Does age really matter in a relationship?

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This is a very intriguing topic, I must say. It will divide the readers depending on their beliefs. Many will say "age does not matter in love" or "love knows no age" but we can't deny the fact that many couples are being judged based on the age gap of their partner. May-December love affair as others calls it. This topic also opens the question, "why is it okay that men date younger women but older women should not date younger men?" Relationship topics can be really tricky and complicated.

I think in some ways, this kind of relationship can actually work. One is more mature than the other. But mind that maturity does not always come in age. Sometimes younger people tend to think more logical or practical than older people. Which I think is very important in a relationship. That's why my thoughts are also divided if age really matters or not.

For some, age is one of the least factors in a relationship while for others, age is a very important factor in finding a partner. Well, technically, I can say age can be, yes, a factor. You don't want to date a minor when you're an adult. That's against the law. And some people would prefer older partners so they can have a more mature relationship.

Age will not defy the relationship. No matter the age, people can be manipulative and childish. It all depends on both you and your partner's understanding with each other and it depends on the person itself if he/she is matures and ready for the relationship.

I have friends who have partners years younger than them. I asked them about this topic and they said that their partners may be younger but they are more mature than my friends are in terms of a relationship. My friends may have more experience in relationship but their partners' maturity is what keeps them intact not the experiences.

But there are also people who suffer from their partner because of age-gap. Some older partners become more manipulative that it begins to make the relationship toxic. And some younger partners are too child-like that it may seem like they're dealing with their kid instead. So basically, it may or may not work. It's a case to case basis.

No matter the age, you should be fully committed and ready before you get into a relationship. You should know that being in a happy relationship takes a lot of work. It's not like a fairy tale movie where you get everything you want in the end.

This is why I am saying earlier that I think, it depends on the person's commitment and maturity. Although you can't deny the fact that being older makes you have more experiences that you have learned from. SO I'm having divided thoughts on this topic.

What about you? what do you think? Does age really matter? Let me know on the comment section below what you think.

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For me, no po n nice article po, like they say po, age is just a number n there r those who got a may-december love affair or relationship pero matatag nman po, one's vic sotto n pauleen luna, aiai delas alas n ung asawa nyang gerard yta pangalan po

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4 years ago

ako... 7 years age gap namin ng husband ko :)

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4 years ago

Aq po ms gusto q po na ms mtnda po sa akin ung lalaki n un nga po, 20 years po agwat nmin, lol

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4 years ago

mas okay sa akin yun kasi mas mature siya. kasi dba sabi nga sa studies mas maaga nagmamature ang babae sa lalake kaya mas okay pag mas may edad para mature na ahaha

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4 years ago

Opo, agree po aq sa inyo, lol, ska po ms seryoso po ung lalaki kpag mtanda po sa inyo

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4 years ago

sawa na sa kaka play around... pero di din lahat madami jan magagaling na kasi experienced na sila sa panloloko ng babae hahaha or ng lalake. kaya depende pa din cguro sa tao

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4 years ago

Opo

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4 years ago

Such an amazing article indeed ❀

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4 years ago

Thank you so much

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4 years ago

It's completely my pleasure dear 😍

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4 years ago

Age doesn't matter in relation, but in lust relationship age definitely matter.

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4 years ago

why is that so?

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4 years ago

Not, all the time. But sometimes it does matter. But for me as a marriage counselor, before going to marriage, both partners have to deal this issue before going on the altar, not after the wedding. It should be before, then it will become a good marriage. But dealing this issue of age after marriage would be challenging. Thanks for sharing anyway.

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4 years ago

oh nice. A marriage counselor.. You also deal with counsels that married people do, I assume.. Do you deal with many couples who are suffering because of their age gap?

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4 years ago

Yes. But marriage counseling is deep, and requires approval for both partners, and time availability. But yes,

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4 years ago

For me it matters. For me lang ha. I dont know. Back when I was single, I never dated a guy whos older 5 years than me. I am not comfortable , I see those guy as an older brother and my sister was not like me. She preferred older guys. His boyfriend back then was 30 years older than her, mas matanda pa sa mama ko and her last is 20 years older than her. I cannot see myself dating a guy in that age. Ewan ko ba hahaha. Gusto ko ka bracket lang ng age ko para same vibe lang kami.

