well, pals, that's all I have to say for now about read cash, I believe that in the new few months things will get better than this, the main reason I wrote about my observation in read.cash today, it's because my Bible told me that, he that knows how to do Good and doesn't do it, to him it's a sin. I love to encourage good things by giving it positive energy to continue the conversation with full confidence.
If you like the article and you want to encourage me by sponsoring me, please do before I give up on this too, lol.
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Rough day huh ?
Had a rough and tough day, Actually I was going to write an article but due to work and the noisy environment, I couldn't finished, I gat to stay active so I decided to drop a few contents I found interesting, maybe you will find it interesting too.
Pastor Jeremiah Steepek (pictured below) transformed himself into a homeless person and went to the 10,000 member church that he was to be introduced as the head pastor at that morning.
He walked around his soon to be church for 30 minutes while it was filling with people for service... only 3 people out of the 7-10,000 people said hello to him. He asked people for change to buy food... NO ONE in the church gave him change. He went into the sanctuary to sit down in the front of the church and was asked by the usher if he would please sit in the back. He greeted people to be greeted back with stares and dirty looks, with people looking down on him and judging him.
As he sat in the back of the church, he listened to the church announcements and such. When all that was done, the elders went up and were excited to introduce the new pastor of the church to the congregation...
"We would like to introduce to you Pastor Jeremiah Steepek"... The congregation looked around clapping with joy and anticipation... The homeless man sitting in the back stood up... and started walking down the aisle... the clapping stopped with ALL eyes on him... he walked up the altar and took the microphone from the elders (who were in on this) and paused for a moment... then he recited:
“Then the King will say to those on his right, ‘Come, you who are blessed by my Father; take your inheritance, the kingdom prepared for you since the creation of the world. For I was hungry and you gave me something to eat, I was thirsty and you gave me something to drink, I was a stranger and you invited me in, I needed clothes and you clothed me, I was sick and you looked after me, I was in prison and you came to visit me.’ “Then the righteous will answer him, ‘Lord, when did we see you hungry and feed you, or thirsty and give you something to drink? When did we see you a stranger and invite you in, or needing clothes and clothe you? When did we see you sick or in prison and go to visit you?’ The King will reply, “Truly I tell you, whatever you did for one of the least of these brothers and sisters of mine, you did for me.”
After he recited this, he looked towards the congregation and told them all what he had experienced that morning... many began to cry and many heads were bowed in shame.... he then said... “Today I see a gathering of people... not a church of Jesus Christ. The world has enough people, but not enough disciples... when will YOU decide to become disciples?” He then dismissed service until next week...
Being a Christian is more than something you claim. It’s something you live by and share with others.
# FightingSinfulAddiction
Pray IMMEDIATELY you wake in the morning, because when you wake, you are in a state of mind called Theta. It is a semi spiritual state of existence. During Theta, your prayers are most powerful. But once you reach for your phone, or talk to anyone, or do any human activity, you IMMEDIATELY snap out of Theta. And a lot of the anxiety many people feel during the day is as a result of snapping out of the Theta state to the fully physically conscious state, without a proper prayerful transition. If you notice, you have a vague idea of what you dreamt of during the night when you wake. But once you do any human activity, such as reach for a phone, or speak to someone, even that vague remembrance is IMMEDIATELY gone. That is you leaving the Theta state, to the consciously human state
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Trying to kill my boredon
It's a new day to continue from where you stopped, don't be lazy to rise and pursue that passion of yours, For the journey of a thousand miles starts with a plan and a mindset to achieve. If you feel like giving up, please don't and keep pushing on.
Today I will be doing free writing, after reading an article by @Ruffa **you can read it here** https://read.cash/@Ruffa/write-it-down-fc9b0fc6
I decided to hop on the free-write about life also, I hope she won't think I'm stalking her though, lol.
**Passion**
Passion can be defined as a strong feeling created from within you, the desire or hunger to achieve your goal, A passionate person doesn't give up on his purpose easily no matter the circumstances of life, I have come to understand that passion when you have passion towards something you don't need anybody to remind you to do it.
