Personal reasons why I don't engage in dating.

September 10, 2o22

" You're at the age that you start finding a husband candidate already"

I can tell this has been the usual phrase me and my eldest sister receive the moment we reach our three decades stay in this world. Now that my sister is in a relationship and even introduce her partner to the family, it came down to only me receiving such care from the judgmental relatives. This is why I hate gatherings ugh

One particular event was earlier when we have the sendoff of the Mama Mary relic to my cousin's house in early hour at three in the morning. I mostly participate these church events back in my school days but after I started working, I barely got the chance to join because of my schedule. And earlier I got the chance to join, and the chance also to be one of the main topics of gossips from the people who attended. So people don't expect that most religious people don't talk shit about other, because they're also human who loves doing these kinds of things even though they're serving, excuse to the loyal and reserved.

In my age and status of life, dating has never been part of it. Not that I have high standard or what, but because it didn't come to mind actually about me being committed and tied to another person aside from my son and my family. Another reason is because the man I would meet might misunderstand my characteristics as a mere tadpole lurking in a sea of entertainment mainly to my likes.

My Characteristics

Lazy aff

Even though I need to do a lot of tasks, there are times, or most of the times I just want to lay down on my mattress and take a long nap in a duration of 4 to 6 hours lol! If I start being lazy it would last for two days, the most where I don't want to do anything but just sleep and sleep and of course sleep.

No man would love to engage to a lazy person right so being lazy is part of me and I think it's one of the biggest turns off.

noEngage in nurturing my son and my nieces

No men would love a single mom and I prefer teaching the kids than go on dates. Now that the kids are going to school I want to be at my best in guiding them as they are still in their learning phase and with this face to face rather than modules, I want them to have more fun than being stress.

Spends free time reading book

There are men who loves to read a book but mostly they were called nerds or at my age they are already called professionals like teachers and scientists.

As a mere human being who simply exits in the world but still loves to read, I mostly read a book once or twice a week. I haven't read the ones I currently ordered, and I plan to read them before I got busy again or if ever, I got accepted in a job. Reading is a habit I can't put out in my system so if a man knows that and if we don't engage with the same hobby, it is still a NO for me.

Reading manga/ manhwa

Marriage of Convenience, how to get my husband on my side, I became the daughter of the Duke, A Business Proposal, Bromance, 19 Days

These are most of the manga/manhwa I am currently reading and is still ongoing.
Though most women my age would prefer Wattpad or some audio app, I prefer reading these as it entice my imagination on things and stirs up my emotions. There are instances where I would pick a series base on my mood, if I want to cry myself of frustration I would read a genre that would definitely break my heart and would let me cry my heart out and if I want humor I would click those series who will let me laugh my heart out every chapter.

Not many men my age would read manga and most of the men I know think of it as a mere childish hobby.

Loves anime and am in love with most of the characters.

They say anime are for children, but I would strongly contradict on that part.
Maybe Doraemon would an example but not that really of a type to let your child wander around and just puts out anything from their pockets thinking they are doraemon who can give Nobita all that he needs.

Baki, Flame of Reeca, Ghost Fighter

These are the ones I enjoyed in my childhood days, but they were mostly fighting so preferably they are not suitable for kids.

I heard one of my close friends told me why waste my time watching anime when I can enjoy my time outdoors and hang out with them. Well, we have different personalities and I happen to love anime and am hook with the character development every episode than talking about the outside world.

Don't go outside the house unless necessary

Doing groceries and go on interviews and also taking the kids to school are mostly my time I am seen outside the house.

I don't usually go out unless necessary as I prefer being indoor and in my room.

Honestly, it's okay for me to date, it's just that it's not my cup of tea to mingle with other people and I mostly want myself to be alone than engage in a conversation that I would bore myself a minute they start taking nonsense.

These are only my personal reasons.

Thank you for reading!
@mommykim