It Doesn't Revolve Around You.

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I find it amusing when people focus too much on themselves but one thing they don't understand is that too much focus on yourself is a sign of low self-esteem. You know when the product is good, you don't need to convince people too much. I am not saying it's a crime to focus on your self and that is why I stressed that TOO MUCH focus is bad.

You should be your own cheerleader and I am all for that. When no one else believes in you, you should believe in yourself but there is a thin line between being proud, low self-esteem and humility.

Humility is when you think of yourself more than you ought to. It doesn't mean that it's a crime to think of yourself, no, but you have to be modest about it. Being proud means you are excessively focusing on your importance while having low self-esteem means you are thinking of yourself lower than you ought to. Humility is about being modest and never about your social standings.

Many people focus too much on themselves that they see everything as a competition. Someone walks up to you to narrate a horrible ordeal to you and rather than sympathize and empathize with the person, you try to water down the misery of another to highlight your misery even further. Is misery supposed to be something we should drag about?

If you know Nigerians, you will know we compete about everything 😂🤣🤣😂. If someone tells you he or she is having a headache, you would get a response like "Is that one headache? If you see the headache I had yesterday, I couldn't even speak and my eyes were watery." Please, tell me, how has this helped the course of an innocent person looking for comfort? How does watering down his pain make him or her feel better? Knowing it could have been worse but isn't and he should be thankful when a solution hasn't been given to what he complained about? It's tiring 😂🤣😂.

Life is not about you, really... There are billions of other people in it as well. You can focus on yourself but with better consideration for others too. I heard the story of a couple who were in a power tussle between themselves. The wife bought a brand new car (I can't remember the model and brand) and she drove it home, with excitement, she asked the husband to come out and see it which he did. He came out, saw it, smiled and congratulated her but the next day, he bought the same car too.

We sometimes strive for relevance when we don't even have to do anything. It's not every situation we have to respond to because there would always be things that would fight for our attention but we need to understand which one is energy-draining and which one is worth responding to.

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I am not a fan of those who focus too much on themselves because the truth is, they can never help you. We need to take the focus off ourselves even if it is just for a minute. We need to allow people to have their moment because we have had ours and we would always have ours.

When we lose someone, we suddenly want the whole world to stop and console us but we seem to forget that people die daily and yet the whole world didn't stop. It's okay sometimes to inflate our importance because I am for those who feel good about themselves. When you feel good about yourself, you would want to dare, take on risks and push your boundaries because you want to make a statement and live up to the hype but not at the detriment of deception, lies and pulling other people down.

So many people compete with each other when they should be learning from each other. We need to also understand that social media is a deceptive tool. Not everything is as it seem so you might want to be careful when you see someone brag about something and you are going out of your way to also get it.

Someone flew first class to a foreign country and posted about it. Someone also wanted the attention for himself and decided to empty his bank account just to also fly the first class. The only difference between the two of them is that the first person can afford it. He didn't even feel a strain in the money spent while the second person spent all his money to impress those who don't care.

This is your life and no one would teach you how to live it...books can help you, people might point you in the direction to go but you are still the one to walk through and live your life on your terms and choices. It doesn't hurt you a bit when you take the focus off yourself and try to just breathe.

The world doesn't revolve around you and the world owes you nothing. No one owes you anything and that's why we all need to stop fighting for attention. You can't spend your life fighting for attention every time because it would drain you and then expose the low self-esteem you have been hiding underneath. We all can do better and let's allow others to live also. It doesn't have to always be about our opinion and what we think or want... The world doesn't revolve around us and the earlier we understand this, the better.

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