"The future is scary but you can't just run back to the past because it's familiar."
I was watching a video from the series "How I Met Your Mother" when a character in the series was telling her partner this phrase, the story of the article was actually inspired by her, because her phrase affected me very much.
In many cases, we prefer remembering the past over discovering the future, because man is by nature afraid of the unknown. The future is unknown to us, so we fear adventure and discovery. We prefer to stay on the known and content past, even if it is sad or painful.
I know a friend who applied for a job and was rejected. The following year, she refused to apply again, because she was stuck in the past and afraid of being rejected again, so frightened that she didn't even try because for her the outcome was settled, which is rejection. But this is completely wrong. Destiny gives her a second chance to try, but she is afraid of what will come. She judged herself based on the past, and did not give herself a chance to discover what the future holds for her.
Another friend, who is experiencing a very toxic relationship, had a good relationship with her boyfriend when he was trying to get her attention, he was doing many nice things to make her fall in love with him, but after I reciprocated his feelings and said about it, he changed and became rude and neglectful, and mistreated her always calling me crying because of his neglect Tell her to move on, tell her she deserves a better person, but her heart is stuck in the past only in the beautiful moments and neglects the present because of the fear of the future of being alone or not finding someone else.
We often refuse to be freed from the past, because we fear the future, we fear the unknown. Let me tell you that discovering the unknown is better than living it, because staying in the past is neglecting the present and the future.
Some times you need to go through the fear to see the beauty on the other side.
Who knows, maybe the unknown to come is better than the past that we hold on to and refuse to let go.
Do not be afraid, calm down, take a deep breath and go to your destiny. Free yourself from all restrictions and embark on the journey of life to explore the wonderful future.
Make the past your teacher, the present your friend, and the future your goal.
Do not allow the past to cancel your present and your future.
Learn to let go of the past, accept it, forgive it and let it go.
The past is gone and cannot be changed, the present is here, enjoy every moment of it, the future is unknown. Go and try to discover it but don't stress yourself about it.
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So true, my dear doc. As they always say, those things that happen to us are either lessons or blessings, either way, it is a win-win situation. Let those failures be the stepping stones of success.
Sometimes we don't hold on to the past but the past seem to hunt us and the truth in past would not let rest till we find a lasting solution Happy New month
Friend, but it is that our internal struggle that seems to have no end, is like in comics a little angel remembering your past and another remembering your future, the key is to live in the present, that's where you will receive less damage
Of course my dear, the past is gone and won't come back and the future has not yet come, the present is what we have, let's appreciate every moment and live it
If you want to be happy, do not dwell in the past, do not worry about the future, focus on living fully in the present
I agree with you very much, my friend, we own the present, let us live it fully and be assured that the future awaits us
Beautiful motivational words. I am currently stuck in a past where I am happy with my father and find it very difficult to move on into the future without him even though I am surrounded by many people who love me...
Dear Jelena, I know how much you love your father, but clinging to the past will not bring him back to you, it will prevent you from enjoying the present, it's your days that pass, make them count, you have wonderful children and your mother is there, they are enough reasons to smile every day
The past has nothing to offer us except its lessons, dwelling on it won't change a thing. Focus more on the present if you truly wanna be happy.
Exactly my dear, learning from the past and focusing on the present will guarantee us a wonderful future
I eagerly waiting something like this to motivate me and I hope it will help me to progess
If you need any help, I'm ready, listen, my friend. Don't worry about anything that happens. Just focus on yourself. Don't let others affect you negatively or shake your self-confidence. You are stronger than this.
Thank you so much mam...you are as beautiful as your words
Your are welcome dear
It's always better for us to think ahead, I hope the girl regains herself and leave such toxic relationship.
I hope she does this too, and I think the end of the relationship is clear. I hope that she will be faster in making the right decision and start focusing on herself and her future.
We will never know what the future holds, but we can make a way to predict it. If you are carefully doing things right, you'll be lead to a good future, and vice versa. Past is past, we shouldn't live with it. Dwell in the future and anticipate the future. That's the secret to survival.
Just like that, my friend, focus on building a good future by making good our actions in the present. Sow good in the present, you will reap good in the future, but the past is experience and nothing more
No matter what has happened to us in the he past, it's always advisable for us to think forward... Remaining in an abusive relationship and dreaming of better days only makes the future look more bleak and nightmarish
You got it well my dear, we can't have a better future if we repeat the past or hold on to it, let it go and learn the lesson, then the future will be waiting for us
Face the present and enjoy
The present is what we have now, so we must live every moment to the full
Living in the past is never an option. Rather I prefer, you try new things. Don't be scared to fail
Exactly, the past is not to be stuck in, but rather to learn from and move towards a better future
The past is always a step behind us
A beautiful reminder my dear and yes the past will surely teaches what we need to do in the present and our future will be the results of our hardship
Well said my dear, the future is a result of what we are going through now, so if we want a good future we need to work on our present
The past connects our future❤
It does my friend
Our past plays an important thing in our life because it taught us to become more braver and learn from it. Let the past inspired by making our life better.
Beautiful words, my dear, the past made us, but we must live in the present and discover the future in order to develop ourselves more
There is beauty in the past and we can learn from it. Although, sometimes there are bad memories behind, still it is part of who we are.
This is important, we should not deny the past because who we are now is the product of our good and bad experiences
The past is history, it is meant to teach us and we take lessons from it and make right decisions for our future.
Exactly my friend, we make mistakes, we learn, and we get better
Like you said, I have always seen the past as teacher. Take the lessons and move on, ensuring you don't make the same mistakes again.
Exactly my friend, the best teacher is the past, there is a funny saying that says don't repeat the same mistake, there are new mistakes try it lol
Hey Lara I agree with you about we should stop thinking about past, Keep focus on future.
Hello my new friend..yes, the past cannot be changed, it is better to learn from it and move on
It been a long time big sis @Lara888 I hope all is well