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Unrealistic Expectations.
Image Source. https://www.pexels.com/photo/confused-businessman-checking-time-on-wristwatch-3760810/ I want to believe that we all have expectations where some things are concerned. It all starts with the little things because there are some things we would never compromise on and that's fine. There are some houses you wouldn't want to live in, some cars you wouldn't even think of driving and some people you decide not to associate with. We all have a mental image of how we want things to be and there is no crime in that. Imagine desiring or having expectations of living in a mansion but your pocket says otherwise, does that mean you would have to go and steal to make that happen? No. There are some expectations we need to check because they don't conform with our realities. A lot of people would still hold on to these unrealistic expectations till all hope is gone without doing anything or seeking to be better for themselves. I am always appalled by the way some people think and the expectations they have. I am not saying it's bad to have expectations of how you want your life to be but at least make it realistic and achievable while also focusing on the things you can also do to make those expectations happen and better. I was scrolling through **Twitter** many years ago and I believe it raised a lot of controversies then when a lady said she would never marry any man or even date any man who isn't earning ***400,000 Naira*** (roughly ***$720***) and above, monthly. A lot of people criticized her and asked if her brother can be placed on such expectations. It's okay for her to want her future secured financially and that's not a crime but it would beg the question of if she is looking for love or any man with money. A lot of people asked her how much her father was earning when he married her mother 😂😂🤣😂😂. So many people questioned her motive because it looked as though all she wanted was a life of affluence where the guy would be the one labouring and she would just relax and spend the money. If you live in **Lagos**, **Nigeria**, you would understand how houses can be expensive and in her defence, maybe she needed the guy to brace up for what it is to come because in all honesty, getting married and getting an apartment to live in would cost you so much more since responsibilities won't ease up but there is wisdom in dealing with it right by not doing more than yourself.
Image Source. https://www.pexels.com/photo/anonymous-pregnant-woman-video-chatting-on-smartphone-in-room-6044977/ It's obvious that her taste would be high which was why she wanted the best of things but this is life, because you wanted the best of things doesn't mean you would always get it. You have a part to also play in it if you want to see the future that you desire. She wanted someone that is already "*made*" as it seemed because she didn't sound like someone that can build with another man. Maybe she has her story, maybe she didn't and she just jumped on what they have fed her head with, oh well... All the best to her because I want to know who she is married to right now. It is not about having someone earn that much monthly but about the attitude of the guy in question. Is the guy ready to work? Is the guy someone with dreams? Has she been convinced by the guy's dream to picture herself in it? A lot of questions would be asked of her as well - What would she be doing while she waits? What happens when the dream didn't come through? What happens when the guy experienced some challenges on the way before attaining those dreams? This is more about the two of them and if they can't answer the questions then even the guy doesn't deserve to get married. There are a lot of people who earn millions of Naira or even thousands of dollars per month and yet they have nothing to show for it while we have those who earn relatively lower than that and they are able to do greater things because it's a function of who that person is. You don't have to do more than yourself....you owe it to no man to impress anyone but most people live beyond their means and they couldn't keep up. It's never about the earnings but about the person and this is something she doesn't understand. She can't even spot a king in rags because she was busy focusing on the wrong thing. Some people aren't even earning as much as that when they met their partners but after understanding the responsibilities ahead of them with their sheer desire for success, they rose and started earning a lot of money. What most ladies don't know is that when a guy notices that all you care about is the money then he would start treating you anyhow. He would beat you, treat you with disdain and then throw money in your face again as an apology since that's what you are all about. The funny thing is, this lady with this unrealistic expectation wasn't doing anything as at the time she made that tweet; she wasn't working and I bet she had even **56,000 Naira** (**$100**) in her account yet she was dreaming of landing a guy with a huge salary. In case life happens and she lands the guy, she won't even be able to keep the guy because no one wants to also end up with a liability...marriage is stretching enough...no one wants another unnecessary weight since she wasn't even talking about love either. She is putting pressure on others when she should be putting pressure on herself to make something meaningful out of her life too. She was focusing on others yet she isn't focusing on her own life which should be important. Her expectations are unrealistic because she wasn't even doing anything about her own life too. *Thank you for your time.* Kindly follow me on **Noise.Cash**... I am trying to engage more with people and connect with everyone with this account. I look forward to seeing you there... You can say hello to me there so we can get familiarized as well. Click here. https://noise.cash/u/Olasquare
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Humans really need to be more realistic and noy expect too much from others and from the word. Truth is we can never have it all and not all our desires would come through. Women especially needs to be modest.. Nice meeting you ola
I love this... modest... Most people won't even work towards their dreams and expect others to hand them things on a platter.
Many young girls are waiting for a "prince on a white horse" and for some reason so passionately believe that it will happen. Living with illusions and unfulfilled hopes is a road to nowhere.
Absolutely... They keep holding the torch for a dream that won't come if they also won't take steps.
Nigerians don't hesitate to spank you on the internet when you utter things they tag as wrong. I like the lady's desires and expectations but what is she offering? What is she bringing to the table when in a relationship with a man that earns $720? A lot of people still refuse to wake up to the reality that men wouldn't want a woman who would become a liability to them. Setting unrealistic expectations is terrible because, in the end, it makes one not achieve anything. Imagine if she keeps waiting for the $720 man and he doesn't show up?
