The pain of the parent

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2 years ago

May 22, 2022

If you're son/daughter made some mistakes that you didn't even take notice of, does that make you a bad parent. If they did some nasty things and you only found out recently, does that make you neglect your duties?

Honestly, I was not planning to really publish for today as I made it to make today my rest day from everything since I became MIA or a day in noise as my Mum really did tell me face to face that I really don't have time with her.

So I neglect my phone for a while and face my Mum all day long. During breaks, or I may say she'll make me do an errand like cooking and taking care of the kids, I watched some videos and I caught some dramas where I saw that the mother is trying hard to convince her son to go back to school. I guess you remembered Tanging Ina's scene with Carlo A. and Ms. Ai. Then another video is when a father is doing all the labor just to support the studies of his children only to find out that the eldest daughter got pregnant at a minor age. The last one that made me cry was the scene in the drama "Liberation notes". The wife was complaining regarding of no day off since she became a mother and a wife. The only day she considered having days off was when she was going to church with her husband, then suddenly after a few days, she was found by the son dead in their room.

When you hear the word Parent, one thing would come to mind. It's a kind of job where you get no salary and you are working twenty-four hours a day seven days a week.

Single Parent, Mother/Father. This is their job., to take care of their children and work for their future, and to supply for all their needs.

As a parent, you can't complain about the responsibilities given to you for you made that child. You need to work hard to give them shelter, food and clothing, and the best education for them. You are also responsible for their future as you always want what's best for them

There is no perfect parent, they tend to make mistakes and sometimes they can hurt the children's emotions with such mistakes.

One of my friends is having a problem with her daughter who just got her first period just recently. The said kid made a fake acct and was entertaining a random stranger by saying their lovers. The worst part is they're sending pictures or n**des with each other. The father who was observing her found out what she was doing and received a beating. My friend looks all the chat history and they also made video calls and that's even worse imaging she's only thirteen.

The mother was asking her questions but she was also asking herself if she was lacking in taking care of her daughter which made her do such things.

As a parent, no matter how strict you are, or even if you're a control freak, children in this generation really can find ways to do what they want if they put their minds to it. I was once like that in my younger years but not to the point of having flings at a very young age. I'm really afraid of Papz when I was a kid.

So let me go back to the question stated above:

If you're son/daughter made some mistakes that you didn't even take notice of, does that make you a bad parent. If they did some nasty things and you only found out recently, does that make you neglect your duties?

People tend to make mistakes and mistakes make a person a better one. But I am not advising you, children, to be rebellious just for you to know what's good and bad. When a child makes a mistake and the parents were really blind you can't really call them bad parents. A parent is always learning something new every day, especially the flaws of the children, but because some of them tend to make secrets that made the parents not trustworthy at all.

For me, I can't blame all of the wrongs on the parents for what happened to their daughter. Technology nowadays made people especially the young ones became clever. They can easily make fake acct as their main was seen by the mother so she made a dummy acct and found a person whom she thinks is genuine unto her.


What I read and hear gives me a great lesson to watch out and be mindful of my son's behavior and how he acts every day but not stick my nose on his tantrums for they're really a handful.

Internet and these Freedom of Information thingy made some people throw hate at other people without doing a background checks. Good thing also that I'm not allowing the kids to hold the phone when I'm not around so I can see what they're watching.

If you watch 911 Lonestar and saw TK's story you'll really cry at how his mother saved him from distress and his addiction. Years later he found out that she had cancer and then after a couple of months he received a call saying his Mom died. That is just so heartbreaking for me as a mom.


Thank you for reading this nonsense dump article of mine. I just had a lot of bonding time with Mum and I am really inactive.

@mommykim

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We really can't blame parents. They only want the best for us. Parents should continually guide their kids in the right. However, it's still up to the kids what they want to do with the advice they get from parents.

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2 years ago

what pains is when the kdis neglecting their parents advice na parang wala lang sa kanila yung worries nang parents nila

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2 years ago

Walang perpekto na mga magulang noonabels at wala ring perpekto na anak. I understand my Mom's side sometimes and I always put my feet on her shoes kapag may mga mali siya saming mga anak.

Anyways, kapag ako nagkaanak, Hinding hindi ko muna siya pag hahawakan ng cp or other technologies. Better to download cartoon and learning videos nalang tapos ipanuod sa TV if wala na mga panuod na cartoons after how many years. Haha 🤣

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2 years ago

maigi talaga yan baby gerl...ako naman nakakahawak lang anak ko nang phone pag nasa tabi niya ko para malaman ko kung ano pinapanuod niya

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2 years ago

I know na di pa namin nararanasan ang hirap at ang mgabhinanakit ng mga parents pero just byvlook at heir eyes and yung sometimes na pag tatago jila ng emosyon na hindi nakakalagpas sa pansin ko, ganun na lang din kung paano ako maguilty at maluha kapag nagkakasagutan kami ng parents ko. The guild is rushing after talaga tapos maiisip ko yung mga hirap nila at kung paano nila kinakaya ang everyday na pasakit, yung tipong kahit sarili nilang kasiyahan ay naipagpapalit nila para lang sa mga anak nila. Salutr to all the parents out there po sa inyo din po mami. Lifetime commitment talaga ang pagiging magulang.

