Where is your home?
Today I bring a question from the gospel to you my dear readers, I know most of us are Christians and even if you are not, do find some meaning in this short article because it's a question that we all need to answer irrespective of religion.
The subject of this article asked a question, where is your home?
Home is where the body finds rest after labor. It's the place one retires to when it gets dark. To most people, home is where their hearts belong; there, life's dearest treasures (wives, husband's, children, father's, mother's, brothers, sisters) reside "For where a man's treasure is, there will your heart be also" Matt 6v21.
In the real sense of it, man has two different homes: the celestial and the terrestrial homes. Most people strive and task themselves to build a place on earth to serve as a home. Others labor and pay huge rent for comfortable accommodation. To a great extent, a home reflects status in life or quality of family life. Surprisingly, most people do not consider the celestial home. However, the celestial home is man's final resting place afterlife hard labor. It is as real, even more so than the earthly home. Unfortunately, man does not determine when to retire there as we do on earth. The quality of your relationship with the supreme creator, even Jesus Christ, determine your heavenly destiny.
The celestial home could be Heaven with the Lord God Almighty or Hell with Satan, the great deceiver. The scriptures admonish "Lay not up for yourselves treasures upon the earth, where moth and rust do corrupt and where thieves break through and steal. But lay up for yourselves treasures in Heaven... Matt 6v19-20.
Morning, afternoon, evening pass, each ticking movement moves us nearer to our celestial destiny. Tell me, friend, where is your home? Are you confident it is with the Lord Jesus Christ, where a mansion has already been prepared? John 14v2-3 or is it in hell with Satan and the fearful and unbelieving... "Read Rev.21v8. God is not mocked, whatsoever a man sows, that shall he reap. Gal 6v7. Right now, you may be contacting and building a house in hell by your unbelief in God's word. There is still room for a U-turn. Jesus is standing at the door waiting to come in, willing to forgive your past. He will give you a new lease on life and wipe off the old record. You can still grab a mansion with Jesus and make heaven your home.
Call on Jesus right now, His promise is sure that as many as believe in Him as Savior and Lord; who confess and forsake their evil ways, qualify for a passport with a visa to Heaven, when their time is up here. Do not delay. This article is a witness that you were made aware of God's grace through faith in Jesus's sacrifice on the cross. Heaven is all yours for asking and believing. Jesus is faithful, His blood avail for you and washes cleaner than snow. A time comes when they die is cast and time for you to make a decision shall be no more.
Make Heaven your home today and to your joy, even fear you once entertained of death will be a past tense! This is true; this is the life offered to you at no cost, as only your maker could.
Four things that keeps a marriage strong
There are some things a young man or woman needs to discover in the would-be spouse's life before he or she says I do, or else face the path that leads to unending tears. Any man/woman who does not have these qualities can be very dangerous. It does not matter what the young man's status is in terms of financial or social status, and it does not matter how good a young woman may be at home. If both mates lack these four qualities, then the marriage can be devastating.
1. Fear of God
You have no obligation to talk about relationships and marriage with anyone who is not God-fearing. This is not a religious problem at all. Fear of God is more than a religious belief. What we have called the fear of God has been abused within the circle of religion. The fear of God is in contrast to believing in God, and the main reason why society is bad today is that there is no fear of God. To fear God means to have confidence in him by letting God's law guide our behavior and conduct. It also means making one's judgment by God's authority. Couples who are involved in war-causing violence do so out of a lack of fear of God. No God-fearing man or woman can harm his or her mate. The issue of divorce is rooted in a lack of godly fear. Godly fear can prevent a man from harming a woman.
2. Presence of earthly authority/advisor
The presence of earthly authority or adviser plays a key role in keeping the marriage going smoothly and stable. There should be an earthly authority or advisor over a man or a woman to whom they submit for knowledge, instruction, guidance, and correction. A couple who has no authority or counselor can easily break up in any minor case. This is very necessary for a man, there must be someone to call him to order, someone who will tell him "look man, this thing you are doing is wrong". If these were not, such a home would be a battleground. When no one obeys him, such a person becomes a god himself. No matter how much a man or woman can be wrong if one of them can listen to the voice of authority such a marriage can face any storm.
