November 24, 2021
"why make me achieve what you didn't achieve before?"
"Sometimes parents do wants to put a leash on my neck that it becomes so tight, I can't breath"
"I am so freaking done with my parents and how they want to manipulate me"
Our generations today really did hold a lot of emotions and some emotional baggage with them unlike the oldies or the 90's babies.
Sorry but this is just me giving my opinion about some trends today or some GenZ as they say that are circulating mostly in the internet.
I handled youth in my community so I heard some of their rants and complaints mostly about their parents.They always post some emo phrases like "I want freedom", "Can't I decide what I want?" "I'm 15 for F**k' sake"
As a parent and a daughter I need to balance and be careful on what I'm about to advice to them for they might get back at me if I say some offensive words because generations today tends to over react.
As I was scrolling some Tiktok videos I found a cryptic videos meant for teenager who made an acrostic poem for his parents.
She said in her acrostic poem that she had enough, she has no freedom at all, she didn't enjoy her youth, she's stuck in the house doing modules and house chores when she should be having fun and going home late at night being drunk or wasted. She shouldn't be pressured on her education when she can chose the paths she wants to without being nagged at. Her parents wants a prim and proper daughter while she wants to be high and rebel.
Then that video was being shared by a Cebuano Mom, telling the girl that she shouldn't have said those words. What if her Mother saw that? What would be her reactions? Bet she'll question herself if she really did raised her child wrong. She then addressed the girl that if she wants freedom then she should study hard and after she graduates she then can go to her dream job. And when that happen she can lived separately from her parents and do all that she wants to do and funds all her wants and needs. The Cebuano Mom also commented that there are many youngsters whom are giving birth at an early age and whom are the people blaming because of that? Not the daughter though, but the parents because they never guided their children enough that they became like this. All this will be point out to the parents when in fact it's their children that became rebellious.
You see, I was a brat before but I did have my limitations. Yes my parents were really strict during our elementary and high school days. As the three of us siblings are all girls so Papz is very strict towards us. Yes we hate him before because of doing that. We can't even go to disco because he is firm with his reasons that we are still minor and still studying. We are being controlled for ten years without having freedom. And we all swore to ourselves that after we graduate high school we will ran away from the grip or our parents.
But after we graduate, guess what? Papz told us that we can do everything we want since we already graduated. (Yes we graduated same year because my my other sister transferred and our eldest stopped studying for a year when she went to Manila). Papz told us to go get drunk and have fun with friends. He just wants us to graduate high school and then we are free.
We then realized that what our parents did to us is their way of giving us better future. To secure that we had proper education. So that no one will trample us just because we had no diplomas or we have no proper education. We realized it and we are thankful to them for doing those to us.
And even if you hate them they're still looking out for you and always thinking of you.
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After we graduate, yes we had our first shot of gin, we went to disco (accompanied by Papz) and we get home drunk. Then Mum will just give us remedy for our hang over the next morning with her favorite lines when nagging at us.
For those youngsters out there who feels pressured and being caught up because of their parents. Try to understand them first, they simply just wants what the best for you.You might not understand it by now, but I know you'll realized it once you finished your studies and land in your favorite job.
I understand that they put a lot of pressure on you and they keep on wanting you to not go out late, to not date while studying, or to not drink out with friends and just wants you to stay at home. That's because you're still studying and you need to prepare for your future because not all the time they're around to guide you and catch you if you have many struggles. They're securing you're future first so that they'll be at ease when they leave you sooner or later.
And a mom will never unloved her child, she carried you for nine months and give you all the attention and the utmost care when you can't still do it on your own. Her selfless love for you is unwavering so don't even think that you are not welcomed in this world. You are loved.
Okay, to make it clear, this is just my opinion about that post. And I shared also my past on how my parents mold us and made us to what we are now. Sorry if I offended some. It is merely my personal opinion. Sorry
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Fin!
Pag nakakabasa ako ng mga teenagers ngayun naku naku talaga.. yung puso ko para sa mga magulang nila nakukurot ay. :(
Ang lakas din ng influence ng social media at ng mga nappanood sa tv.
I think yung feeling na "strict parents ko" is not new.. but it has become a lot harder to discipline kids these days kasi nakakauha ng kapareha ng narardaman sa soc med and it would seem na merong mga nakaka "get their way". So lalong nakukumpara nung bata na bat yung iba pwede at sya hindi.
Kaya grabe ang saludo ko sa mga moms and dads these days who keep firm with disciplining their kids specially teenagers. Grabe yung nakapatong na responsibility sa inyo!! May God bless your hearts with huge love that only seeks to discipline their kids for their good.