The pain of the parent
May 22, 2022
If you're son/daughter made some mistakes that you didn't even take notice of, does that make you a bad parent. If they did some nasty things and you only found out recently, does that make you neglect your duties?
Honestly, I was not planning to really publish for today as I made it to make today my rest day from everything since I became MIA or a day in noise as my Mum really did tell me face to face that I really don't have time with her.
So I neglect my phone for a while and face my Mum all day long. During breaks, or I may say she'll make me do an errand like cooking and taking care of the kids, I watched some videos and I caught some dramas where I saw that the mother is trying hard to convince her son to go back to school. I guess you remembered Tanging Ina's scene with Carlo A. and Ms. Ai. Then another video is when a father is doing all the labor just to support the studies of his children only to find out that the eldest daughter got pregnant at a minor age. The last one that made me cry was the scene in the drama "Liberation notes". The wife was complaining regarding of no day off since she became a mother and a wife. The only day she considered having days off was when she was going to church with her husband, then suddenly after a few days, she was found by the son dead in their room.
When you hear the word Parent, one thing would come to mind. It's a kind of job where you get no salary and you are working twenty-four hours a day seven days a week.
Single Parent, Mother/Father. This is their job., to take care of their children and work for their future, and to supply for all their needs.
As a parent, you can't complain about the responsibilities given to you for you made that child. You need to work hard to give them shelter, food and clothing, and the best education for them. You are also responsible for their future as you always want what's best for them
There is no perfect parent, they tend to make mistakes and sometimes they can hurt the children's emotions with such mistakes.
One of my friends is having a problem with her daughter who just got her first period just recently. The said kid made a fake acct and was entertaining a random stranger by saying their lovers. The worst part is they're sending pictures or n**des with each other. The father who was observing her found out what she was doing and received a beating. My friend looks all the chat history and they also made video calls and that's even worse imaging she's only thirteen.
The mother was asking her questions but she was also asking herself if she was lacking in taking care of her daughter which made her do such things.
As a parent, no matter how strict you are, or even if you're a control freak, children in this generation really can find ways to do what they want if they put their minds to it. I was once like that in my younger years but not to the point of having flings at a very young age. I'm really afraid of Papz when I was a kid.
So let me go back to the question stated above:
If you're son/daughter made some mistakes that you didn't even take notice of, does that make you a bad parent. If they did some nasty things and you only found out recently, does that make you neglect your duties?
People tend to make mistakes and mistakes make a person a better one. But I am not advising you, children, to be rebellious just for you to know what's good and bad. When a child makes a mistake and the parents were really blind you can't really call them bad parents. A parent is always learning something new every day, especially the flaws of the children, but because some of them tend to make secrets that made the parents not trustworthy at all.
For me, I can't blame all of the wrongs on the parents for what happened to their daughter. Technology nowadays made people especially the young ones became clever. They can easily make fake acct as their main was seen by the mother so she made a dummy acct and found a person whom she thinks is genuine unto her.
What I read and hear gives me a great lesson to watch out and be mindful of my son's behavior and how he acts every day but not stick my nose on his tantrums for they're really a handful.
Internet and these Freedom of Information thingy made some people throw hate at other people without doing a background checks. Good thing also that I'm not allowing the kids to hold the phone when I'm not around so I can see what they're watching.
If you watch 911 Lonestar and saw TK's story you'll really cry at how his mother saved him from distress and his addiction. Years later he found out that she had cancer and then after a couple of months he received a call saying his Mom died. That is just so heartbreaking for me as a mom.
Thank you for reading this nonsense dump article of mine. I just had a lot of bonding time with Mum and I am really inactive.
We really can't blame parents. They only want the best for us. Parents should continually guide their kids in the right. However, it's still up to the kids what they want to do with the advice they get from parents.