30DofG || This is my own way.
*“Not making the most of a beautiful day can leave you with painful regrets”.*
Quote Source https://www.owlsquotes.com/topic/30-beautiful-day-quotes-and-sayings.html
I love reciprocating back what was done to me…. I don't mean in a bad way because I would never pay evil back with evil but leave it to God to fight for me. I love being grateful and not the exact way or value that was given to me. If I had to measure what was given to me back to the same person, it means I am not showing gratitude but trying to pay back what was given to me.
Even if I would show gratitude to someone who helped me, it might not be instant but there would be something you would need some other times and when I am capable of helping you, I will do it but it doesn't mean because you helped me, I should help you too.
There are many ways I can show gratitude to my friends for what they have done. I feel happy seeing someone actually remembers or have me in mind. I feel special seeing someone rendering help to me and with a hug, I show my gratitude and I would say a little word of prayer like “May God continue to bless you”.
Also, my way of showing gratitude depends on the kind of help such a person needs at that time. You might help me solve an issue which I would be happy with. When you also need to get some things done, I would definitely be there for you but that doesn't mean going against my schedule as I could also be busy at that moment but some other times, I would gladly help you.
Don't ever think I should be there for you any day or time just because you have helped me.
There are people in this category; just because they have helped you one time, they expect you to always be there for them even when it's not convenient for you. That isn't the way it should be.
Don't help and expect in return because you might be disappointed. So, **my way of showing gratitude to my friends** is that I give or help you when you need my help too and not because you did some things for me in the past.
**Something I love about my body is my eyes.** Yes, I love my eyes because it is with which I get inspiration, mere seeing or looking at things. I love observing things with my eyes. I might be sitting and staring at something, then an idea jumps into my mind and from there, I am creative in putting some things out. Though it doesn't mean one cannot close his or her eyes to get inspired too.
Another thing about my eyes is that I see things quickly and clearly from afar. I have this ability to see people from a far distance even if we are just meeting for the first time. Just tell me the colour of the clothes you are wearing, I will sight you and even wave at you.
Someone complimented me one day and said he loves my eyes because they look seductive. I couldn't laugh that day because I didn't believe him. No one has ever said that to me and he would be the first person to say that. He said he would always stare at my picture, looking through my eyes and seeing something he loves. Well, I don't know if I have such eyes but perhaps, I would be glad I have such seductive eyes 🤣🤣🤣
I have always received many **compliments** but I love the one people would tell me “I love your smiles” It makes me want to keep smiling and make others smile too. I feel good when you notice my smile and tell me “you look beautiful”. Just know you are seeing more smiles from me.
**The items I treasure most** were the wine and perfume I got on my birthday alongside a surprise birthday song around 6 am in January. Seriously, if I don't appreciate every other thing which I doubt I wouldn't try doing, I treasured the perfume that was given to me with a sincere heart. I can never forget such a moment on my birthday. I am still using the perfume and I love it. I already said I would get the same once this one finishes because I would always treasure and remember who gave it to me.
**People who mean the most to me are;**
My family. I can never trade them for anything and they are so dear to my heart. If people would ever leave you during those hard times, your family will never leave you because you are part of them and they are part of you. My family comes first in everything I do and seeing them happy makes me happy too. They are the ones I run to when I need something because they can't disappoint me as people would.
Family is everything and you should always appreciate them in your life. No matter how the journey gets tough, you still would find those whom you can run and they would gladly embrace you with love and affection. My family is my pride.
Other people who mean the most to me are those friends with sincere hearts. It's better to have one good and sincere friend than to have a bunch of negative and toxic people around you. With just one person who really and truly loves you, you are sure of sailing through because he or she would be willing to go the extra mile to sacrifice for you. If you have such a kind person, please hold on to him or her because people like them are rare.
Thanks for reading
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[June 27, 2022] (No 178 articles for the year)
Most three things that bugs me
Happy Sunday, everyone. It's a new week and I hope things work together for us in the best way this week. I participated in a challenge on Hive last week where I talked about those things that bugs me which I would like to share with us here too. I will be sharing others this week by God's grace.
We all get annoyed many times especially when someone does something to us in an unusual way and even when you warned them not to repeat such, they still find their ways annoying us with those things and unfortunately, it affects our lives in a bad way.
Everyone has things that bug or annoy them in reality and I am not exempted because it is impossible to act gentle and free to everything being done to me. We all need to limit some things and create boundaries so we won't be affected in a way that could harm or hurt us.
So, if I have warned you the first time about something I don't like, you must stop it so you don't repeat it. Please, don't do it, since I already warned you...It's annoying.
The first on the list is **“Putting stuff back in the wrong place.”**
Like why would you do it? You took something from a particular place and when you need to return it, you place it in the wrong place. Why?
I hate to be careless with things..“my stuff” and I wouldn't want you to try messing things up for me. I love to organize my stuff in the right place so that when next I need it, I wouldn't be going elsewhere looking for something that isn't there.
One of my principles I do tell people is that *“I wouldn't stop you from using my stuff, but please when returning it, place it back at the right place you get it.”*
I am always pissed off many times when people are careless with their things due to how they do mine. You own your thing and I wouldn't want you to do what you do inside to me.
There are many times I would place my bucket outside my room and by the time I need to use it, I will start looking for something I never expected to move away from where I left it. By the time I find it, the person who used it wouldn't return it to my doorstep but somewhere at a far distance and also beside the toilet. Like WTF?
My life has always been organized and I learned that from my grandma. This has been part of me to keep things in the rightful place and when I see people being disorganized and careless with their stuff, it bugs me many times, I have tried encouraging some to make it a part of them, but not for today but the future. Learn to be organized in all you do.
The second on the list is **“Running late or not punctual”**
One thing about me is that I don't like doing something when it's the deadline. It makes me frustrated and rough that I wouldn't like myself. I hate to get into trouble and so, I do things on time so I can be free from any unnecessary queries.
When I was still in school and the payment of school fees has been posted, I will make sure I would have collected my school fees from home so that when the school's portal is opened, I pay my money before it gets late.
When it's the deadline, I will see many students running up and down trying to plead with the management to give them more time to pay up. I would be annoyed at them because some of them actually have the money but they just decide to do things when it's almost ending, thereby causing trouble and it even stops some from writing exams.
Another one about it is that my friends know that I am always punctual when going for lectures and if you try to delay me because of some excuses you should have avoided and taken care of, it annoys me so bad and in the end, I would suffer for it.
Most times, I get to sit at the last end of the hall occupying over 300+ students and there wouldn't be a public speaker to aid the voice of the lecturer lecturing.
In everything I do, I love to be punctual as I have learnt this while in secondary school. My parents would make sure we go to school early and not be late.
I am always time conscious and I love to get to a place an hour or two before the event or program starts. It's better to be early and sit down waiting for others than for me to be the one wasting their time. This has been my mantra **“Go to a place early to avoid excuses”.**
There is a student in my hostel. He would always be late in all things. Always late to school, and late to church, he isn't time conscious. I was vexed to say to him one day that this shouldn't be part of him because if he is working in a company and always go to the office late, he could be sacked for not keeping to time. Being punctual is also like being prepared and organized.
The third and the last on the list is **“Eating loudly”**
Oh my God! This is what annoys me to the extreme and it makes me feel like giving such a person slap on the face.
I call these types of people “animals” because they don't know how to comport or control themselves when eating. Someone at a distance would hear them eating with such a bad and irritating habit.
I have this friend that eats like that. I have told her to always eat slowly and mind the way she makes it loud because it's a bad habit especially when you meet yourself among people in the public.
You will only disgrace yourself especially when you have to hear the worse insult from them to you.
I have an Uncle also who eats that way. We do fight in the house and my Aunt would only caution me not to speak rudely at him. It's irritating seeing someone eating beside me and making a loud noise with it. Aren't you cultured? Stop that, please. I don't like it.
We may not know who we would meet in the public. We need to learn how to control how we eat so we won't be making noise, causing scenes which could embarrass us.
Thanks for reading
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[June 26, 2022] (No 177 articles for the year)
Compliment || Be a good role model to the kids.
*“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around”.*
Leo Buscaglia https://www.rootsofaction.com/kindness-quotes-kids/
*At the moment, I am having a serious headache and I think I caused it myself. I strained my body to the extreme yesterday and it is affecting me today that I just need to take my rest. I asked myself, “Can you just give yourself some rest and take your off day?”*
*Yesterday, I bought an energy drink just to stay awake to finish what I needed to do online. I have been so busy outside the platforms and when it was getting to evening, I knew I haven't done any tangible thing online, I decided to get a fearless drink and overworked myself from 6 pm to 1 am without taking any rest which I was able to engage on Hive, Readcash and Blurt.*
*Am I hurting myself? Yes, I know. I am trying to survive and help myself because I don't want to beg anyone including my family. So, I just needed to grind harder last night just so I won't be lagging behind. As it is now, I would take some rest and only do what I would be able to do so I don't get sick.*
**THIS POST WOULD BE FOR ALL PARENTS WHO HAVE WONDERFUL CHILDREN, AND PROSPECTIVE PARENTS WHO ARE ANXIOUSLY WAITING FOR THEIR BUNDLE OF JOY AND ALSO, TO ALL GUARDIANS.**
I was watching some videos on YouTube a few days ago and this short video took my breath away. Like, I was mesmerized by the words of this little boy and I kept thinking about it. “He must have seen his parents doing that”.
Children are so amazing when it comes to imitating adults, especially their parents. This is why parents ought to be good role models to them and not the opposite because every child's behaviour is determined by what the parents exhibit inside. This is why they say **“Charity begins at home”.**
Parenting is not an easy task as it involves different methods of disciplining a child or children.
What was the word I heard from this little boy that captivated my heart? This child went to the mall with his mother and while they were still shopping inside the mall, the boy sighted a young lady beside them and he was like, “Mom.....” Their eyes both met (I mean the mother of the child and the lady). I could see from the lady that she was already nervous but the next word melted her heart; “she's so beautiful”.
The lady must have thought the child wanted to say something negative because we know how some kids are and how they behave. They say what they see and if you happen to look awkward, the kid could say it out and you become embarrassed.
I have been in a similar situation where I was hurt by the words of the children and I couldn't beat them because they will still blame me for doing that. I just had to walk away quickly from their midst as they were creating a bad scene.
The lady looked at the mother and smiled. The mother too was nervous, wanting to hear what would come out of her son's mouth but when she heard those positive compliment, she was happy.
I want to believe it is what the child has seen his mother doing (complimenting other people in his presence).
“Be a good role model to them”.
When you compliment someone, you bring out happy smiles in them and you build self-esteem in them too. Throughout that day, they would be positive because someone has decided to give them a genuine compliment about them. A good compliment can go a long way in changing one's bad decision into a good one because they know there's still hope.
A simple “you are gorgeous” can increase positivity in one's life and this is why if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all. This is because words have power; either to build or destroy one's life. So, one needs to be careful.
As parents, since you know children easily do what adult does. They watch and act the same way that their parents or guardians do around them, you must set a good example by nicely complimenting other people in front of your kids so that when they go outside, they would do the same and the praise would be given to you.
HOW DO YOU TEACH KIDS TO COMPLIMENT OTHER PEOPLE?
Just as I have said, act as a good role model by doing the positive things around them. Make them realize that they will always see the good in people if they search for it. Tell them to be genuine when they compliment other people.
Lastly, tell your kids to follow a compliment with a question because they will also learn and put on a good habit.
***What do I mean?***
When you meet someone who puts extra effort into getting something done, then you should say “You put up a good speech out there, how did you come up with that?”
With this, it means you want to learn and acquire some knowledge.
Children can easily say “You are smelling nice today, what perfume or fragrance did you apply?”
Trust me, the other person would feel good and positive especially when it comes from kids who say it genuinely.
I hope I have been able to inspire you today?
Thanks for reading
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[June 25, 2022] (No 176 articles for the year)
Save yourself from writer's block
*“Friday sees more smiles than any other day of the workweek!”*
Kate Summers https://www.google.com/amp/s/parade.com/934975/parade/friday-quotes/amp/
These prompt words are interesting and I would be glad if you can also join in and perhaps tag me to come to see your beautiful answers. These are questions from the Blurt Blockchain that started yesterday and will run till today and the winners would be mentioned on Sunday.
As usual, this is Pub's discussion that takes place every Friday to Saturday by the blurttribe community. I waited till midnight for it to be dropped off so I can give my answers before I finally retire to bed.
One of the questions was directed to blurt since it happened there, but since I am sharing it here, it would be replaced. So, have fun while you participate and read from me.
I will be adding more answers to it since I only gave a few lines over there.
Let's share ideas; What are ways one can grow on any blogging platform? (Suggest any way that has worked for you)
These cues have worked for me on every Blockchain I am and readcash wouldn't be an exemption. If you must grow on any blockchain, then, do these;
Engage and interact with people. They will surely reciprocate once they see you coming over to them. Remember we have talked about this before? @Jane also wrote about it how she built her name on this platform and that was through her engagement. Same thing with me.
Engagement can never be exempted as a prerequisite to growing anywhere you are.
Watch out for contests and challenges. This is something that has been verified to be effective more to grow on any Blockchain. For you to grow on any Blockchain, especially if you are on Hive, Steemit, or Blurt, you can't grow your account if you don't join challenges and contests because for me, I believe whales would visit my entry and from there, I keep building my account and stand on my own. Also, another benefit is that you get to meet new people you will make friends with and have start-up interaction moments together.
Always reply to comments on your posts. It isn't ideal not to react to those who took out time to read and comment on your posts. It's like an insult. Even an upvote would do something better. Don't just post and not expect people to comment. If you don't appreciate people's feedback on your post, they will never come again and that is one way you lose people coming over.
Be consistent and keep going. Never relent or stop. Find fun in it. You can only do well when you have fun doing something. It's just like having a passion for what you like. When you are always happy, deriving Joy in doing something, you will want to continue doing it as it brings pleasure to you. So, make sure you find fun on any blogging platform.
Above all, don't stop posting quality content and using catchy titles on all your posts. There are numerous ways and sites to get beautiful and clickbait titles for your content if you are confused about finding one.
Teamwork vs Individual work
*“Would you prefer to work by yourself or work with people? Which is better for you?”*
Both works perfectly though, depending on the type of work it is, but I believe teamwork is better when there are people who have been given work to do. If you are working on building a business meant for more than one person, then I think coming together as a team makes it successful, and if it is a one-man business, then it's yours to work on it and grow successfully.
Imagine a Life without the use of the phone. What would you be busy doing if phones cease to exist?
Haa, it will be boring oo. Perhaps I would be learning a skill or staying at home while I engage in other things to replace the use of the phone. At least we would not know what a phone is since it never existed. There was a means before the invention of phones, so the world was doing fine. So, we would be fine in the end.
And if the phone have been existing before and it stopped existing, then we don't have a choice but to write a proposal or protest 😅😅
I can't live without a phone when I have been used to it. Let me just keep crying, hoping and praying such wouldn't happen 😂
Working from home, what are the funny challenges you do have?
Number one is sleeping immediately after eating and that alone takes much of my time to engage online even though I would have to cover up at night, thereby depriving myself of sleeping early.
Number two is not bathing early as I most times take my bath in the evening or afternoon as my mood decides. I also get to prepare my breakfast around 11-12 pm. I don't eat early and I enjoy my life that way. Lol
Another challenge is being distracted by neighbours especially living in a big neighbourhood that has large occupants in it.
Should street food be banned? Or are you a lover of street foods?
I wouldn't say street foods should be banned just because I don't like them because we all have our preferences to eating street food or not. To me, I don't enjoy street food and hardly would you see me buying them as I love cooking my meals. But there are some street foods like corn/maize, and Suya (Roasted and Grilled meat) that cannot be avoided.
I hope you enjoyed my answers? Should I expect yours?
