She has a paranoid personality disorder.
“It's amazing where the paranoid mind can take you.”
Those with a personality disorder will never admit they have one, even when confronted because it is impossible to see everyone without one or two personality disorders. Someone who would knowingly admit he or she has it is rare because many of us do not take our time to understand the types of personality disorders.
Ever since I came across the types of personality disorder, I have studied and seen where I belong, and it is more than one that I have. But other people will still stand by their claims that they do not have and this happens when they aren't ready to learn and study carefully to observe where they belong to.
One thing about me is that I tend to observe someone, especially when such a person is around me. I took my time to study this lady in my compound with the way she behaves toward everyone and it makes me feel sad to see how she reacts to every situation and always aggressive.
I don't know why someone would find pleasure in fighting always, instead of showing maturity. She tries to flare up at any little issue and it makes me wonder how on earth would any human being act in such a way, forgetting that where we are presently isn't the end because, in one way or the other, we will find ourselves in some places in the future which would leave our mouth widely opened in surprise.
Where we are now shouldn't be limited to meeting each other because humans are like water, just as I do say.
This lady is still my friend because I don't have an enemy and I do not intend to make or form one because I know this isn't the only place we would meet ourselves. I tend to act gently to everyone around me and I am always careful not to have any misunderstandings even before leaving a particular place.
I love everyone and I smile at them. I show them kindness in my little way and in all, I make friends with young and old. Why would I even keep malice in me in the first place? I don't know how to do it and I don't pretend.
Anytime I greet this lady, she answers with her nose and I observed she does to everyone in the compound. She has made all of us enemies without any cause. She might have a little misunderstanding with someone today and tomorrow, she will never greet you again even when the other person has forgotten and would return to greeting her, but she just chose to be that way.
She is a toxic person and I don't want such an association with her. This does not mean I categorize her as an enemy. No! There is a difference between hating someone completely and avoiding any toxic relationship, especially for your growth. You need to stay away from them because such a person will only bring you down since they don't have anything to offer.
Some symptoms I observed in her that made me categorize her as being paranoid are;
She is untrusting. When you see someone you cannot trust or keep your secret with them, they have this personality disorder. I once made a post about her when we were living together in my first year at the University. Everything I told her about me, she would relate all to her school father. The day I knew, I stopped telling her about me. I couldn't trust her anymore and she lost such trust in me ever since that day.
She is unforgiving. Till today, she is still keeping malice with me even when we have sorted the issue a long time ago. She keeps everyone in her mind and any little issue, she never forgets and would use that against you by not answering you even when you talk to her. No one has ever stopped greeting her but she doesn't answer us.
Interpreting the actions of others as deliberately threatening and demeaning. She fought with someone some time ago and ever since then, she has been trying not to associate with the person. Once she sees the person coming from the right side, she quickly turns the left which is always obvious and most times, when I see this, I just smile because to me, she doesn't need that. She is mature enough to understand when to let go of things completely and not think everyone she fights with is threatening her.
Prone to anger or aggressive outbursts. This is the part that makes me laugh about her because she is always getting angry every moment and if anyone should cross her boundary, she would unleash her aggressiveness in her.
There was a day I wanted to wash some clothes and she spreads her clothes in a way that even if another person should spread clothes, there would still be space. I went to meet her to make her readjust her clothes. While talking to her, I knew she wasn't ready to hear me out and find something to get angry but since I know the kind of person I am dealing with, I had to be gentle.
She is always finding every means for people to step on her toes and once that happens, she would flare up and start a fight. This is why everyone in the compound has always been careful not to step on her, and seeing her, she isn't comfortable but wanted to fight by all means 😂😂😂😂 such a weird being I have ever seen around me.
These are some signs of a paranoid person I have observed in her.
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[September 13, 2022] (No 255 articles for the year)
What a poor attitude she has. Someday and she will be left alone and no one will talk to her anymore and her life would be the saddest.