**Happiness**
On my definition of happiness, I believe happiness it's a perspective (the way you see things) I remember years back when we were strong, little things makes us happy like there's no pain or sorrow in the world, I see people saying they wish they were a kid again, so they can have genuine happiness because this adulthood it's a big stress and every day we are hustling to make a living, I have seen some people happy with the little they have, while I have also seen some people not happy though they have more than enough to go round, Happiness it's perspective.
**Hardship**
You might be thinking about life, you might be asking yourself what is wrong with you, haven't I tried? Haven't I done more than enough to be genuinely happy? What are am I doing wrong, you might have asked yourself many questions about your life. Wiseman once said, God doesn't give big battles to littles soldiers, God knows that you are fit and he wants you to be strong and courageous about yourself, sorrow might endure for a night, but the joy it's surely going to come in the morning, already remember that hard times it's like sugar in a cane, if you remove the sugar from the cane it won't be sugarcane again, Always remember God it's preparing you for something bigger.
**Stressed**
Stress it's stressful for me, lol. I can't even define stress, because the double as in stress it's stressful for me to write, one thing I hate its stress, I believe that most stresses are unnecessary though, for example in my country, the way girls will stress you if you don't have money ehn, you will be thinking if you are worthless for being temporarily broke, it will though, the Lord it's my strength.
**Dreams**
What do I mean by a dream? I'm not talking about the normal dreams we have when we fast asleep, I mean the dreams we see when we were are fully awake, I remember when I was in 7 grade, my mates in class when discussing their dreams and vision in life, everyone was saying what they want to be in the future, some was saying they want to be a doctor, lawyer, teacher and etcetera, I was there looking and listening to them, I couldn't say a thing because my vision was clear to me when I sleep I don't dream see myself being a lawyer or engineer or even banker in my dreams, I was lost and dumbfounded around my friends, I felt like a lost soul who doesn't know what he wants, the more time goes the more I felt lost, until I realize that dreams it's not what we see when we are asleep, dream a purpose, a dream is an ambition, a dream can also be called a vision that one can see even without a telescope. Though it took me years to understand this, I'm grateful it was a privilege to understand it, I know that my dream it's not to be a lawyer or an engineer or a doctor or a banker, I know you might be wondering what my dreams are, lol. Well, I surely tell you someday, but not today though.
I think I will stop here for now, Till we meet again on my next article, I remain your loyal writer and a friend, though I haven't even made any friends except for @Kushyzee who introduced me to read.com and also @ApostleKay who's on a mutual WhatsApp group with me.
Please check my previous articles, it's going to be worth your while. Stay safe out there and always remember to sanitize your hands after a long day. One love.
There's no career turn off, when it comes to love
A few weeks ago @Kushyzee wrote an article about "What career turn you off"
You can read it here https://read.cash/@Kushyzee/what-careers-turn-you-off-5b5d8855
In the article he shared some screenshots on how a lady asked the question "what career turn you off" she stated the careers that turn her off a guy, a lot of people attacked her with abusive words, maybe because she didn't state her reasons for choosing those career as a total turn off for her though.
@Kushyzee also stated some careers that are a turn-off for him and he stated his reasons which it's understandable, though it's a self-choice. I believe that when you are madly in love with someone, you won't be discouraged with his/her career, I have seen people who swore never to date a model because they usually dress half-naked when taking photoshoots, but most of them change their minds when they met the loml and to be honest when you meet the love of your life, nothing truly matters, all you want to do it's to love and support him/her in every possible way,
**Let me tell you a short story**
*In my country there's this lady called Mercy Johnson, she's an actress, she has been acting for years, working hard as an actress to make an impact in the movie industry, she eventually became successful and people love her very much, so many thought she won't get married because she's an actress and we know most times she has to be professional in her career even if it means to kiss an actor in a firm. Well now she's happily married to a wonderful man and they have beautiful kids, A new journalist asked the husband in an interview, how do you react when you see his wife kissing an actor in a movie, The husband smiled and told the journalist that, He loves and support his wife but he doesn't watch any movie that involves his wife, the journalist was amazed because that was not the answer she was expecting to hear.*
Why I'm telling you this ?. Love it's blind that what they say, well it's true when you meet the right person, the specification of the partner you plan to date/marry won't matter, as a lady maybe you want a tall handsome guy with a nice haircut, but a guy that it's not that tall and also not cute like you imagined approach you, then you manage to exchange contact with him and the both of you started chatting, slowly you are liking him, then you blindly fall in love, when you know that he's not your spec but you love him. That's how love works.