Thanks for reading
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[June 24, 2022] (No 175 articles for the year) https://read.cash/@Princessbusayo/you-are-responsible-for-it-153cfd06#june-23-2022-no-174-articles-for-the-year
You are responsible for it.
*“You are responsible for your lives; Whatever decision you make in this room determines whether you live or die”.*
Extracted from a movie
This quote touched me last night while watching a military movie based on a true-life story titled “13 hours: The secret soldiers of Benghazi”.
This movie is about an elite security team that went to battle to save some US consulate personnel who were trapped in Libya. I wouldn't go on to narrate the movie but if you are a lover of action movies, then this is for you.
I only extracted the quote as I got fascinated by it. Many of us, our decisions have brought us to this level we are, whether in a good or bad way. We won't hold anyone responsible for our misfortunes. So, you are the controller of your life and if anything should happen, you don't have the right to blame anyone for it.
I read a post on Hive yesterday and the author explained how a friend of his blamed his elder sister for the challenges he is going through. According to him, the friend said if his sister had chosen the decision in the past, he wouldn't be where he is today.
I love how the author replied to him. The truth is, no one is responsible for how we do or fare in life. Being siblings and from the same blood doesn't guarantee that your success will come from them. We all have our lives to live and two siblings can never be the same.
Your fate can never be depended on the choice someone makes because we all are fighting for our lives and you have got to take action to be better.
I wonder why some people are so relaxed because they see their family excelling and they think they would help them and they don't have to worry about becoming rich. We owe no one anything.
We all came into this world differently and surely, we won't leave at the same time, even if death takes two people at the same time and minute. Where you go is different from where he or she goes.
Don't rely too much on people but face your life by yourself. Though people will help us along the way, that doesn't make you blame anyone for your misfortune or solely rely on them. Just as the other person decides to better his life, so do you.
If you are working under someone, it doesn't give you the right to claim that your boss or employer should make you succeed because if you don't make decisions to progress even at your place of work, you will lose guard unexpectedly.
We all are fighting for our lives and it is until there is danger ahead of us, that we would realize everyone is trying to save their lives. As they say "run for your lives".
Every decision we have made in the past brought us to where we are today and whatsoever decision you make now, will determine your future. So, don't think someone else would decide how you live or where you go to. Keep reminding yourself that you owe no one and no one owes you. Life is made for every individual to run their race.
The beauty of life is that the sky is so big and spacious enough for everyone and the sun up in the sky is enough to dry all our clothes, we just have to do what fits us and what our abilities can carry us.
A father's wealth will never make his son rich because some plans are made to happen unexpectedly and before you know it, everything has disappeared right in your front. Don't rely on your parent's riches and don't expect too much from them. Life can shock everyone when we least expected it. No one knows tomorrow, it can't be predicted.
Your race is different from mine. What I am pursuing isn't the same as yours and so, the decisions we make relating to our career or path will be different. Don't blame me if you aren't doing well, take responsibility for every action you take. Take the blames yourself and work to improve where you made mistake.
Regret is the most painful repercussion that would happen to anyone and it could make you commit suicide if you don't define your path now. The worst is that it will make you see yourself as worthless and a fool but there is always another chance to make corrections.
We all are in this together. I am not exempted from everything I am saying here and I believe we all are trying to make the best for ourselves. So, coming here to encourage you doesn't make me exclude myself from learning too. I will never blame you if I make mistakes, and neither will you blame me.
Let's learn to take responsibility and accept the blames but that shouldn't stop us from standing up to make another decision at this time, we should carefully scrutinize our past errors and try to erase those mistakes, not forgetting to learn from them to give us the hint on how to make the right decision. If you must know, we all have a second chance and another chance until we give up.
Thanks for reading
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[June 23, 2022] (No 174 articles for the year)
Harder to live without for a year
*“Worry-free Wednesday! Because worry is like a rocking star: it gives you something to do but never gets you anywhere.”*
Unknown
I was reading articles last night and I saw this interesting post from @BlueFlipper and while going through hers, I was having my answer in my mind and I decided to try mine too as I couldn't resist it. You can find her article here as she talks about those things she wouldn't want to live without. At least, it saves me from writer's block 😜 https://read.cash/@BlueFlipper/battle-of-likes-vs-dislikes-7b27808b
There are some things you cannot do without as they are already part of you, they have become habitual to you and living without them for a year seems like locking you up in a dark room for days. Do you know how you would feel? I mean not seeing the rays of light for a few days. Same feeling as to how it would be for you to stop this stuff for a year.
**INTERNET VS. TV**
Before I travelled home, I hadn't seen TV for a while, or should I say years because I don't have it in my school and the only person who has it, I don't go to his room. What am I looking for when all I need to watch from it can be found on my phone?
Without TV, I can do better and stay more comfortable than the internet. With the internet, I can watch shows, and movies, listen to songs, browse the internet for the latest news etc. So, living without the internet would be harder for me for a year because it is just as if I have been deprived of interaction, and knowledge and taken into isolation.
I would become inactive in many things even if I would still have to accept the fact and keep moving on till after a year, but it wouldn't feel good.
MUSIC VS MOVIES
As much as I have always loved watching movies, especially horror and action movies, and it would be hard to stay without them for a year, I think it would become harder to stay without listening to music for a year. Do you know why?
This means I won't be functioning on the Hive Open Mic weekly challenge again. It means I would have to forget about my voice because I wouldn't be singing songs too if I don't listen to any music online or from my phone. I have always enjoyed listening and singing along to cool and beautiful music online.
So, for the sake of choosing one of these, it would be hard to live without music. Don't you know music is life and food to the soul? Sometimes, what music would do to the body, I don't think movies can do it.
Yes, we can learn from movies too but wouldn't it be nice listening to 3-4 mins of music with inspiring lyrics than watching an hour or two durations of movies to get the lesson at the end?
Don't take music away for long please because it heals.
SHOES VS SOAP
Who combined these two? Lol
Shouldn't the person be specific? We have shoes, slippers, sandals ..what exactly are we talking about here? 😅
Don't mind me! It would be harder to live without shoes for a year, but if I am permitted to put on sandals, then let's forget about shoes.
I use soap every day and I don't think I would be staying off using soap for a year. This is even harder than the shoe. I can't wash without soap. I can't bathe without it.
SUNSCREEN VS SUNGLASSES
If I were to choose one that I can't live without and would be harder, it would be sunglasses. I need to always protect my eyes from the sun or from looking at the screen. So, without sunglasses, it would be harder for a year even though I don't use any of them, both sunscreen and sunglasses.
SUGAR VS GLUTEN
Can you just take away sugar completely? I don't even want it. I have stopped taking sugar for a long time now. I don't drink minerals especially coke, Fanta and the likes again. I am now conscious of my health against diabetes or anything that could harm my health through the intake of sugar.
I am always suffering from menstrual cramps every month and I also want to stop taking menstruation pills to stop the pain. But for gluten, it would be so hard living without it since gluten-free food like eggs, vegetables, dairy, fruits, legumes etc can't be taken away from our meals.
COFFEE VS ALCOHOLIC DRINKS
Both won't be harder for me because I can live without them, even forever. I don't drink coffee or alcohol. The only time I took alcohol was when I tasted “33” when I was in secondary school and that was because I wanted to see how it tasted. My mom sells alcoholic drinks then and seeing people drinking them without squeezing their faces got me curious and I tried finding out myself. Since then, I have never tasted any. I still would always prefer tea.
CAR OR PHONE
Cars also have their problems. You will buy fuel, service it, you must know how to do the little basics in it in case your car faults while driving etc. I would prefer living without a car for a year than with a phone because that would be worse for me. All my activities are with my phone and I don't think life would be interesting for me without it.
THE BEACH OR THE SNOW
I can do without both. Would it be surprising to say I have never been to the beach before? If I am someone who is addicted to going to the beach, I can say it would be harder but for someone who hasn't experienced going to the beach, I can live without it.
TOILET PAPER VS TOOTHBRUSH
Common!, I can do without toilet paper and it wouldn't be hard for a year. There are alternatives to replace the toilet paper but for a toothbrush? It would be harder. I can't use a chewing stick just as our forefathers used it in the olden days when there was no toothbrush then.
How do I stay alive without using a toothbrush? I don't want my life to be like those Northerners 😂😂 If you are one reading this, no offence, please.
FRUITS VS VEGETABLES
I can still do without fruits but you see vegetables? Nah! It would be so hard. I love eating vegetables and they can't and shouldn't be taken away.
Thanks for reading
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[June 22, 2022] (No 173 articles for the year)
Something beautiful today
*“Whether you choose to move on from your struggles and enjoy life or waddle in your misery, life will continue.”*
Germany Kent https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/be-happy-with-yourself#:~:text=%E2%80%9CBe%20happy%20about%20your%20own,ll%20find%20it%20to%20be.%E2%80%9D&text=%E2%80%9CWhether%20you%20choose%20to%20move,misery%2C%20life%20will%20continue.%E2%80%9D&text=%E2%80%9CBe%20positive.,the%20world%20get%20you%20down.%E2%80%9D
Hello beautiful people! I hope you are great? Let me believe you are. I can't believe we are almost ending the month of June as there are 9 days remaining until the end of the month.
Do you know I got a lesson from a stubborn rat that found its way into my room again this morning? **It is never giving up.**
I studied the life of the rats that have been coming to disturb my life every night and all I could point out is that they never give up until they achieve their aim even though their purpose is to come and destroy things in the home. Thank God there was nothing to destroy. They enter my room and keep circling the room without taking anything, but I feel the unrest as I don't sleep.
Last night at 11 pm, I was still up because I was determined to visit many articles on both Readcash and Hive since throughout yesterday I didn't have the chance. I was hearing a noise above the roof in my room and when I looked up, I saw that this small rat was trying to find its way inside. I scared it with my leg and the noise stopped. I was sure it would not enter because I aggressively blocked those corners and I was relieved because no matter how much they tried, they wouldn't come in, not knowing I was deceiving myself.
It took the rat a few hours to get inside and I already slept off at 1 am. When I woke up to see what was creeping, it was the rat. When I checked my time, it was 2:52 am. What? This rat didn't give up at all and after its effort, it came in. No problem, I have a lot of work to do later. Lol
Well, I just tried to gist you of what happened earlier this morning and what I could deduce from what the rat came up with. I don't even know if it's inside but I will buy some rat poisons and re-block those areas.
Let me continue with my 30 days gratitude challenge and I hope to finish it all before the end of June.
Something beautiful I saw today
It's still very early and I haven't seen anything beautiful except the one I saw yesterday evening. I scrolled through my WhatsApp status and I found this beautiful picture of a young lady in her 20s.
Okay, she is my younger sister, my immediate and the one I call "my love" every time. When I saw her, I complimented her and she was happy. She is so beautiful and looks gorgeous. Most times I feel jealous of her beauty but I quickly remind myself that I am also beautiful in my own way. Anytime I see her and my other siblings, I feel grateful for the gift God has given me.
She can be naughty sometimes and playful but see this young girl, she has ambitions and is so focused. She doesn't joke about her life and future. I learnt that we shouldn't be worried about what we can't change from her.
You can never know when she is sad because every time, she puts on a smiling face. She will always tell you "No problem" even if there is one.
There was a day we were inside together, she was feeling so down and unhappy but I didn't notice it until she asked me *"Busayo, do you know I am not happy?"* I asked why.
She said a big company called "Erickson" in Lagos where she applied, even after getting to the last stage, she was disqualified. She said if she had been employed, she would have been so happy because it's one of her dreams to work where our uncle is. According to her, our uncle doesn't believe in connections but you should work for it. I know how painful it was for her then but she didn't worry about it. I encouraged her and let her know God knows the best.
My guilty pleasure
I have many but I would only say one or perhaps add one to it. Lol
I know I felt guilty about this incident at that time but I found pleasure in it because I felt they deserved it.
I followed my friend to the bank one day and I wasn't feeling like using the toilet, but I went there and wasted their hand cleanser. They have to pay for the unnecessary deductions in my account every time and they would spoil the figures for me. As a student then, every cent matters and nothing should happen to our money but now, I don't do such again. 😂
*Another one is eating too much.*
There are some days I just feel like eating too much, even when I feel good eating what I want, in the end, I feel the pain and uneasiness in me. Then, I felt guilty when I remembered a passage in the Bible where it says gluttony is a sin and I will quickly ask for forgiveness.
That doesn't mean I won't go back to it next time I feel like eating different food at a goal. My stomach would suffer from it as I used to caution myself because of my tummy but sometimes, different food will be calling unto me and I can't resist them from eating as they keep coming.
One good thing that happened today
The day is just starting and I haven't witnessed any good things apart from waking up with smiles on my face, washed my clothes and started to record my video song to be posted tomorrow in the Hive Open Mic community.
Wait! I think the good thing is that I didn't make many mistakes before I got it right and that didn't waste my time.
So, that's all for today.
Thanks for reading
[June 21, 2022] (No 172 articles for the year) https://read.cash/@Princessbusayo/about-yesterday-005dd7e3#june-20-2022-no-171-articles-for-the-year
About yesterday
*“The great prize in dating is Christ-centered clarity. Intimacy is safest in the context of marriage and marriage is safest in the context of clarity. The purpose of our dating is to determine whether the two of us should get married, so we should focus our effort there”.*
*Marshall Segal* https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/christian-marriage#:~:text=%E2%80%9CA%20Christian%20marriage%20is%20%5Bnot,midst%20of%20problems%20and%20fears.
Thank God our fathers were so happy yesterday because they were celebrated even though it wouldn't still be enough since it feels like a partiality, celebrating mother's day almost every month but theirs only comes once in the year. Does that mean they aren't celebrated? Of course, they are, especially to the wife who feels like celebrating her king every day.
Before now, I have made up my mind to always celebrate my husband once I get married. I will always honour and appreciate his love and responsibilities to the family. This isn't merely saying but it's what I will do because I feel that is one of the best things a wife should always do to her husband and this would make the man keep loving her.
There are the real and good fathers out there that need to be given this medal and should keep applauding them for the great work they have been doing. If you think mothers are the ones to be celebrated more, perhaps you should think twice because I would say both of them are the heroes here.
Even though the mothers are the owners of the home, trying to build their families and make sure the children are doing fine, we have some kind husbands who are always there too and know that they shouldn't leave the work alone to their wives.
We have some unserious men who would leave all duties of the home to their wives and stand by their words that they already paid their dowries, so they have become their slaves and this is where you see many broken homes because there isn't understanding and agreement between them.
Yesterday, I saw Olasquare posted on his status where he was feeding his baby while the little princess was watching from her tab. I just smiled and I could see a fatherly role in him. He didn't just start it, but it is what he has always done and helped relieve his wife. I do pray for an understanding man through him for myself.
If you are married, did you appreciate your man yesterday? If not, then I think you should because going out to make money isn't easy. You don't know what some men are going through just to provide for the family. They are the pillars of the home and the shoulder on which the wife and children lean on.
While in church, my pastor took his time to discuss relationship topics and not just ordinary relationships or marriage talks, but a godly one. There is always a need to always pray to God for a happy partner and home because without Christ being the foundation of your home, it will crumble.
He spoke of different types of courtship, even though it was a funny moment but we all enjoyed the atmosphere yesterday.
He called the first one **“Wrong courtship”.** This involves a relationship between a believer and an unbeliever which is very wrong because if you want to believe me, if both eventually get married, there would be lots of problems. It's just like light and darkness coming together. There would be disunity and disagreement even though one would bow to the other in the end.
Such a marriage won't last except if both of them try to leave each other while still courting and praying to God for the best rib.
He called the second one **“Nicodemus courtship”.** If you could remember in the Bible where Nicodemus went to meet Jesus at night asking how he could be saved? According to what my pastor said, this kind of courtship is when a partner is pretending to be what he is not and deceiving the other partner.