3. Passion for each other
Before you think about locking the knot, your future partner should show a high degree of passion for you. Passion is a dipper sense of love, the word love is abused by this generation and is not a solid basis for consideration in marriage. Passion is an adjective appropriate to the size of love. Anyone can say I love you and that doesn’t mean commitment. When passion is lacking in a marriage, it can be devastating. Anyone who does not have passion for his or her partner will be unfaithful no matter how well behave the other is. Passion is what unites a man and a woman together not love. Passion is the key that keeps couples together all the time, the fuel that keeps the relationship fresh.
4. Responsible hands
There should be a demonstration of responsibilities by the intending couple before and after the wedding. Being responsible means knowing the full cost of living, knowing what needs to be done, and taking prompt action. This is not just about money, but anything that needs to be done must be done by someone. Anyone who escapes responsibility cannot be a good husband, same with the woman. A person who only loves and cares for himself or herself does not need to be in a relationship or talk about marriage. Marriage is a relationship that requires a high level of commitment. What you know you can't eat you don't share with your teeth.
In conclusion, patience is the key to finding the right life partner. All that glitters is not gold. It is not the outward appearance that matters but the inward part. Marriage is a lifelong commitment and should not be rushed. Time is needed to study, and to learn from each other. What you cannot change during courtship cannot change after marriage. Marriage does not change anyone on the inside. In fact, marriage is a place where your true personality is revealed. That is why you need to spend time getting to know each other. No one can hide from time, time is the revealer of all secrets.
3 things you need to learn to do to get your husband's attention whenever you wanted
I have a husband that is a very busy man, so I have to be very creative in order to get his attention. I love to get attention whenever I wanted, I always wanted to be the center of my husband's attention. I am a very jealous woman when it comes to relationships, but I love my husband very much, he treats me very well. Today I am going to share 3 things I do to get my husband's attention whenever I wanted which I also think you can practice as well if you are married.
1. Compliment Him
Compliments are always the best thing you can give to a man. It gets him inspired and motivated, that way he will see you as the source of his fulfillment. A man likes to know that you care about him and that you love him. If you want your husband to know that he is special, then you have to tell him how special he is.
When I am having a hard day and feel exhausted, I give my husband a compliment and he will be so excited that he'll let me rest my head on his shoulder even if he was tired at the time. He will be more motivated by receiving a compliment than receiving money or a gift. That means, he would do all that he can to please you so that you keep on giving him compliments.
Most of the time when you want your husband to notice you, you are not sure of how to compliment him and that is the time to learn so that you can always surprise him and make him feel loved. Take the time to let him know that you appreciate him for all that he does for you, if you don't do it often, he will probably stop doing those things for you and that could be a bad thing. So always compliment him and do it in a nice way.
2. Affection
It is natural for a woman to be attracted to the man's body and enjoy being near him. It's the same thing for a man, they love to be close to their wives, they love to feel their wives' bodies against them, they love to feel her warmth and body. Because of that, every day, hug him from time to time, give him a kiss on the cheek, pull his ear or rub his hair, keep on caressing his body.
If you give him more time, he will have the habit to touch your body as well, it's a good habit to start. Being a kind and loving woman, you should always shower your man with affection. Hug him and kiss him whenever you want to. Be a very loving and kind woman to your husband so that he knows that you will always be there for him.
3. Soothe his pain
If he is having a problem, I am pretty sure he would want to have his wife take care of him. If he is sick, he would want you to be with him at all times to make sure that his sickness goes away. If he is hurt, he would want you to help him heal as soon as possible. He would love to have you by his side in those times.
Because you love each other, you will be there for each other whenever something is wrong. His needs will always come first, he will not be happy when he is in a bad mood, he would want you to change his mood, if he is sad or he is in pain, he will tell you and ask you for help to feel better. If you are not sure what to say or do, the best thing to do is to just give him a kiss on the cheek.
When it comes to relationships, you have to be very patient and understanding. The relationship can't work if you are not kind and loving. You have to be caring and loving to your husband, he has to know that you are always there for him, that you would always stand by him through all the good and bad times. If you guys love each other as I do, he wouldn't have many reasons to complain. All you have to do is love and care about him.
