The World Is Hard Enough.

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The world is hard enough without us adding to it. A lot of people act and utter words without guard or caution. We look around us and all that we can see is hurt, pain and so much hardship. There are so many people dealing with a lot of things which we know nothing about. There are so many people fighting silent battles that if we can't help them it's better to just let them be. What's the point in pushing into people's faces how you are better than them in an aspect of life? What purpose are we hoping to achieve with that?

I read the story of an accountant that committed suicide because of the message she got from another fellow woman. We keep talking about women but we need to understand that women are the ones that give out or bring down fellow women down. There are so many instances where the things a guy would overlook, it's the female folks that would either ridicule that woman or say something to spite her when she wasn't there.

How can someone say this about another human? How can you be so insensitive, naive and evil all because of personal vendetta? What do you stand to gain? To get her off the face of the earth? Does that mean it would make your life easier and better? Does that mean you already have a guide into the future as to how your children would turn out?

A lot of people hold their moral compass in the face of others as if they are better than them. What counts for success for you might not count for others and if it counts as success for them and one reason or the other they are unable to achieve that success, why do we feel the need to rub it in? To let them know we made better choices? Did we get luckier than them? We are so perfect that only the best comes for us? They choose to be unfortunate and we are the blessed ones? To what end, please?

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A lot of us need to be better humans first because we can't give out what we don't have. If you are not a good person you can't give out the goodness of your heart because your intentions would always betray the good you want to do. In the case of the woman above, I don't know their personal history and I don't care to know but no one deserves to be ridiculed and mocked in such a way. No one should be shamed for something that is out of her control.

You have a child and you are mocking another person without one? What's the assurance that your child would give you joy in the end and the person without any won't have more happiness than you? You have a lover and someone doesn't and you feel mocking them for being unlucky means you have achieved the best gift in life? A lot can happen so quickly and in a flash. What you have can turn into what you had in a matter of seconds. This is why we need to be careful what we say and how we treat others when we have what they don't have.

You see a lot of people become completely different people all because they have more money than someone else. Stop feeling proud because you have bread to eat because in case you have forgotten, someone owns that bakery. What you think you have, others have had it, others have better of it and if care is not taken you can lose that which you have and be on the same level as the person that never had. This life is a funny one and the kind of things life dish out sometimes you have to be careful.

Another person lost her life because she couldn't take the shame of her reality. It came from another woman who should understand better. If it comes from a man, it's not justified too but at least you would understand that he doesn't know the pride in it but coming from another woman to another woman who didn't out of choice choose not to have a baby but life's circumstances prevented her from having and yet you feel you have the moral right to bring her to earth? That is sheer wickedness with total disregard for consequences.

Let's learn to do better. What you have is not because you are the smartest or the best...and because others haven't gotten theirs doesn't mean they are not doing their best. It would work for some and it might not work for some. For those it worked for, it might be earlier for some while it might take longer for others. If we cannot sympathize with people please let's not add to what they are going through. You don't want to understand how so many people cry themselves to sleep every night as a result of what they are facing in life. They don't need a daily reminder from anyone on how life is dealing with them. If you can't ease the pain just don't add to it. Bless them and let them go on their way. It shouldn't be that hard.

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You have a child and you are mocking another person without one? What's the assurance that your child would give you joy in the end and the person without any won't have more happiness than you?

This is what I feel like sharing too when I read the message that led to her committing suicide. People can really be so mean and unconcerned. You have doesn´t make you see another who doesn´t have as trash because this life isn´t something you can rely upon forever. The words that come out of our mouths would either make things better for us or ruin things. What if something happens and kills the lady in question´s child or children? We need to be cautious of the word we speak out and learn to be kind to people.

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2 years ago

Exactly. She was just lacking foresight. She focused on now without understanding about life. Now that she is dead, I guess she would be happy now. Her own life won't even remain the same again after this.

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2 years ago

So this was actually what led to that banker's death!!.. people always forgets that words are more powerful than a sharp knife or blade.

It's really pathetic, it's always better not to add to someone else's pains. You're right Mr Ola, that I have something today doesn't mean I can't loose it. So there's no reason why one should brag about one's achievements.

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2 years ago

Absolutely no point, Ella. You got it. It's really pathetic. The world changes quickly and no one should brag about anything that can be taken away in any instance.

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2 years ago

Humans will always be humans even in the most serious situations there's still people who will be like this being so insensitive on the situation, suicide is a serious issue that should not be taken lightly and before saying something we must think of it wisely and be sensitive.

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2 years ago

We have to be sensitive. We have to show more consideration to others regardless of how we feel.

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2 years ago

Like this is so painful, I saw the news about the woman that committed suicide, i never knew why she take her own life, but why are human being so heartless. The woman has a wound before then another sore was added to it... What a world 😰.

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2 years ago

She definitely added to her sore. It's sad and heartless.

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2 years ago

Because of this toxic mentality of a human being, lot's of people are struggling to fight their battles in silent. They choose to remain silent because if they let the world knows about their issues, they sometimes received humiliation rather than understanding and moral support. Some people died because of those heartless people who loves to mock others. Nowadays people choose to invalidate others emotions just because they thought they are stronger than the others. Hopefully people would learn to understand the differences of our strength.