He narrated a story where a man came to him with sweet words, wanting to get married to a sister staying with the pastor. This man said he has a Masters's degree, he is working at the moment and it's the reason he hasn't gotten married as he wants to settle down with the sister in question. After six months, through the help of the Holy Spirit, my pastor knew he already had three children in the village and abandoned them. If not for the spirit, the sister would surely regret the marriage if they later end up marrying each other.
He then called the third one **“Balanced and Purposeful courtship”**. This is the one God has hand in it. A courtship that is pure and not filthy.
In his preaching, he made it interactive where he asked some of us what kind of home we dream of. Some said a home with a blissful atmosphere, a home that is peaceful and Godly, with which Christ is the foundation. This is something I want and desire too and I am working towards it through prayer and also trying to learn from people's experiences both from those whose marriage is sour and one whose marriage is still standing strong in the Lord.
I pray for all singles out there that God will give to us the perfect rib and to those who are into it already, the strength and wisdom to keep it going, God will give to you. I wish us a happy new week.
Thanks for reading
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[June 20, 2022] (No 171 articles for the year)
An exuberance life.
*“The purpose of our lives is to be happy”*
–Dalai Lama
*“Are you happy with the way your personal life stands currently? If so why, and if not, what would you change about yourself or your personal life to shape it into the life you would like to have?”*
This is another question from the weekend community on Hive and with four options, we are to choose one and if you feel like going for all, then it's up to you and the challenge would end on Monday, then winners would be chosen and 4 Hive would be sent to them. I have not won before in the community but I am looking forward to winning someday, and so, I should continue doing what I know how to do best which is writing.
First thing first, I am not who I was in the past and yes, I am so happy with the way my personal life stands at this current moment. This is a sign of happiness for me because learning and growth are always taking place in my life each day.
A few weeks ago, I was just reminiscing on my past and how I have changed and become who I am even without me knowing that it would be this way today. I had to write a short post on my WhatsApp status as I was inspired to talk to someone out there.
I love writing something about myself and trying to encourage another person who could be struggling too, making them aware that our journey in life wouldn't go beyond God's knowledge except that the decision we make sometimes might delay things for us.
Decisions shape our lives and I am thinking I made the right decision, if not all because it is impossible to take “all right” without having it wrong in some aspect of our lives.
Just like the book I am reading presently ***“think and grow rich”*** by Napoleon Hills. He said that temporary defeat doesn't mean it's a permanent failure until you announce yourself as a failure.
I have a lot of stories to share where I have been defeated, but I didn't let that get into me because I am this gentle type that easily forgives and forgets whatever happens. I pick up myself again, looking for another path to take, just to become someone better, even if I haven't achieved all.
I never pronounced myself as a failure because as long as I have all my body parts working, wouldn't I put them to good use to help me live the good life I want?
I don't think I would change anything about myself, but to improve in some aspects so I can continue living and envisaging a better future ahead.
Albeit, if I need to change anything, then it would be my high temperament. I won't stop saying I get angry even though I am always trying my possible best to adjust, but there is no how one wouldn't get angry at least. There is a need for self-control, especially when dealing with people who are bent on bringing out the other side of you.
One of the things I so much love about myself is that I easily create peace whenever there is a conflict or one is about to suffice. Make peace wherever you meet yourself...I think this is something every one of us should always look forward to instead of engaging in fights with everybody.
There is a way to manage your temper just like how I have been practicing. It is to be calm even before speaking out and find ways to settle with the other person so that at the end of the day, you both would be at a win-win stage.
**In conclusion,**
I would say I love my life as it is because I never believed I could get to this stage of my life, and like I said earlier, my decision, I think brought me here and I wouldn't mind being careful not to choose the wrong path, and if at all it happens, I should be able to learn from my mistakes and keep going until I get to where I want my life to be and that would be in the future.
Since I have gotten here with God's guidance, then I think the future shouldn't be confused for me or make me feel unrest because I trust God to lead me on the right path and by that time, I would still be able to point to screenshot above about my life.
Thanks for reading
[June 19, 2022] (No 170 articles for the year)
It's weekend, let me gist you
*“Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, the mind can achieve regardless of how many times you may have failed in the past or how lofty your aims and hopes maybe”.*
–Napoleon Hill
Happy weekend everyone! How are you doing? Thank God the sponsorship block is back and I can see my sponsors again. I thought they were gone when I couldn't see most of them on my block but the issue has been rectified. Thanks to @gertu13 and @foryoubtc09 for renewing their sponsorships and to others, thank you always for your support.
It's the weekend and I want to tell you how the week has been for me. Yes, as usual, the week went glorious and I can't stop thanking God. The week started with me rehearsing the song to be recorded for the Hive Open Mic community. I didn't want to use my room but to change it. I had to beg a friend who gave me the key to her room while she was away. I made mistakes but in the end, it turned out to be good through the comments I received.
Sincerely, there are some environments you stay in that wouldn't help your growth. I remembered that sometime last year, I complained to Olasquare about the environment I am in. I can say it's kind of toxic for me because everything I do, to them, it's meaningless. They are these local people that can bring one down if you aren't careful.
Ola advised me to keep a distance. I shouldn't be around them too much but it shouldn't be too obvious too. Since then, I would be indoors, doing my thing and care less about what they say. Still, these people would tag me as being proud for not interacting with them. I used to explain how busy I am and with this, I try to be around them sometimes.
Those living here do not understand what creativity can be. They aren't even ready to learn or find something productive to do with their phones.
A friend argued with me one day that her phone's battery always lasts longer than mine. I smiled and asked what she uses her phone for? She said for calls and WhatsApp. I laughed because I wonder how someone would have an Android phone and the only thing she could use it for is to make calls and WhatsApp.
She is now comparing her phone with mine. I couldn't stop laughing because I asked her if she knew what I do with my phone every day. My battery also lasts but the activities I do with it drain it quickly. That was when she stopped talking.
This was the same lady that asked me what is the meaning of "being reserved". The answer I gave her was "Consult your Google. This is why you have a phone. Make your inquiry online first, then if you aren't understanding it, you can now ask someone".
This lady cannot go through the search button on Google. A few days ago, her phone developed a fault (her phone wasn't ringing). She became nervous and was asking others to help her. She was told to go to her settings. I was smiling within me when she said she can't find the settings and where would she go to solve the issue. It was until someone helped her.
I was like "why would people have such a phone and not make use of it in a productive way?"
I can't wait to move out of this environment because they have a poor mentality and I don't see why they are in school. What are they learning?
All they know is to watch movies, chat on Whatsapp etc. I have introduced them many times to come and be writing online but they refused, saying it isn't easy for them but they can waste their data on unimportant things.
Many times when we are arguing over something, I just move away when I see they aren't ready to learn, especially doing research but they are only limited to the knowledge they have heard from people and parents.
The truth is, the world is evolving and we shouldn't limit ourselves to things we have heard in the past to judge the present. Make research to know the latest but my people here won't.
This is why I don't want to be polluted and so, I prefer to stay indoors with my phone rather than waste my time around them.
When I tell them I have a lot to do online, they murmur and think I am being proud and since they aren't ready for things to keep them busy and productive, I should stay clear away, isn't it?
Have you guys seen the movie **"Interceptor?"** The lesson that stood out for me in that movie is "DON'T STOP FIGHTING"
I was surprised at how Captain J.J took the whole situation even when she was faced with the worst challenge where her father wanted to be killed, the man said ***"never stop fighting"*** as a gun was pointed at him.
This movie teaches a great lesson that no matter what is going on around us or in our lives, we would only be a loser when we stop fighting. I have this mantra pasted on my wall in my room where I see it every morning to keep me reminded that "Quitters never win, winners never quit".
Even with your last drop of blood, once you aren't dead, there is still a chance you would win if you keep fighting. This means that whatever we are faced with, we can be victorious in the end if we believe.
Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.
So, I want us to always remember not to give up no matter what. We should keep fighting and keep going because there is always light at the end of the tunnel.
The only thing is for us to believe and trust in God because fighting alone without believing in the one who can give you strength is useless. You will lose the battle without God involved.
Thanks for reading
[June 18, 2022] (No 169 articles for the year)
Is Education a scam? What's my views?
*“Education is not the learning of facts but the training of the mind to think.”*
– Albert Einstein
`PS: This is a challenge on Hive and we were told to give our views about Education is a scam. Since most of my subscribers aren't on Hive, I feel this should be posted here too so we can learn something.`
I've tried looking back to how things were going smoothly in the past. Our parents were always sounding into our ears to go to school, be educated and become great so that we can work in the best company with a huge salary enough to make our dreams come true. How has it been for you then? I am talking about those years from 2000, 2001 etc but as it is now, things have changed...I wouldn't want to use the word "worse" because I still believe in the good change.
Our people have been poisoned with different mindsets about education and how the system has gone bad. I look at it too and I just shake my head.
Well, I have never been among those who said ***"Education is a scam".*** Why would it be so?
Education as it may be is a process of gaining knowledge. Have you heard of the phrase "If education is expensive, try ignorance?"
Why would you want to try ignorance? Being ignorant is like you surrendering yourself to be a slave that is far from freedom. While growing up, I have come to realize that without connection even as an educated person, you won't go anywhere but still, you have to earn that certificate. Who knows what the future holds.
Many people that keep saying education is a scam have just been made to see the wrong part of education as it is.
`Let's see it this way;`
I asked my good friend @Olasquare of his view about education being a scam or not and here is the summary of what he told me:
*Education is not for everybody but it is necessary to support every child from basic education to secondary level because one of the objectives of basic education is to inculcate in the mind of learners the spirit of enquiry and creativity, of a sound mind i.e grammatically and intellectual development.*
*But when they get to tertiary institutions, it should be by choice and not for them to be forced to go to school because most of them aren't meant to continue in education, but are made to go into the line of craft making etc. When they are being forced to go to school, it becomes a waste of years when, what they are doing after school doesn't have any effect on what they studied. (Perhaps these are those who think education is a scam.)*
One of the major factors bringing this issue up is the **ASUU STRIKE** in Nigeria. The strike has been a major problem for every youth and it makes everything frustrating. Instead of students being in school to graduate on time and focus on the next thing, they are being delayed at home for long months which makes everyone find other ways to make ends meet as they do not know how the future would be.
Through that, so many people have identified their creativity and put it into action while others tried other means to make money and when they call off the strike, they don't feel like going to school again because they are already doing what they have been used to during those times of being at home without education. For this kind of person, it is easy to say education is a scam.
I was told the story of one of my uncles who refused to further his education because according to him, he said he wouldn't be able to focus or do well than going to learn a skill. After much persuasion, he was left alone to go for what he wanted, that was after finishing his junior school education. Now, he is doing fine with the skill he has learned.
Let's say for such a person who was forced to go to school, it would have been a waste of years for him because his ability isn't for education but to learn a craft or skill but for those who would want to go to school, they are free to go.
ANOTHER VIEW TO IT
The education sector should be blamed though because they fail to do what is right and made people think in such a way. When lecturers are being bribed to pass a student after offering their bodies for marks, even to the head of a school, who should we blame?
When a student has done his or her best reading and doing everything that should be done but fails...Who should be blamed?
When they start seeing those who only paid for grades being given employment through connection or bribery, they start to conclude why did they go to school in the first place?.
During my school days, I only get to see new faces when it was exam time and I would ask my friends if they were also our colleagues, and I would be shocked when they say "Yes". They have their ways of getting grades while the serious ones suffer for it because we don't have money or body to surrender to these bad and corrupt lecturers.
*Na who know way go know the road*
*This means it is those who know the way that will get away with it through illegal means.*
The truth is, to me, education can never be a scam because it is a way of helping you to gain knowledge while you put into practice what you have been taught outside the world of work.
There will always be a big difference between someone who goes to school from the one who doesn't even if the latter succeed in life, the gap would always be there and the chance can't be competed with.
I think many people have depended so much on the government to provide them with employment and when they are rejected after gaining a certificate, they become disappointed and they conclude education is a scam.
Why?
This is because they have seen most people who do not go to school but are doing fine. These kind of people need to understand education isn't meant for everybody and that doesn't make them think it is a scam.
Some might not have the means to go to school and so, they settle for what they could do to survive.
I have seen old people coming back to receive lectures in my department. I would be competing with an old man in another department for a seat in class and I wonder why it took them long to value education?
One way or the other, opportunity would show that you will need to go back to school to obtain a degree certificate. Perhaps you have been among those who think education is a scam.
Education is for you to have experience and knowledge, so you don't hook yourself in the world of poverty and poor mentality.
While researching this topic, I read different views. I would say 80% of those who replied thought that education and schooling isn't a scam.
*According to Seyi from the National Space Research and Development Agency which can be found* *here* https://www.researchgate.net/post/Is_Education_or_Schooling_a_scam
*"Education is not a scam, but a huge human capital investment. Schooling coupled with entrepreneurial skill acquisition for self-reliance is one of the ways to reduce overdependence on government as the major employer of labour in developing nations. Youths need the right orientation about the purpose(s) of education, not only as a means of earning a livelihood but as a cure to ignorance and poverty of minds".*
`Education is a cure to ignorance and poverty.`
There will always be a big difference between a person who goes to school to study from someone who didn't. Their mentalities would be different and their ways of perspective definitely wouldn't be the same.
That doesn't mean those who didn't go to school aren't doing fine. Just like I said, education isn't for everyone so that those who are supposed to learn a craft but went for education, won't be wasted years for them. The same thing with someone who is supposed to go to school but went in line of learning a skill, it won't be a wasted time for him or her too. Do what your ability can carry and never force yourself.
I have a friend who also thinks education is a scam. We have both graduated, but pls kindly ask her who a guidance counsellor is?, she wouldn't say anything. Why? She was never serious with education and everything she does now even as a graduate, is questionable. Why did she go to school? Did she even pass through school or does she allows the school to pass through her?
What if an opportunity shows up tomorrow with her proving that she went to school and earn that certificate by her sweat, what would she offer? This same person is so talented in hairdressing and she would always say that education isn't meant for her. Why did she now go? It means those years are a waste for her.
**In conclusion;**
Education is good and important but it shouldn't be forced on anyone because someone passionate about going to school wouldn't think education is a scam but only those who have been forced or who think their friends are going to school, should also go. Know what you want before it's too late for you.
Thanks for reading
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[June 17, 2022] (No 168 articles for the year)
30 Days of Gratitude continues
*"So long as the memory of certain beloved friends lives in my heart, I shall say that life is good".*
Helen Keller https://www.azquotes.com/quote/155015?ref=friendship-memories
I will be merging 4 topics in one post today as I am eager to talk about them. Today is another beautiful day and I believe all will be well. Did you guys notice we have shorter days and nights? I think I am the one who noticed it because for two days now, the day has been fast and before I know what is happening, the day is already gone and the same continues the next day.
A future event I am excited about
I am still thinking about the event but can't think of any except my NYSC which I am anxiously waiting for. I can't wait to put on those khaki clothes and be called Corper B. I can't wait to receive the monthly salary as I have been planning what to do with it. I won't share my plans with you 😂😂
I have been praying to God for the best and most peaceful state to be posted to as I wouldn't want to go to the north. Never and God will not allow it. The state on my mind though is Akwa Ibom State (The south-south part of Nigeria) as I was told those people there are very nice and friendly. They have this kind of treatment for corpers and he said I will enjoy my stay there. Another said I should pick Abuja but I am afraid because the cost of living and feeding there itself is expensive. Though I believe in what God will do as it is now, let me cut my coat according to my size.
For now, let me keep wishing the best while God takes charge of everything.
Some positive news I've gotten recently
Should I call it news? The school I graduated from began a strike yesterday and would last for a month and looking at it, the convocation ceremony would be postponed and that would allow me to earn more and save for the day. Clearing results is expensive in my school here and I need to gather more money to do that. Also, that would in one way delay my service too. With the news plus crypto being down, then it is good news to me because I don't want to touch any coins for now. I hope crypto will bounce back before calling off the strike.
