Candy? 🍭

Do you like candy? Do you like chocolates? It's hard to find someone who would say no. Even if he can't have sweets for some reason, he still wants them. It's delicious. And if you treat candy or chocolate - it's twice as tasty.

But do not flatter yourself. Even such an innocent sign of attention can have far-reaching consequences. From such a small thing as an innocent candy, built the most cruel manipulation.

How it works:

You got some candy. It's a small thing, but it's nice. Particularly suspicious people may take it as a sign of attention and start looking for other confirmations of the disposition to his person. As you know: he who seeks, finds. Our imagination in this regard is limitless.

Even if we do not look for subtext, the attitude toward the one who treated improves. He begins to seem nicer, more sympathetic, kinder. In general, it acquires those properties and characteristics which previously it was either not observed at all, or noticed very rarely.

So. One tasty little candy elevated the person who gave it in the eyes of the one who received it. The first stage of manipulation is complete. The transition to the next begins.

The same person comes again. Again brings candy. Maybe the same, and maybe another. This does not change the essence. Only now some insignificant request is added to the candy. A very insignificant request. A small thing. 

For example, in office life it may be a request to borrow a hole punch for five minutes. Quite a trifle and nothing. How to refuse such a pleasant person? Moreover, the exchange is not equal: an old frayed hole punch, which will still return to its owner, and candy, which will be eaten by the owner of the hole punch. And the fear: what if, after refusing such a minor request, there will be no more candy?

And here comes our trick-or-treater for the third time. Only the request will be more serious. For example, to help him with his report. It's hard to refuse. After all, the candy is in front of our eyes again. Even understanding that the word "help" in this context means "to do for him" will not stop you from taking a rash step. You don't want to lose the person who regularly provides candy for nothing and because it's practically gratuitous.

The candy giver has achieved his goal. The one who ate that candy is now on his hook. A brief mechanism looks like this:

A gift generating a sense of obligation and the need to give something in return.

A small concession (giving a little help) as payment for the gift.

Forming a good attitude toward the giver and the habit of rejoicing at his appearance.

A big concession (payback), because after the first "yes" to a small request, it's hard to say "no" to something bigger, and there's still a feeling of obligation and the need to give something in return for the gift.

The more weighty the gift, the more complicated or expensive the payment for it is worth waiting for. 

It also happens that the gifts come in ascending order: first candy, then chocolate, then a pack of chocolates. As the weight of the gifts grows, so do the requests, which may not always be literal. For example, in exchange for a candy can simply ask for a smile. And not a request at all. Yes?

And may provide candy and chocolate for a long time, but not ask for anything in return. But in the end, be sure to ask for something. And a very weighty one at that.

How to resist:

If you've had a treat, have a treat in return. It may take a while. It doesn't matter. The main thing is to make the exchange. If they refuse to accept the gift - insist to the victory, otherwise you will remain on the hook.

And do not think about the value of the gift. Give something expensive, which you can't afford to buy in return, it doesn't matter. Give a gift that you can afford. No need to try to outdo the giver and get into loans because of this.

If they offer you a gift that you know you'll never pay back, refuse. No matter how much you want, no matter how much you dream - refuse. Otherwise you will pay back for a very, very long time. It will be more expensive than to get what you want after a while.

Who can I accept gifts from?

Don't expect it to say that only from friends and relatives. You can accept gifts from anyone you know. As long as you give them something in return. You can't accept gifts from strangers. They are certainly not good.

Where else do they use this manipulation?

In ordinary stores. It's very rare to see tasting tables or anything like that anymore. It used to be all over the place: try a piece of sausage and try not to buy it afterwards. A piece of it is eaten and it's a shame to just leave.

In perfume stores: you bought a perfume, and a lot of different samples were thrown into the bag. And all for free. And it does not matter that this is always the case. But how not to go back again to the same store either with the selfish purpose again for the samples, or because it's embarrassing to get so many gifts just for nothing?

And so!!! Greed aside! Fantasy away. Sober and cold calculation and healthy suspicion. That's the only way you won't be led into the woods by candy.

Good luck to you readers read.cash🖐

07.02.2022.

@Belozoriana

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