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User's avatar Yen
4 years ago

What's the oldest guy you think kaya mong idate, then hehe

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4 years ago

Wala ako maalala haha. Ito nga asawa ko 2 years lang agwat ng age nya sakin tinatawag ko pang kuya noon πŸ˜‚ But I dated a guy whos younger than me. I have two ex boyfriends whos younger than me. mga 1 and 2 years gap

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User's avatar Yen
4 years ago

hahaha.. peto walang someone 5 years older or younger sayo?

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4 years ago

Wala πŸ˜…

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User's avatar Yen
4 years ago

haha kmi mag asawa 7 years ang age-gap :)

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4 years ago

iba iba talaga tayo ng preference πŸ˜„

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User's avatar Yen
4 years ago

hahahaha oo nga. And that;s okay. as long as happy tayo keri na... BAsta wag sa minor baka makulong ahahaha

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4 years ago

truth hahaha

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User's avatar Yen
4 years ago

No. It does not matter. Maturity and comfortability does.

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4 years ago

I thought so too.. :)

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4 years ago

❀❀❀

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4 years ago

Depends on how matured they are in a relationship. Still up to someones' preference.

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4 years ago

Yep.. :) I totally agree :)

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4 years ago

Maturity does come with age in most cases. An age difference of 5/7 years may be acceptable but beyond that the thinking changes and there may be comparability issues later on.

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4 years ago

I agree...

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4 years ago

Age doesn't mean you are matured enough to deal into a relationship.

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4 years ago

yeah somtimes ..

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4 years ago

I'm older than my partner and sometimes he gets whiny and childish and it's fine because half the time his maturity matches mine so it really does depend on the people involved. For us, the age dynamic forces us to keep switching things up

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4 years ago

yes. hahaha.. Natawa ako doon sa he gets whiny and childish. relate much ahah

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4 years ago

It's truuueeee. He gets so whineyyy. It's cute sometimes but then sometimes he gets sulky like a baby after

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4 years ago

For me age really doesn't matter but in some way it is. A couple should be at the right age before marriage that's all. and I prepared a Man older than me at more than 8 yrs 🀣. Mi limit

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4 years ago

hehe ako sis 7 years hahaha. malapit lapit na ahaha... :)

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4 years ago

Not only age i think nothing should be matter in a relationship if you want it from your close heart

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4 years ago

Sometimes, it is difficult for one partner, to follow, as age problems, will make it hard.

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4 years ago

Yeah can be true... You're right..

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4 years ago

If one is 40 and the other is just a (regardless sex) money machine then yes. I do have problem...

Sure, there will be issues when one is 70 and the other is 50, that should addressed at the early stage of the relationship, but when there is true - rainy - love then, no. There is no problem. I can accept a half a century difference, with true love...

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4 years ago

true - rainy - love

You really like to associate rain in love, don't you ahahaha... I like that ahahha... This comment made my day ahahha

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4 years ago

Hehe, yeah, too many movies.

It's a love level meter. It's like crash, romance, in love, love, rainy....

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4 years ago

hahahha... I noticed that too...

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4 years ago

It's really complicated,,,

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4 years ago

It seems complicated

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4 years ago

love is complicated hehe

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4 years ago

Interesting article 😍

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4 years ago

Love has no boundaries..

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4 years ago

only checkpoints?? hehe

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4 years ago

What matters is understanding and respect. Age has nothing to do with marriage

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4 years ago

respect. I like that

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4 years ago

A very wonder topic choice . "Yeah you don't want to date a minor when you are an adult its against the law" Age matters and it doesn't. It matters because males ought to be older than females in relationship. And it dissent matter because some old persons behave childishly and that's where maturity come in some might be low in age but mature in mind than an adult who is high in age but behaves childishly. So age is important and not important.

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4 years ago

Yeah it depends on the person :)

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4 years ago

I do prefer older than me because they are more mature on handling things. But right now, I don't know if It's good that i invest in the relationship that we have in the end it just ruin because he thinks I am childish and need to grow up πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

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4 years ago

hugot sis?? hehehe

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4 years ago

Sobra πŸ˜­πŸ˜­πŸ˜­πŸ˜­πŸ˜†

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4 years ago

wanna talk in private? :)

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4 years ago

I have no other soc account right now sis. Naka deactivate na eh. Gagawa pa ako ulit pag nabili ko na ang new phone ko.