There's no career turn-off when it comes to love, There's no spec when it comes to love, There's no broke or rich person when it comes to love, There's no age when it comes to love. Love it's like a city and in the city everyone it's treated equally, you don't need to meet the standard of the one you need, love will level both of you to be perfect together, That's why love it's blind, cause a blind person can follow you anywhere without asking you where are you taking me to unless what you feel it's just friendship and you are forcing it to a relationship.
You can know more about love and how to know your perfect partner when you first meet
https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/keys-to-having-long-lasting-relationships-e2a60b2f
**Lastly, please**
Don't tell someone that you like them but the career they are chasing it's a turn off for you, that would make them feel worthless and it's not good, don't be the reason someone stops chasing his/her career because you don't like it, you don't have to like everything before you love me, remember it easier to destroy than to build, if you truly love them, building with them, you will show them, love, you will support the career, you will look them in eyes and tell me that, I don't like this career, but you made me fall in love with you and the career, and if you can't love them for who they are, you don't deserve to be loved either, just walk away with a good reason don't tell them it's because of the career. Don't be the reason they hate their passion just because you don't like it.
**Thanks for reading, I hope you learned one of two from this, lol. I'm still open to sponsorship.**
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Keys to having long lasting relationships
I guess you are wondering why your I guess you are wondering why your previous relationships didn't work out well, You might be wondering where you went wrong? you always give your all in a relationship and it still doesn't work out as you imagined (expected) it to be.
Well" thank God you saw this article, after reading through this article you will be able to get some answers to your questions about why you always have failed relationships.
I will be going through some points of view on why you always end up with failed relationships and I will also be giving you tips on how to have a lasting relationship. So hold on to your seatbelt let's begin the ride, lol.
**Firstly let's know the definition of Relationship,**
A relationship's a bond between two or more people working to achieve a common goal (the same goal), The reason I used two or more people it's because there are different types of relationships, we have a business relationship, family relationship, love relationship and etc, but we are talking about a love relationship that only involves two persons (majorly two opposite genders).
*Like I said relationship it's a bond between two persons working to achieve a common goal (the same goal), Through my studies about relationships and why most people end up losing a bond they wanted to keep forever (failed relationships).*
**Know your Partner very well**
A lot of relationships ended in tears because both parties didn't take time to know each other better, They thought that love it's enough to keep them together forever, but thought wrong. You see relationship it's like a building, when starting a building project you will have to lay the foundation first right?, Before continuing to lay bricks to form a building, love can only lay the foundation of your relationship, you need more than love to continue the building, you need to trust each other, you need to give each other attention, you need to be supportive to each other, you need to know the moods of your partner, know what makes him/her happy, know what triggers him/her, know their sad and happy moments, know how they react when they are angry so you won't be taken unaware. A lot of people don't know how their partner reacts when they are angry because they are busy getting comfortable with their happy mood. Your partner might be jovial and you love him/her joviality but that doesn't stop you from knowing the other side of them, ones you know both sides of your partner, you are sure of happy a good relationship that will last.
**Love at first sight**
We all might have encountered this maybe as the lover or the lovee (the one being loved). I won't say there's nothing as love at first sight because I'm a lover boy, lol. For those of you who haven't encountered this, let me explain how it works, *When you see someone for the very first time and it feels like you already know them for ages, you easily connect with him/her, and then you get into a relationship in less than a week after meeting and so on.*
For few people this strategy works out very well, it depends on the energy that it's being spread between them that determines the outcome of the relationship, I have seen couples who got married after 3 months of meeting each other and they are living happily till date.