Yes, he will also complain sometimes, but it's normal, the more you give the more you get in return. So be very kind and loving to him, a lot of good things would come out of that. You will enjoy being his wife and you will have a lot of fun because you will be the center of his world.
Conclusion
I am happy that I have a husband I love so much, he is my best friend and I am very lucky. He always knows how to cheer me up when I am having a bad day, he always looks after me and I never want to be without him. He is my best friend and he always cheers me up. He is amazing and he will never fail me.
I know this is a little long, but it's a good thing to know. After reading this, you would definitely enjoy being his wife. You will enjoy having fun with him, you will love being the center of his life, you will have a lot of fun, you will feel great being his wife, you will enjoy being his lover and you will love being his best friend.
How am saving to support my husband in our building project
I want to contribute to our family house building project as a wife. I have found some way to save to support my husband for the project, like cutting down our household monthly expenses and making a daily saving from my business proceed. Though there is always the risk of doing this if I am not careful, I believe that is the only way to do something to be the helper of my husband.
In June last year, my husband has begun his search for building a house. If you are married, you will understand how hard it is to build a house. He needs to consider the location, budget, plan, and other things that I’m not familiar with. Thus, I was quiet about this matter for the in the beginning until he found a piece of land at an affordable price.
I was so happy to know that he’s finally decided to build the house. The greatest happiness is that he seems to have found the location he likes and it can be built in a few months only. I feel like something great is coming!
However, I have to admit that I was also a bit nervious ababout this project. The location can be a bit far away from the city which means we need to remain in our rented apartment for some time before moving to the new house when completed. The cost will be high especially for our building material supplies.
As you should know, my husband is the one who works hard most in our family besides me. I am a fashion designer, but my husband is the family breadwinner and he is working in in construction industry by engaging in many schemes. It means that my husband has to make an effort to support his family. I am just being a regular housewife.
Since I have opened my business since January last year, I have learnt a lot of things. For example, I have learnt how to save money in order to support my business and now I am trying to find away to help my husband to build our dream home.
I have been doing this for the past 9 months though my husband is not aware of anything am planning. I have been saving 10% of my daily sales to be able to make an internal contribution to my husband. The saving is $4 daily for the project, my target is to reach $2500 by December 2022. And I planned to hand out the money to my husband to cover the cost of the roofing of the building.
For the past 9 months, I have been thinking of ways to give this money to my husband because I have no idea what will happen to us in the future. But I wanted to keep it a secret from my husband and make it a surprise when the time comes. I am very committed to this course and ready to sacrifice to achieve the goal. I know it's not easy denying oneself of good things but a building project is worth the sacrifice.
My husband is a very hard-working person and someone who doesn't play with the family. Sometimes I feel for him for the burdens he is carrying as a father and husband. With five children all in school, providing for the family upkeep, paying for the house rent as when due, taking adequate care of me and the kids, and on top of that keeping the car in good condition, I think the best way I could help him is to support his ultimate goal for the year, which is to finish building our family house.
I also knew my husband is sensitive to my thoughts. If he is to catch the scent that I have been saving for some building project, he might get suspicious and do something that might lead him to know. I will try my best possible to keep it from him until the right time for me to reveal it.
I have learned to cut down our household daily expenses and also reduce my expenses for me to be able to reach my target. I want to surprise my husband and show him that I appreciate his efforts for the family. It's not easy being a man, especially at this point the economy is becoming harder every day, and the value of money depreciating on daily basis.
The building project is only half at the time of writing and my husband will resume work on the project by the end of the month. I plan to work more on my business for this year. This will help me to be able to cover my family feeding until when the house is completed in 2022.
I am praying that God will guide me in this journey and will give me the strength and resources to be able to support my husband in his dreams.
If you have any suggestions you think you can give me to be able to achieve my goals quickly please feel free to leave them in the comments section. God bless you.
Marriage, the best thing that has happened to me
I don't know why most people feel very apprehensive about getting married, but from my 15 years of experience in marriage I can tell that marriage is the best thing that has happened to me. This is not because my husband was a rich guy when we met nor is he from a wealthy family. in fact, the opposite was the case. I don't know what it is that makes most people feel this way, but from my experience and the experience of many others, marriage is an amazing thing. I feel blessed every day to be married to the wonderful man that I am married to. There are so many things that I experience in life that I would not have experienced if I didn't have a husband. I feel so much more alive and fulfilled when I am married.
