Life can be cruel sometimes but the truth is, life is what it is. There is nothing we can do to change life from what it is and instead of feeling hard done by, we just have to find a way to go around it. Life is tough, trust me, I have been dealt some harsh realities. I have shared a lot of myself here already and I don't need to re-live them.
I have learned never to hold on to what's on a slippery slope. Some people are meant to stay in your life while some are meant to go. The thing is, most of us try to hold on to those we are meant to leave and then leave those who we are meant to hold on to. We fight to sometimes hold on to the wrong people when we are supposed to let go.
Holding on to people you are meant to let go of would in the end hurt you more especially when you've had several warning signs given to you. We need to stop confusing giving up with letting go. You would always know it within you whether you are giving up or simply letting go because giving up means you are not willing to try while letting go means you have done everything you needed to do, exercise your patience to the breaking point and you just know you cannot push any further. When you come to terms with this then you can experience peace and not guilt.
I seem to know when to hold on to people and when to just let people go and by letting go sometimes I leave that window open for them if they want to come back but it would have to be on their terms but trust me, they can't have my full attention again. It won't be something I would do sacrificially anymore but something I would do only when I have the time to. Many people need to learn to live with the consequences of their actions and sometimes it takes longer and maybe a lifetime even.
People would come into your life and at various seasons of your life. Some come for a particular season and when their work is done, they go. It would be pointless and damaging to try and hold on to them because the whole purpose of the good they have done would have been defeated.
I've been in people's lives at some point in their lives where they just needed a bit of fresh air and it was all good. I see myself as an instrument in God's hand sometimes and when I try to push further by staying rather than leaving, it might defeat the whole purpose of things. This is why I learned how to understand human seasons and not expect too much from people sometimes.
There would be people that would come into your life to test you, challenge you, give you harsh life's lessons but we don't need to get swamped in the whole situation or the occasion that we forget that people come and go...and it has nothing to do with us sometimes but it has everything to do with time and seasons.
Yes, there would be people who would resurface again in our lives but we have to remember the times before as well. I am not saying we shouldn't trust or sometimes depend on people, no, far from it. Of course, no one can make it in this world all alone without people to help at one point or the other, I am simply saying when people leave us, we need to stop taking it too much to heart because not everything is about us.
I know it's not easy to give up those we have known for a long while and it would hurt, sometimes sting when they eventually leave and move on but we need to understand that maybe sometimes it is for the best because holding on to them might mess everything up and you would end up resenting each other when things shouldn't have gotten to that point in the first place.
Life goes both ways, you let people go and some have to let you go. We don't have to mess up relationships by holding on for too long because this life is a simple one...simple and humourous because you never can tell where you would both end up again...maybe at a place where you would need the help of the other person.
Stop holding on too much and realize your worth. Know your worth and stop giving discounts because even when people disengage from you or you from them, they would always respect you for who you are. Everything doesn't have to result in unnecessary bickering if only we can learn to let go.
You have been hurt and you must have hurt a lot of people too. That is the way of life...but we must not forget the tiny lessons life keep dishing out on the way. Some people will come into your life and it would look like summertime again while some would leave making it look like a desert but life goes on...maybe not the same without them but we need to allow others come in too, even if it would be temporary as well...who knows...it might be longer.
A lot of people have shut themselves against the world because of those who left them forgetting that it would rob them of the entry of those who intend to come into their lives as well. We don't have to be short fused...we need to see the bigger picture sometimes which can help us make an informed decision. I don't know who needed to see or read this but I need to tell someone today that "You will be fine." You are not supposed to be defined by those who left because your true worth lies deep inside of you.
Don't be defined by the actions of others because people always leave...whether they want to or not...sometimes life happens... either because they want to or maybe the way of death as well.
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This is why it is good to make impact on people's life. Those who have contributed immensely to others hardly become forgotten. However, if situation permits that you let them go despite their influence on your life, free them and make new acquaintances and build new relationships