**Communicate with your partner**
This one sounds funny, right? Well it's true as seen, most people don't communicate with their partner in a relationship, I still don't understand why most people find it difficult to communicate with their plan like I mean, we are in this together so you can tell me how your day went instead of telling just fine, relationship it's a place of love and comfort, if you truly love me you will ask how I'm doing and if truly you are comfortable with me, you will be able to tell me every single details on how your day went.
**Know the difference between being patient and wasting your time**
Some people don't know where their relationship it's heading, they are just there watching their relationship being blown by the wind, and the worst part it's that they are not even trying to talk to their partner and ask them what's happening to us? where's this relationship taking us to? I don't understand what are your future plans for us as a couple? Don't be afraid to ask your partner these questions so you will know if you are still chasing the same goal or they have backed down, ones you notice the energy you are receiving from him/her it's changing, do well to approach them and have a deep convocation with him/her, don't keep shut for long, know the difference between being patient and wasting your time.
**Ladies, do you discuss your menstruation with your boyfriend?**
This one is for the ladies, I know most guys find it disgusting to be hearing about menstruation period, but let me tell you a secret. When a guy truly loves you and care for you, he won't find this disgusting because he cares about your well-being, in fact, he won't find anything disgusting about you, the only thing he might find disgusting about you is when you start giving him less attention or drawing back from him. If your man has warmed you not to talk about menstruation around him, ask him if he truly loves you, if he said yes, tell him that he should also love the whole of you, your uniqueness, and your flaws altogether.
I think I will stop here, for now, I might just write another article on this later, but sure though, lol.
*The truth's that there's no key to a long-lasting relationship, the only key you need for a lasting relationship it's the right Partner, the right partner it's the key to a long-lasting and happy relationship that will lead to marriage.*
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Is it okay to be alone ?
I was checking my notifications that's when I saw an article by @Ruffa and she wrote about how it feels to be alone in a dark room though she don't like it.
You can read the article here https://read.cash/@Ruffa/i-hate-being-lonely-but-i-prefer-being-alone-25e8943d
Something flashed into my head that's when I decided to write on the topic. I'm someone who love being around people (crowd) but I still feel lonely inside of me like I'm just with them in body and my spirit it's elsewhere, I always feel left out since I was a kid, though it's not anyone's fault but mine "I will talk about that later". On her article she wrote about how she prefer dark room and also feel comfortable being alone enjoying his own company, but she hate it tho.. Immediately I got where she was coming from cause I'm also alone wolf too, lol.
I see people having happy moments with friends enjoying each other companies and I love the positive energy they spread between each others, but I was see myself enjoying my own company cause I feel like no one truly understands me, even me sometimes don't understand myself, lol.
*I feel like being alone gives me more time to think and free my mind from the things of the world. Though I'm an over thinker and a song writer, I do spend more time alone especially in my room that don't have lights, lol. It makes me connect to true self.*
Now to the question. **It's it okay to be alone?,** I see no problem being alone, Note: it's better to be alone than move with toxic people. There's a saying in my country which goes like this **Dem nor dey use shame drink poison** (You can't drink poison because people are mocking you).
*People might call you weird or a freak because of the way you are and how you handle things alone, but they won't understand that you are use to being alone wolf.*
Like a Wiseman man ones said "**He that knows his opponent it's clever, but he that knows his self it's wise**"
Knowing yourself takes more than just knowing your name and what you like, knowing yourself also mean you should know your flaws, know what triggers you and also know how to control your hunger.
It's okay to be alone wolf, It's okay to spend sometime in your dark room, but don't let it get into your head that you are unloved, though you have had some toxic relationships/friendships that made you to giveup on people. But you can't stay in your dark room forever, dark rooms are not meant for you to live your life feeling unloved, darks rooms are for some alone time to think straight and free your mind from the things of the world.