Most of my friends and family thought that getting married at the age that I did would mean giving up my life goals and freedom, but I believed that with hard work and dedication, I could achieve my goals even with my husband. I used to think that marriage is something that only happens in fairy tales, but that couldn't be further from the truth. I don't regret for a single moment getting married. This is not to say that being married has been a bed of roses, far from it, but being married has taught me so many things about myself and my spouse that I wouldn't have been able to learn any other way.
I married a man who had nothing when we got married. He came from a broken home and had a lot of issues. I married a poor boy from a broken home. We had a lot of obstacles to face, but we overcame them. I married the love of my life because I was in love with him. I knew very little about him and he knew even less about me. We were the first in everything about a relationship with each other. This made marriage an exciting adventure for both of us. Marriage meant that I got to learn more about him and he got to learn more about me.
Most people are convinced that getting married is not for them and they seem to be happy with their single life. But I am convinced that marriage is the best thing that has happened to me, not only because I am married, but I also know that marriage is not for everybody. Nobody is perfect and it is important to be happy in life, but marriage gives you the best of both worlds: you can be happy and have an amazing life with someone else.
The best thing about this life is that I have a husband that loves and supports me. He does everything that he can to make me happy. We make up as best as we can. We make our relationship stronger every day. I wouldn't be who I am today without him. I wouldn't be able to achieve the goals that I have set for myself. I have been able to grow and learn so much from my husband. I have been able to experience life to the fullest because I have a husband that loves me and supports me.
We have our good days and our bad days, but that is all part of being married. You learn to deal with the good and the bad days, and you learn to appreciate the good days all the more. You learn to accept each other for who they are and who they are becoming. You learn to not care what other people think of you or your spouse. We have been through so much together, and I wouldn't have been able to experience any of it with out him. There are so many things that I experience in life that I would not have experienced if I didn't have a husband. I feel so much more alive and fulfilled when I am married. I wouldn't trade being married for anything in the world.
Marriage has given me so much, but the best thing that it has given me is my husband. He has given me the love of my life, and I wouldn't have been able to experience this life without him. He has accepted me for who I am and has helped me to become a better person. He has been a great support system for me, and I couldn't have asked for a better husband.
When most people think of marriage, they think of a husband and a wife living together, working together, raising a family together and maybe spending some quality time together. They don't think of the hardships, the arguments, the disagreements, the compromises, the forgiveness, the understanding, the trust, the laughter, the deep connections, the sleepless nights, the happy tears, the trust issues, the broken promises, the forgiveness issues, the fights, the make up sex and the love. Most people don't think that being married is also about the bad days, the disagreements, the fights, the frustrations, the misunderstandings, the hurt, the pride, the occasional lack of affection, the resentment and the hurt. But being married is all those things and much more.
When I think about being married, I think about the bad days and the good days. I think about the times when we fought because we were mad at each other but we made up. I think about the times when we spent time away from each other and were not getting along. I think about the times when we have laughed and smiled together. I think about the times when we spent time apart and were so thankful to be able to see each other again. I think about the times when we did things together and the times when we did nothing together. I think about the times when we have had our differences of opinions and we have seen that we have been able to resolve them even though it was difficult. I think about the times when we have had our disagreements and we have worked together to resolve them.
I think about the times when we have been so happy. It is when we spend time together that I feel like I am the happiest. But the good days far outweigh the bad days. I am not able to think about marriage without thinking about the good days.
I feel like I have learned so much through my experiences so far being married. There are so many things that I have learned from being married that I have never learned otherwise. I have learned to be a better friend, a better sister, a better daughter, a better mother, and a better wife. I have also learned about accepting people for who they are and not judging them, and not judging myself.
In this life, we are all given a chance to live again and to make different choices. If given the chance or there is a second life on this planet earth, I will still choose to get married the way I have done and get married to the same man. I know that the marriage that I have with my husband is the marriage that I was meant to have. I am so thankful for the experience and for being able to have a husband by my side for all these years.
