Who is a wife material?
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How do you qualify a lady to be a wife material? When a lady can cook, take care of the house, and the children, not be lazy, be very hardworking etc. These are some qualities many people see to make them conclude, that the lady is ready to get married and be a good wife.
I couldn't stop laughing on Twitter when I saw a man tweeted this. According to him, a lady going to spend the weekend at her boyfriend's place should not be told what to do before she knows she needs to get up early to do some of her duty in the house as wife material.
This made me remember a time I went to spend the weekend at my boyfriend's place and that night, I cooked and cleaned everywhere. The next day, I was up early and started preparing breakfast for him and his friend who came around that day. Where did the relationship end today? 😅
I think we aren't getting something somewhere because I wouldn't even accept a lady going to visit her boyfriend and start waking up early just to act as a wife material when you aren't sure of where the relationship is going except you know it would be leading to marriage because some guys do not appreciate that. So why stressing yourself?
I saw a guy washing his clothes outside one day and someone asked where was his girlfriend? The guy said something I held onto to this day “She isn't my wife yet and so, I must do my thing except she asks for it”.
Being in a relationship doesn't make you start washing, cleaning, and doing everything in his home, except you want to cook which both of you would eat. I am not sounding irrational here but that is how I see it. Except I know where the relationship is leading to, would I even want to spend some weekend at his place and that alone wouldn't make me not to do something. At least I am in someone's house and not mine.
Also, not waking up early at a man's house doesn't mean I am lazy too even though I don't sleep beyond 6 am except if I am sick or weak.
I saw different comments and they were so funny.
A lady was surprised and commented. She said this was another new insight because she isn't getting what the man is saying. According to her, what if as a tech lady who is always working every night all through, would she also be expected to wake up at 8 am to prepare food or clean the house for him? Does that mean she isn't a wife material?
Seriously, I don't know what to say because I need to ask if serving a lady breakfast in the morning is now a crime? 😆😆
A friend asked me sometimes back if I would work on the first day at my fiance's parent's house? I smiled and said the parents wouldn't want to test me on that very day their son brought me home to introduce me.
The truth is, if I am staying over at their house, I would still want to act as a stranger the first day and wouldn't want to be too forward except if I was asked to, but the next day, it means I am no longer a stranger but part of the family. So, I might just help with some little task that doesn't require putting all my energy. If they want to use that to test me, that would be unfair 😅😅
Another guy commented that he broke up with a lady because she came to spend two days at his place and didn't even touch the broom and she only took her bath once a day. He said the lady didn't know till now why he broke up with her. That's unfair na. At least she needs to know so she can change.
Why would a lady even visit her boyfriend and stays for a few days and never touch a broom to sweep? And the worse is having her bath only once a day? 😁😁
I know how I feel if I don't take my bath at night before sleeping and this is what I do always. So, as a lady, you should practice being clean and neat in all areas. Some ladies would wear their bras for a week🤣🤣 Why na?
Twitter had just made my day early this morning and I decided to share them with you here.
As a lady, if you need to spend the weekend or weeks at your boyfriend's or fiance's house, then you should do your duty because it would be embarrassing if he is a neat guy and you can't be that way. These are some of the things men see in a lady and conclude they would marry. Be neat and organized.
Now, let me leave you with this question as I saw it as a comment too. A lady said she went to her boyfriend's house and met everywhere dirty. The kitchen, bathroom and bedroom were stinking and she had to do her part to clean them up as she couldn't stay in such a home.
If you are the lady, what would you do? Leave the relationship? Talk to him if he would change? Endure and keep doing things for him? Remember you are still courting and not married yet.
Thanks for reading
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[July 20, 2022] (No 201 articles for the year)
Though I'm not a lady, my contribution can still count. I speak for a lot of guys here: whenever a lady we like is coming around, we always do our best to arrange the room and keep things neat. Then in the uni, when a flatmate is bringing a girl home, he will call those at home to tidy the house... So for a guy to leave everywhere dirty when he is expecting his woman, that's irresponsible.
If you are the lady, what would you do? This depends on the situation. Is it a reoccurring stuff? Did she visit unexpectedly (because sometimes someone we get to engaged in activities and barely make out time to clean) - so if she visits unannounced, she is likely to meet everywhere dirty.
So if it's just a one-time thing, well there will likely be a reason, and it's not a cause for alarm.
But if that's who is, then it's up to the lady to decide if she can tolerate cleaning after him for as long as they are together - as it will be hard for him to change.