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2 years ago

beb ganyan ako dati nung wala pa kong anak naranansan ko rin makipagsagutan sa mga magulang ko and na realize ko lang na madami akong mali nung naging active nako sa simbahan at more on nung naging parent nako...

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2 years ago

Being a parent is very mahirap talaga and I am not so sure kung magiging ready ako coz it's unending job. Then, lahat ay di perfect we all commit mistakes. Tapos may generation gap pa😂 papahaay kana lng talaga kaya bilid ako sa mga parents eh lalo sa mga kagaya nyo na talagang kumakayod at alam ang responsibilities bilang parents.

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2 years ago

normal lang talaga ang hirap when you're already raising a kid but hindi lang naman yan puro hirap eh..mararanasan mo rin ang purong kaligayahan pag nakikita mong masaya at walang iniindang sakit ang anak mo

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2 years ago

Yung technologies may mga disadvantages talaga mommykim kaya kung mag gamit ng mga gadgets kailangan may mga guide from parents. Hindi pwede sila lang mag isa kasi masamang impluwensya din yung mga technologies na ginagamit. As better kailangan may guidance always.

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2 years ago

yan talaga ginagawa ko beb yung nasa tabi ko siya pag gumagamit siya nang phone ko para alam ko kung anong pinapanuod niya

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2 years ago

I was born in the New technology era, and I saw everything on the internet, lol. So If I were a parent, we could see the history of the WI-FI network eh; that way, we could look at what they searched and what site they used. Also, I think this is the disadvantage of not talking $e× education in the home.

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2 years ago

ako naman sa part na yan wala talaga akong knowledge kung paano mako control na di nila ma access yung mga site na yan eh

Well talking about sex education in the family, snippets lang talaga kaya ituro since mga bata pa sila pero once na lumaki at magdalaga dun na talaga dapat ituro ang mga do's and don'ts

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2 years ago

Kailangan jud nimo eh manage imo time mars sa imo anak ug sa imo work para ino sad siya mabantayan bisan gamay ra nga oras kay murag super busy mum judka mars but that all namn is for your son.. :)

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2 years ago

mao jud nay pirme nako goal pars eh...di siya malalim na klase sa task but kaloy an lang jud sa Ginoo kay ka survive pa man until now

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2 years ago

We cannot learn parenting at school. It's like an innate behavior of living organisms to take good care of their young. No parent is perfect in child-rearing. But one thing's for sure, parents love their children and care for them, they want the best for them, and not tolerating the bad behavior of children is an act of love.

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2 years ago

that is truly dear, when a parent disciplines the child, it doesn't mean that they don't love them

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2 years ago

No one is perfect pero obligation natin as a parent na subaybayan at alamin ang nangyayari sa anak natin .. minsan hindi na sa parents ang pagkukulang kong hindi nasa anak na..

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2 years ago

yung technology talaga minsan ang nakakasira sa isip nang mga anak eh

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2 years ago

oo nga sis..

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2 years ago

Medyo mahirap nga maging magulang, I learned that I was an overprotective one in the process. Pero ayun na nga, may mga kids talaga na matitigas ang ulo ( same with me back then) there's no one size fits all.

Re your friend kung Pinoy yung ka chat nung bata mag reklamo kayo sa NBI ata mga ganun cyber eme yun. Kakatakot ang mga bata nowadays pag ganyan.

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2 years ago

base sa chat box pinoy ang ka chat tapos mas maigi talaga na sa nbi kasi kung sa barangay sila pupunta para i pa blotter eh ang mga magulang pa ang nagiging masama kesyo daw di nila nabantayang maigi ang anak nila kaya nagkaganun

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2 years ago

Hala mali naman yun - gaslighting naman yun and na nonormalize yung ganyang act. Paedophilia is a crime! Dapat sa mga ganyan pinuputol si Junjun.

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2 years ago

Agoi. Maka question bitaw jud ta as a parent if maing Ana atong anak sis. Makaingon ta nga Asa ta ng kuwang sa pagpadako nila. Anyway, I am just glad nga bisan man I don't have much time to spend Para sa akong daughter she grow up as a good person. Ako rang always remind niya don't do stupid things nga magmahay ka in the end. Dili muawat sa akong mga binuhatan pero coz she witnessed how hard the life we had when I was a single mom.

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2 years ago

maayo ra pud kay napadako nimo siya nga maayo beb...di jud lalim samot na tang nag inusarang nag padako sa atong mga anak pero sa pag paningkamot ug pag ampo nakaya ra...unta makita lang sad na sa ubang bata ang pagmahal ug kahago sa ilang ginikanan para lang mahatagan silag maayong kinabuhi

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2 years ago

Salamat beb. Bitaw unta makita na Nila nga dili jud intawn lalim mapadako ug anak alone. Grabe jud ang mga sakripisyo Para sa ilang future

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2 years ago

Yes this is true my friend and you select a wonderful topic for writing his article and indeed we loved from his parents to much

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2 years ago

No parent indeed is a perfect parent. Parents are saddled with the responsibility of making their children a better person.

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2 years ago

and they'll still be doing that until their hair turns white..

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2 years ago

Humans are not perfect and you might try your child in the best way and the child can still hide some things from you, not because you did the child wrong, but because the child has a mind of his or her own.

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2 years ago

and because they we're influenced with what they saw on television and internet

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