The joy of motherhood from my experiences
Motherhood is one of the most rewarding experiences in life, and it’s something that I’m grateful to have experienced. The best part about being a mother is the joy of raising my children and watching them grow and develop into the people they are today. It’s been a roller coaster of a journey with its fair share of ups and downs, but it’s been worth it. The most challenging part of being a parent is the responsibility that comes with it, and the sacrifices that you have to make for the sake of your children.
As a young woman, I didn’t know that having kids would be even half as rewarding as it is. I always thought that being a mom would be full of sleepless nights, constant diaper changing, and arguments over bed time. I couldn’t have been more wrong. Having children has given me a purpose in life, and I wouldn’t want it any other way.
I remember when I first became a mother, I had a lot of fears and anxieties. I was worried that I wouldn’t be able to take care of my children, that I wouldn’t have time for myself, and that I wouldn’t be a good mother. I was so worried about the future that I couldn’t see the present, or even the next few minutes ahead. I was consumed with worry and stress, and that took a lot of the joy out of being a mother.
As time went on, I realized that having children wasn’t going to be easy and it certainly wasn’t going to be quick. But the rewards far outweighed the hardships, and I realized that I was strong enough to face my fears and do whatever was necessary to be a good mother to my children. I had to learn how to put my own needs and desires aside and put my children’s needs and desires ahead of my own. I had to learn how to be a better wife, a better mother, and a better friend.
I remember how overwhelming it was to be a new mom. I was still in college, working full time, and trying to juggle both school and work. I worried for so long about how I was going to make it as a mom and everything that I was going to have to give up. But I started to realize that I was stronger than I thought and that I was going to be fine.
I remember being so discouraged at times, thinking that I was a bad mother because I wasn’t able to give my children the attention that they wanted or needed. I felt so guilty and inadequate, like I wasn’t doing a good enough job. I was so tempted to give up and even think of calling it a quit with my husband due to some influence from friends who thought I was too young to commit myself to motherhood. I remember having a conversation with my husband one night when I was feeling really down and having a difficult time juggling my responsibilities.
I remember sitting there telling him how much I was struggling, how overwhelmed I felt, and how much I didn’t know what I was doing. My husband just looked at me, smiled, and told me that I was doing a good job. He told me to keep going, that it was going to get better, and not to give up. He told me that he would help me however he could, and that he would support me no matter what.
It was then that I realized that I wasn’t alone in my struggle to be a good mother and that there were others out there who were going through the same thing. I remembered reading something once about how having children is a full-time job, and that it’s not something that you can do in your free time. I thought to myself that it’s better to be a bad mother than a quitter, and that I had to persevere and find ways to make it work. I decided that I wasn’t going to let my circumstances define me or limit my future, and that I was going to find ways to be a good mother despite the challenges that I was facing.
I remember the day that my first child was born. It was so surreal to look in the mirror and see a baby there, and I had no idea what I was doing. I was scared, overwhelmed, and really worried about the future. I was worried about being able to handle all the responsibilities of being a parent, and my husband and I were in the middle of some tough times financially. But my husband told me to keep going and to try to stay focused on the future because being a parent isn’t a thing that happens overnight. You have to work at it and you have to be strong.
It's been 15 years so far, and am happy to watch my children grow up to be amazing people. I look back and I realize that I didn’t know what I was going through then, and I’m thankful that I didn’t give up and that I did the best that I could. I know that I am blessed to be a mom to my children and that I have a beautiful family.
It's been a journey, but I'm not sure that I did it all right or if I'm doing it right now. I want to know that I'm doing everything that I can to help my children grow into healthy and responsible adults. I want to know that I'm teaching them the values and morals that I learned while growing up, and that I'm providing for them and my family. I want to make sure that I'm being the best mother that I can be, and that I'm setting a good example for my children. I'm still learning and growing as a person, and I'm sure that motherhood is going to continue to challenge me and shape me for the rest of my life. But that's OK, because being a mom is a journey that never ends, and I'm excited to keep learning and growing together with my children as we continue on this journey called motherhood.
A little bit of my life
I started my writing journey in this platform yesterday and published my first article which was supposed to be my introduction post, but with much excitement for the love for the site I couldn't even tell much about myself which I think was a major omission on my part. Those who read the article rightly pointed it out to me and some other things I need to do to make my writing more presentable.