@Ruffa also said in her article that, most people often feel so lonely to the extent that it now affects their mental health negatively. When I read this line, tears gathered my eyes and I remember some years back when I held a knife against my stomach cause I was always rejected by the opposite gender and it was getting into my head negatively, nobody knews what I was going through at that period of time cause I couldn't tell anyone what I was going through, I wore a fake smile all day and cried at night most times. At that moment all that was on my mind was suicidal suicidal!!!, the voice was so loud. But thank God I pulled through and now I'm able to control my mental health and know that it's okay to be in a dark room sometimes but don't stay in there for too long, so it won't mess with your mental health.
I know it won't be easy to take the bold steps to leave your dark room and walk into the light. But you don't have to do this alone, I'm here to assist in anyway I can possibly.
Here is songs a help fight your doubts when negative thoughts start crowding your head at the lonely days.
***Sister*** by **Johnny Drille**
https://www.boomplaymusic.com/share/music/67989109?srModel=COPYLINK&srList=ANDROID
You can check it out with the above link .
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**How would you know if what you feel it's love**
https://read.cash/@Cogamedia/how-would-you-know-if-what-you-feel-its-love-001bf31c
Thanks ones again and one love.
How would you know if what you feel it's love ?
How would you know if you what you feel it's love?. It's the most underated question ever, most people think that because you can't stop thinking about someone all day, that automatically means that you are in love, lol!, Sounds funny right?. Well such it's life.
Let me enlighten you how love works *from my experience though, maybe you would learn one or two from it, like a Wiseman ones said, you can't know it all most times you need to think outside the box*
In my life time, I have came across different levels of love, there's love at first sight also a long friendship love and etc...
Firstly let's know what's love. Love can be defined as a feeling you have towards someone, love usually dwells in the heart and not the mind, the reason for this it's that, the heart it's soft and easy to accommodate love, but the mind it's kind of hard and usually hate being emotional. That's the reason love deside to stick with the heart and not the mind.
Let's get back to the main topic **How would you know if you are inlove?**
You can see someone and can't stop thinking about the person then you will just conclude that you are inlove, no no no no no no no, that's not how love works and there's nothing like signs of true love, when a butterflies or fireflies start flying around both of you and all you now see it's him/her then the rain started falling or snowing started falling down while a beautiful song it's being played at the background of the scene, lol! That's fiction (not real) those signs only exist in movies and are not real. So if you are waiting for such before you fall in love, sorry to burst your bubbles that aren't coming dear, love it's not a movie, love it's beautiful and dangerous at the same time, i and my friend was walking and then we sighted young beautiful girl with good curves and my friend was like, Coga I done fall inlove with this girl like this, I was like how come, someone you bearly know, then I asked him, what makes you to fall inlove with her? And has like, omo can't you see that the girl it's funny loaded, if this one handle you ehn you go scream for glory, and I was like that's all? And he said what else again ? I said nothing o but if that is all you think of her that makes you fall in love with her, my brother you are not inlove you are just lust after her body shape, don't confuse lust for love.
*You see that's what most people feel. They are lust after the body or the money and they mistake it for love. Like I said love dwells in the heart and not the body shape or beautiful face or the money you see.*
When you love someone or you feel like you have developing feelings for someone. First of all you need to ask yourself why I'm developing feelings for this person? (Falling inlove with this person) and check all the necessary documents of the person in your brain to know why you can't stop thinking about the person. It's it because of the body shape ?, It's it because of the way he/she walks ?, It's it because of the help he/she offered me that makes me feel I'm inlove? Or it's it because of the way he/she treats me ?.
