Have you ever been into a long distance relationship? If yes, how are you coping up with it? If not, are you willing to give it a try?

The article which I am about to share is purely based on my thoughts and experiences. As I have already mentioned on my past articles my husband and I are into a long distance relationship. As he is working overseas for about 6 to 7 months and then goes back home. He only stayed for two months vacation and then goes back again at work. We started dating when I was still in college, and he was working in one of the five star hotel in Makati. We been together for almost a year when he accepted the job offer for him in a cruise ship. It was the only way he could earned way a lot bigger than staying here. We continued dating like normal couples does before he gets on board. When the time has come, that he has to leave, we had a hard time bidding our final farewell. We also shed a lot of tears while promising to each other that we should keep in touch no matter what happened. On the next day, he took his flight and soon enough our long distance relationship started.

Surviving the First year

It was definitely very hard. I was on my last year in college the time he went abroad. The only communications we had those year were text messages ( his text messages cost 20php or $0.40 per message, the reason he only sent me a few times) message from yahoo mail, friendster and overseas call. We haven’t discovered skype that time and there were no facebook messenger yet. The time difference was also a big factor for the lack of communication. He was assigned in the US so there was a 12 hour time difference between us. That time too, he was on adjustment period with his new jobs as an assistant waiter in one of largest cruise ship company. But despite all of these hindrances, we stay committed with each other. Eventually after getting along well with the time difference and some adjustments our communication gets a lot better. We were contented with what we have that time. And we survived the first year we were into this kind of relationship.

Distance makes our heart grow fonder

Being into a long distance relationship requires a lot in order for you to be successful in this field. You should give your partner your full trust, loyalty, commitment, and time. It takes a lot of patience too because you will be missing each other a lot. This happened to us, as we used to date a lot before he accepted his job abroad. Being apart and not able to be with each other physically was such painful, most specially if you have to celebrate something important in your life. There were so many celebration in our life that we haven’t been able to celebrate together. It’s a little disappointing but we got used to it too. Slowly we had finally accepted that no matter how big the distance we had between us, our love for each matters. And the absence in each other’s arms makes our heart grow fonder by consistently communicating.

Communication is the Key

I do believe communication plays a big part too in this kind of relationship. As time goes by, it becomes a lot easier to be engage in a long distance relationship. The technology updates has been great because you can now reach your loved ones in just one click of a finger. You can now also celebrate occasions even when you both are from the other side of the earth with help of video calls available in some mobile applications. Going back to the days when we were just starting this thing out, it was really harder than you could’ve thought. Like what I had mentioned earlier, we were communicating via text messages, phone calls, and yahoo mail messenger. But it was very limited for it was quite expensive. For both of us who were at an early stage of our relationship the distance could’ve make us apart. The misunderstandings, jealousy, and trust issues would’ve separate us but we chose not to. And then 13 years later, we are strongly holding on together.

Closing thoughts

I know not everyone will successfully overcome the challenges in a long distance relationship. As I have heard a numerous stories about couples breaking up because of distance. As for me, distance would definitely not brings us apart. With all the free calls we can acquired via internet, makes our communication much a lot easier than before. The time and the distance has already tested the love we’ve had for each other. I can finally conclude that all the pain of not seeing each other physically, and the misunderstandings we’ve been through all through out the years we been together while being apart, was still worth it because the love and admiration we have for each other would truly forever prevail.

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Let me say thank you in advance for taking your time to read this. Do you happen to know someone who is unto this kind of relationship too. Please feel free to comment down below and I would really appreciate it. May the Lord God bless us all!😍

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