I was jealous of her.

“He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.”

Buddha

I missed showing up at the hangout on Discord yesterday and I was pained because I didn't go anywhere even the church program that took place. Since I joined the workforce in church, I have been missing the Hive Learners hangout every Saturday but yesterday I didn't go anywhere, I forgot to attend. Though the rain fell all through yesterday. Perhaps that made me forget until, after the end of the program, I saw I was tagged in my notification and I remembered the fun moment.

The Hive Learners would always come around every Saturday to vote for different questions for the week. Five questions are sent to the group and everyone would vote their choice. Whichever three questions get the highest votes would be the weekly edition for this week starting from Monday to Saturday.

When I saw the questions, one of the questions I suggested wasn't picked. Then, I saw another favourite question I would like to write something on but wasn't picked, I decided I would write about it here to satisfy my urge in making a post about it because it's something I need to talk about.

Here is the question;

“We all have been in situations where we felt people were jealous of us for no reason. Or where we were jealous of others. Tell us about your experience with jealousy and how you were able to overcome it. You might be teaching someone”.

I don't think anyone of us hasn't been jealous of another person in different ways. You might see a particular dress on a person and you wished you could get it. You saw a shoe you admire so much and you wish the person putting it on should be you. You might see someone achieving something better than you and you feel you are the one.

Okay, let's leave that one and come down to what we do here. I have been jealous of many users here before. Seeing the huge upvote they get daily made me wish I was the one and most times, I would be discouraged not earning such an amount of money.

But do you know what? I was jealous, yes, I admit that but it made me work hard to get there too and one thing that kept me going and focusing on what I should do better was when I realized someone else behind me is jealous of my achievement here. I kept to that word and was busy doing my own and with time, I got over it because I was earning something too. If they could get it, why would mine be different?

It's normal to be jealous but it becomes abnormal when you are so obsessed to the extent of harming yourself or someone because they are doing better than you.

I have seen people being jealous of another on a platform to the extent that they spammed accounts because they weren't earning much more than them. Just as in the case of Uptrennd platform where I was. I was so surprised people could act in such a way. Instead of letting that encourage you to work hard and do your best, you start spamming and plagiarizing. That isn't the way, nigga.

Alright, this isn't where I am going because I have something I should narrate here. I was jealous of that person and today, it turned another way around because I saw myself doing better than her.

It happened in the year 2019 when I got admission for my degree studies. I and this friend were living together but something happened along the way which made us separated. I had wanted to be on my own though because I don't like pairing rooms with someone. Fights and misunderstandings will occur somehow and I don't want that.

She met a guy who was in the same department and level as us, he was living with us in the same compound but he is a little bit rich. That was how my friend clung to him and he made her school daughter.

To cut the long story short, this lady gave me her phone one day to hold for her while she went somewhere. Perhaps she wanted me to see for myself, I don't know, because it never happened before. Her phone beeped and I saw a notification of an alert where she was having #250,000. That was like $440+ or so.

Then I scanned through the amount in my account then and was having only $10 in my account. I felt jealous of her and wished the money was mine. I began to calculate the money and do some imaginary spendings in my mind. Then, I didn't have any other thing I was doing apart from Uptrennd and I haven't started earning much then.

I started reminding myself of my age and what I have presently when my mates are having thousands and billions and here I am having such little amount and it was what I had as pocket money.

Then suddenly, I came back to my senses and said something I will never forget. “I will have more than this one day”

I never knew when it would be but I had the belief I would, and ever since then, I stopped being jealous and minded my business.

Today, I can tell you that I have spent more than that through the blogging platforms I am in and doing better today than her. Whenever she hears that I am going out with some friends, she would come out to see what I was wearing.

I could say I make my money but she doesn't do anything apart from depending on this guy she calls her school father.

This all came to pass because I minded my business and did all I could. Sleepless nights, working hard daily to make sure I get something and so proud to be who I am today. Jealousy isn't my thing anymore because I believe that I can get what I wish for through prayers and hard work.

You can also do this. Praying for what you desire and keep working hard. Someone said, instead of wishing for something from someone that you could have, why not pray for it and at the same time work for it. Don't wish, instead take action and it is yours.

Stop being jealous but celebrate others, their achievement and wins. Then, you can be rest assured that you will be celebrated too.

Thanks for reading

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