Do you trust your partner?

Howdy folks 🤠 how are you today? Today makes it 2 days that we have been without electricity and it's starting to bug me because my powerbank went off today and right now I have to manage my phone's battery while I charge the powerbank in my neighbor's place.

Let's proceed with the article for today and let me ask the question to the couples here: do you trust your partner? Trust plays a very important role in any relationship and the absence of it will eventually lead to break up because mistrust comes with doubt, uncertainty, and the worst of them all: assumptions.

When there's no trust, everything your partners does looks suspicious and you will always assume the worst of them. But is trust easy to build? It depends on who you ask, for some people it's very easy for them to trust while for others, it's very hard to trust a person but one thing I know is that trust is very hard to rebuild once it has been broken.

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One of the things that can break trust is lies, a liar can never be trusted because you will always think that whenever they tell you something, they are probably lying and you will always second guess their answers. In a relationship, it's very easy for trust to be built if both parties involved are in love, but once one of them notices any foul play, doubts sets in.

Signs of foul play can come in so many ways and what I mean by foul play is cheating. Some signs of a cheating partner are:

• Always sneaking around with their phone

• Hiding to make or receive phone calls

• Always hiding their chat whenever you try to look.

• They never allow you to access their phone

And many others.

There are still a lot of them I didn't mention, coz some of them are simply ridiculous 😆 when this question was asked on Twitter, some males mentioned that their girlfriends having too many male friends is a red flag and it's sometimes a sign of cheating, but is that true? Your guess is as good as mine.

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Trust is becoming quite hard in relationships these days (especially in my country) because of the crazy things people have been caught doing. It's not shocking to always come across news of cheating every day and you keep wondering: "who is even safe?". A lot of hearts have been broken because they trusted the wrong person, and it becomes very hard for them to trust someone else in the future.

I remember a conversation I had with some of my hostel mates some weeks back in the university. One of them said he can't be in a serious relationship right now and that all he wants is to be flirting and playing around with ladies. When asked why he said so, he said he has seen a lot of things that have made it hard for him to trust any girl.

He gave some instances of when he has been with some girls that had very serious boyfriends, he will be with them in their house and the serious boyfriend will call and the girl will plead with him to stay quiet so they can pick up the call. While on call, the girl will keep saying she loves the boyfriend so much and will never leave him, but after the call, they will have s*x 💀.

Do you get the picture I just painted right now? The girl is openly cheating on the boyfriend with him and he knows the boyfriend. He said it has happened that way with about 4 girls he has been with and that scared him because he always imagined that if he ever gets a girlfriend, she will probably be doing the same thing and he will find it hard to trust her.

I totally get where he is coming from because I have come across something similar to that. And don't get me wrong, it doesn't happen with ladies alone, men do it too! But men tend to hide their cheating very well. Both the one that's been cheated on and the one he is cheating with will not know what's going on (in most cases), but when it comes to ladies, one of the guys involved will know she's cheating and still be cool with it.

Ladies can even go as far as introducing their main boyfriend to the deputy boyfriend and both males won't have a clue that they are been played 🤣 I am not even talking based on something I heard somewhere, I personally witnessed this one and I was silently laughing. The truth is that some people think with their heart when they are in a relationship, there are signs to watch out for but they can't even see them.

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But does this mean there aren't people that can be trusted when it comes to relationships? Of course, there are good people out there but they are very rare. Some persons have been so unlucky in relationships that it will take the grace of God before they will be able to trust again. Once you have a good partner, you will know and you will find it hard to doubt the person.

This is especially true if you're someone that listens to their brain alongside their heart when in a relationship. Doing this will help you to see signs that can tell you if your partner can be trusted or not. Sometimes, some people trust blindly and it just clicks; their partner always remains loyal and they have no reason to doubt them.

So the question is, should you trust blindly? Probably not, especially if you're someone that is trying to prevent getting heartbroken, one of the ways to do that is to not trust blindly. But, why remain in the relationship when you know you can't trust the person?

Little detour

I saw this on Twitter and I will like to ask the Filipinos here; is this true? what about those that end up marrying the wrong person? It will sure feel like a life sentence, The "hooked for life" sounds like a threat 😆. I guess people will be especially careful when they are about to get married

Thanks for reading 💖💖💖

Friday April 29, 2022