Hi family. I was off for two days due to stress. I could not combine what I was going through with my blogging. One will affect one. I'm so sorry about that.
Yesterday, a friend of mine called me and broke down in tears while explaining her relationship situation to me.
I have known her with this guy for over three years. He takes good care of her and seems to be the most perfect man on earth. The guy has a very close female friend that we all know. Honestly, I thought nothing is going on between them.
Last year, the guy, his female friend, and my friend all relocated to Ibadan to seek a job. The guy had some issues with accommodation and he lives with his female friend. Presently, he still lives with his female friend.
He rented an apartment and bought all the necessary things he needed in the house. He has rented this apartment for over two months and he has refused to relocate to that house. He bought everything he needed to live there already.
Presently, his family members know whom he's living with and they are cool with it. The lady's family members also know that a man is living with their daughter. How stupid is that? And my friend knows all of these.
My friend has been making complaints here and there and the guy promised to move to his apartment during the weekend. Now, he told my friend that his female friend will be around most of the time. And my friend began to cry. She called me and broke down into tears.
When we hung the call, I went to her immediately. I met our third friend and we decided to excuse our friend who was in that situation and went to talk outside. I began to hear things I never heard from my friend.
Our third friend made me realize that this lady who we think is the guy's friend is his ex-girlfriend. Now, would you tell me that a man and a woman are living under the same roof for over seven months and nothing happened between them? Our third friend also made me realize that there was a day our friend visited the boyfriend and she saw sperm on the bed which is a sign that he just finished having sex with the lady he calls his friend. Isn't it crazy? I know my friend was scared to tell me because she knows I won't take it easy on them.
Something came to my head. I think the guy met my friend when he broke up with the lady. Maybe when he began to date my friend, the lady came back and he couldn't confront my friend that he's no more doing.
I had to sleep over at my friend's place so that she won't do something funny. While she was asleep, I took her phone to check what she and the boyfriend talked about. Would you believe that she was begging the guy on Whatsapp?
The path that she's taking is not good. She's the firstborn of her house and she's acting like a gullible. I called her brother this morning and reported her to him. I know a lot of people will think, that calling her brother is wrong. This lady is the only lady I know apart from my sister. She's my sister from another mother. Our parents have been friends before we were born and I won't see my friend going on the wrong path without letting her know.
Her mum has always asked her to leave the guy but she's adamant. I'll go to her house on Friday and tell her parents what their child is going through. This is a very toxic relationship and a lot of people have lost their lives to depression because of this.
God knows I'm very angry right now. My hands are shaking because I can't imagine this happening to me. I can't deal!!!
I'll make sure she leaves the guy. She's twenty-five and still struggling with another lady over a man.
If this happens to you or your friend, what would you do?