Your words were twisted and used against you.

You have a good memory and have never lost your decency, but someone claims that you said exactly the same words a week ago, at the same time and with a specific meaning. And there is nothing to disprove this, and you will find no such thing in your own memory. 

Unless it's something serious or important. You joke, you blink and you forget. But what do you do if it becomes serious and affects your work, your relationship or your life? What do you do? After all, your own words are used against you and you risk losing something!

First you need to recognise that your opponent is probably lying. Yes. He's only lying because he knows he can't disprove or confirm it. He can't do it either. You rely on his confidence and take what he says for granted.

Secondly, you should know that it is the most trivial and dishonest manipulation that will make you feel guilty and make you justify it by appealing to your memory, circumstances, mood or anything else. If you believe that, you are addicted.

Obviously, realising these simple truths won't make you feel better. So you've realised that it's all about deception and manipulation. What's the next step? There's another mistake. Once you understand cause and effect, you've taken matters into your own hands. This is the key to success for the further action that is needed.

Look outside yourself. If you have already felt guilty or helpless because of what you have said, you will probably put your head down, lower your head, look at the floor and blush. This is a normal physiological reaction. 

Your body and your psyche are inextricably linked. Stand up. Lift your head up. Look your interlocutor directly in the eye. Ideally, imagine a slight Mona Lisa smile on your face. The latter seems uncompromising and confuses the operator. And by making these simple changes to your posture in the room, you increase your confidence, making it easier to handle further.

Next step: With the same increased confidence, you can unequivocally say that not only did you not say it, but that your interviewer is lying. If he continues to press you and insist, repeat that the whole thing is a clear lie and a deception.

It's about looking as confident as possible at the moment and believing that it's really a lie. Let the person you are talking to try to prove you wrong.

It's much easier if you can remember what you said, when you said it and who you said it to. Then your confidence will be established and it will be up to you to say the words that you actually said. It's not always necessary to explain what you mean by them. When you are asked, you should answer. If you're not asked, that's fine.

It also happens that the words you just said immediately turn around and change meaning. A similar pattern of action: stand firm in your convictions and remind your interlocutor that it is not nice and not necessary to lie. The winner is the one who perseveres to the end.

Your interviewer will not cheat you by telling you about conversations that did not take place or by twisting words. To avoid similar twists in the future, understand the purpose of this presentation.

Of course, it is unlikely that it will be given voluntarily and immediately. Most of the time you will have to think about it and find out for yourself. If so, don't hesitate to ask directly and see how they react. Even in this case, they may not be telling the truth, but some of the interlocutor's reactions may confirm your suspicions.

And also understand: mentally healthy people do not behave this way. It makes no sense for them to try to manipulate and lie. This is typical of sociopaths, people with personality disorders and mental illness. Stay away from them and you will be happy.

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