Why People Stays in a Toxic Relationship?

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Have you even been felt to be inlove? Did you feel having a butterfly on your stomach when you first see the person you love? Can you still remember the time when your starting to give up due to toxicity in relationship? Those are the questions that will serve as our guide to emulate this article. We are all engage in a relationship, we are not that just talking about romantic but all kinds of relationship like in our family, friends, lovers, etc. The first time we enter in a romantic relationship, we feel so inlove to our partner right? Those love that we believe will last long, we enter in a relationship since we want to try if it will work, somesuccesfully work and couple manage to know each other as time goes by but there are relationship that became toxic since both parties are arguing everyday, there's a third party issue and disloyalty.

Inside our homes there's also a relationship formed to our parents, siblings, and even relatives. There are times that there's a fight inside the house specially between siblings and it's normal however there are instances that it's already toxic inside the house, the feeling that you came from the job then suddenly you will receive a thousand rants that will make you irritate since your exhausted and need to take a rest. There are also times that it's already a toxic inside the house when you are the only one moving inside the house, doing the chores, earning money for them, buying necessities such as food, water and you even cargo the bills but all your family members doing nothing but to watch television everyday, clicking on their phones, their routine is to sleep, social media, eat then go back to sleep.

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Once you confronted them they are the one who's getting mad, in the eyes of them you are the antagonist of their story. We can also relate this to our friends, at first we are so happy to gain lots of friends since we believe that the more the merrier but little did we know is, the more friends we have the more toxicity will be. We can't distuigish if our friends are true or not. You won't realize that you've been backstab and there's already fake rumors spread about you. They will show you a beautiful smile when your in front of them but silently mocking you.

There are reasons why people prefer to stay in a relationship though they knew the fact that it's already toxic. When it comes to romantic relationship with our partner, we already knew that everything is already toxic, our partner is making inappropriate actions and have third party, they don't love us anymore but we prefer to neglect those things cause we love them so much. We are afraid that they will leave us that's why we are fooling ourselves that everything is still working, that everything is still healthy even though you are betrayed many times. It's not a love already, don't know why people like this are existing, maybe they just want to be not alone.

When it comes to family, sometimes we encountered so much toxicity but in the end we prefer to endure those toxic environments since you promised to help your family, you promised to make their life better and your willing to sacrifice for their betterment. There's a mindset of them that in the end family is always a family. There's also a belief that your family will be proud of what your doing even though the scenarios are different from what you've imagined. When it comes to our friends, the one reason why we stayed in a relationship even if it's toxic is, we don't want to lose a friend, we want someone to called companion and we are afraid to lose them cause there's already memories been built but everything is already toxic.

You've been deceived and backstab many times but you still neglect those things and and hanging out with them. I will also add additional information about family, there's a mother pr a father who doesn't want to give up the relationship even though their husband or wife is convicted having third party, they don't want to get separated with their husband or wife since they are thinking about their children, they want to have a complete family even though their husband or wife have already an affair. Those reasoning are all immature and not acceptable, if you knew that the relationship is already toxic then why you shouldn't but the ties. If you stayed on that relationship then you'd just fooling yourself. There's nothing wrong in cutting ties since it's not healthy to continue the relationship that already ruined. Sometimes we need to think what would be the result if we pursue those toxicity since we are the one who will suffer from our decisions.

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isa sa rason ko dati kung bakit tiniis ko kahit toxic na yung relationship is I was tired of starting all over again.Hanap ng jowa,adjustmen period ,kakapagod din naman lagi nalang mgsisimula ako ulit pero nalet go ko rin siya dahil mas pinili kong ipriority yung anak ko over him.

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2 years ago

People generally question easily like "why did you stay in such relationship when you can leave" but do not realize it is actually very tough to leave. Toxic people have their control over their victims emotionally and breaking that needs a lot of courage and theraphy. Also, victims generally fear if they break the relationship, the toxic people might hurt them, even worse, kill them.. or their loved ones.

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2 years ago

There were many people nowadays who are insensitive to others' feeling. We should not entertain that kind of people but in a good way.

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2 years ago

"You've been deceived and backstab many times but you still neglect those things and hanging out with them."

Relate to this.. Pero carry lng. I just go along with the flow..

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2 years ago

A lot of people in abusive relationships stay in them because they love their partner and think that things will change. They might also believe their partner's behavior is due to tough times or feel as though they can change their partner if they are a better partner themselves.