Then another news I got yesterday was my Aunt with her children came back to Nigeria from the US for holiday with their father. I called to check on her last night and I got the info that she is around in Lagos at her husband's house. I thought something would drop in my account but I am not someone to ask for money unless they do it and if it gets tough, I wouldn't mind opening up to ask for help.
My favourite area in my home
That is my bedroom. Yes, I love being locked in my room and doing things with no distractions. I always want to be alone as I would concentrate on doing many things.
A memory that makes me smile
I have a lot of memories that make me smile but let me narrate this particular one. This was the memory I had with my friends in school. The memory of getting up early to go to school but only to disturb ourselves during lectures. Whenever I remember such a moment, I just smile thinking of how naughty and playful we have been especially when the lecturer is in class but we were never caught.
There are times we would cooperate and pay attention especially when the course is a tough one that needs to be given full attention so you don't fail when you are given assignment or test.
Memory that I do my assignment a day to submission. Whenever we are given the assignment to submit after a month or two weeks, I don't remember until my friend asks if I have done it. I would scream and start running up and down. Why did I remember this part?
We were given an assignment in church during workers training two weeks ago. I said to myself, it's been a long time since I have done an assignment and here comes another one. I forgot the assignment until I was taking my bath on the day of submission and I remembered.
There was no way to do it since I was running out of time for church. The assignment was asked but I begged for another chance to be submitted the next day. When I got home that evening, I quickly did it after making my meal.
That was when I reminisced back to those times of assignment. I just smiled.
Thanks for reading
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[June 16, 2022] (No 167 articles for the year)
Market corners can be likened to different streams of income.
*"Money has the power to buy you things. But a much bigger power of money is in generating more money for you. Those who are able to manifest the latter, are never short of it".*
Manoj Arora https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/passive-income
I know many of us have been to the market before and I want to believe some would always visit the market at least twice or thrice a week and to those who love visiting the market once in a while, you are trying, at least I am in that category since I love buying everything in bulk and wouldn't want to go out until I am out of stuff in the house. Besides, I don't like going to the market oftentimes.
The market is always large with many women and men bringing their items to sell for people to buy and there are spaces for every individual to sell their stuff and materials. With these spaces, there are ways through which one must pass through to get to a particular seller. In short, it is not possible to have just one way leading to different areas in the market. In a big market, one needs to be careful and observant to know all ways in the market.
If you are the one that loves going to the market, knowing different roads in the market won't be difficult for you because you are used to passing each way to get what you want. For someone like me, I need to go with someone who knows every crook and corner of the market and I would be shocked to see how each road leads to a different stand where you need to buy your stuff. One market, different ways.
Two weeks ago, I went to the market to get something and I kept searching for what I needed until I got to another road in the market, I started asking for directions to get to the main road as I got confused and was even thinking I was lost. I couldn't turn back because I had walked many miles. I kept asking for directions until I got to the main road. If I had known every corner of the market, I wouldn't even be lost or got confused. But here we have some people who are very good at each corner or road of the market and they would keep going without missing their way and before you know it, they are out of there.
The minute someone used to get everything in the market even going through different corners, another person will use hours (not exaggerating) to get everything he or she needs. What is the difference? The first person already mastered all areas in the market because they have been used to going to the market all the time.
MARKET CORNERS CAN BE LIKENED TO DIFFERENT STREAMS OF INCOME
Just like a market that has different corners, routes or ways to get all you want, so also is your source of income.
*Let's take the market as a place to represent our source of income.*
Many of us, if not all have different sources of income which generate money for us. It is not possible to have just one source of income when you can easily have multiple streams of income.
Do not put all your eggs in one basket because when the basket eventually starts to leak or got torn, all your eggs would break and that is the end and there wouldn't be another alternative.
Let's say you went to the market to purchase your items, going through one way and you notice something is happening that could endanger you. Different people were running around the market to save themselves but the road you only know has been filled with people who are waiting to get hold of you, that would be the end because you do not know any other road to pass through. Even in the process of running with others, you might miss your road and would be difficult to know your way.
Same thing with our sources of income. What if the only source of income you rely on suddenly ends, would there be an alternative for you when you don't have another?
One of the ways to have another source of income is to study and understand its process very well by being consistent in learning.
You need to know another route in the market, you have to keep going and taking notes even when someone is leading you so that when next you go to the market, it won't be difficult to go down the road.
Meet with people who understand what you are going into, make them teach you and keep observing how things are done so that when you are on your own, there won't be confusion.
Do not rely on a route in the market because of some unexpected circumstances as you would be able to get through even if something happens. Same thing with your source of income. Do not focus only on one source of income because no one can predict what could happen the next minute.
Even as an individual who has a 9-5 job, you shouldn't rely on it but have alternatives except if the organization is run by you. It is important to have other side jobs you will fall back on even if the unexpected happens. No one can predict.
I have seen an employee who was sacked for not committing any crime or error, just because the company was going through a crisis that needs every staff to be stopped until further notice. How do you expect such people to survive when they don't have any other work they do? It will be so difficult to cope and survive.
We have those who work for the government and aren't paid salaries for many months. These kinds of people would find it so hard to feed themselves when all their lives have been dependent on the job. There is a need to have a side hustle. There are different ways to get that online and this would save you from going through a crisis even when the company or government are going through a crisis.
Spread your eggs in different baskets.
Thanks for reading
`This post was posted on my Hive blog too.`
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[June 15, 2022] (No 166 articles for the year)
How Engagement has helped me so far (Challenge)
*"I love the interaction with different kinds of people. I like to shake things up, make a difference".*
Alan Siegel https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/alan_siegel_603379?src=t_interaction
This would be my entry to Jane's contest as she is using it to celebrate her almost two-year journey on Readcash. Isn't that amazing? Jane is an oldie on the platform 😅😅 Congratulations in advance dear friend. And to whom the post may concern, you can sit back and keep reading and I promise you it's gonna be interesting and not a boring one. So would you mind reading to the end?
Here is the link for instructions if you need to join (Writing Challenge by Jane) https://read.cash/@Jane/turning-2-years-old-community-engagement-writing-challenge-3bf6ebdf
The question for this contest reads thus;
*"Why is community engagement important in blogging and how would you define quality content?"*
I can remember writing something about engagement some weeks ago and here is the link (Engagement is my priority on any blogging platform) https://read.cash/@Princessbusayo/engagement-is-my-priority-on-any-blogging-platform-f0be4968
I explained how engagement has been my priority and tips to engage more on others' posts. I said that engagement is the key as you gain more followers, build a name etc.
Alright, let's start this way to fully understand how long I have been blogging and making a name for myself.
**MY BLOGGING EXPERIENCE**
Do you know it's easy to make a name for yourself anywhere you go or wherever you are? This is not to brag or be proud since I am talking about my blogging experience and I may be talking to someone who has taken blogging as a passion. I started blogging in 2016 on Steemit (Oh, that isn't new) yea, I have said it many times here and I would keep on saying it. I started with Steemit, left after a year or so, met with QunQun (a Chinese platform) then Uptrennd which isn't functioning again. I spent a year plus before it finally crashed. I was introduced to different platforms like Bearshares, Weku and other platforms I can't remember. I was later introduced to Readcash and Noisecash, then Hive and finally Blurt.
I have always known the importance of engagement and that alone built my name on all platforms. Whenever I join any group and introduce myself as Princessbusayo, people would hail me, scream and treat me like a princess but I would smile and appreciate them. I built a name on all blogging platforms through my engagement and I gained a lot of friends.
MY STRUGGLES
I know it's always hard for a newbie to start building a name on any platform. I was once a newbie too one day like that and I never gave up. There were times I would deprive myself of sleep till 4 am just so I could interact and build my account. I remembered on Uptrennd, every Tuesday is known to be 2Up day. The token name is 1up but because we get double what we earn on Tuesdays, it becomes 2Up and it lasts for 24 hours. Everyone wants to make use of the opportunity to earn more, same with me.
I would be up from Tuesday morning and always active throughout the day. Then, I was staying with my Aunt and you know how stressful it would be? But I never allowed that to stop me on that particular day in the week. I would engage till 4-5 am and by Wednesday, I know I would have to sacrifice that day by being inactive so I could rest well. By then, I was earning and at the same time building a name which is Princessbusayo. I joined many groups on WhatsApp, Telegram and Discord and participated in different quizzes, challenges etc
Because of my activeness, many users took me to be one of the guardians on the platform. Many suggested I become one because according to a source, the owner pays them a salary since they are in charge of the system and how it is being run. I rejected the offer but I became a secret superstar with a few friends who would always chase out spammers and reward quality content.
Till today, I am still enjoying that name and respect from people even on this platform. When I first started here, it wasn't easy starting all over in another platform when you have built a name elsewhere but I didn't allow that to stop me. When I comment on some posts here, some would be like "Wow, I am so happy you visited my article" I just smile and be like "I am just an ordinary person like you"
MY STRATEGIES?
Yes, I believe in engagement. With engagement, you aren't only building your account or subscribers, but you are making and bonding with some people, plus making a name too. I have come across people on this platform and we have bonded so well. Olasquare, George_Dee, HappyBoy, Maryjacy, Mcyusuf etc as these are people we gist and talk to every moment on WhatsApp. Then, I have many friends who I keep interacting with daily on this platform too.
One of the ways I keep up with engaging with people's posts is that once they come around to my post, I visit them too and I have a book where I write all the usernames of a few of my close subscribers so that I won't miss their posts whenever I come online. I also go round searching for new people I haven't met and start interacting on their posts consistently so that my name would keep ringing a bell to them. I appreciate my sponsors too as I keep visiting them when I am online. Let me stop here and move to another section of the contest.
WHAT DOES QUALITY CONTENT MEAN?
This made me remember the post I made 11 months ago. Quality Vs Engagement. https://read.cash/@Princessbusayo/quality-vs-engagement-tips-to-enjoy-more-0b9f9322
I must say this post gave me $33.98 and that was my first biggest earnings on this platform.
I defined quality content just this way when a user (Cryptomax) made a post then about what quality content comprises of *(a screenshot of his explanation in the image below)* and it inspired me too to write this post. If you need to know what quality content entails, then I would implore you to read the post. Though it's been a long while, you will still get some things from it.
*Quality doesn't determine how long or short a post is, but all those keywords above, make it quality.*
DOES BLOGGING HELP YOU FINANCIALLY?
Smiles! This is me trying to go back to how I started and see how much I have earned. I must say I didn't earn as much as I did on Readcash as on other platforms. Bch changed my life in some ways I couldn't imagine. Bch made my family think I was scamming other people. I remembered when I supported my younger brother last year with $160+ when he first gained admission into the University. When I told my sisters how much I would be supporting my brother, they both exclaimed and thought it was a lie until I did it.
When my grandma heard of it, she was shouting I have started sleeping with men in school. Bch turned everything around for me when I started buying a few things for myself.
I made a beautiful cabinet where I store my foodstuffs with bch money ($60). Those in my compound thought I am a big girl, yea, am I right? I earned respect from people because I became a giver. That's what life should be. When you have, give to others and you keep having more.
Lack of engagement wouldn't have made all these possible. I wouldn't have achieved all these things if I didn't engage. Engagement plus quality content will earn you a name. You will gain friends through your interaction and I want to conclude with this.
Don't be scared to start from the beginning. Keep going and engage with people. Gradually, you are building a name and also earning. Don't think it is too late. I could look back to where I started from and thank God for grace and the ability to engage as a blogger.
Thanks for reading
@Jane this is my bch address
bitcoincash:qr28ejx9p2sxwpdr7xnd3m4mgpfsvnx8gspq67u55a
SMARTBCH address
0xF797e925197305575eaFee17EbC201A8D3bA9461
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[June 14, 2022] (No 165 articles for the year)
The biggest gift? Gratitude Challenge.
*"You have been waiting for a gift all the while but you forgot that you are the gift - unwrap the gem within and shine!"*
Bernard Kelvin Clive https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/gift-of-life#:~:text=%E2%80%9CLife%20is%20a%20gift%2C%20make,memories%20out%20of%20each%20moment.%E2%80%9D&text=%E2%80%9CWe%20have%20the%20choice%20to,the%20world%20a%20better%20place.%E2%80%9D&text=%E2%80%9CCelebration%20and%20laughter%20are%20two,the%20richest%20gifts%20of%20life.%E2%80%9D&text=%E2%80%9CSolitude%20is%20a%20gift%20but%20few%20people%20understand%20this!%E2%80%9D
As of the time of writing this, it's 10:02 am and I just decided to take my time till this moment to make a post. Yesterday, I intentionally took my off day as I closed up from all blogging platforms except that I posted since I couldn't miss a day making a post. Even when people were afraid of going to Church yesterday due to what happened on the 5th of June where some members in a Catholic church were massacred when they never expected it.
Thank God they were arrested and from what I heard, they said some women went to appease their gods which made it possible. Well, I don't know if I should believe it or not but I think there are powers though. Who created the powers? That's a question for you.
On that particular day, I received countless calls from my sister and aunt asking if I was safe because it happened in the state where I am but in a different town. My sister was relieved when she heard my voice and I couldn't stop laughing. I asked "so, you love me this way?" but this naughty girl always has this funny reply. Do you know what she said? *"I only called perhaps someone would pick up to come for your body"* 🤣🤣 that girl is just so cruel but I know she was joking and we both laughed it out.
Yesterday, I went to church and when the service was going on, different thoughts were coming into my mind. The thought of plans to take if something of such happened and I looked at the only fence in my church, it was so high and I was like "what if they come and attack us, how would I jump over the fence?" 😅😅 But do you believe that even when you don't have a choice in the face of a gun or a bad event and you need to save your life, you will do what you can't do ordinarily. Lol, I pray may God keep protecting us.
On a norms, those who have died never planned it. They went to church that morning as a normal person would. Thinking to return to make their lunch. Many would have some unfinished projects to complete once they returned from church and others, just want to visit their friends after church but see what happened. They never expected it.
There was an old woman with a dead child. She said it was her granddaughter who came to visit her from abroad. What would be the fate of the parents? They would be like "I shouldn't have made her visit grandma". What if it is the husband who insisted she visit her grandma? Wouldn't the wife blame her husband? Nobody saw it coming.
This is why the biggest gift in my life right now is **LIFE.**
At least, here I am today, happy to visit you guys. Read articles and keep smiling reading those funny lines in your articles. At least here I am, woke up with a happy smile on my face because I believe the day would be fine. At least here I am, already made a post on Hive and posted. Here I am, almost preparing my breakfast but I had to stop it so I can make this post and return to cooking thereafter.
Since there are things in my life that I need God to take over and control, I still have the hope that tomorrow would be better because I am alive and breathing. I don't have to worry about anything because as long as I am still breathing, there's hope.
My biggest gift that is greater than anything on earth is Life. Yes, I am living and doing what I want. Isn't that a big opportunity for us? If you woke up this morning, there is a need for you to be grateful always for every breath in you.
Go and check on some people in the hospital. They are being given oxygen to breathe, eat and urinate but here we are doing all these freely. Life is a free gift to everyone still living on earth and even though you are going through some challenges, then keep being grateful and trust in God.
No one knows tomorrow and I would implore us to keep doing the good things. Be humble and love everyone no matter what they have done to you.
Love is love even if someone betrays you, it is that person who did betrayed you and not love itself. That was what @Olasquare said to me as a comment on blurt. That word has meaning to me.
So, give love a second chance even if you have been jilted, left alone or betrayed. The individual did that and not love itself because love doesn't betray, doesn't envy. Love is kind, patient and persevering, Love doesn't hurt at all. So, spread love to everyone with a smile and make all days productive for you.