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4 years ago

ok sis.. Hope you'll feel batter soon.. :)

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4 years ago

I will be. Ako pa. Tamang hugot lang to. Ang sakit lang kasi talagang sa birthday ko pa πŸ˜…πŸ˜…

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4 years ago

oo kaya mo yan. I sense naman na matapang kang tao. I mean hindi yung tipong war freak ha. haha.. Pain will heal when you forgive. :) Darating ka din sa time na makakapag forgive ka. Sarili mo man or ibang tao. :)

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4 years ago

Uu, yung klase ng tao na nasa loob ang kulo πŸ˜†πŸ˜†

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4 years ago

well it depends... and you are right that maturity is much more important...so if one finds love in younger one or in older one that's okay in my view...if you think she/he is the person, you may ignore age if you're younger or olderπŸ’• but in case of too much age difference my view will change..

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4 years ago

like 20 years age gap?

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4 years ago

it seems to be much for me...but I'm not facing the situation... so little bit confused to take the exact decision... in this case one has to ask his heart...whether he really wants it and ready to accept? if the ans is yes then proceed...otherwise leave it

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4 years ago

couldn't agree less.. Thanks very true... :)

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4 years ago

welcome dear 😊

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4 years ago

Age doesnt matter when you truly love the person. ❀️

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4 years ago

spread love nice

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4 years ago

Well, it depends. To others, it matters. But to some it does not matter, cause it depends on the compatibility of the two.

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4 years ago

compatibility means a lot too yes...

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4 years ago

For me, age doesn't really matter. Most of the times, it is the culture of 2 individuals that makes issues about the age.

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4 years ago

Most of the times it's the neighbors ahahah

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4 years ago

Exactly. Hahaha. Mga tsismosang kapitbahay. πŸ™„πŸ™„

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4 years ago

kulang ng "inggetera" sis hehhee

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4 years ago

Bkit kya na double send ung reply ko?? Haha. Khit once lng. Oo nga sis. Inggeterang tsismosang neighbors.. haha

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4 years ago

baka sa net mo sis. :)

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4 years ago

Exactly. Hahaha. Mga tsismosang kapitbahay. πŸ™„πŸ™„

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4 years ago

For me age doesn't matter.. what matter most is that you love each other..

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4 years ago

True. That's true.... Well, as long as it's not against the law, I suppose hehehe

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4 years ago

When love is involved, I think age is just a number, all what is needed in any relationship to work out is love, finance, respect and understanding. Nowadays, most guys don't marry their mates but goes for ladies under age and ladies goes for more mature guys, but but in the scenerio where they is aforementioned characteristics and the lady is older than the guys, if it is not beyond the stage of menopause and they is love, understanding, respect and finance, they is no crime going into such relationship. - my perspective

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4 years ago

Yes that's right. I agree with you

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4 years ago

Love doesnt matters even you are older or younger love dont care

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4 years ago

Happy birthday to her 🎈😍 Let me chek the give awayΫ” And yes love is blind it won't be effected by age cast or Creed. Your beloved is your whole world and that's it

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4 years ago

that's true. When you love you don't see anything even the age...

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4 years ago

To me I think age also matter in relationship. From my experience, I see that underage people will always behave like one...

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4 years ago

I see... YeI don't date guys younger than me too... wait... errrr yeah I didn't officially date one ahahah

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4 years ago

What matter most in a relationship is mutual understanding. If the other is the left and the other on the right then where would it go? Age is not the question, it is the maturity of an individual to handle a relationship. People are judgmental going directly into conclusion.

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4 years ago

For me age is just a reason and others "reason" may people say, because more importantly in the relationship you understand each other. Actually it's base in the situation because every one younger, older, mature, also professional can change the beliefs in a relationship. A professional which is known as mature people can immature as well as the older, younger as you say can be mature . Turn table base on the situation and how you understand your partner and the situation so for me do what you belive in for no "reason" everyone might need an explanation but its you who's in the relationship not them. Because someday you wil be inlove no limits needed and no reason for yourself. Hope you understand goodvibes for everyone 😘

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4 years ago

yep. good vibes hehehe

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4 years ago