Comparison destroys Personality

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I was humming to a song as my hands were roving on my Keyboard. I have typed over 280 words, only to notice that the battery of my device is close to dying and I might not be able to continue typing with it.

I was hoping I could reach 300 words then transfer the typed words to my phone. But unfortunately it went off in the process of doing so. All of this happen more than six hours ago.

I was hoping that the electricity supply would be restored and most likely my work would be saved by autosave. But till now the electric power hasn't been restored.

Well this affected my mood so badly, I really didn't feel like writing anything out again today. But on a second thought, I told myself; "this won't be a good way to start the beginning of a new month."

I really want to continue to my success in the previous month and even pass it (if possible).

So I shrugged of the feeling of laziness and anti-writing.

Comparison destroys Personality

Image isn't mine. Source: Facebook

I can across this picture you see above on Facebook. In the picture there are two pencils; one is a drawing pencil and the other is a colouring pencil.

The colouring pencil; "wished it was as sharp pointed as the drawing pencil", and the drawing pencil; "wished it was as colorful as the coloring pencil."

But the fact is that both of them are both unique in their own way and there is no need for comparison between them as they have different uses and purposes.

We are different and unique

What you see in the picture is what happens between humans; for we love to compare ourselves with one another. We should always remember that everyone is different and unique. We should stop this bad habits of comparing ourselves with another person.

There isn't anything bad in admiring and recognizing the success of another, but you have to realize that, we all have different talents and different methods of doing things.

Ditching your natural way of life to become someone else destroys your personality. 🧏

Parents and teachers often make this mistake

Having played the role of a teacher for sometime, I knew that all the pupils in a class have their weak points and strong points.

Trying to compare one pupil to another is absurdity and this might make one of the pupil feel useless.

For example there are some pupils that are very good when it comes to academics but weak in sporting activities and so it goes vice versa.

Parents often think that since their kids are siblings; they ought to behave the same way or start comparing them with one another. This is an extremely wrong ideology and even identical twins don't possess the same characters or quality.

In conclusion

Comparison is an enemy to progress and leads to nothing but to bitterness. Learn to appreciate yourself and remember that you're unique.

What works for Peter might not necessarily work for Paul.

Happy new month ❤️

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Thank God my parents never compared any of their children to anybody, I seriously hate that sh*t. Comparison makes a person feel frustrated, I don't do it to people so I expect others not to do it to me, or we will have a big problem 😅

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2 years ago

It can be really frustrating, especially in a relationship comparing to one's ex wahala 😅

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2 years ago

My mom knows I have when she compares me to others, since the day I told her blatantly that I do not like it and she shouldn't do it again. I could see she was surprised at the way I said it.

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2 years ago

You really spoke out your mind. It is a good thing you did that instead of keeping it to your mind.

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2 years ago

Nice meeting you it good to see through your post after one month of lest attention on this site . Lesson learnt " always appreciate God for your personality the image tells me more about what you are trying to say . Indeed we have to be grateful , so sorry it coming late happy new month Sir ✅

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2 years ago

Sincerely i don't know why people love comparing people. Growing up, despite being a bright child with good grades, i was still compared to my older siblings who were doing great. Though it didn't affect my performance in school, it affected me emotionally because it kind of undermine the effort i put into achieving what i did.

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2 years ago

Oops, I saw your post on noise cash about writing an article about this. Let me head over and catch the full gist.

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2 years ago

I fully agreed with you my bro, Comparisons at times do result in jealousy that is why I hate it, and I will never join to do it. Everyone is created special, which made us extraordinary in every way, I can't have what is yours and no one can have what is mine.

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2 years ago

Comparism leads us to do things we won't do on a norms and gradually while trying to be like the other person, we tend to lose our character and personality

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2 years ago

That's true that whenever we do the comparison, we've actually lose our life tracks. Our life is not something for involving stuffs with others. We should have works our own and create own happiness

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2 years ago

The path to happiness lies majorly in our hands and mind

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2 years ago

You are absolutely correct my friend. Sometimes comparing yourself to someone is also a sign of insecurity. We have to remind ourself that we are all unique and beautiful in our own way.

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2 years ago

I don't appreciate comparison too and that's why I don't do it, I like to value people for whom they are and not who people think they are

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2 years ago

This is what we should put in our hearts and minds. Nowadays that we are the social media generation, we easily fall into comparison, envy and jealousy and then greed. Learn to be content and accepting and be happy with who you are and who you are not.

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2 years ago

Great point, social media does increase comparison among peers. Contentment is the key to happiness

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2 years ago

I agree to your article my friend TomiAjax. That comparing with other people should not be a permanent habit because it will do us no good. Let's do our job well.

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2 years ago

I feel like comparison is a m*ssed up thing to do to a person it makes them feel less of what they really worth and even pushes them to want to try and be something else

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2 years ago

It is really a messed up act. We are all unique

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2 years ago

I believe so too

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