Hahahaha I really wish to know how she is doing now because either she is waiting or she has settled for less or she found one and yet she is still unhappy because reality has knocked her on the head except she is giving value in return and doing something meaningful with her life too.
The are different lady with such motive also. I also saw this tweet then and I considered it as cruise because most of Nigerian tweet is about cruise and if her tweet is her dream I don’t think she can make it happen because she has to work for $720 and see how hard it is to earn such amount monthly.
Hahahaha exactly...she should go and work for it to see how it feels.
This way of thinking is the same as seeing a man as a wallet.
That's it and when they see them as just a sexual image, they get offended.
That's one thing about some ladies, they just want to seat and flex, without thinking on how to earn big. Having a rich partner is good but things become better when both of them work toward it, instead of one looking up to the other for everything
That's exactly the point... It's okay to have a rich partner but why not contribute to it too rather than become just a leech?
I wish all our girls should come and read this article, so that they will have sense, money is not everything
I really wish they can to because most of them need to have a change of mindset.
I compute the value of said amout in our currency and I could say $750 per month is maybe enough for a family with one kid given with this inflation rate. Maybe that girl just want to secure her life BUT why not work hard so that she could earn at least $750 per month? Rather that looking for someone? I am not okay in the idea of just depending on husband's income. Well maybe she needs to look for an IT (programmer), sea fearer or CPA😂. I know they had big salaries😂
🤣🤣🤣🤣😂😂😂😂 people like that always end up with internet fraudsters who will end up messing them up. She can't work for it and yet she wants someone to have developed themselves to work for it.
It could be and they will end like being scammed😂 Hope this ladies would knock some senses on their head . Ahhh, maybe they wont feel the happiness from spoiling themselves from their hard earned money
That's the beauty of life...spoiling yourself with your hard earned money. Spot on.
Sometimes our expectations doesn't conform what the reality is, it sometimes the opposite. It is how reality works. We don't have to make bad to makes our expectations happened instead we have to work with it.
Exactly...work towards it not just sit down and hope for things.
Yes ...that's what I'm pointing out friend...thanks a lot to you for being an open minded person
I always enjoy your contribution. Thank you.
Indeed, thanks to you also...and makes some fun 😊...don't limit yourself friend and make everything possible .. because I love reading those content
Deeply appreciated.
Thanks Olasquare I also appreciate your response may you have abundance of ideas to share with your content
Amen. It means a lot.
Thanks again Olasquare I'm so fortunate to have you and made my day fruitful..
Did you see the house I spent xmas at?! I’m gonna buy one of this size. Do you think that’s unrealistic? 😅
Hahahaha... It is realistic because you are working towards it. I can see how hard you work not just someone who sits in one corner hoping for a miracle.
Some doesn't want to sweat so they'll put pressure on others lol.
That's the truth and it's so annoying.
Expectation is part of human nature, we expect too much that's why we get ourselves disappointed because we didn't reached that expectation. So instead of expecting we just need to did our best and continue living with less expectations.
Absolutely, do your best and hope for the best too... Most people are not being real with themselves.
I've seen people have unrealistic expectations, and the thing is 5hst they know it might not happen
They know but they keep living in a cocoon world of self delusion.
This mentality is very common among ladies today as they weigh a man's worth based on his pockets only... No wonder some of them always fall victim to "yahoo boys" n get sacrificed. Still they will nor hear word.
This is so true. That's why they fall prey as easy targets because they are misled with money.
Sometimes we always expecting what's not possible, and some people are not even ready to start from scratch to get what they want, they are looking for life without stress which is not possible. No man is looking for a liability nowadays, those who are liability, if they should tell you what they are facing in their home, you'll never want to be one, but the Ladies if nowadays, I don't know their problem, they don't want to work again, all they are looking for is a man with the bag , so once they see the bag, they'll follow. Some are always have problem in their marriages when a little Challenges arrive because what they are expecting turns the other way round...
God bless your heart. That's right... They want things handed over to them without doing anything. Shocking.
People tend to expect too much from each other especially when in a relationship. They need to be realistic and come to realise that we can't have everything.
Exactly and they run away from demanding too much from themselves only to pile it up on others.
Exactly... humans and their "guns"
Money is not all that life is about but trust me it's one of the important things that one should have. I don't blame her for saying what she desire it's her life and no one else's but then what I care about is what is she doing? How is she working towards getting money? Ladies should stop depending but work to earn as well. With this and good attitude, you'd attract people who are wealthy too.
Exactly...she had expectations and yet she isn't even working towards it, placing pressure on others yet she is absolving herself.
I think our goals and approach to life become unrealistic due to escapist media. and escapism is ruining ourselves to the level that we are becoming more and more materialistic.
Absolutely spot on 👌
That's why we need to have less expectations. Because higher expectations lead us to fall point.
So true, my friend... Modesty...
For me, it is okay to have huge expectations as long as you are working hard for it. For the lady, she must work and be independent and not just randomly picks a rich guy. I bet if she is not working, she won't be deserving to the guy that she expects.
You have hit the nail on the head. That's right...she just wants to randomly pick someone rich without working towards what she wants.