Happiness is something that all people crave. We seek it in material well-being, in education and reputation, in other people, v. But it seems elusive - we can feel it for a while, but sooner or later that feeling goes away. Our search for happiness continues.
Our culture is full of ideas that really keep us from being happy. Here are some practical tips on how to get to the life you want and life lessons we need to forget if we want to be happy.
1. Problems are something negative
Every problem comes with a gift in hand.Every problem also carries the seeds of a solution.Burnout in the workplace: directs you to the perfect career.Relationship breakdown: teaches you what love means.Every solution you find, however, gives life that real impetus.
2. It is important to be happy
Try the following: think of something that puts you in a bad mood, awakens a sense of despair in you, makes you unhappy.
Now think: I have to be happy.
Stressful, right?
Now say the following: It's okay to be sad when I need to be.
3. The past has left irreparable consequences
Painful experiences leave scars - true. But some can be deleted.Example: Focus on a matter that is causing you concern. Then think of three reasons why your belief may be wrong - how such a belief hurts you and what you can do to make it different. So learn to (let go).
4. Only hard work leads to success
Children learn through play - all the important life skills and lessons. For example, the boys, who learned strategy through play, gained important skills - how to manage situations in the real world.Use the game like you did as a child. Remember how you skillfully solved problems in and through the game.
5. Success is the opposite of failure
Fact: You will succeed because you will try, fall and pick yourself up again and try again. Be it smoking cessation, skiing, running an organization or learning a foreign language.Studies show that people who are afraid of failure or. that they will make a mistake completely paralyzes that fear. Those who are relaxed, even if they are not doing well, quickly learn how to improve the situation.So be curious, take a risk and you will succeed.
6. What matters is what people think of me
“But if I fail, people will think badly of me.” So now think: what would you do if you didn’t care at all what others thought of you? Well, now never forget that again.
7. Decisions must always be made rationally
Sometimes, with rational thinking, we complicate things more than if we made decisions intuitively. Sometimes it’s just better to think like animals.Think of one decision you have to make - any one, for example, which movie you will watch tonight. Or, whether it is the right time to buy a house.Instead of weighing the pros and cons, pay attention to the physical response to all the options available to you. Pay attention to whether your body is tense or relaxed… And decide accordingly.
8. Beautiful girls have an advantage
They may indeed receive more attention in certain situations, but the truth is this, the author writes: they are all focused on their appearance, but they do not really see them.
9. If all my wishes came true, my life would be perfect
True happiness comes from within. If our happiness depends on ‘external things’, these ‘external things’ also have this power to make us unhappy.When you are truly happy, then the presence or absence of ‘external things’ does not affect inner peace. And when our satisfaction is independent of material rewards, desires often come true on their own.Be happy as if it has already happened to you. That’s the point - a sense of happiness and contentment, not things.
10. Loss is something terrible
Losses are not cataclysmic if they teach our heart and soul that they are a natural cycle of growth and maturation.It’s worse if we lose ourselves - in order to keep everything else.Live your life.
There are probably as many answers to the question of what happiness is as there are people. For some, happiness means having a full stomach, for others health, for others a new outfit, for a fourth he is happy when he is in the company of a loved one. What is happiness for you? Take a few minutes and think to yourself: What is happiness to me? What makes me happy? What do I need for happiness?
Love you @Teji
Beautiful article, unfortunately I am not happy.