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2 years ago

We have been taught to endure, to swallow our pride, to let things be. However, at one point, enough is enough. We were taught to put others first but that is not healthy. There will always be toxic people whether friends or family. However, you have the choice to stay away from these kinds of people. Sometimes the best solution is to walk away. There is that fear of being alone but that had been instilled by the toxic people. There will always be those who will accept you as you are and make you feel worthy without being toxic. Surround yourself more with those kind of people.

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2 years ago

Sa totoo lang madaming dahilan Ang we are not in the position to judge. Been there 🤣

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User's avatar Yen
2 years ago

I have this friend who is in relationship for 7 years I think. Their relationship is so toxic now, but still she didn't agree for break-up, because according to her, they have been together for so long and she don't want to start again for someone else, she's tired of getting to know each other if start a new relationship

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2 years ago

Yun nga po yung nakakalungkot, mas iniisip yung relationship kesa sa sarili nila.

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2 years ago

isa sa rason bakit ayaw bumitaw ang isang tao sa isang relasyon ay dahil nanghinayang sila sa tagal ng relationship nila. Ika nga nila, andaming na nilang memories na nagagawa, andami ng pagsubok na nalalagpasan kaya ayaw nila tapusin kahit yung isa nalang ang lumalaban sa relationship nila.

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2 years ago

may mga ganun po talaga na kahit niloloko na, nagbubulagbulagan na lang kahit masakit para sa kanila dahil nga ayaw nilang mawala sa kanila yung tao.

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2 years ago

Kaya nga ano? Naging martyr sa ngalan ng pag ibig kasi takot mawala yung tao sa kanila

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2 years ago

Yeah maybe the person will stay in a toxic relationship just because they dont want to be alone. I agree in this line

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2 years ago

parang naranasan mo na ata Kuya HAHAHA

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2 years ago

There are two reasons why people stay in a toxic relationship: 1. They think that the people they have will change and 2. They are afraid that it will be their last love.

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2 years ago

Ohhh as I expected to a guru like you sir, I agree with this, people hoping that the person will change but it didn't happen, in the end they regret it.

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2 years ago

I'm not a guru hahaha

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2 years ago

Once mainlove ang isang tao nagiging bulag na. Kaya siguro kahit sobrang toxic na ng isang relationship ay di pa rin nila makayanang bumitaw.

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2 years ago

Omsim, lalo na kapag matagal na ung relationship tapos toxic na perocsyaw padin bumitaw ng isa kase sayang yung maraming taon na magkasama sila.

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2 years ago

True yan Chikakiku. Naranasan ko yan noon. But thank God at nakayanan ko ring bumitaw.

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2 years ago

True chikakiku. Toxicity is everywhere. Toxicity is not healthy anymore. It can cause you pain and make your life miserable. So why we stay? We need to close our doors for them. We should learn to think and care ourselves too.

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2 years ago

What if naging toxic na po yung relationship with your current partner po ngayon, magstastay ka po ba?

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2 years ago

Nice to read this article dear codename. Even in our workplace, there are toxic coworkers I encountered. Though they are only few, I avoid them because I know they're only good in front of yours.

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2 years ago

yeah I agree, it's better to avoid them rather than entertaining them.

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2 years ago

Exactly my dear friend to avoid becoming like them.

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2 years ago

Mental Health over everything is the goal but our love and soft heart prohibits us from doing so.

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2 years ago

May tendency kasi tayo to think na, "magbabago din yan", "kaya ko silang baguhin", etc., to the point na nagiging "immune" na tayo sa sakit at toxicity. But as it is, toxins little by little will bring destructive effects sa tao. Gusto ko yung sinabi mo - cut ties. Though easier said than done, sabi nga.

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2 years ago

One chooses to stay for the sake of their baby or children. Is it painful, yes it is more than that feeling. But I can not blame those who chose to stay than leave. They are trying their best to build the broken pieces slowly and are hopeful that one day they can say that "what I fought for before is worth it".

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2 years ago

We know that love is toxic , but sometimes it is bound together because of emotion.

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2 years ago

It is easy to say than to be done kaya yung iba nag stay for some reason na hindi pa kaya maglet go.

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2 years ago

yeah nandun na yung mindset na hindi nils kayang Himalayan yung tao kase natatakot silang iwan.

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2 years ago

oo yan, takot na iwan at mag isa ulit.

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2 years ago

But what if , it is just a challenge in your realtionship. Work on your relationship and fight for your love. I believe that there is still love in the end. Patience and understand each other with the presence of the holy God

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2 years ago

That's also my question but based on what the others said, it's because they love someone so much. And that's toxic love already.

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2 years ago

The burning question. Maybe in fear or maybe for care.

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2 years ago