Stop Pretending!

Pretending is about speaking and acting to make it appear, but it is not. It is a false appearance of being, possessing, or performing to make others believe you.

This is also about pretending emotions that you do not feel it.

But sometimes people are good at pretending, especially regarding their family and loved ones.

To be happy for the sake of them or those around you is not wrong, but when you find yourself pretending more often, this will become a self-destructive or debilitating habit.

We, humans, are capable of feeling emotions and feelings towards anyone and something. But we are also best when it comes to pretending to be something that we are not.

But here are things that we don’t have to try hard and pretend:

Stop pretending that you are okay:

Most of us are good at this. We pretended we were okay, even if something was not right inside. But it’s alright not to feel okay sometimes. We cannot choose what to feel, but sometimes, when we always know that you are okay, there comes a time when others will take advantage of you always. They will invalidate the feelings that you have. Until such time, you will never be able to have the freedom to express what you feel.

Stop pretending that you are comfortable saying yes.

Saying no to people is hard, especially since you don’t want to disappoint them and hurt them, so you choose to say yes even if it’s uncomfortable for you. You always worry that you will not be in favor and belong to them if you say no.

This is not healthy. When you’ve been saying yes to someone, you are disregarding your own time for yourself until you feel toxic because you have no time to unwind.

Remember to protect your peace and where you are comfortable at all costs. It’s okay to say no; you have a life to work out.

Stop pretending that you and not fake feelings in a relationship.

If we pretend, we all fake things that surround us. If we fake our feelings with someone, we need to realize how sad life we are giving and leading ourselves. When you affect all your emotions towards anyone trying not to hurt them, you also make them feel they are not worthy and don’t deserve the truth. If you are tempted to fake or pretend to have the feelings, you’re just creating a mess that you won’t be able to clean later.

It’s better to be a person who has honest and chooses to break someone’s heart rather than be someone that will give them flowers and sweet chocolates that will leave them with scars that will never heal later.

If you stop pretending to be someone else and accept who you are and what you are, you will be more comfortable and at ease. You will not worry about showing up. You will learn to see that there are more beautiful things when you focus and pour your energy into who you are and what you could offer to someone and the world.

Live life freely, and be happy!