Expectations, expectations

Love, care, support, kindness, compassion, respect are beautiful things and well meaning people will want to give them when they're in the position to do so, it becomes more beautiful when the people on which these are bestowed upon reciprocate. It's indeed a wholesome feeling.

It's only human to want to get back what you give others in some form or the other, that doesn't mean that's your main aim of doing it, but because you feel that the person appreciates what you're doing for them better when they show appreciation by doing something similar even if it's not the same as yours. Reciprocation is an act of appreciation, sometimes the want for others to reciprocate turns into a desire which results in expectations. When it grows more intense, the expectations become more unrealistic and one ends up setting standards that are far beyond what others can achieve and when they realise that the person doesn't meet up to their expectations, they end up disappointed and heartbroken.

In my encounters with people, I have come to realise that the higher the expectations we place on people, the more likely they are to disappoint us. Expectations have a way of disappointing and hurting us more than a heartbreak sometimes. We realise that the person won't do what you want them to do, you realise that you have been wasting your time all along, you realise that you've been fooled. The truth is that, when we expect we're mostly bound to be disappointed one way or the other but does that mean we should stop the expecting? I don't think that's possible. However it is very helpful and recommender for us to minimise our expectations of others to avoid stories that touch.

Love yourself :

This is the most important of them all. Most of the things we expect from people are love, understanding, care, kindness and stuff like that. When we love ourselves deeply, our expectations of others reduces drastically because then we realise that no human on earth can love us more than we love ourselves... except perhaps one's mother. Self love teaches us to minimise our expectations because what we crave from people we have already given to ourselves. We're kind to ourselves, we understand ourselves, we love ourselves so we wouldn't be bothered much if a person doesn't reciprocate but again we'd appreciate it alot if they do. We're sufficient in our own selves.

Forget about your good deeds:

Doing things from your heart and them forgetting about them or forgetting that you've ever done them to people comes with a different type of feeling. This way you don't even care on whom your goodness falls upon. You just do it because you want to, not because you have to or because you have expect them to do the same for you. The freedom that comes with this cannot be expressed in words. You become happier, more peaceful and more loving.

Humans will disappoint you:

In your life journey, you will come across a lot of people, some good, some not so good and others towards the other extreme. Any of these people can disappoint you either intentionally or not. The best thing to do here is to not expect them not to disappoint you. This isn't the same as thinking that a person would do worse, it is acknowledging the fact that everyone is capable of doing something bad if they want to. It is up to them to choose which way they wanna follow. So if you bear this in mind, disappointment resulting from expectations wouldn't be an issue to you because you understand that humans are what they are. Most don't really care about what you have done for them in the past, at the end of everyone does what they want to do anyways regardless of your past good deeds towards them.

Know this and know peace. Expectations will always be there. You can't tell me that a mother doesn't expect her child to love her, but would she be disappointed when it turns out to be the opposite? Yes it can be hurtful. What about living with expectations that can be avoidable? That's what isn't necessary at all.

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