Yesterday was another end of a week and here comes another week which people tagged as the first Sunday in the month of December and would be the last "first Sunday" of the year. So far so good, it was an amazing weekend and looking forward to a beautiful week again even though I don't always like Mondays but I do not have a choice but to keep waiting for Wednesday to arrive so it would mean the end of another lecture week.
I called my younger sister yesterday evening and asked her to lend me some money till a speculated time period to return it to her and she brought an issue to me and she was really scared and bothered about it.
This was how it happened.....
I guess my Dad reported us to his brother's wife that she should talk to us, that is I, my elder and younger sisters about having a man in our lives. The woman called us seperately and asked of our personal lives which I told her God will do it when it's time. Then, my younger sister decided to gist my Aunt (Dad's Younger sister) who lives in the U.S because both of them are like 5 and 6. They understand each other and talks everyday through WhatsApp. My sister, according to her gisted her about the stuff.
That was how my Aunt flared up and was like "what is the woman's problem? What has she done to us? Has she ever contributed money for us while in school? Why is she now concerned about our marital lives?"
My sister was already fidgeting and getting scared when she heard my Aunt wanted to call her and insult her telling her to mind her business.
Now, my sister is blaming herself for telling Aunt. She thought it to be gisting to her as they normally gist but didn't know the issue would escalate.
She asked me if what she did was wrong which I said no. She was like wanting to call our elder sister to ask if she did the wrong thing telling our Aunt. I said to her
"Titi, you don't have to be bothered about this issue. You never knew she would take it seriously. We all have individual differences and the way she took the matter, another person might just take it as a joke. It's normal to happen that way. You just have to keep begging her not to call the woman and not to insult her. So, don't be bothered because if you call big sis, she will also say same thing I said. You did no wrong thing telling her".
I made her know Dad is to be blamed because I know he was the one who told the woman to ask about our marital statuses so Aunt should call her brother who is our father and talk to him.
This is a way of putting pressure on us to get married just because others are getting married. No one should force us into doing something they will not follow us to live with. It's our lives and we need to take things slowly and also be careful.
I just kept calming my sister down because she was scared the woman might not call us anymore. I told her it's nothing and I don't care if the woman calls or not. She doesn't call any of us before not until the day she called to ask about my marital status. I was even shocked when she called because she isn't that type to call us to ask how we are fairing.
Now, she told me to keep my phone on because she might call me in case the issue is up and it becomes something else 😄
In fact my Aunt in the U.S has already called another Aunt of ours who is a lecturer in the University of Benin who is also her elder sister and right now, the issue has gone beyond my sister's control because it has concerned the family.
My sister kept asking me "Busayo, did I do wrong telling her?" I said No, you didn't.
I just had to calm her down then because my sister is always this bothered lady.
To me, I feel my Uncle's wife talking about marriage to us is trying to be concerned but not like someone who doesn't call us or even had a penny on us since we entered school. This woman doesn't call me at all, I was even shocked she called that day and after the normal greeting, she was like "Busayo, is there any man in your life?" I smiled and immediately knew it was from Dad because he has also disturbed me twice on this matter.
Anyways, that is it for now. Let me ask you guys
"Did my sister did the wrong thing gisting my Aunt about the matter?"
Remember, she only gisted not knowing Aunt would flare up.
Thanks for reading
|December 05, 2021|
Of course, she did no wrong and I would add to your Anty's voice to ask that person to mind his/her business. Our African relatives must stop putting pressure on our girls which often makes them fall into the wrong marriage. Marriage is God's own time for everyone.