All these are areas you should really think about to know if what you feel it's love or you just enjoy the company of the person. Because love dwells in the heart and not the company of a person or body shape. If you love someone because of the body shape (curves) soon or later you would see someone that has better curves than her and you will surely run after that one, if you love someone because of his handsomeness or her beauty, you will eventually see someone that is more beautiful than her or more handsome than him and you will run after that one also, if you love him because he is funny and he's also nice to talk to, you will fall out of love with him sooner or later, if you love her because you enjoy her company anytime she's around you, there's no dull moment, you will fall out of love with her sooner because you will eventually see someone that is more friendly than her.
*Love should come from the heart and not the eyes, love it's a feeling and feelings are unseen, feelings are proven by the way you take action towards your emotion not something you see with your eyes.*
I hope after reading this arrict you will be able to know the difference between love and lust, so you will have a clear understanding of what you are feeling or want you want to feel. When you understand the difference between these words, trust me you are 10 steps to becoming a better being.
Show Some Love
This young man was fed up with life and truly he really tried his best to be more than what people sees in him, he was depressed but no one knows not even his mom, though the mother has her suspicions and kept on praying for him.
He lost his job because he couldn't keep up anymore, his girlfriend left him because he couldn't live up to her financial expectations, he lost majority of his friends and most of his family was avoiding him. Life was really tough for him and TBH suicide became an option.
Stream https://snd.click/iwiq
So one day he decided to pick the call, he took his bag and left a note on the table, There's this young orphanage boy in the environment that usually adores him and ran errands in the neighborhood, nobody knows where the boy sleeps or stays, but because of his good behaviors.They assume his from a well brought up family. But this young boy was actually living with some couple of kids around his age in the motor park, they usually sleep in the bus and continue hustling in the morning as street boys that they are, he was different from the rest.
He actually had a dream of becoming great in life and he so much believe in it to the extent that he keeps on encouraging himself "that it doesn't matter where I'm today or where I'm from, what matters it's I'm doing something for my dreams to become a reality" with confidence. Until the day the young man he adores passed him on the way with his bag, then the young boy knew something was up, the boy followed the man silently and when the man arrive at a building site close to a bush, he brought out a rope and was about tying the rope to a tree. The boy left disappointed and felt divested. After he left, the man heard a sound and went to find out where the sound was coming from, only for him to walk into a lady who's about to commit suicide, quickly the man was begging her not to do it, he started encouraging the lady. That there's so much to life only if you can see it, the lady was crying bitterly and I felt the pain myself, the man then ask why she wants to end her life, the lady started explaining how her family turned their back on her, even her friends called her old fashioned and etc.
Stream https://snd.click/iwiq
At that moment the man forgot about his problems and started encouraging this lady, the lady listened dropped the knife she was holding against her stomach and the man took her to his house to cool down and relax. Months later they moved in together in another environment. Meanwhile after that day at the building site, nobody saw the young kind boy again. Until two months later. A very fateful night this young man and the lady was watching Netflix on his phone when someone broke into their house at gunpoint, the robber voice sounds familiar but.
He can't be who I think he is "the man said". Behold he was exactly who the man thinks he is, pointing a gun at them, it was his first robbery and he was a bit shaking, the man was shocked to see the young boy that adores him pointing gun at him, alot of questions was running through his mind like, how come you are now carrying a gun, the boy with tears in his eyes thought that the man actually committed suicide months ago that's why he let go of his dreams and follow the bad ways in life, the man asked him where are your parents?. What happened, why are you carrying gun around, the boy replied that he has no parents and was sleeping in the streets, that all he had was a dream but you took it away when I saw you about to commit suicide, I looked up to you know ?, I adored you because you were confidence. This young man started crying, not because there was a gun pointed at him but because someone was looking up to him and he never knew, he thought that he was worthless and him committing suicide it's just doing everyone a favor, they all started crying both the boy and the lady.
After a short while of crying, the young man apologize to the boy and told him he wants to adopt him as his son, if only he's comfortable with it, the lady agreed and they all live happily together, the young boy continued to pursue his dreams and ambitions. This time has a father and a mentor to mentor him.
This is the story behind my track titled: Show Some Love https://snd.click/iwiq Please stream around all digital stores, especially Spotify and iTunes 
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