I felt so beloved to have those comments on my first article which I know is not an easy thing to come by for a newbies like me. I will like to give a little introduction about myself for the same of those who might want to know a little bit of me.
My name is Joyce, from Nigeria, a proud wife and a mother of 5 kids. I am a business woman and also taking active part in the Gospel ministry as a missionary. I love the fact that am a woman and a mother, and having 15 years experience in marriage. I know you must thinking about my age since I have mentioned being in marriage for 15 years and having 5 children. Don't be in haste.
I am 37 years old this year, I know that might sound funny to you when you think about the fact that I already had 5 kids and been in marriage for 15 years. I got married very early even while I was still in school together with my beloved husband. My 15 years of marriage have taught me much about marriage, motherhood, and parenting. These are some of the things I will mostly be writing about on this platform.
I know for the sake of education and money so many people put off marriage to the unknown future, as much as this is logical, I will choose to get married early if I should have to start over again with my life. Been married early gives me the option to have children at my young age, and now I have the freedom to do what I want without being bothered by children nothingness.
My kids are grown up now, my last born is 4 now and can do without me for most time of the day. This allowed me to work and support my family.
I have this question that I always ask young ladies who are in a relationship. Why would you have Intimacy with a guy when you are not ready to get married?
You know what am talking about, right?
A lady who isn't ready to get married but keep having intimacy with a guy and on several occasions get pregnant along the lines. The next thing is to seek out a way to save the situation and that means you have to abort the pregnancies. You may think of this as a normal thing and a way to keep your freedom but I will tell you the truth, the effects of such actions far outweigh the benefits.
When I met my husband we weren't ready to get married but one thing led to another and the best we could do is to tie the knot not minding our age and financial circumstances at the time. Normally, most people wouldn't want to go into marriage in such a way especially when you are still very young and in school. I was 22 and my beloved husband was 27, we were both Rockies and inexperienced about life but we have a resolve to stick together and work out a living for ourselves, and we did it.
Today, when I looked back at those times, I thank God I didn't take the wrong part by listening to the advice of my friends then who thought I was being foolish for choosing to hang on with a low-key guy that my husband was known to be at the time, and for refusing to do something that might hurt my conscience and destroyed my chances of being a mother in the future. I am happy that I stayed in with my lowly man and my patience and labor have paid off for me today.
A little advise for the ladies, do not bite with your tooth what you know you can't chew or swallow. Just solve the riddle yourself.
I think I have said enough in this article, until next time, hope to see you again.
Can I get your attention please?
For over two weeks now, I have been deliberating on the posibility of joining this platform. Reason was that I couldn't get myself to believe that I will be able to write a full-length article I have not done anything of such before. But my friend who introduced me to the platform keep urging me to give it a try, after much pressure from my friend I finally found the courage to start my writing journey here.
I must admit that I am already having a sore finger typing this little introduction of my humble self. I know this is not going to be easy for me but I am determined to learn as much as I can and as quickly as possible. I am determined to push myself harder in this and I hope with the support of the community I shall be able to make it.
Though I have not done anything like this before, but I believe by learning from all the great writers on this platform I will be able to do it. I must confess that my first impression about this site was all wrong. I thought it wouldn't be easy for me to navigate the features and found my way around the site, but by just one click everything was open and clear to me. I am falling in love with the site I hope excitement wouldn't be in vain.
Sooner or later, I will be here to pump out my articles as I know there are a lot to share. I will be doing a series of articles that will be centered on motherhood and parenting. I must confess that it will be a very hard thing to write about my personal experience and the joys of parenthood without going the cheesy route.
For now, I can only say, it's not going to be easy for me but I know I will make it. All I need now is your support and help. I am sure by writing on this platform, you will be able to understand what I am going through. You will be able to provide me with all the necessary support I need to succeed. And I hope to do the same thing for you.
I still can't believe I have started a blog on social media but I guess I can say I have made it after all. The experience is truly unforgettable, it is an adventure I am not sure I can turn down. I can't wait to see how far I will be able to go.
Lastly, I would like to take this opportunity to say I love you all and look forward to your comments and support as we journey on.
@Joyce2022