How is my social life?
"She could be lively only in the midst of life; in isolation she dwindled to a shadow"
I went to Church yesterday evening and when I returned, my phone was almost getting drained and I had to charge it when I had the opportunity of someone putting on the Generator. I used the moment to take a shower and stayed outside with my phone.
I heard my neighbors discussing their social lives and it was interesting, I had to meddle into the discussion.
A guy was explaining how difficult it would be when a man who isn't social dates a social lady. Being social means when you are an extrovert, you like partying, making friends easily, you are always on vibe and know what the latest is in the world.
The man might find it hard coping with such a lady while she, on the other hand, would definitely see it as boring with such personality in him unless both come to strike a balance and perhaps be on a negotiation level and compromise.
Another lady started hers and narrated how introverted she is, that she can stay indoors for months without seeing the outside except she runs an errand at home.
Though, I can stay indoor too because I would say my social life is somehow boring, even though it is active virtually. I am the exact opposite when you see me physically and you would wonder "are you not the one who brings the vibe on during chatting online?"
This made me remember Gary Chapman's book titled "The Five Love Languages" where he explained two terms which are "Dead sea and Babbling Brook".
Dead sea is more like an introvert who wouldn't initiate a chat but would listen with rapt attention. They don't know how to talk much or even be humorous while Babbling Brook would keep talking without stopping and most times, the chat may end up being boring because you aren't interested anymore.
When a Babbling Brook dates a Dead Sea, there would be problem in the house because a Babbling Brook would expect you to talk and contribute to a discussion but you are only a person with few words and you are gone.
Same thing with a Dead Sea marrying a Babbling Brook especially when the Babbling Brook is a woman. Women are known to always talk even when they expect you to only listen to them but in most cases, if you don't talk, trouble is looming.
I am just like a Dead Sea because I don't know how to gist except you ask questions relating to my lifestyle and I answer you.
When a person comes to me and tells me to tell him about myself, it would only be short with my name and where I come from. I would prefer you ask questions and I answer you based on that.
I don't know how to initiate talks at first or even start a friendship. There are some who are really good at it. They can make friends within a minute and I am surprised how it is done.
Being an introvert is always hard in that aspect which I think I need help with too.
This is why I do pray that God should bless me with a man who is social and would bring me in too but we have to make it balance so it doesn't affect either of us.
When I attend an event, I don't spend time waiting or seeing what is being done because I get bored immediately. There are those who would stay till the end and there would be vibes all through. I really admire those people.
I spent more than seven years with my Aunt going to her church and I never had a friend who I moved closer to. Once the grace has been shared, I turn and start going home. My younger sister only came to visit for just two Sundays, she already had friends and even shared contact with. I was shocked and asked how she did that.
My sister's social life is awesome. She could make friends even in the bus while traveling but I can't. I would only use my earphones all through the journey without saying a word.
Like, what do I say to the other person sitting next to me? How do I start it? There, you will see some meddling into talks and boom, the conversation has gone to another level in the bus.
So, don't be surprised if I am the type that really loves chatting and bringing up topics to talk on but in reality, I become like a dead sea. This is my personality but you know one needs to at least be social too so you aren't left behind or mocked by others.
Till now, I still do not know the kinds of wines available or different foreign meals out there. I don't know how the future date is going to be. Even if you want to take me on a date, I would totally be a novice to the extreme. Lol
This is my social life and a bit of who I am. I hope you will understand me when we eventually meet someday. Don't be surprised I wouldn't be able to bring up a topic first and also don't scream when I don't contribute much to what you are saying. I am always listening rather than talking because I am short on words.
Thanks for reading
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[March 12, 2022] (No 71 article for the year)
I can understand you. You seem to describe me. I can never converse with anyone on a bus and sitting in a consulting room while others converse I just lift my head to see when it's my turn to go in the rest of the time I'm reading. I am not easy to make friends with.