Curiosity is one main reason why people ask questions. Sometimes they are concerned and sometimes they are just being nosy with my life.
Old people and new ones, I always get questions from them regarding my future and my sexuality. My best reply to them is by answering genuinely and to fill the holes in their minds because of their curiosity.
I don't really get offended by their questions rather I am shocked that they are interested in my life. Here are some of the questions that I get asked and my common replies.
Are you out? Do your parents know you're gay?
Yes, I am openly out and my parents know that I am gay. How did I come out? I didn't I felt like I was forced to come out of my shell.
While I was growing up, my Mom would always ask about my sexuality and I do not know myself back then--- to whom I was going to be. I didn't answer if I am gay or not rather my actions served as the questions.
At first, they were very strict with me. When it comes to my gestures, actions, clothing, and the way I talked. They didn't want me to become a crossdresser to which I do not really like. It's not my cup of tea.
I know that they were concerned about me and what other people are going to say and that it made them do that. But from time to time, my parents loosen up and didn't bother.
I am thankful for them since they do not rub it in my face that I am less of a person. I may not have a coming out story but the fact that they accept me is already a big thing.
Do you want to get married?
There are a lot of questions regarding marriage.
Do you want to get married to a woman?
My answer would always be no but I am not closing my doors. I don't want to get married to a woman if it's just for the sake of having a kid. I want to marry someone if I can truly love unconditionally and without hesitation.
Do you want to get married to a gay man/ man?
If given the chance, Yes. I wouldn't force myself into a relationship that eventually is going to kill me. I do not chase, I attract. It's my mantra.
If ever I wouldn't get married, then, it's okay. I can be happy on my own.
Do you want to have kids?
I do have an answer for this but it keeps on changing. People always tell me that I should have kids someday to have an heir of the things that I own.
No, if it is for the sake of having an heir then, I will not have a child. I want to have a child because I want to give the love that is overflowing in me. I want that kid to have the life that I didn't have while I was growing up.
There are ways to have a child it could be through adaptation or through in vitro fertilizer. I know there will be follow-up questions if I will be willing to adopt and my answer will be Yes but if there's a way and I will have the budget to have my child, then it is what I prefer to have.
Are you planning to undergo gender reassignment surgery?
I am happy with what I have right now and what's between my thighs does not make me less of a person.
There's this one statement that I get annoyed at. "Here's your gay son, I know he's going to make you get rich someday." It's kind of sexist. Success does not depend on your sexuality or gender. Do not also depend on your success on other people. If you want to be successful, then, be the person who strives for success.
Final thought...
These are just the many questions that I get to answer as a gay man. I do not get offended by these but know that be sensitive enough to not ask when someone is not open to telling you about his/her sexuality.
Author's Note:
Hey guys! I decided to write this since I already shared with you an article about Gossiping About My Love life. I hope my articles will help you get to know me more. Thanks for reading this!
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