About yesterday

“The great prize in dating is Christ-centered clarity. Intimacy is safest in the context of marriage and marriage is safest in the context of clarity. The purpose of our dating is to determine whether the two of us should get married, so we should focus our effort there”.

Marshall Segal

Thank God our fathers were so happy yesterday because they were celebrated even though it wouldn't still be enough since it feels like a partiality, celebrating mother's day almost every month but theirs only comes once in the year. Does that mean they aren't celebrated? Of course, they are, especially to the wife who feels like celebrating her king every day.

Before now, I have made up my mind to always celebrate my husband once I get married. I will always honour and appreciate his love and responsibilities to the family. This isn't merely saying but it's what I will do because I feel that is one of the best things a wife should always do to her husband and this would make the man keep loving her.

There are the real and good fathers out there that need to be given this medal and should keep applauding them for the great work they have been doing. If you think mothers are the ones to be celebrated more, perhaps you should think twice because I would say both of them are the heroes here.

Even though the mothers are the owners of the home, trying to build their families and make sure the children are doing fine, we have some kind husbands who are always there too and know that they shouldn't leave the work alone to their wives.

We have some unserious men who would leave all duties of the home to their wives and stand by their words that they already paid their dowries, so they have become their slaves and this is where you see many broken homes because there isn't understanding and agreement between them.

Yesterday, I saw Olasquare posted on his status where he was feeding his baby while the little princess was watching from her tab. I just smiled and I could see a fatherly role in him. He didn't just start it, but it is what he has always done and helped relieve his wife. I do pray for an understanding man through him for myself.

If you are married, did you appreciate your man yesterday? If not, then I think you should because going out to make money isn't easy. You don't know what some men are going through just to provide for the family. They are the pillars of the home and the shoulder on which the wife and children lean on.

While in church, my pastor took his time to discuss relationship topics and not just ordinary relationships or marriage talks, but a godly one. There is always a need to always pray to God for a happy partner and home because without Christ being the foundation of your home, it will crumble.

He spoke of different types of courtship, even though it was a funny moment but we all enjoyed the atmosphere yesterday.

He called the first one “Wrong courtship”. This involves a relationship between a believer and an unbeliever which is very wrong because if you want to believe me, if both eventually get married, there would be lots of problems. It's just like light and darkness coming together. There would be disunity and disagreement even though one would bow to the other in the end.

Such a marriage won't last except if both of them try to leave each other while still courting and praying to God for the best rib.

He called the second one “Nicodemus courtship”. If you could remember in the Bible where Nicodemus went to meet Jesus at night asking how he could be saved? According to what my pastor said, this kind of courtship is when a partner is pretending to be what he is not and deceiving the other partner.

He narrated a story where a man came to him with sweet words, wanting to get married to a sister staying with the pastor. This man said he has a Masters's degree, he is working at the moment and it's the reason he hasn't gotten married as he wants to settle down with the sister in question. After six months, through the help of the Holy Spirit, my pastor knew he already had three children in the village and abandoned them. If not for the spirit, the sister would surely regret the marriage if they later end up marrying each other.

He then called the third one “Balanced and Purposeful courtship”. This is the one God has hand in it. A courtship that is pure and not filthy.

In his preaching, he made it interactive where he asked some of us what kind of home we dream of. Some said a home with a blissful atmosphere, a home that is peaceful and Godly, with which Christ is the foundation. This is something I want and desire too and I am working towards it through prayer and also trying to learn from people's experiences both from those whose marriage is sour and one whose marriage is still standing strong in the Lord.

I pray for all singles out there that God will give to us the perfect rib and to those who are into it already, the strength and wisdom to keep it going, God will give to you. I wish us a happy new week.

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