Thanks for reading
*Image by* *Aditya* *on Unsplash* https://unsplash.com/photos/_mIXHvl_wzA
[June 13, 2022] (No 164 articles for the year)
Just a simple "thank you" is okay
*“The real gift of gratitude is that the more grateful you are, the more present you become.”*
Robert Holden https://www.shutterfly.com/ideas/thank-you-quotes/
Happy New Week everyone. I hope you guys enjoyed last week? Let's be hopeful this week and I pray may God grant our heart's desires. I was so weak yesterday after returning from Church for the worker's training as I would be joining the workers to work for God. I will be joining the children's teacher department because I am good at teaching. Thank God I already visited articles here before I went out.
Last week, I made an entry for a challenge on Hive and I feel like sharing it with you here too so we can read and learn. Here is the question I chose for the challenge as there were options to choose from;
*On the occasions you help others, or do positive things for them, do you like or expect public recognition or do you prefer private thanks or gratitude. Explain why in either case and give an example.*
In my tribe, they say when a child shows gratitude for what was given to him or her, there is a guarantee he or she would receive more tomorrow. I have been taught right from childhood to always show appreciation, no matter how little the thing is because some people, if not all love those who show gratitude because it means such a person acknowledges what has been given to him or her and definitely, there is the possibility of receiving more next time.
Also, the Bible says that when your right hand is doing something, you must not let the left hand know you did it. Perhaps, I had to paraphrase that but something like this word is in the Bible.
I love to help people, yes, I help people a lot and I would appreciate it if such a person appreciate it and it depends on the person on how he or she wants to show gratitude, it´s fine by me but I wouldn't ask you to do it in the public. For what exactly? To make people know I did something for him or her? Then that isn't helping at all but a mere show off.
I love to be plain and my life is simple. I won´t even stop helping you if you do not appreciate but your sense should pick up at that instant to say "thank you" when I do something for you and I wouldn't mind next time you see me and you didn't acknowledge the other day. We all are different and we have different approaches to being grateful for what was done to us.
Just like I said, we are different. For me, just a simple thank you at that moment is enough for me and if you help me, I will continue to appreciate you when I see you even if it is in five years we come across each other "Oh, thank you so much for the other day, year etc" and that is me but not everybody does this.
I will never expect public recognition because I do something to or for you, but it'd come as a surprise if such a thing ever happen while I am there and that alone would make me happy but on the other hand, I don´t like it. Instead of that, just show your gratitude privately and let it end there. As I said, I am simple and that is me. I wouldn't even get angry because one thing about me is that I do those things because of God and I believe He is the one to repay me and not you.
I don't do things to earn praise from you in the presence of another, it could make me feel pompous of myself and I don't want that.
There was a day I was outside with other hostel mates and we were just sitting and gisting. Then something led to another which made all of them start to praise me for what I have been doing for them. I felt ashamed though because others have been behaving badly to them but praising me in their presence almost made my legs collide with each other, I was just smiling and I didn't reveal that. I had to excuse myself and went inside.
I feel somehow when people praise me outside even in my presence, well you can do that in my absence because I don't feel too good being praised. We need to be careful out there because not everyone will love you or be pleased with what you do. To some, they feel sad when people praise other people in their presence and they might decide to hurt such a person. So, we need to be careful and follow what the Bible say ***"Do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing".***
Thanks for reading
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[June 12, 2022] (No 163 articles for the year)
The Pub Discussion on Blurt
*“Honey, nobody ever knows someone completely. You have to just enjoy what you do know and have faith in the rest.”*
Erin McCarthy https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/enjoyment
Happy Weekend everyone! I hope we would make use of the remaining days well before another week start again. Well for me, I am not bothered because I am always at home, working from home.
Since I registered on Blurt platform last year (November precisely), I just started enjoying it last month and it is all thanks to Blurttribe who keeps bringing daily exciting programmes as this also made me connect with many people and I have bonded so well with @Bloghound there too. @Olasquare, @Jumper-01 and @George_Dee joined too yesterday.
I expected another update from the blurttribe´s account when I woke up yesterday. Every Friday and Saturday, there is always a discussion called **"Pub´s discussion"** where we answer different questions in the comment section of the post while winners are selected on that same post on Sunday because they believe that whatever happens at the pub stays in the pub.
There were interesting questions, and I wouldn´t mind if you guys can do this and tag me. If you are on blurt, why not join in the fun next week? I will be expecting you and do tag me so I can see you there. So, let´s start with the answers I gave and I would be adding more since I couldn´t write much so it doesn´t get longer there.
From your childhood, are there experiences that stand out?
*Wow, a lot of experiences. One of which I became a seer when I was so young, gathering a lot of children around me and would pick a few stones, put them together, close my eyes and predict when the electricity would come and boom, my prediction were always right which made them keep coming every night. I made a lot of friends then 😂😂 Let me tell you a secret I used then which made them ignorant. I always studied when the electricity would come at night and it has always been so and I made the children believe I have a superpower 😂 There was a smart girl as my friend then. She is just too intelligent. We can be sitting down outside and if you ask her "Loveth, what do you think the time is now?" she will only look up to the sky and say the exact time and when we go inside to check, it´s always the correct time. She said the sky determines the time at that moment. I was surprised at her being a genius in that aspect.*
*Another beautiful experience was when I and my friend during Junior Secondary School would team up together to steal from our moms and act like big girls in school the next day. Lol, I already explained this in my post a few days ago about my friend whose Dad died in an accident when his wife pushed him out to go look for money.*
*Then, let me add this to it, at that moment I am always fighting and proving to be strong but would be defeated in the end* 🤣
*I have been a stubborn child right from time and I would always try my power even when I cannot fight. At least I made effort to fight but I would always land my back on the floor. I will never accept then that I was a loser until I lose. I just felt like showing how strong I was then.*
Do you have a favourite holiday and why?
*Yeah, that's Christmas. I am always looking forward to travelling home to meet grandma and my siblings. That is the time we spend most of our moments together before we go to our different destination again. I love that moment and I can't wait for this coming Christmas and New Year 💃💃💃*
*I cannot forget the food part, especially rice and chicken or cow meat because one of our aunts would have sent over a big cow to the village, but it always pained me when grandma would have to give us small meat because we are always much in the house and for it to reach everyone till we celebrate the season, it has to be shared in a small size. Sometimes, I do pray many people should not turn up 😀*
Have you ever encountered food that was hard to swallow but you didn´t want to offend someone?
*Seriously, I am trying to remember but I can't. I know I have experienced this before but I can't remember again. So, let's skip this.*
How does "knowing too much" benefit or harm you?
*Though we were told to keep searching for knowledge. Learning occurs every day but when it's too much, it will affect your brain and yourself too. Sometimes, we don't need to learn everything at once but leave room for others to learn from them and then pick something from it. Don't be "all-knowing".*
Is it better to forget the past?
*Well, you might actually forget the past especially when it's hurtful to you because dwelling on it would definitely affect your present and even future, but one can pick lessons from them, and learn to avoid making such mistakes in the future.*
*Past with interesting memories cannot be forgotten because we would always want to go back to remembering them and smiling, and giggling for such moments.*
What are the three best things about you? Advertise yourself in the best three ways.
Okay, I love this part....so interesting 😁
*Number one; I love to care about people around me and I easily forgive and let go because I know humans would always make mistakes. Many times, I even forget you hurt me because I already moved on.*
*Number two; I love to smile. Smiling makes my beauty come out, so I don't get worried except for a few minutes and then, I have forgotten what happened the last few minutes.*
*Number three; I am easily approachable. Though I don't know how to make friends but I love being friends with everyone. I am cool and focused.*
Thanks for reading.
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[June 11, 2022] (No 162 articles for the year) https://read.cash/@Princessbusayo/i-wish-i-had-this-aad730fe#june-10-2022-no-161-articles-for-the-year
I Wish I had this
*“Life is good especially on a Friday.”*
Anonymous
*Whoever said that quote must be a funny individual. Perhaps he or she might also be working all through the week and once it's Friday, he or she believes life is good because of much relaxation and fun.*
Happy Friday lovelies. Are you excited about the weekend already? Should we go to the club? 😎
Yesterday was super fun and I hope today will look amazingly also. Going through the @Probinsyana article, I see it as fun to me and told her I will be posting mine today. If you haven't checked her post, you can do so here. I'm done https://read.cash/@Probinsyana/im-done-9599b298
I found her answers interesting and I hope you find mine interesting too. So, let's get down to the business of the day.
**I ALWAYS CARRY MY PHONE IN MY BAG**
Should I say my phone is my best friend? I go along with it anytime, anywhere except if my instincts tell me not to take it, especially when I am going to the market. Most of my activities are done using my phone. I make calls with it, I chat with it. I stay active on all blogging platforms. I learn words and get answers through Google. I get the latest news with my phone even in my closet. I listen to beautiful music and watch interesting movies. My phone is my calculator. My phone is my calendar. My phone is my companion. So, with my phone, I am good at doing many things.
**I WISH I COULD TRAVEL OUT**
Seriously, I want to get out of my country. With all these happenings, I am scared at a point and I wish I could save myself and find safety in another country but the thought of money and family always shows up. Even if I have the money and decide to run away from what is going on in my country, what about my siblings? My father? I mean my family? I would still keep thinking about them but it is what it is now. Perhaps I would wait for the right time and keep praying for God's protection and safety. I just wish I could just find myself in the United States or anywhere my mind takes me.
**SOMETIMES, I MAY BE HARD TO UNDERSTAND**
I don't let people know everything about me. I want to keep confusing them. I can be playing and within another minute, I change. I have mood swings and it's my choice. I love to be indoors most time, and some other times, I am outside playing with friends. I don't want to release too much to them so they wouldn't predict my next move. I may decide to pass through a shortcut today and tomorrow, I decide to go the long way. With this, no one would understand me. I may be gisting with you now, and when I go inside, I have changed totally.
A friend said to me yesterday that "I am now proud" I smiled and asked why she said so. She said I had locked myself inside since morning and didn't come out to play with them. I had to explain to them that I had a lot of work yesterday which kept me inside. She said there are times I still come outside even when I have much to do. I smiled again.
I don't want them to know me. I might go out to gist with them today and I may decide to change the next day. Lol
**I'D EAT TURKEY EVERYDAY IF I COULD**
How much is one kilo of Turkey over there? Here, it is $4+ and I exclaimed the last time I went to the market to buy it. It's the rich that eat turkey every day. I'm not saying I can't afford it but one has to limit how he or she spends to save in case of next time. This is why I switch to fish sometimes and when it's been a while since I have eaten Turkey, I eat it but not every day. I can't say if the price would reduce tomorrow, then I can eat it every day as I want.
**A TALENT I HAVE IS WRITING**
Writing has been a part of me since I discovered it. Though I have always written notes for my colleagues in secondary school and would get paid. Ever since I knew the gift I had in writing, it has been helping me. I love to write in any genre excluding horror, science and some others I can't say except I don't want to stress myself perhaps in researching. I love imagining things and putting them down as an idea to work on later and this has been helping me.
**EVERYONE SAYS I AM KIND**
Is it even possible for everyone to say this? Nah! Everyone wouldn't be pleased with you but few are sincere to say and compliment you on this. I have those who say I am kind to people around me and it makes me happy that some watch and observe me. Even if you don't say it, I know I am kind in my ways. What is life without showing kindness? Some people need to see our kindness and make them happy too.
**TODAY, I WILL BE ACTIVE**
I have been active since I woke up at 4 am. The sound of the rat creaking woke me up and I think I should thank the little creature. Lol
I have been online since then and trying to make the day productive. So for today, I will make sure to do the best I can on the three blogging platforms.
**A TALENT I WISH I HAD**
I wish I could crack jokes. Yes, you heard me right. I might be using TikTok to make people smile if I were to be humorous and able to mimic and crack jokes. I love seeing people with such skill and all I would say is *"Mehn, this person is so talented"*. I wish I had such talent too. I would make people smile but no worries, I am also putting smiles on people with my kindness and beautiful attitude.
**CURRENTLY, I AM AN EX STUDENT**
Should I still remind you? I am a graduate and waiting for my results to be out for clearance and to be posted for my NYSC service. For now, all I am doing is working from home and I bless God for such an opportunity to earn alongside too.
Here comes the end of the prompt word.
Thanks for reading
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[June 10, 2022] (No 161 articles for the year)
The art of being okay with things as they are.
*"There is no good in arguing with the inevitable. The only argument available with an east wind is to put on your overcoat".*
James Russell Lowell https://www.brainyquote.com/authors/james-russell-lowell-quotes
Before we proceed, can you just say this short prayer silently?
*“God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage and boldness to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference. Give us the courage to change the things that must be reformed, peace to accept what cannot be helped, and the openness to know the one from the other. Amen”*
I am glad you did that and that is the perfect word of prayer we ought to always pray always.
One thing about our character is that we can choose to change or improve and we can decide not to, but improving what we don´t like about our lives is very important to us, especially when we are always interacting with other people every single day. But at the same time, it is also important to recognize those things we cannot change. This will definitely help us focus on the right thing rather than spending and wasting our time on things that will never change no matter how much we tried to.
If things cannot be changed, learn to accept them like that.
Acceptance is often a process rather than just a single step, but accepting involves making the choice to accept something. When we learn to accept things as they are, we would save ourselves from worries and anxiety over things we cannot change but let go of. Also, we have the choice to exit once we know we can´t change something or an individual so as to save us the stress in the long run.
For example, you are trying to change your partner but with all methods, you have taken or used, he or she decides not to change. You may choose to stay and endure or you might just leave the relationship if you know it is affecting you emotionally, I mean in all areas. We cannot change a being but our efforts and encouragement might do wonders, when you see your efforts aren´t yielding any positive results over the individual, you just have to accept them or leave. When we are doing this, we won´t be worrying about what we are doing that is wrong or why our partner won´t change their ways.
There is no point in cursing, punishing and blaming ourselves for things which we cannot change.
Many times, we feel guilty, sad and depressed, most times feel shame because we can´t change something. All these emotions are associated with not being able to change ourselves or other people and we feel like we aren´t doing the right thing. Another factor that could make us feel worthless most times is **society.** They make us feel like we aren´t trying and would force us to feel responsible for whatsoever is happening, either in our lives or in our relationships. If your partner is misbehaving, they make you believe you are the reason or cause, they would want you to take responsibility for it. So when we allow ourselves to accept that things like that are beyond our control, we can stop punishing and blaming ourselves for them. So, we are free to stop being guilty and concerned over things that are way beyond our control and let go of the negative emotions taking charge of us.
Finding a lesson that can be applied later is the best thing we can do.
We can choose to be calm in situations that cannot be changed so we would be able to focus on the next thing to do. Calming down in such a situation will help us find the suitable lessons that would suit our problems and would help us apply them in a clear way that would surely bring a positive result.
Just because we accept some things that are inevitable, things which are bound to happen doesn´t mean they cannot teach us anything. Those lessons we later find out may be our guidelines for how to act in the future and help us in other situations. The best is to consider what lesson such a situation has taught you and how you might benefit from the lesson in the future.
Don´t expect too much.
Stop expecting things from people. When you expect too much, it might end in disappointment for you. When we keep finding ourselves in every frustrating situation, it might be the time to reevaluate how much we have expected from others. When expectations are too high, they might bring a lot of frustration and concern. So, when we take away those expectations, our lives would be easier.
Snap out from unrealistic expectations. When you expect that others will know what you want or need, and act accordingly, we are heading to failure if we must know. So, let go of unrealistic expectations and focus on how to be better yourself. By doing this, we will be freeing ourselves from the source of frustration and take things as they come and people as they are.
Be relentless with the things you can change.
Not being able to change the world, or people around you and even some aspects of your life doesn´t mean you should give up, instead focus your efforts on things that can be changed. Improve yourself and your life, and find new solutions to the problems that are within your reach. With this, you will feel empowered and courageous and be in control over your life.
