Good parent, Bad child - continuation

"Everyone should have kids. They are the greatest joy in the world. But they are also terrorists. You’ll realize this as soon as they’re born, and they start using sleep deprivation to break you."

— Ray Romano

So, let´s continue from where we stopped yesterday. You can visit my previous article for the first write-up here

I made us to know that there are factors that could make children act out, despite being trained by great parents who wants the best for their children.

We talked about children being curious to know everything, up to the ones that aren´t important, because in the end, they are influenced negatively by their peers into doing wrong thing.

We learn as we grow. Also, we want to create new ideas because in the process, our mental abilities will be stronger when doing that. It´s important for children to get curious especially in their careers, but it is ideal for the parents to guide them instead of chasing them away. Another thing children are curious about is the development changes that occurs in their bodies.

They want to learn how it happens, they want to understand every part of their bodies and why such development is occurring. It will be awesome when their parents are in the position to sit them down and explain everything they need to know rather than asking from friends or even strangers.

Another factor is "wanting to experiment."

After a child has gotten the answer to a confused question, they want to experiment. They want to see it themselves and know how it is. A child who sees his or her friend taking alcohol and squeezing his or her face would ask questions, then would want to taste it too for a test, and gradually, such child is been taught how to drink alcohol.

A child who has not been taught the importance of keeping one´s virginity would someday go out to ask questions, and with different influences, would be lured into having sex with the opposite gender, thereby engaging in other illicit acts.

Another factor is "ignoring warnings from parents"

When you see a child acting disobediently to instructions at home, it is the beginning of acting out. A parent would warn a child and the next thing is for him or her to ignore such warnings and go ahead doing otherwise, parents need to take such behaviour seriously with some measures imposed on the child, but should be careful not to constantly punish him or her.

A child whose parent do not give attention to in the home and his academics, will definitely keep ignoring warnings from parents. Lack of monitoring children´s activities at home would develop an interest to the outside world for the child and once they start receiving different teachings from peers and strangers, they are more likely to obey them than their parent at home.

"John, I don´t want you to leave this house till I return home."

If it is a parent who hardly stays home and attend to the needs of their kids, do you think such warnings or instructions would work for such child? Even if you are strict, children are very smart to do something and clean their mouths without the parent knowing. Even if the child doesn´t go out, he or she might invite a friend over and practice whatever they want and clean the mess in the home. Will the parent be aware? Do not test the smartness of kids especially involving in bad act.

Children want to exercise power

This is very common especially when parents are imposing bad parenting styles on them. When a child grows up, and being an autocratic parent, all you want is to control them, make them obedient to you in all ways without nurturing or caring for them, such child would get tired and leave home one day because they also feel they have the right in some ways too. As a parent, you must allow your child gain power in some things at home, this is a way of teaching your child the true meaning of power and how not to misuse it.

Making your child exercise power in the home is making him or her active by participating in different physical activities while you watch them doing it. When you do not allow things like this, they feel bored and try running away from home to be on their own.

Another factor is "gaining attention"

It will get to a stage where children feels like been seen around everyone. When as a parent, you are always locking them up indoor without allowing them see outside or play with friends, they would want to get out from their shells to find comfort outside and gain attention of others. When they find their way through, it is like a dog that gets out of the Lion´s den successfully, the dog will not want to return back again.

It is important for parents to study these factors and make sure they work on them and give the desired attention to their kids. Being a good parent without watching out for these factors will make children turns bad in the end.

Thanks for reading.

Photo by Andrea

[March 02, 2022] (No 61 article for the year)