"The Toxicity Part Of My Father's Youngest Sister."
All of us known someone who loves stepping and degrading someone down when they knew they didn't afford to go to school or even manage to step at college because of their wrong doings. Today, this is a rant about ny father's youngest sister who loves degrading someone down even a part of her family.
She's my auntie, the perfect one, the high standard auntie that I met in my whole life. The rich one, the who owns a lots of house and lot, cars, and she's a vice president at one company in the California. She's perfect, almost perfect.
She loves helping, she loves giving, she loves donating, but take note. All of what I've said were a lie. None of them were true.
Maybe it's true that she loves giving her money, and other things to others but that's not the case.
Do you know what is it?
She loves downgrading.
She always keep rebuking someone including my family members.
She loves judging to someones life.
She loves helping but also love rebuking.
When she's here in the Philippines, she used to waste money around 1,000$ or 10,000php when it comes to the family outing, or family vacation. She even showing what she got instead of being humble.
She's not humble, how?
Because whenever that she's going to waste her money, she will say to us, "You need to follow my steps to be rich.", "You need to be like me.", "don't be like blabla because they just wasting anything.", "Look at blabla, they didn't finish schooling and instead find a poor work to do."
She kept asking us like, "Do you know why I have a lot of money? Because I'm woking hard.", Like hey, we all woking hard to get what we need.
"Get this course and I'll help you.", why you kept controlling us on anything we want or we need?.
I remember when she told me to get IT course same as her, I eventually switch to Office Ad, after figuring out that she want me to be with her in U.S. in my mind, I don't want to because I already know how she was downgrading my parents.
Whenever she had a vacation in the Philippines, she always telling me not to copy any one of my cousins who didn't finish their schools because they go to work, lmao. She's educated by her attitude was not, she lack of education when it comes on how to respect someone.
I Didn't Plan To Stop Schooling, I Have My Reasons.
She keep bring up the past about my step sisters and brothers who didn't finish their school because they become a drug addict. It a part of the past now and the most important right now is they changed, they become the best and better version of their selves and they learn a lot and quite lot of things. But she kept bringing it like what happen before is a wrong decision. We all know that we have a different life stories but she loves entering someone's life, she loves adding and adding and adding a lot of judgement when it comes to others.
She's Bringing Up The Past.
She's always bringing the past like when we're all having dinner and suddenly she spoke how miserable are past is and that's why we can't achieve anything because of what we've done. She's talking as if she never done something stupid and bad in her past. Why is she like that? Yes we all know that shes rich! And intelligent but telling us things we dont like ordering us like we're her minions, no were not.
We are family stop treating us like we're some kind of bastards, we're family so instead of insulting us give us some positive vibes and guide us correctly not like you'll guide us but you will also insult us, all she cares about is whether we can be successful or not or whatever decision we'll make she's always there sating its a wrong choice that we should follow her choice instead. Like auntie! This is our choice! Its our freedom to choose! And for you to provide advice to us! Not tell us what to do!
As i was saying to those who are also experiencing the same situation as us please tell your opinion dont keep quiet because nothing will happen as i meant to the same situation as us is to those family who's degrading their families instead of treating them nicely. Why does strangers offer more help, lovely advice than those we're family with? Strangers help us alot than our family why? Is that only my point of view?
In my pov strangers helps me alot than my own family, why? I dont know why? Or is it only me? Well as i was saying dont Keep quiet about your situation dont let them take control of your decisions , dont let them choose for you its your choice not them. Youust learn how to fight back .
I was once like that keeping quiet all the time not fighting back. I was like a mute person i never talked back and just follow, the.....I got tired, i keep asking myself why? Why do i follow people like that? Is it for my own good? Am i happy? Thats where I start refusing orders and their choices as well.
SHE'S ALWAYS BRAGGING ABOUT THE THINGS SHE HAS THAT WE DONT
She always brags about the things she has that we dont money,house, successful life, what else? She doesn't stop until shes satisfied . Yes, there's nothing wrong about a person bragging about they're things but she's different she's bragging but alson insulting us.
HELP!
Help, yes this what we asked in times of need and desperation. Why does stranger help us in our desperate situation but our family not? My Aunt yes she loves to see us suffer well not really she also help us but that help is the most painful help you'll receive. If you're asking me why is it painful to receive her help well let me tell you this 'she'll help you but shame you' .
Do you know what does that means? Well it means that she'll help but she will spread nasty and unpleasant things about you. So I too never been happy receiiving her help.
The toxicity of my family not just my aunt is never ending there's always broke out whenever someone is mentioning our past our miserable times. We hate talking about our past because its already past and should be never speak about it again.
Our family agree on that agreement that we shouldn't talked about our past because its already a past. We all agree about it.
But whenever my aunt go here to enjoy vacation it always ended up terrible. Vacation are supposed to be enjoyable but it always end up being terrible.
THINGS ABOUT MY FAMILY.
First, of all is being toxic of course! All of my family is like that and instead of helping each of us they rather pull you down.
Second, is spreading rumors, as you all know how bad and unpleasant those rumors are, sometimes i am shocked of how exaggerating the rumors are, well what can i do?my own relative are the ones whos spreading it they're ruining my reputation.
Third, the unfair treatment we received. If you're successful they'll help you but if your not then they'll leave you, you needed to be reach just to receive their help.
Fourth, influence. They can easily influenced people around them influence them about thier bad habits or worse manipulate them, they're good at manipulating people to their will.
I know you'll be like "why are doing this?" , "Is this how you repay them?" No its not, im sharing this to everyone to gain knowledge and understanding about the situation like this .
To gain further understanding about what I do in this kind of situation.
And to gain stress 🤣, (damay-damay eh no).
Author's Note:
Hi everyone! Always remember na don't bragg about things that we have. Let's bragg how good we are not the rich that we have, I know some of you have this kind of fanily also. And I hate it, yeah, I will not deny that I really hate how this family were treating is each other.
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Grabe yung Tita mo langga.. yung tumutulong pero pnapahiya naman kayo tama ka din na mas tumutulong pa nang kusa yung mga di mo kapamilya