Pains of Loneliness

The moment loneliness grabs hold of you, it will never let go.

Loneliness can be like physical pain sometimes, and it may hurt you so bad you will feel like dying.

It is like anxiety in your stomach, a tight feeling in your chest, and weariness in your bones.

Walking around, you can feel your body and mind slowly becoming fatigued; your supply of energy is depleted by incurable loneliness that doesn't seem to go away.

Have you ever felt deep chronic loneliness? It can be like a persistent ailment that doesn't want to get better or won't go away. 

When you think you have gotten the upper hand against loneliness, it comes back like a nagging cold that keeps going on and on; loneliness goes deep into us and refuses to let go once it gets in.

In the past, older people were said to be the only victims of loneliness, and this may be a little bit true, but let us look at the facts, everyone will be lonely once or twice in their lifetime.

We all ought to experience loneliness at least once or twice in our lifetime. 

You have to experience it. 

You have no choice but to learn about loneliness. I'm sure you wouldn't experience some things without it.

A video I watched further explained what loneliness means; you can watch it if you want more insight on the topic.

The channel is genuinely impressive, and it explains a lot of things; check it out.

Link to the video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n3Xv_g3g-mA

One thing that got me when watching the video was how much loneliness hurts an individual, and we are not only talking about emotional and social pain. It sometimes manifests into physical pain, affecting habits and our bodies.

Loneliness is a severe health danger, which is why we should all work harder to understand how it could enter into our lives and hurt us.

The question now is, why does loneliness hurt us so much?

Loneliness isn't only a social problem; it also affects our health significantly, and once it does that, every part of our life is linked.

Once it links into our lives, it can become chronic loneliness which starts to take a toll on our minds and bodies.

In the past, health experts did not treat loneliness seriously, but recently we found out how dangerous loneliness could be for our health.

You may think loneliness is not severe as smoking or drinking, but let me tell you the truth: it can be worse. It would harm your life/health as being overweight and smoking.

Isolation impairs your body's immune response causing the stress hormone cortisol to rise, making poor eating choices and high blood pressure. 

Remember the last time you were lonely? That piece of meat/chicken or pint of ice cream in the freezer starts to look more attractive and yummy than a healthy-cooked meal.

Human beings are social, and we need to support each other for our food, shelter, and various life essentials.

Material support may be necessary, but sometimes emotional support can go a long way, especially when we receive it from our family, friends, and romantic partners.

The advantages of these social relationships are hard to compute, but the effect of weak relationships and conflicting social support can be seen daily.

Human beings need each other in so many different ways, but we often fail to give ourselves this support that is so vital to our well-being.

Loneliness hurts because of our inbuilt social needs, and being ignored or rejected by our loved ones may cause us to feel cut off and isolated from others. 

The pain of rejection from the person we love can cause us to worsen our lonely condition.

Loneliness doesn't only happen when alone; even people surrounded by tons of friends can be affected.

Loneliness is more of internal pain, and it doesn't matter if you are connected with others.

Childhood experiences may cause it when feelings of neglect and attachments have been burned into our brains.

That feeling of being rejected and abandoned can echo throughout our lives, causing us to feel disconnected from other people even when they are near us.

The reasons we feel lonely can be complicated, and since it is such an internal experience, it can be hard to predict what contributes to loneliness.

Loneliness is a compound and unique experience for every individual. Even if two people have the same experiences, maybe a break-up or work problems, they won't always have the same reactions.

Loneliness can be tied to deep beliefs that we hold ourselves to. If a person has low-self esteem, they are more likely to experience loneliness because they don't think they are worthy of being close to anyone.

We are ashamed of being lonely because we believe others may judge us and tell us we are weak, making us feel more disconnected from them. The shame loneliness makes us reject people who are suffering from it.

You have to recognize that there is no shame in making your situation better, and it isn't shameful to be alone.

Changing your view of life may not be easy, but over time you will transform yourself and break free from loneliness, finding a fresh new exciting way to connect with others.

As I wrote before, we all go through loneliness in our lifetime, so don't be ashamed because everyone has gone through it.