Debaucher

When asked if they would ever rape someone, most men would say no. Rephrase that question to make it less direct ("would you ever pressure someone into having sex with you?", "Would you immediately stop if they said no?"), and the amount of men who say yes grows alarmingly. Most men say they would-or have already.

This isn't new information. But it's worrying nontheless. In america, one in five women are sexually assaulted at least once in their lifetimes. This issue stems not only from male entitlement to a woman's body that is encouraged throughout a man's life, but also the age-old idea that women are property before they are people, and the idea that abuse equals interest, which is often reinforced in the behaviour of children. This is most typically seen when a parent tells a young girl that "he's only bullying you because he likes you," and with that, successfully convincing a girl that hair-pulling and verbal abuse should be tolerated and possibly even rewarded with physical affection if the abuser is male. This in turn also convinces the boy that this is a correct and effective way to gain attention. Also unsurprising is that this common situation reeks of heteronormativity, because it is assumed that both the little girl and the little boy, who have not yet developed their identity (and certainly not their sexual orientation), are heterosexual.

Back to the topic at hand, we as a society don't fight rape even near as actively as we should. Victim blaming, slutshaming, and plain disinterest from the police, not to mention the media, is still far too present. Our society still encourages the idea that a man is allowed to force himself onto a disinterested woman and have the audacity to ask her to consider it a compliment when what is truly is harassment. If he proceeds to "give chase" (translation: force his (violent) affections on someone), and the woman of interest does not cooperate, she may well be sexually harassed or even murdered as a direct consequence. This is then often considered her fault for not willingly giving this man what he felt entitled to have.

But rape culture doesn't stop there. It's unsolicited 'dick pics' sent to women who never asked for it. It's dress code at schools, making young girls feel it's their responsibility not to distract the boys and teachers, it's publicly blaming the victim because her skirt was too short and she looked appealing. It's promises of violence if she says no, as if the very act of being forced into sexual acts alone isn't violent enough.

Rape culture is news outlets showing a young white man's most flattering photo and naming his brief history with teenage depression. How well he always did in shool, and how oh-so-out-of-character this is for him. Meanwhile the girl has fallen pregnant with his child and is being cast out not just for wearing her favorite shorts and wearing her hair up on a hot day, but for wanting to get an abortion, because she cannot stand the idea of a part of him still being inside her.

Rape culture is the way a young girl's father just told her rape culture doesn't exist in the same breath as he told her to take self defense classes and always carry mace. Perturbed, her mother showed her that day how to clench your keys between your fists so you can use them as a weapon if necessary, never once thinking to tell her older son he should never rape.

As the young girl's father leaned over to give her pepper spray to put on her keychain, he whispered to her, "here, stay safe. Make sure he rapes the other girl."

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