Reasons why I don't like Online Dating

Nowadays, it is so easy for us to get to know one another. Many venues are available if you are seeking for love life. I recall one of my pals back in college, we were often next to one another at the desk therefore we grew close. Let's keep her under the name Mal. So Mal has a boyfriend but they are LDR. But at that moment, she stated that her BF will pick her up after class. Take note: that will be the first time they will see each other after 2 months dating online. So because I am so Marites that time, I don't know where did I get the question regarding their connection. I asked Mal, "Where did you meet bhie?" I questioned her because I really wondering where did they meet considering that Mal is residing at her boss in Mandaluyong and the man is living in Bulacan. Then she explained to me that they met online. Aghhh, online again. I recall my second BF here which is K but mehhh, lets' just go back to Mal.

So Mal told me that she is using an online dating platform called "Omegle". I think that this site is running for years now because I also knew it but I never trusted people there. Actually, I never tried opening this site on my phone and to try to get to know other people. So yeah, Mal and her Jowa meet there and blablabla.

So after our chika minute regarding their love story, the class ended and the two of us left the classroom. Then at the main gate of the school, a car showed up in our front and the window car opened. A man with a red cap waved at Mal and to me. Maybe the man already knew Mal because of the sign and instruction that Mal gave him. I told Mal if she is sure about this man because I feel weird about him. His smirk looked like a manyakis to me and as I am giving Mal a sign not to enter the car, she insisted and said it was fine and she knew this guy already. And because there was a part of me that felt strange, I took a photo of the plate number of the car after Mal entered the car and drove away.

To be honest, I don't like the idea of getting to know other people through the use of online dating apps. It's just that, for me, I'd rather date a neighborhood or make ligaw-ligaw (courtship).

Some reasons why I don't like online dating is that some people may tend to fake their profiles just to impress their match. Don't get me wrong, but you know, I am like an NBI. I know and I can smell if someone is hiding something behind the post they created. Just like in noise.cash, I can also see some people there tend to copy other images and make some stories that aren't really true. Duhhh, it is so easy to make stories, to be honest. As I said, I am like a detective Conan, if I smell something fishy, I will most likely stalk that person or user. lol

Another thing that I really hate about online dating is getting to know some people who aren't really serious about their intentions. And some are just there to make money or scam the people they will date online. I read a lot of stories regarding these matters and I can really say how toxic are those dating sites for us.

Anyways, let's go back to Mal and let me tell you what happened to her.

So the next day, Mal did not go to school. Because she wasn't my friend on Fb at that time because the class was just starting and I didn't like adding my classmates on Fb, I got immediately nervous and I remembered the car she rode. After the second class, Mal was still not there so I got even more worried about her. I thought, she hasn't been absent since the class started so what I did was, I immediately approached the gay who was a bit close to Mal and asked if Mal was chatting with him. My classmate said that she had chatted with him this morning but he said that Mal feels sick. I asked what is the messenger of Mal because I said I needed to ask something.

After I got Mal's messenger name, I directly chatted with her and asked her what happened last night after we got separated at the campus gate. She said to me that the guy drove her to his condominium. The guy told Mal that he's gonna introduce Mal to his parents but when they entered the room, no one's there, and just the two of them. Mal said that she got nervous because the guy started to make up stories that are not really true. And when I asked her if something had happened between them, she said there's none but I really doubted it because when I saw her the next day, she seemed to be so grumpy to some of our male friends. It seemed like she wanted to distance herself every time that someone will attempt to be at her side or show affection.

When we had time to talk about it weeks later, she told me that the guy had almost done it to her. She said that she got scared because the man locked her up in his room after they did 'it'. And because she don't know how to open that kind of a door, she pretended and told the guy that she was ready for another round. At that moment, she said that the guy left the door unlocked and went to the bathroom so she got the chance to run away. She told me that she did not go to school after that because they reported it to the police station. And you know what? It turned out that the guy faked his name and whole identity. When I heard this story from mal, I got so terrified and pitied Mal. Even tho I remember the man's face, I think I cannot help Mal to find that man. As a friend, I just asked Mal that if ever something really happened, just go to the Doctor and make sure that she was safe and did not catch any illness. I don't know if she really followed my advice because, after that, we never tried to talk about it anymore, and just asked me not to tell anyone. And to the guy, after she ran away, she never found the person visible online.

I also thought, 2 months of dating purely online is not trustworthy. Well, for me, it's better to meet first in public places and never go with the person you just met online on some places like motels, condominiums, or what because for me, that's already a red flag.

Ladies, don't be like Mal okay? Don't be so Malantod.

bow.....

PUBLISHED: MARCH 14, 2022    TIME: 1:44PM PST