Take a break from Social Media
22 of February 2022
I keep trying to live through other people. Creating a career path for those around me, projecting a career and an image on my girl friends, structuring an image and notoriety on my friends, building a brand and status for my colleagues and friends. All in the guise that I find solace in their achievements, that their win stays as mine.
You may find it weird if I say that I don't have any goal in life. That's not sad. Trust me I don't mind. But sometimes I want to see myself having a hand in other people's stories and making them smile while remembering the source of that smile to be Kristoffer. Isn't that goal enough? I wouldn't like to consider it a goal but a norm which everyone should aim to achieve.
Social media brings us together, it moulds us more than we care to admit, and sometimes we have more relationship and connections up there than we do in reality. But sometimes it becomes too much- you sometimes use social media and you feel an overload of information, you feel depressed and start to think your life is shit.
Social media influence is why you think you always have to talk to someone to feel close to them. Makes you feel that as long as that green dot says "online" they should be talking to you. If they're not talking to you, they're talking to someone else, doing something else. The problem begins with the internal question of- "Who else could be more important than me?"
Social media influence is you looking at pictures and video of other people, seeing congratulatory posts of other people and at the end of the day you feel down and wasted. You need to take a break from social media once in a while to better appreciate relationships and your reality.
Take a week or two off social media. Don't announce it. Announcing it gives the impression that you want some sort of eulogy or sense of relevance, the exaggerated relevance of the dead. It is sometimes why people want to die by suicide, to feel that relevance. Just go on to the land of the dead already- you will be missed or maybe not!
During your break off socials, write out your login details lest you forget, then delete the apps. That way the early morning social media check will be off your list and something else will replace it. You'll feel empty without social media for the small doses that keep you sane. You'd be fine without it!
On a date with friends, never go to social media and scroll away time. Whenever you're in a company you cherish and respect, your phone shouldn't be a part of it. Enjoy the conversation, laugh, share, gist. Live in the moments. Introducing your phone and social media to the mix creates an avenue for gossip, you'd begin to talk about social media people.
In the moment, you and your relationship should matter. Social media matter shouldn't be the only thing that keeps your relationship going!
One last thing- If you've got browning, don't post it on socials. Nobody cares, your ammunitions are for you and yourself only, they're meant for your legal protection and nor for show!
I deactivated my Facebook since March 2020 haha! It is too toxic for me . Like 3/4 of my friends there is I never met.