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2 years ago

I love this...I love how you put this. They try to invalidate others and lack the empathy that is needed. It's shameful.

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2 years ago

Geez, this was just too much o, ah! That woman have a vile tongue, why use someone's childlessness to mock them? I hope she's happy now that the accountant has taken her life, murderer

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2 years ago

She just complicated her own life the more because they are searching for her.

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2 years ago

The world will keep throwing stones at us that's why we need to be strong

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2 years ago

We just have to be strong because they won't stop throwing the stones.

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2 years ago

OMG 😱

Is this what made her lose her life????? I bleed in my heart 😭😭😭

I can't even take my life because of this rather I would deal with her in my own way, she can't escape me if I was that lady! Never! dealing with my mental state!!!!

Why would she utter such irreversible words, words that could torment the life outta her!? Because she is privilege woah!

I guess now her blood is on her head she would get to live with it till the rest of her life period! She won't escape it at all!!

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2 years ago

She can never escape it. It's so painful that another woman can do this to another woman without knowing how frail she was regarding the issues. Humans are becoming less and less sensitive to the plights of others.

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2 years ago

It is such a pity that someone, a fellow woman can utter such a statement 😢.. I've been through something depressing before and I know how it usually feel especially when people now start to add petrol to the fire, you will almost feel like commiting suicide.. may God help us in this country 😪

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2 years ago

Not just this country sef...only God can help us humans.

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2 years ago

We should be careful in giving words to others that might get them hurt without even thinking if the words were getting them hurt or disappointed use proper words that make them feel easy to understand and acceptable approach with morals

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2 years ago

We need to learn how to use proper words instead of dragging others down.

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2 years ago

I don't support suicide. In our religious I learn that Our prophet Muhammad (sm) got hurt most of the time. But he never taught to do suicide. I never do suicide if I lose my best thing. Because to me My creator is everything and I trust after the last day of judgement if I do suicide I will through to the hell forever. I want to get heaven. That girl should keep patience. Many hard time will come but don't escape by suicide ok.

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2 years ago

Suicide shouldn't be an option. A lot of people go through so much they can't handle.

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2 years ago

Indeed most of the time woman is the danger for the other woman. Feel sorry for the female who committed suicide. Rip

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2 years ago

It's quite disheartening. A woman shouldn't do that to another.

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2 years ago

I also came across the story. It's such an unfortunate situation. It's so bad to see that there are people that still take delight is talking down and shaming people even with how uneasy it is. It's even a greater struggle as a Nigerian. I pray God heals everyone that has been talked down on like that.

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2 years ago

It's bad that they take delight in shaming others and bringing them down. Humanity is being lost.

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2 years ago

People like this will continue to exist because of the arrogance ant hate building up in their self. It seems that they can't live without mocking anyone and it's such a dangerous way for them to show the world that they exist.. I just hope that people with that kind of mind will have to think twice before executing such acts..

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2 years ago

I hope a lot of people can think twice too. Some people take delight in mocking others. It's bad.

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2 years ago

A lot of people have committed suicide due to the words said to them. I remember that I wrote an article a few weeks ago, titled "Words get to us". It's very important to be mindful of the way we speak to people. We should not judge people because we don't know what they are going through

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2 years ago

Indeed, words get to us especially when it mocks a situation we are trying to solve or get over. It's not cool.

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2 years ago

To think that we keep rubbing other people's misfortune to their face. That's absurd.

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2 years ago

It's shocking, to say the least. So annoying.

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2 years ago

Yes. Yes. I believe everyone should read this and be reminded that none of us sits high enough to look down on anyone. Let us make it clear that none of us is king and queen. We will all come back as dust.

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2 years ago

We will all come to dust. No one should feel high and mighty while looking down on others based on individual differences.

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2 years ago

Life is full of ups and down and not everyone will have what others have or will have what they want. Sometimes, we even get what we don't want to have. That doesn't make us any less deserving of the air others who have it all breathe. We'd be living a monochromatic life if we were all the same people. No differences, no ups and no downs.

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2 years ago

I agree with you that life has lots of Ups and down. We should stay alive without take the step of suicide.

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2 years ago

Our strength varies but like you said, suicide isn't the best.

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2 years ago

Exactly...it doesn't make them less deserving. We need to be better humans and respect every one...whether they have what we have or don't.

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2 years ago

I was once told by my fatherthat the world will be so bad during my time, been a little boy that I was, I did bother to asked him why he said so. But it's now that I can really remember. Our world very bad. People are turning to something else.

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2 years ago

The world is bad. It's getting terrible as the day goes by. It doesn't look like it's getting any easier. Humanity is being lost.

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2 years ago

The extent which the World is going this days is not having limit, because it keep becoming worse, women are contributing to major of this things, they rather like to fight people to death or they Rather hate people to them. Envy has been part and parsue of them.

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2 years ago

A lot of people have no limit regarding what they say. They just say about anything.

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2 years ago

In life, we cannot avoid those kinds of people who will dragged us down and this is why we should learn how to live an unbothered life in this world to avoid such instances.

Rest in peace to her soul.

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2 years ago

We surely cannot avoid it. We have those who will always want to drag us down at every time...no matter what. We just have to learn how to deal with them and not take their words to heart.

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2 years ago