People Come and Go.

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Life can be cruel sometimes but the truth is, life is what it is. There is nothing we can do to change life from what it is and instead of feeling hard done by, we just have to find a way to go around it. Life is tough, trust me, I have been dealt some harsh realities. I have shared a lot of myself here already and I don't need to re-live them.

I have learned never to hold on to what's on a slippery slope. Some people are meant to stay in your life while some are meant to go. The thing is, most of us try to hold on to those we are meant to leave and then leave those who we are meant to hold on to. We fight to sometimes hold on to the wrong people when we are supposed to let go.

Holding on to people you are meant to let go of would in the end hurt you more especially when you've had several warning signs given to you. We need to stop confusing giving up with letting go. You would always know it within you whether you are giving up or simply letting go because giving up means you are not willing to try while letting go means you have done everything you needed to do, exercise your patience to the breaking point and you just know you cannot push any further. When you come to terms with this then you can experience peace and not guilt.

I seem to know when to hold on to people and when to just let people go and by letting go sometimes I leave that window open for them if they want to come back but it would have to be on their terms but trust me, they can't have my full attention again. It won't be something I would do sacrificially anymore but something I would do only when I have the time to. Many people need to learn to live with the consequences of their actions and sometimes it takes longer and maybe a lifetime even.

People would come into your life and at various seasons of your life. Some come for a particular season and when their work is done, they go. It would be pointless and damaging to try and hold on to them because the whole purpose of the good they have done would have been defeated.

I've been in people's lives at some point in their lives where they just needed a bit of fresh air and it was all good. I see myself as an instrument in God's hand sometimes and when I try to push further by staying rather than leaving, it might defeat the whole purpose of things. This is why I learned how to understand human seasons and not expect too much from people sometimes.

There would be people that would come into your life to test you, challenge you, give you harsh life's lessons but we don't need to get swamped in the whole situation or the occasion that we forget that people come and go...and it has nothing to do with us sometimes but it has everything to do with time and seasons.

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Yes, there would be people who would resurface again in our lives but we have to remember the times before as well. I am not saying we shouldn't trust or sometimes depend on people, no, far from it. Of course, no one can make it in this world all alone without people to help at one point or the other, I am simply saying when people leave us, we need to stop taking it too much to heart because not everything is about us.

I know it's not easy to give up those we have known for a long while and it would hurt, sometimes sting when they eventually leave and move on but we need to understand that maybe sometimes it is for the best because holding on to them might mess everything up and you would end up resenting each other when things shouldn't have gotten to that point in the first place.

Life goes both ways, you let people go and some have to let you go. We don't have to mess up relationships by holding on for too long because this life is a simple one...simple and humourous because you never can tell where you would both end up again...maybe at a place where you would need the help of the other person.

Stop holding on too much and realize your worth. Know your worth and stop giving discounts because even when people disengage from you or you from them, they would always respect you for who you are. Everything doesn't have to result in unnecessary bickering if only we can learn to let go.

You have been hurt and you must have hurt a lot of people too. That is the way of life...but we must not forget the tiny lessons life keep dishing out on the way. Some people will come into your life and it would look like summertime again while some would leave making it look like a desert but life goes on...maybe not the same without them but we need to allow others come in too, even if it would be temporary as well...who knows...it might be longer.

A lot of people have shut themselves against the world because of those who left them forgetting that it would rob them of the entry of those who intend to come into their lives as well. We don't have to be short fused...we need to see the bigger picture sometimes which can help us make an informed decision. I don't know who needed to see or read this but I need to tell someone today that "You will be fine." You are not supposed to be defined by those who left because your true worth lies deep inside of you.

Don't be defined by the actions of others because people always leave...whether they want to or not...sometimes life happens... either because they want to or maybe the way of death as well.

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This is why it is good to make impact on people's life. Those who have contributed immensely to others hardly become forgotten. However, if situation permits that you let them go despite their influence on your life, free them and make new acquaintances and build new relationships

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2 years ago

Exactly, mama... Absolutely.

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2 years ago

Great article Olawale. You added something of yourself to this time-told tale of people coming into our lives for a reason, a season to a lifetime. I very much enjoyed reading it! The letting go...aye... that can be very tough. On both sides of the coin :-(

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2 years ago

I totally understand... It can be really tough. Glad you enjoyed it, my friend.

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2 years ago

We must learn to move with life, and life depend on making new friends, try new frontiers and something we stop to revisit our past

People or relationship can like to clothing, something we grow beyond a certain cloth we can't put it on again.

