Over the years I have met a lot of people. I cannot say I am friendly but whenever one approaches me and befriends me, I am always happy to oblige and return the favor. Based on Enneagram Test, I am a Type 6, a Loyalist. So when I consider one a friend, letting go of them is heartbreaking.
But I have met people who turned out to be "not so pleasant" to be friends with. We have a term for these people - toxic. They suck the life out of us, drain all things that make us enjoy life. How do we spot them? These are some of their many faces:
They always interrupt
Toxic people always do the talking. They are always the hero in every story. They want the spotlight to be always directed towards them. When you try to butt in, they will interrupt and not let you speak your piece. They just won't shut up! They sure love to hear themselves talk, no matter how long it takes them.
They are always right
Toxic people are arrogant. They think of themselves as always correct, and when you try to correct them, they will freak out and nag at you until you side with them. They will make you question your beliefs and doubt yourself. They are gaslighters, the kind of person who emotionally blackmails others.
They are always sad, negative, pessimistic
If a person sucks the joy in the room, is always pessimistic about things, is always gloomy, and tries to convince others that hope is elusive, watch out for that person is showing signs of toxicity. They bring people down with their words and actions. Their mere presence is enough to make a cheerful crowd gloomy.
They are jealous and judgmental
These people have so much hate in themselves that they can't be happy with others. They spew judgment on others because of bitterness and jealousy. They talk about people behind their backs and they have nothing positive to say about others.
They have too much drama
These people are complainers. They love crises and failures, and they are repulsive to stories of victories and celebrations. Life will never be good because no matter how hard you try to offer solutions, they won't take it. They only want sympathy and empathy, but they would not move an inch to be better.
They are liars and manipulative
Toxic people are liars and awesome storytellers. They peddle fake news and manipulate people to believe them through exaggeration and flattery. They deceive people, and their dishonesty makes it difficult to trust them completely.
They don't care about feelings
Toxic people are so insensitive that they don't care about the feelings of people around them. They will speak whatever they want to say in whatever manner they like. Respect is a foreign concept to them. They hide under the guise of tact and being natural. They think everything is a competition that they have to win over.
When you find yourself trapped in a relationship that is toxic and life-draining, do yourself a favor and step away. Take care of your mental and emotional health. Keep boundaries. It may not be easy to cut off ties but it will be worth it in the end.
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Narcissists spotted. I got those a lot! Some are just around here somewhere.