There are things we cannot change, it´s very **okay.** However, recognizing those things we can change and focusing our efforts and energy on them will surely give us control over our lives and stop us from getting worried or concerned about things that will never budge no matter how much we try. So, stop freaking out on things that can never change because they are inevitable. They are bound to stay that way and you are to learn to focus and divert your attention to what is in your capacity to change.
Thanks for reading
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[June 09, 2022] (No 160 articles for the year) https://read.cash/@Princessbusayo/how-does-he-relates-06cd7996#june-06-2022-no-157-articles-for-the-year
This is me by Keala Settle
*“Don’t quit; keep trying.*
*Don’t stop; keep moving.*
*Don’t despair; keep believing.*
*There is a way. There is always a way.”*
Richelle E. Goodrich https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/keep-trying
Have you heard of the song before? I mean the one as the title of the post. This is the song I am singing for the Hive Open Mic challenge and should be posted today or tomorrow but I am willing to do it today so I can have time for more challenges on Hive as I wouldn't want to miss Friday´s challenge in "TheWeekend" community.
Though the song was originally sung by Keala Settle, but I only listened to how the greatest showman sang it on YouTube. I have been learning this song since on Sunday and I decided to sing it yesterday so it won´t be a rush when I needed to post it.
I had to take some pictures first and make something creative on VivaVideo to edit and beautify the video too. Seriously, I love how my pictures turned out to be.
I even customized one of the pictures as my cover page.
Here is the black and white I made for Blurttribe's daily reality show on Blurt this morning.
I have joined Hive Open Mic for a while now and it has been interesting even though I still get confused understanding how the theme for the week works. After asking and asking too much of questions from those who knew about it, I was made to know I have not been getting the whole gist before because I am always talking about why I like the song I chose instead of why I picked the song to relate with the theme´s week.
Olasquare also explained too when I did last week´s own and I felt sad I didn't get the gist because I did something different to every other people but I didn't let the pain sink into me as I told myself "I will try my best for the next one".
And yes, I think I am getting the whole gist now. Thank God I gave myself in to learn and make corrections and I am loving it now.
When I made this video, I sent it to Olasquare for him to preview and help with where I needed to make changes before finally submitting it and I am glad he gave a positive review and compliment which made me think I am good to go with it.
Seriously, it is not easy learning a new song for the first time but you have to be patient, to keep making errors and correcting yourself.
*Keep trying when you fail. You are getting better at every mistake, once you learn from them.*
When I first started on Hive Open Mic, I was so shy to face the camera to sing and I was afraid I would commit blunders. I placed my laptop in my front for the recording while I was using my phone to play the instrumental beat to the song. I kept making mistakes and I was feeling sad along the line, I wanted to give up and close it, but I said no until I get the perfect video.
It took me more than twenty times to keep deleting the video I made just because I keep making mistakes. There was a point I sang well, but getting to the end, I fumbled, it really pained me but I started all over.
There is stress in making a video and another stress in editing and trying to post through 3speak. It was really frustrating that time but I didn't stop until I posted.
The following week, I rehearsed and learnt the song to use, I still committed a lot of mistakes but it wasn't much as the first time.
I missed a week or two of singing and posting my video because I didn't have time, and I was also at my Aunt's place then, I knew I won´t have the time because if I start to record myself, my aunt could just call me anytime and that could distract.
When I got back to school, I thought I wouldn't be able to sing again on Hive Open Mic because of these students who would always make noise all around, but I decided to try my best. Perhaps singing at night when they had gone to sleep or finding a time during the day and, it worked last week. There weren't many students at home and it made the noise lessened and I was able to do something cool even though it was somehow blurring and not bright.
So, for this week, I did better and I know I would keep getting better at it once I don´t give up. I am not shy anymore since I have been used to singing through the camera and it´s really amazing.
*The song by Keala is trying to empower every individual who has been shunned, bullied and ignored because of some factors especially their low self-esteem and physical disabilities, they need to know who they are and understand that they are unique. Accept who you are and don´t feel sad about whatever society says to you. Once you learn to live a beautiful life and ignore every criticism, you will be fine.*
Thanks for reading
[June 08, 2022] (No 159 articles for the year) https://read.cash/@Princessbusayo/how-does-he-relates-06cd7996#june-06-2022-no-157-articles-for-the-year
My favourite song (s) and why?
*“One good thing about music, when it hits you, you feel no pain.”*
Bob Marley https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/music
Happy Tuesday lovelies! Buenos Dias😎
It´s a wonderful day already and I am very sure it will turn out well for me and you. I hope we woke up with a positive mind because that is the only guarantee that we would enjoy the rest of the day and if you are already ahead of us, I hope the day is doing fine with you? Okay, let´s jump over to the next gratitude challenge on the list and I would be talking about two songs I love most and are always in my mind anytime. Well, it´s difficult to choose two out of many songs I enjoy singing and humming in my mind but I should not be partial but knowing fully well that I enjoy all interesting and inspiring songs.
I have made this a challenge post last week and since it´s the next topic on my gratitude list, then I should do it here too. Perhaps some of my Non-Nigerian friends would love it too 😆
Music is life and food to the soul and thanks to all artists who have sung songs relating to how we feel, the inspiration and motivation we need for the day, and to tell you that many of the songs are sung for a reason to those who sing it and in one way, these songs have raised our spirits, gives us the belief that we are great and to say we are wonderful and should never be disappointed whatsoever. There is a kind of music that will make you see yourself as great in future as it would give you that inspiration and encouragement you need. Music is possible of making you believe in yourself and know how the future would turn out for you if you do not give up on yourself.
*"Music has unbelievably seen through the hearts of many without having an eye, it has touched minds and souls without having a hand, and its ability to transform into what you need such as entertainment, advice, caution, inspiration, education and many other things makes it awesome. It is a source of inspiration to me, it has given me the strength to carry on when I was broken".*
Extracted from @George_Dee article.
I totally agree with him about music because I have seen how it has transformed many people´s lives, just by listening to the appropriate one that suits their struggles. I read a post of a user on Hive yesterday and he testified to how he was saved by music when he was a real gangster while in secondary school. Music has changed lives, there is no doubt about it.
The first on my list is titled **"DUDUKE"** sung by a Nigerian beautiful lady called SIMISOLA OGUNLEYE. You can listen to the song on YouTube. https://youtu.be/-L8hLkg21MQ
I was confused at first when I heard the song the first time and I couldn´t understand what the word "Duduke" means until I searched for it and saw the beauty in the song. At first, I thought it was more like a love song for two lovers who are into each other and are planning to settle down and keep their love growing but knowing what it means brought life into me.
Duduke according to the singer means *"The beat of your heart or like a drum you move your body to dance to".* She said the song is for the expectant mothers and truly, she sang the song when she was having her baby bump. She later proceeded to say Duduke is the beat to whatever you want to be and I felt inspired because singing the song too made me see myself as a wonderful mother in the future and the best I want to be is becoming the best mother and woman to my family.
I do play this song every morning and I kept visualizing myself in the future. The kind of children I want and how I would take care of them and be great for them too. I found myself praying within me to be alive to mother my children and help them live a great life. It brought that special moment to my mind and I can´t wait to celebrate that moment. I hope to remember this song because it is what I will play then.
*"First, let me say to you*
*I can not wait to see you*
*You are the treasure I've been waiting for*
*Do you know do you know*
*How much I really need you*
*I dey pray for the day when I can finally kiss you*
*You know say everyday I dey pray for you oh*
*In my heart oh there is a permanent place for you"*
This is the first part of the song and this is how I am expecting my baby to arrive in the world too as I can´t wait to see the treasure that will be kicking in my womb, hearing that tiny sound of Joy would surely bring me alive again and when that time comes, I know a little treasure that will soon become a great diamond is born.
The second song is from the same singer above and it´s titled "AIMASIKO". You can check it out on YouTube too. https://youtu.be/gkxKlF60i0A
Aimasiko means "*Not knowing the time"* The song will always be one of the best on my list because this talks about human beings who aren´t waiting or being patient for their time because they want it quick and it has sent many to the graveyard. This song reminds me always that there is time and season for everything and my time would come to shine if only I wait and I am patient enough to see what God has prepared for me.
Part of the song says "Not knowing the time is what makes humans keep troubling themselves". They want it immediately and do not understand that their time is different from others.
You have been praying, you have been working really hard and it seems your efforts aren´t being recognized and it looks as if you want to give up, It feels as if God isn´t on your side anymore and you feel He has rejected or ignored you.
No, He hasn´t unless you have given up on yourself, it might be that time isn´t right for you and He is preparing that special moment when you will enjoy it. Don´t give up and because you see your mates or friends doing well, you want it fast too. The truth is, we aren´t created to be successful at the same time. We all have our own time of shining. So, wait for your time. Don´t be in haste so you don´t regret it.
Thanks for reading.
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[June 07, 2022] (No 158 articles for the year) https://read.cash/@Princessbusayo/how-does-he-relates-06cd7996#june-06-2022-no-157-articles-for-the-year
How does He relates?
*"Never be afraid to trust an unknown future to a known God".*
Corrie ten Boom https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/faith
It's Monday already and it's that time to get up and do what we have to do so we can be sure of an achieved day and week. What are you up to? Got any plans? Do you care to share with me? Perhaps I might pick something new from it and add it to my schedule. Just speak with me in the comment section, I am all in with you guys to interact with you.
Yesterday was glorious in the house of God. Permit me to share with you what I learned from the sermon from the General Overseer of the popular Redeemed Christian Church of God. Every first Sunday, we would listen to Daddy's preaching through the plasma Tv connected to the Church and we go live with Him as we praise God and hear the word of God.
Daddy mentioned three ways God can relate with anyone. Yes, God speaks to everyone including the unrighteous one. We all are hearing from God if you believe that. When you talk to God, and you haven't seen an answer, He already spoke, you just haven't heard Him. He is like *"It is not yet time"*. Even a sinner who is into the world, God can speak to him or her and be like *"Turn away from your wicked ways, my beloved"* or He may decide to send someone to warn you. Do you remember Saul when he was going to persecute the Christians and was stopped on the road by Jesus? He repented and his name was changed to Paul.
The three ways God can relate to people are these;
**Forgetting** such a person completely just as he forgot Ephraim in the Bible. Ephraim was forever in desolation because he served other idols except for God. Daddy said forgetting to God, means *"There is no hope again. The case has been closed"*
**Ignoring:** Daddy said this means *"the case still has hope"* because God may decide to turn to His children who already backslide. So, if you have been away from God and you keep praying for a miracle, He will ignore you until you come to Him truthfully and He will pardon you. Do you know God ignored Samson when he allowed Delilah to know his secret and the woman he loved betrayed him? but when he called unto God, He gave me a new strength even though he died on the spot but the Bible recorded that the people he killed at his death was much than those he killed when he was alive?
Then the last, which is the theme for this month, is **"Remembering".** Yes, God can remember you for good after you have suffered and encountered many challenges. When you talk to Him, He would surely remember you just as He remembered Hannah, the barren woman who gave birth to children. He remembered Jabez too.
Okay, I want to share with you a true-life story which Daddy shared with us and that alone increased my faith more because I believe God remembers those who call unto Him.
*"There was a man who was a security if I could remember and working in an organization and was also a tenant. He couldn't pay his house rent again. So, he attended the cross-over night at the RCCG's programme on December 31 some years ago.*
*Daddy gave the word of God that there was someone who would be turning into a landlord the next year which was just a few minutes to enter the new year.*
*I know many would not believe such can happen because their faith is shallow but Daddy said this man shouted a big Amen and went home.*
*When he resumed work, he went straight to greet his boss and on seeing him, the boss asked "Have I given you a new year's gift?" The man said "No sir"*
*The man said he has different houses and he wants to give one out since he wasn't using it. That was how this man through his faith became a landowner of a big house.*
*He returned to show gratitude and the boss asked again "Is there furniture there because I can't remember?" He said "No"*
*Then the boss said, "Every year, I change the furniture in my house. You can come and have them and put them in your new house".*
*The boss ordered people to take his furniture and drop it at the man's house.*
Two blessings in a new year through an activated faith. Do you see what faith did here? Do you believe things like this happen?
To me, I strongly believe God is a possible one and can do the impossible if only we believe. That was how this man became a landowner just a few days into the new year.
I had to share this with you so you can know that God still remembers His people.
I am sorry if I have said anything that might oppose your religion as we all have the right to worship whoever we want.
Thank you for reading
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[June 06, 2022] (No 157 articles for the year)
A Perfect Week
*"Don’t wait for a perfect day. To make it a perfect day, dance the whole day, sing every hour, and love every moment".*
Debasish Mridha https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/perfect-day#:~:text=%E2%80%9CJust%20a%20perfect%20day%2C%20problems%20all%20left%20alone.%E2%80%9D&text=%E2%80%9CThere%20is%20no%20perfect%20condition,perfect%20day%20to%20take%20action.%E2%80%9D&text=%E2%80%9CEvery%20day%20can%20look%20like,if%20you%20do%20something%20ideal.%E2%80%9D&text=%E2%80%9CEveryday%20is%20a%20perfect%20day%20to%20be%20kind.%E2%80%9D
Sincerely, it has been a rollercoaster week for me but I tried to make the best out of it. I couldn't but live it perfectly the way I did because why? I don't need to be worried about anything, I feel choked when I do and that could ruin it all and make me unproductive.
We are in control of our lives, aren't we? We all may have the same problem but how we deal with it will depend. We are who we are through the dominating thoughts we allowed into our minds. Let me brief you on how it all went for me since I returned to my abode last Sunday from my Aunt's place.
Positive and Happy lifestyle
Yea, last week was a different one for me since I chose it to be that way. I couldn't allow any other thoughts to start the day with me, other than waking up saying *"Thank you, Jesus, again"* and then praying to God, brushing my teeth and the next is for me to look in the mirror and saying ***"Busayo, it's gonna be a bright day. Flow with it".*** Oh yes, I smiled while saying that and that was how I lived a positive and happy life.
Remember the rumours about this platform that kept spreading its wings too? Oh! I wasn't bothered at all because if it eventually stops functioning, we wouldn't have a choice but to accept and move on. The only thing is for us to find more ways and if there are alternatives, why don't we switch and thank God for the best we have enjoyed? If truly it stops moving, what will you say? For me, it has tried for us and we should appreciate that. Nothing lasts forever though but we have to take every opportunity as it comes.
**Made my favourite meal and ate happily**
Oh! What is life without food? To say I don't think of those who didn't have the opportunity is a lie. I do and I hope God intervenes because lack of food can cause many things. Hunger isn't the best but what do we have to do other than to help those we can reach out to? That is life. Life is all about giving cheerfully and compassionately.
I prepared my turkey stew which lasted me six days and I felt I treated it amazingly. @Olasquare I believe you won't have to keep accusing me of not spending again because I did😅 Remember the prize of a kilo of turkey 🤣 Just so you know I spent. Lol
I won on blurt platform
And to think I haven't seen it beautifully last week, I did and I never expected it would come that way. Thank God for Ola for introducing the platform to me which I was hesitant about at first but I later joined after he spoke about it again. God came through him for me. Blurt is just coming up and soon, it would be hard like Hive. So, if you haven't joined, do so now and accumulate more blurt and blurt power because the price is so low.
There is this account I have been following for a while now called @Blurttribe. They do daily reality shows where each day of the week, they come with different pictures which you must post as a comment. For Mondays, it's for a picture of your environment, Tuesday, I think for food by you, Wednesday, a selfie with a friend or family, Thursday, black and white day etc if I am not mistaken.
When it all started on Monday, I decided I would join on all days at least to be active on the platform.
Yes, I did follow through and interacted with many people and waking up on Saturday morning, I logged into the platform and saw a notification of my name being tagged and I won as the first winner and 15% of the post's payout is mine.