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2 years ago

I love that analogy about clothes...that's brilliant and true...

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2 years ago

People will always stay in our lives and leave. We also will stay in people's lives and eventually leave. May we not overstay our welcome

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2 years ago

Hahahaha that's a wonderful prayer.

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People come and go, drifting in and out of your life like characters in a favorite book. When you eventually close the book, the characters have finished their narrative, and you begin again with a new book, filled with fresh characters and adventures. Then you find yourself focussing on the new ones rather than the old ones. Whatever is going on in your life today, realize that it is all preparation. People come and go, situations change; it's all in preparation for better things to come. You must stretch, reach, and mature into your goodness. We would not be able to appreciate goodness if we had not been prepared by struggle, disappointment, perplexity, or pain.

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2 years ago

This is brilliant... absolutely. Situations change...spot on.

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2 years ago

Firstly I appreciate you for becoming one of my wonderful sponsors . I really appreciate you for that because I am happy to have you here . Naturally people go and come not everyone will stay to us . We must not be defined by the actions of people . Thanks so much for being my wonderful sponsors 🙏🏼

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2 years ago

Anytime, brother. I am glad to also have you here.

Yes, people come and go...life happens.

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2 years ago

Life consists of two main things which are GOOD and BAD. To meet the good ones in this life, someone, to exercise some patients. Bad ones are everywhere in every corner, some may pretend as good people at the beginning but when is close to ending starting display different colors that someone may be confused with. To use this life some need to exercise patients.... Thanks

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2 years ago

However they are, we need to know that we are not expected to be defined by them even though their actions hurt.

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2 years ago

Reminds me of a lesson from our Bhagavad Gita, God said "Your consequences are not based on your problems but how you react to them" ... so when something goes wrong, just staying away from it is a wise decision without reacting to it in a negative way

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2 years ago

That's it...most people react rather than respond.

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2 years ago

Life is full of surprises and perhaps more attractive in this respect. What they have contributed to us throughout our life and what stands before us as experience today are the decisions we have already made or have not made. I will never let anyone know me fully, no matter what anyone adds or takes to me, because not life but the living inside it can hurt more.

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2 years ago

I totally understand you... It really hurts.

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2 years ago

The world has lots of new people to know more about.. don't get stuck on those who clearly do not want you in their lives to stay. They are not worth your time and efforts.

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2 years ago

Exactly, my friend. We should go to where we are celebrated rather than where we are tolerated.

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2 years ago

Human doesn't have to necessarily stay forever in any kind of relationship they find themselves, it is bound to happen like that

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2 years ago

That's right, brother. Life happens.

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2 years ago

The main thing to remember is that this is your life and only you can decide who will be in it. It is not always easy to let go. Yes.... Again, it takes time.

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Yes, it's never easy and it takes time to adjust to the void left behind.

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2 years ago

We can't stop things to happen, if people leave then let it be. Some people are like that, they come into your life but they'll leave you when you less expect it, leaving you heartbroken and in miserable situation.

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2 years ago

Absolutely... They create a mess but never without a message. We just have to try and move on.

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2 years ago

Life is like a river. You may meet other fellows on the way. Some would become friends and family. You may get both love and hate. Endurance is the key to survival in life.

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2 years ago

I love this... Either love or hate... It's unpredictable and we just have to learn to move on.

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2 years ago

So true. People come and go, I mean not everyone is assigned to be there for ever. You wrote everything we needed to see. Keep it up!

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2 years ago

I am glad. Thanks a lot, my friend and that's so true...not everyone is meant to stay.

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Everyone comes to your life for a reason whether good or bad. What you should do is figure out everyone and the lessons they teach you, which I see you have done. Whatever others bring into your life, you don't let it define who you are.

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2 years ago

That's right. Never let it define who you are. Spot on.

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2 years ago

There is adage that mama use to tell 20kids can play for 20years. Many who come and go and some would stay. Merry Christmas in advance.

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That's right..I love that adage growing up to and it's the truth. Compliments of the season, my friend.

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2 years ago

Thanks alot big bro

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2 years ago

You're right...many people come into our life for a particular reason and when they accomplish that they leave us alone, let's tend to let go of people who aren't meant to be with us.

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2 years ago

That's right. When their job is done, we should try and let go.

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2 years ago

A reminder that human relationship doesn't last and people go as easily as they entered our lives. Best thing is to not be too attached or we wouldn't be able to grasp the heart break when it comes.

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2 years ago

That is so right and spot on. Love this. Thank you for this.

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2 years ago

You're welcome sir.

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