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Some people experience some nerves when placing themselves in a situation that could lead to rejection. The fear of rejection has a far-reaching effect on our lives, the fear becomes overwhelming for some people, and if not treated, it will lead to greater limitations in a person's life.

In this article, I'm going to talk about how fear of rejection can influence our life and behavior and some of the strategies you can use to overcome it.

I'm going to list some areas where we can be faced with fear Of being rejected

Job contracts :Fear of rejection can also be termed as a lack of self-confidence, you'll feel weak and have difficulty in negotiating work-related contracts, leaving profitable pay and benefits on the table

Business dealings :Getting a job might not be a problem, but they need to attract inventors and this is the key component of various jobs. some times, answering the telephone can be so dire for people with a fear of rejection, even as simple as it may be.

Meeting new people: As humans, we are social creators and we are required to follow some necessities in public, but because you have fear of rejection, you might not be able to associate with strangers or even friends. You will not have the impulse to keep lasting connections with others.

Dating : Although a first date can be daunting, those with fear of rejection might be faced with skepticism. Visible fearful manners are common, you even worry about your appearance and have problems to speak up. You spend your time to worry if someone like you or not instead of focusing on getting to know each other to determine if you'll continue with the person.

Marriage : Two partners need to agree on everything no matter how compatible you both might be because marriage consists of an unending series of negotiating and concessions. Those with fear of rejection have problems standing their ground or expressing their own needs.

They can also lead to fear of being abandoned which can stir up the issues of distrust in your partner, and you began to carry out unhealthy behaviors such as inspecting your partner's phone for messages or their social network account.

There are still some things that fear of rejection can cause such as :

Lack of Authenticity : Those with fear of rejection may live life under the mask because they feel that they will be rejected if they show their true self to the world, they seem inauthentic to others and find it difficult to embrace life's challenges.

People- pleasing : In two different articles, I talked about people-pleaser , The venom of toxic people, and The act of pleasing people, and how to set your boundaries. It is natural to always want to take care of those people we love, but the fear of rejection makes you go too far. You find it difficult to say no even when your response will cause your life hardship and inconveniences. People pleaser enables the bad behaviors of others, you take too much, thereby increasing your risk of burnout.

Passivity: People with fear of rejection always avoid confrontations, this makes you to find it difficult to speak up for what you need. You shut down your needs and pretend as if they don't matter.

This will also prevent you from reaching your full potential because you'll feel paralyzed in putting yourself out there. Thus, you prefer to remain in your current situation even when you are not happy about it.

Passive-Aggressiveness: They shut down their own needs which makes them end up behaving in passive-aggressive ways. They find themselves working inefficiently on the project that they took on, they tend to procrastinate the things about their life.

Effects of fearful behavior

We might feel insecure, fidget and even lose the ability to communicate effectively due to the fear of rejection, though individuals react to these behaviors in different ways and I will be listing them below:

Rejection : Confidence certainly enhances attractiveness. Just like a general rule, the lack of self-confidence as a result of fear of rejection makes us more likely to be rejected. Building confidence will make us to be more valued by people.

Manipulation: Those who suffer fear of rejection may be at greater risk of being manipulated by those who know how to push their buttons, and they are being driven to the edge because they think they'll leave at any time, of course, the manipulator will leave once they have got what they want out of the other person.

Frustration: People with fear of rejection feel emotionally threatening, and over time they become angry and frustrated instead of confronting others about their behavior.

Way to overcome your fear

There are some steps you can take to learn how to overcome the fear of rejection, it will help you to cope better and to stop it from impacting your life negatively.

Self-Regulation skills improvement: This plays an important role in overcoming fear of rejection because it refers to the ability to identify and control your behaviors and emotion to feelings of fear, this can help you to reframe your thinking encouragingly and optimistically.

Face your fear: Coping with feelings that trigger our emotions should be avoided. We should get better to deal with our fears by tackling our experience with rejection, this will make us have less anxiety and will also gain greater confidence in our abilities to succeed in life.

Cultivate Resilience :Picking yourself up after a setback and then moving forward with a renewed sense of strength and optimism. We should have faith in our ability to bounce back from rejection when we take steps to improve our skills.

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