So, I am waiting for the payout after seven days to claim my reward. Join now and start accumulating. You can ask for the link in the comment section.
Learning Spanish and I am loving it
I remembered downloading the Duolingo app last year and was learning French but a few weeks later, I wasn't consistent and deleted the app. Not until this year last month, my mind went there after seeing a friend post her achievement on WhatsApp about learning Spanish. I have wanted to learn that language too because I love it. Then I downloaded again and went for Spanish instead and I have been consistent for a week now.
I started with the introduction where I learnt the meaning of little words like he, she, the man, the woman, the milk, water, bread, the man eats apples, etc. I made a lot of mistakes and that was because I wasn't taking note of the words I learnt but suddenly yesterday, I started writing them down and I discovered I didn't make any mistakes until I moved to phrases where I started learning "Good morning, hello, good night, thank you, nice to meet you"
It's fun learning the language and the sounds too. I went to meet Ola again and now, we have agreed I would be speaking in Spanish to him but he hasn't fully agreed 😂😂 Just wait for me. I might start replying to people in Spanish from now on, so get ready for me. Hola, @Jane 😅 Mucho Gusto @ARTicLEE 😜
Consistent on posting
Yea Yea Yea, I did it again last week. I have been doing it every day though but I just had to include it in my perfect week. Seven days of posting consistently on three blogging platforms and it has been interesting joining challenges on Hive blurt and even Readcash with the gratitude challenge I am doing. I didn't forget Dreemport too.
A fun Hangout
HiveLearners community on Hive have a fun Hangout every Saturday on Discord where new topics for the week are released and we have to vote for them and the top three topics with higher votes take over for the week. Many times, I have wanted to also be participating but time isn't always there. So, last Saturday, I joined because I had some free time. It was fun and the admin asked about the last topic (Mystery). Some didn't like it but I said "This is what I do love. Challenge me and see how I'd come out to be the best". Yes, the crime story came as a challenge but it turned out to be fun afterwards.
Cooked a new fish stew for the week
My turkey stew already finished and I thought of changing the taste and went for fish. I bought frozen fish and prepared a new stew for the week. So, I can't wait to eat my stew with rice after Church Service today 🤤. If you can make it to my place, please do. Eating together is always fun though.
So, can we do it again this week? I am waiting and can't wait to see how the week turns out for me. Have the best of the week everyone. Adiós!
Thanks for reading
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[June 05, 2022] (No 156 articles for the year)
A crime (Mystery) story I created
*"You don't make progress by standing on the sidelines, whimpering and complaining. You make progress by implementing ideas".*
Shirley Chisholm https://www.brainyquote.com/authors/shirley-chisholm-quotes
This isn´t your regular one at all because I think I am doing way better now. I wrote a crime story yesterday for the first time and even though it might not be something new to some people like @George_dee but being the first time I came up with something like that means a lot to me and I got good feedback from people. I was just smiling yesterday and found myself reading as many times as I want yesterday. I actually got inspired after reading a few entries of people, when I thought I wouldn´t participate.
There is this community on Hive that I joined weeks back and I have been enjoying it and I can see how interesting it is in the community. It´s called "HiveLearners" community and for you to be eligible to enter the weekly challenge, you have to be verified as a member, that can be done by going to their discord channel where you can find the link on the description page on Hive.
All you have to do when you get to the channel is take a picture of yourself, holding a piece of paper with some words written on it. The name of the community and the date you took the picture I think. I have forgotten the process but you will see an example in the channel. Then don´t forget to include the link of your introductory post on hive with the selfie you took. Then within a few minutes or hours depending on the admin, you will be verified.
The weekly edition comes thrice a week and the winner gets a little token. I have won before and I am working to win again. So, get yourself ready for fun in the community.
Okay, for the crime story I wrote yesterday, The challenge is titled "Mystery" and you are to write a story of a crime that was solved and as a mystery and here is my story which you are going to enjoy reading. The title is **"The Hidden Truth."**
*Mrs Chuks works in a multipurpose company as a director and she leaves home very early in the morning until late at night, most times 10 pm and some other times if she couldn't beat the traffic, the time extends to 11 pm. She has two children, a boy and a girl (15 and 17 years of age respectively). Though the girl isn't going to school due to some challenges but she knows how to do those chores at home and doesn't get tired.*
*On this said day, Mrs Chuks was called from home for the bad news. "Hello ma, we noticed blood coming out of your door, we are afraid something bad might have happened. You need to hurry up right now." from the other end of the line was a woman in the neighbourhood. This was in the afternoon and it wasn't the time she should leave her office as she just attended a meeting in the board room with other staff.*
*On hearing this, she quickly took permission from her assistant and drove home in an unusual way because she was beginning to get nervous and apprehensive. "What could have happened? What is blood doing in my house?" All of these thoughts couldn't let her focus and hear the continuous ringing on her phone. She almost clashed with a big vehicle coming towards her but she immediately dodged and veered to the other side of the road, almost hitting the big palm tree beside the road.*
*She got home, ran as fast inside and opened the door, she found Angela dead and lying in a pool of blood. This should have taken place a few hours back because the blood already flowed outside which alerted the neighbours around."Who could have done this?" She was perplexed and her hands were jerking. Trying to call her name but she was dead. She found a knife in her hand and a small letter was written "You deserved this"*
*"Who could have done this?" She asked again. By this time, some neighbours already entered and Mr John, one of their neighbours quickly dialled the police number within five minutes, they were surrounded at Mrs Chuk's house trying to interrogate her as other inspectors were searching everywhere in the house.Mrs Chuks still couldn't believe what was happening as they kept interrogating her. "I still don't understand this.. who could have tried this?" Now facing the policeman trying to get some answers. One of the inspectors beckoned to come over to the kitchen as they saw the window open. It seems someone came in through the window to kill your girl. Who could that be? Mrs Chuks was now devastated and still couldn't solve the mystery.*
*"Officer, pls, I need you to find the culprit. Whoever did this will not go scot-free. He or she must suffer just as my Angela suffered today. Oh! This is bad."*
*"Don't worry madam, we will try our best", was all that the officer could growl from his mouth.*
*As they were about to leave the house, Jude entered.*
*"Madam who is he?"*
*"He is my son, he is just coming back from school."*
*The officer facing Jude..."Hi boy, how are you? Angela is dead and we are trying to get something from it. Who do you think could have done this to her?" Jude was shocked to see her lifeless body on the floor and ran to meet her.*
*He cried so bitterly and faced the officer back. "Sir, I don't know. I don't know who killed my sister. Why did they kill her?*
*"They left promising to find whoever did it.*
*After two weeks of mourning, Mrs Chuks was in the house as she couldn't go to the office while Jude stayed at home with his mom trying to monitor her so she doesn't do anything stupid.*
*Jude went out to meet his friend called Andrew. They both exchanged pleasantries and when Andrew was trying to console his friend about what happened, he saw Angela's band beside the plasma Tv and was shocked but pretended not to see anything not to attract any suspicion from him. After a few hours of gisting, he left his house without saying anything.*
*He went straight to the police station to explain what he had found. The officer called Mrs Chuks to explain the new information from Jude and instantly, they drove to Andrew's house.*
*When they got there, Jude immediately went to take the band and asked "How did you get this band? I saw this when I came around but didn't say anything. This band is for Angela."*
*Andrew couldn't speak a word as he was handcuffed to the police station. Mrs Chuks came around and was shocked to see how Andrew was connected to the case. She tried to not believe what was happening because she knew he can't do it.*
*"Did you do it, Andrew? Did you kill Angela?" Mrs Chuks was asking with a disdained eyes.*
*"Ma, I don't know anything about it. It was just a coincidence."*
*"Coin... what? How is that possible?"*
*Andrew was proving stubborn at first and he was tortured so hard, that he had to speak up.*
*"Ma, it is true I went to your house that morning after you left home. When I got inside, I met Angela on the floor, her throat was slitted by the knife and she was struggling with her life. She tried saying something and gave me this band and that was how she gave up."*
*"I didn't want to go through the door again, I had to pass through the kitchen window so no one would see me and that was it."*
*"The band? How are you connected to the band?" The officer asked*
*"I have been dating Angela for a year now and I gave her the band as proof of my love for her, and when she is dead, I immediately took the band from her as a reminder for me."*
*"Wow! Madam, I think this case is getting to be resolved but there is still something hidden. Who could have killed her then?"*
*They all went home leaving Andrew at the police station until they get to the root of the matter.*
*A few days later, a man appeared at the police station saying he knew something about the case. Mrs Chuks and Jude were invited again. Jude got scared and was almost shivering when he saw the man.*
*He was restless and he tried taking an excuse to use the toilet but he wasn't allowed.*
*The man brought out a black bracelet and handed it over to the officer. "I saw this dropped down at the gate when I was passing by and that same day, I heard of a murder case and I knew this was evidence which could be used".*
*Mrs Chuks remembered the bracelet was for Jude and she faced him. "Jude, tell me you aren't connected to this case. Just answer me," she was already boiling with rage within her.*
*Jude couldn't hide anymore as he confessed to killing Angela.*
*"What? Mrs Chuks was surprised." She couldn't close her mouth as she still couldn't believe her son was the culprit.*
*"How? Why? What happened?" Her voice was shaking and couldn't control herself as she was told to sit down.*
*"Mummy, why didn't you tell me from the beginning that Angela wasn't my sister? You adopted her but you didn't say anything. I believe you don't know anything about her until that day..."*
*"I forgot to pick up my assignment book and I went back home. On trying to open the door, I heard Angela talking to someone on the phone saying she would find a way to kill us so she can take over your properties. I still have the recording with me because I recorded everything."*
*"When I got inside, she was shocked and ran into the kitchen to pick up a knife. All I did was self-defence. I defended myself and collected the knife and it mistakenly slit her throat. I was so afraid of killing someone, I ran back outside pretending as if nothing happened."*
*"No one was around then and I didn't know how my bracelet fell off my pocket."*
*They got to know who killed Angela and after taking Jude to the court and realizing he tried defending himself, he was sentenced to 5 years imprisonment. After the Jail term was completed, he went back home to meet his Mom and they both continued with their lives, never to adopt any child again.*
*All Mrs Chuks wanted then was a baby as she put pressure on her husband. Two years later, her husband died after adopting Angela and it was then she knew she was pregnant and gave birth to Jude.*
Thanks for reading.
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[June 04, 2022] (No 155 articles for the year) https://read.cash/@Princessbusayo/an-opportunity-i-am-grateful-for-e104853e#june-03-2022-no-154-articles-for-the-year
An opportunity I am grateful for
*"Success is where preparation and opportunity meet".*
Bobby Unser https://www.brainyquote.com/quotes/bobby_unser_126431?src=t_opportunity
So, let's continue with the gratitude challenge and I would be jumping off to Day 7 which says the opportunity I am grateful for.
What do you call an opportunity? It's a favourable circumstance or occasion. We all have some circumstances that happen which will be considered a favour because of the benefits we are enjoying from it. What are you enjoying now? As long as you are alive and walking freely on earth, you are favoured because there is hope that you would achieve a lot if you don't give up.
Being alive for me, is a big opportunity because God favoured me to still keep me breathing and I am very sure there are still many things I would achieve. Though one of my achievements is being a University Graduate and it's because I am alive. Can a dead person graduate? Can a dead person walk or eat? Can a dead person even make plans for the future? A dead person is gone and can never try anything, but your being alive should make you grateful to God for keeping you.
Another opportunity I am so grateful for is showing me different blogging platforms where I can earn and also improve my writing. I have always been happy to be alive to see such moments where I needed to work for money and take care of myself. I am not a lazy person and I am not a *"lack of ambition"* girl. I know what is right for me and I believe money can do a few of what I need in life. Being surrounded with opportunities online is what I am always grateful for because it means I don't have to depend on anyone including my family except if they send something. I don't have to keep waiting for someone to help me with little cash to help me survive.
Since God has provided this opportunity for me, why won't I work hard to make it? These blogging platforms are just a side hustle for me compared to working in my career line to make it but at least for now, I am surviving. What would I have done if I hadn't met these platforms? What would I be doing now? Of course, I would be on the road to finding just any job to make ends meet. This country is so hard that you just have to use your common sense to find something to feed with.
At this moment, only a few work to build their future because many work just to keep surviving each day but if you are here, you are working for both, then be grateful for such an opportunity because many want to be who we are and where we are. To some, if they don't find something to do for a day, they would starve, so they work to put food on the table for the day before another day comes and they are in the same circle again.
No matter how little you get from this kind of opportunity, you should thank God because you are still getting something compared to someone who doesn't even have any source of income but depends on what falls to the ground. It's such a pity though seeing people suffering this way but they don't have an option as we do.
We have a place to lay our heads at night. We have little food to manage for the day. There is water to drink and bathe with. Others are struggling to get this. This is an opportunity I enjoy from God and all I can say is I am favoured.
Someone asked me yesterday how life after school is. I said it is boring because no one would send pocket money again since they know I have finished school and they are even expecting me to stay with them at home. At least I am not begging anyone and God has been the one sustaining me with this opportunity that has surrounded me.
If I hadn't come across this opportunity, perhaps I would be at home praying and expecting a job to take care of myself but here I am all alone and doing what I need to do to be able to help myself. It is because I am favoured.
Do what you can now. Make use of every opportunity and in the end, be grateful for what you have achieved from the opportunity even if it is little. Still better than nothing. Live in the moment. Enjoy yourself and don't forget your health is important. If you leave this world, this stuff will continue while others will keep enjoying it. So, take care of your health very well. It's very important.
Thanks for reading.
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[June 03, 2022] (No 154 articles for the year)
Some people are fake (My experience)
*“People wears a mask of lie so they look attractive , so be careful”*
Muhammad Saqib https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/fake-people
It´s the second day of the month and gradually, we are moving forward until the last day of the month. Good morning everyone. Yesterday was so funny for me. I already edited my article to be posted at 11 am and I was waiting for the time so I can hit the publish button until I forgot. I thought I had posted and was doing other things until at 12:20 pm when I needed to come back to readcash and saw *"not yet published"*, I laughed at myself but was sad too because I missed that time I needed to have posted, but it´s all gone, it won´t repeat itself again.
Three days ago, something happened to me and I just couldn´t stop laughing at myself, but I was also being careful too with some people disguising to be real but fake. One needs to just really be careful not to fall into their hands.
Since last year, I have been watching this mount zion movie titled "Abattoir". It´s a Christian movie by a popular ministry called **"Mount Zion"** and also in seasons. Many Nigerians would be familiar with this. I do enjoy their movies because it helps my spiritual life too and there are so many things to learn from their movies. I enjoyed the series and I head over to Youtube to give my comment on one of the son´s page and how I loved watching the movie. Season 4 will be out but I don't know when.
Three days ago, I got a notification that the same guy replied to my comment and when I opened it to read, he prayed for me and the content was like telling me to sow a seed to one orphanage home in the Southern part of Nigeria and the user dropped a Whatapp number for me to contact the person in charge so the account number would be forwarded to me. He said the reason I am sowing a seed is that God showed him a woman holding a mirror to monitor my life and by sowing the seed, I will be free. 😂😂
At first, I wanted to believe it because the name of the person is also Damilola Bamiloye. I calmed myself down and checked his profile, only to find out that there was no subscriber. I then discovered he faked his account by using another person´s name. I checked the original Damilola with thousands of subscribers, and that was when I knew he impersonated the son of Mike Bamiloye who is the owner of Mount Zion Ministries. I just couldn´t stop laughing and was like *"people are in need of money seriously".*
Impersonation has always been happening for a long time and they target those who are already popular and famous with a large number of subscribers, thereby faking their identity to deceive people by collecting their money using different styles. I know how to pray to save myself and not you telling me to sow a seed unless I am convinced by God to do it.
This same experience made me remember another one some years back even before my mummy died. This man came disguised as a pastor one afternoon and on a Friday and met me in the shop. I was alone that day while my mom went to meet one of her friends not far from the shop. The next thing was for him to start revealing things he said he saw in the spirit, saying to me that my destiny is great and God sent him to me so he could sponsor me abroad to finish my studies. I was smiling and I knew it was all lies but I just had to play along. He kept saying gibberish from his mouth that if I would believe him, he would take me to the US. I looked at this man, he has never been to the airport not to talk of flying a plane 😂
As he was speaking, my parents arrived and he couldn´t continue until he changed the topic. My dad was listening to him while he started complimenting me to my dad saying I am a good child. He then gave me some scriptural passages to read when I get home, he only did this because of my Dad and while leaving, we gave him a big slice of bread we were selling which he accepted and left.
The next day, he came back and met me alone again and he continued from where he stopped but with a different story. He said he told his sister about me and she would be happy seeing and knowing me. The next thing was for him to start talking about marrying him. 🤣 They have planned on kidnapping me if their plans work out.
Sincerely, it wasn´t a funny thing again when he sighted another young lady, left me alone and went to meet her. To cut the long story short, he went to woo my mom again and he received the worst insult of his life, he left and never came back.
A year later, one of my colleagues where I worked as a teacher narrated her experience of meeting with a pastor who wanted to marry her, and after describing him, I immediately knew it was the same man that came to me. I quickly told my friend my experience too and that was when I knew he has been going around to deceive young girls and not guys. Whoever falls for his tricks and lies would definitely regret it.
Some people are really dangerous and would do anything to make money. Can you imagine the second experience I had with that fake pastor? I believe he was sent to engage in such and once he gets hold of his prey, that is the end, perhaps would kill such a girl in exchange for money.
This is why I don´t believe these people who are disguised as real pastors to reveal everything about your life and once you believe them, you have just sold your life to them. One thing about me is that I don´t easily believe such people especially when they go around to collect money from you.
This was how my friend took me out last year to a church because she thinks I need a pastor to do some work for me for a life partner. I didn´t want to go but I just had to play along and when I got to this white garment church, my mind went off completely when the man started listing things I would get, over 20k ($40+), I told the man I am a student but he said I should get those items. I never stepped foot there till today because I know how these churches act. I am sorry if you are a member of this kind of church, but that is the truth. I was also born and brought up in a white garment church and I know what they do. My mind doesn´t align with such practices.
So, we need to be careful out there when you are being billed for money to help you to solve some problem. Some people have been into many problems all in the name of believing these fake pastors to help resolve things in their lives and those who stupidly fall into such tricks are those who are very desperate.
Be careful out there.
Thanks for reading.
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[June 02, 2022] (No 153 articles for the year)
Some beautiful words/tips for you
*“Each and every month I get so excited because it’s such a good opportunity to start something new! Make your dreams come true! You have everything you need for it. Happy new month!”*
– **Unknown**
It's amazing to see the month of June and not just that, it's already the half month of the year 2022. In six months' time, we would be saying goodbye to this year. How fast is this year, we are excited to see each day being alive.
I have said this before and will continue to say it; Every day that I wake up, I feel optimistic about the day and I am always sure of a greater day ahead and it has been working for me. Do you know how it is done?
I found a quote while reading Napoleon Hills' book titled ***"Think and Grow Rich"***. Have you read it?
*Every man is what he is, because of the DOMINATING THOUGHTS which he permits to occupy his mind.*
What do you allow into your mind? What do you reject in your mind? This life is connected and it is what you feed your mind with, that will reflect the outside.
What we allow to dominate our thoughts is so powerful that it sends a signal to the brain and is being acted upon. The mind is so powerful and it starts from our thoughts. What do we think of or about much?
I was talking to us about dealing with problems yesterday and I really enjoyed your comments because you actually gave wonderful ideas and feedback from your mind and I learnt more things again.
When we are faced with problems, we are what we are with how we allow those thoughts to dominate our minds. Is it positive or negative thoughts you allow in?
*If you think you can't solve the problems, so it is.*
*If you think you are a failure, yes, you are*
*If you think you have the ability to make success, of course, you can because it is what you feed your mind with that will bring into action those thoughts you have allowed to dominate you.*
This is where autosuggestion works. It's a form of self-induced suggestions in which individuals guides their thoughts, feelings or behaviour. While autosuggestion is a positive affirmation, it still can't do the work of making things work out well except you continuously guide your thoughts by erasing negative thoughts away and start making positive affirmations consistently and daily until the autosuggestion works perfectly to help guide your thoughts, feelings and behaviour.
Do you consistently read books?
There is a great possibility that you keep a positive mindset when you read inspiring books. It's really important to read books because there are great advantages you will enjoy from them.
*Let's do it this way;*
When you take a book, it represents a dot and this dot needs more connection to create something perhaps a circle. This dot represents an idea and until you connect those dots together, you cannot have ideas. So, the more you read books, the more dot you connect until you have great ideas. Many successful people actually read books to have knowledge.
*When you do not read books, you go blank, all ideas disappears, until you pick an inspiring book and you'd wondered where did all ideas went to? Those blank spaces begin to fill in and you are loaded. Do not stop reading books*
- Princessbusayo
When you read books, ideas start flowing in. This is not merely saying but it is a fact I have come to know and has happened to me a lot of times. In fact, with what I am putting down, I got the idea while reading *"Think and Grow Rich"* and I was surprised to see how they were filling my blank mind.
Try reading a book or more this month and see the great transformation. I will leave you to watch this video on YouTube to check more benefits or why you should keep reading books. Youtube link https://youtu.be/A-jzAyOO6d4
Then the last I would want to tell us is that of **Faith**. This month, you need to activate faith in yourself. Just as you have been faced with problems, have faith that they would be solved because *"Faith is the real antidote for failure".*
Have faith that you can make it even when you have failed many times. Don't stop moving. Don't give up because you have failed. Let it be in your mind that faith is what makes the impossible possible and the antidote for failure.
Thanks for reading
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[June 01, 2022] (No 152 articles for the year) https://read.cash/@Princessbusayo/something-happened-years-ago-f827512b#may-29-2022-no-149-articles-for-the-year
Do you think there is a problem?
*"Do you think there is a problem? No, there is not. You just need the right key to unlock the door, because using the wrong key will keep you confused and stay put in a place".*
Princessbusayo
One thing about us is that we tend to be anxious and feel nervous whenever we are faced with any problems even if they are just little that don't need to worry over. Problems are part of life and until you learn how to deal with them, instead of brooding over them, they will keep scaring you away when you are supposed to find solutions to them.
When problems attack, you should attack back by you finding solutions to clear them off you. Why worry when you know your worries can't solve them? Why being depressed when you should face and clear them off your way?
One fact to know is that you aren't the first person to go through that problem, many have experienced it in the past and few had to solve it while others because they were afraid took their lives.
If you solve the problems ahead of you, you aren't the first person to do that.
If you commit suicide because you feel the problems are too much for you to handle, you aren't still the first person to do that.
We all have our decisions to make and how you want to deal with your problems is over to you to decide and if you think you want to end it or let it end you, it's left to you alone. Your problems will always visit you if you don't take action in dealing with them. But the one good truth there is that no matter how big your problem is, it cannot be too much for God to handle.
Why worry then when all you can do is talk to God? Why worry then when you believe that God is able to take those challenges away from your path so you can walk freely with no disturbances.
Another truth is that God will never allow a bigger problem that you wouldn't be able to overcome to get close to you. He knows your strength and weakness but if you think you aren't strong enough to tackle those small problems, then why are you living?
Problems are created to make us strong and we would never get away with problems because when you try solving one, another one suffice but don't fret because when they keep coming, God will keep pushing them away by your own efforts.
God will never help you take those problems away if you don't learn to talk to God about them. He wants you to speak up. He wants you to see Him as someone who is able to help you out but if you think you don't need Him or anyone, you are only deceiving yourself.
A closed mouth is a closed destiny. If you can't speak up when the fire is burning you from within, how do you want people to know you are going through a lot? Speak up and let people help you.
Don't assume they understand you. Everyone has their own problems they are battling with and if you don't open up to the real and trusted ones, you will only be disappointed in yourself and not anyone.
God has placed some set of people to help us in our journey of life and it is until you pray to Him to send help, that nothing will be done.
One thing about me is that I love to say *"there's no problem"* even if there is one because I know my worries cannot do anything. My sitting down in one place and not taking any action cannot bring a solution to my doorstep, I need to move out and do what I need to do.
If you are able to trust God and talk to Him about your situation, He is always available to help you out. He only needs to stretch His arm to the ones who come to Him for help and just His hands alone can change things in the right order.
I don't know why I am saying this today but I was just sitting down and I started having this thought and felt like sharing it with us. No problem is bigger than God and if only you can learn to gaze at Him and believe He can handle them for you.
Don't think of committing suicide or doing the wrong thing because you want those problems to end. That's definitely a wrong idea for you. If you die, the problem will be there but you are gone, what do you gain?
We need to learn how to face our fears and talk to the right people who are willing to help us anytime. There are still good people out there who understand the true meaning of **humanity**. These are people God has placed for some kinds of people and these kinds are those who believe and trust God.
There will not be a problem if you believe there is none since you have trusted God to help you out. Be positive about things and don't get worried or worked up over those mere problems. You aren't the first person to witness it and you will never be the last to experience it. We only need to identify our problems and use the right methods to overcome them.
Thanks for reading.
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[May 31, 2022] (No 151 articles for the year) https://read.cash/@Princessbusayo/something-happened-years-ago-f827512b#may-29-2022-no-149-articles-for-the-year
Can I be more active again?
*"Your Monday morning thoughts set the tone for your whole week. See yourself getting stronger, and living a fulfilling, happier and healthier life".*
– Germany Kent https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/a39775557/monday-quotes/
I slept in my room last night and I felt great relief again. This is what I have been wanting for two weeks or more since I got to my Aunt's place but it seems the days were getting longer the more I keep counting down to when I would leave.
I complained of backache due to stress and draining of my body that made me inactive for those days and every night, I sleep with a sad mind that I didn't do much online and that alone was affecting my account too. Every night, I would use paracetamol just to keep strong for the next day's work again and it continued that way for two weeks.
I left her place yesterday on a journey back to my abode, as usual, it was a stressful journey but I am glad I am back to resuming activities online and getting more active.
When my aunt saw I would be leaving, she felt sad and already missed me but I just had to go. I was so affected in my body that standing for a few minutes became a problem as I developed pain around my legs and hips.
After working, I would still be the one to prepare the three meals in a day, I wasn't complaining about cooking, no I didn't but I need rest too but when it is getting to taking full rest at night only while the day would be to run up and down, go there, go here without sitting down, it becomes a big problem.
As I said, she is really a workaholic that doesn't rest. She took three tablets of paracetamol on Sunday night and I was shocked. I told her she should only take two tablets and that three was much. She replied saying she has been taking three and has been used to it, in fact, three is what works for her to be stronger for the next day. I reminded her to always take her rest but she would only nod her head in a positive way but she has in mind what to do.
My Aunt would be relocating soon back to our state, though she would rent a house somewhere not very far from our hometown so she could always see her mother too. She already told everyone she would stop dry-cleaning work but it baffled my sister to hear that she is still receiving clothes to wash till now.
The work she does all alone is too much for her age and only if she would consider her health too. She likes to work and one thing about her is that she never leaves anyone to do the work but wanting us to be like her is always my problem.
I like to work but when it's becoming something I have to sacrifice my health with, it's expensive and I can't do it.
When I left her home yesterday, I was relieved and happy too even though she wanted me to stay but she was happy also that I helped her to do the major work which she is satisfied with but why did she want me to stay more is help her prepare meals so it won't be like working all day and still go to the kitchen to make her meals but it is not possible to be with her forever even if I needed to stay some more time. The day I would leave will come and definitely, I will go. That is life. When you keep postponing your day of leaving a particular place and someday you still would leave, so nothing is permanent in this world except you live a holy life to live eternally with Christ.
I did a surprise for my friends here as I didn't inform anyone of my coming except the lady I call my bestie who has always been helping to take care of my room when I am not around.
I was even surprised they killed a big snake days ago and I was happy it didn't hurt anyone. According to my bestie, the snake was trying to enter her room when she was not around but couldn't and had to lie still on a table beside her room. Thank God it didn't enter because if it does, no one would know. She will never know she is living with a snake inside, only for the snake to keep coming out and going in whenever it likes. People came in at the right time and killed it.
Everyone was happy to see me as they were carrying and shaking me, Lol. When I got home, I had to take care of my room and did some things in there. Before I left some months ago, I had already done some work and that made it a little less easy for me yesterday.
By the time I finished after three hours, I took a nap and rested before coming online to do something.
This morning, I woke up feeling great and I know it would be an amazing week for me here without anyone disturbing me again.
I hope you enjoyed my rant this morning😁
Thanks for reading
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[May 30, 2022] (No 150 articles for the year) https://read.cash/@Princessbusayo/something-happened-years-ago-f827512b#may-29-2022-no-149-articles-for-the-year
Something happened years ago
*"Think smart, work smarter. Achieve great results. Happy new week".*
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This day was a big day I learnt a big lesson. Never share your issues at home with your friend, he or she might give you the wrong advice, and if you must talk to someone and need advice, listen to him or her talking, then give it thorough thinking to see if it is good advice or not and if you think it might destroy things, ignore it immediately, else, you might regret telling another person your problem.
I talked about my childhood friend yesterday and that made me remember an experience some years ago, that should be about 17 years ago while I was in Junior Secondary School. My friend's mom was a weak and gentle woman and her husband was a driver who drives a bus every day in Lagos. This parent was always seen quarrelling every day and this woman wouldn't do anything but keep mute while her husband would keep insulting and beating her every day in the presence of their children.
This woman went to report to her friend who also was living in the same compound as us. This same woman was the opposite of my friend's mother. She doesn't agree with her husband and would always talk back. She never allowed her husband to rest in the house. Let's say my friend's mom was woman A while the other woman B. Woman A went to explain her problem to B and that was the beginning of a big problem she would always regret in her life.
Woman B advised that next time the man is trying to beat her, she should drag his "big man" under his trouser and bite it hard. She said that was what she always do to her husband and told her to not be gentle again because the man will just be taking advantage of her.
On this day, the man decided not to go to work but to rest. This woman A already developed liver and has been advised, her eyes were opened and ever since then has always given this man trouble in the house. The man was surprised at the sudden change and wondered who taught his wife to change words with him. The woman refused and told the man he must go out to work because their last born couldn't go to school because of school fees. After much pressure on the man, he angrily left home and on his way, he was hit by a trailer and died instantly.
We were still in school when my mom rushed to call us home. My friend was confused and started asking my mom question but she didn't say anything until we got home and found people wailing and crying in my friend's room. It was there the woman started confessing and explaining how she was told to act to her husband and that if she had known, she wouldn't have pushed her husband out on that day. The man died because of his wife's trouble that day and that alone taught me a big lesson.
As young as I was then, I remembered this story and how my friend's dad died a brutal death. It was really painful but what has been done had been done and there is nothing to do to change the circumstances again.
I forgot the lesson in it, I was just sitting last night, trying to find something to write on and I remembered this incident and made me wonder if I had always had this story and lesson on my palm till today, perhaps I wouldn't have seen the other side of those I talked to about my personal life but one thing about me is that I would know if the advice given to me is a good one or not.
When you receive advice from people, it's not a must you act on all of them, scrutinize deeply and check the ones that are good for you because you can't go with every piece of advice else, you would fail on your path to success. This is why we are made to understand that we should follow our hearts because the heart will never disappoint us.
Learn to listen but think before acting on any words given to you.
Thanks for reading
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[May 29, 2022] (No 149 articles for the year)
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