10 Ways to connect with your spouse even just for one minute.
**Take just one minute to kiss!**
Kiss each other deeply before your ways part in the morning. I promise you that one kiss can create a lot of intimacy in your marriage. (You can't say you don't have one minute for that).
**Go to bed at the same time!**
If you cannot manage to go to bed the same time every night, try to do it at least a few nights a week. It will give you time to just switch off at the same time, to just chat and it creates an opportunity for sex.
(My hubby and I have an agreement at 10 pm every night it is our time. We spend one hour together even if we go on working after that.)
**Memories are very special.**
Try to recall your special moments once in a while. Going back in time and talking about a special memory also make you connect again, remind both of you of what you had and can still have!
**Don't stop calling each other the pet names that once was dear to you.**
There was a reason why you called him your big bear once. It creates a uniqueness in your relationship. There may be not one other couple that calls each other by your special names for each other. It also creates intimacy when you have special pet names for each other. It may even be something strange or kinky and would not make sense to anybody else than you but you know what it is about and what it means for the both of you.
**When you accomplish something together give each other high five's.**
We do it with our children, why not with your spouse? Even if you just accomplished through your special efforts for your son to ate his vegetables. It gives a special sense of accomplishment of your team effort. Acknowledge that together you are better!
**Get a code word to signal a one minute time out!**
When life is happening and you feel like its spinning out of control just say the word and disappear for one minute. Get to a quiet corner even the bathroom if necessary and hug and hold each other for one minute. Just one minute of quietness. You would be surprised what that can do to your state of mind and sanity. Also, reassure each other that tomorrow will be a better day!
**Touch whenever you can!**
Even when driving to work together, just put your hand on his or her leg. It makes you connect and brings togetherness. When you get time to watch TV together sit close and hold hands. When walking down the street hold hands, it reminds you that you are one and that you should never be separated.
**After a hard days work go shower together.**
This can be very rewarding what feels better than somebody else washing your back? It also creates feelings of oneness and togetherness. Doing things together makes you reconnect!
**Get naked before you climb in bed at night.**
Experts have found that couples who sleep naked have a better sex life than those who sleep fully clothed. If you feel that is too much for you, try it at least once a week. If you must sleep with clothes on, please don't dress like your grandmother or grandfather, always put on something sexy for night time.
**Making saying goodnight something special.**
The same as your goodbye kiss in the morning, give each other a special and deep goodnight kiss. Even if you are both very tired just lie in each other's arms for five minutes and then kiss goodnight. You may even drift off into sleep in your embrace.
**All of the above are quick but good ways to reconnect and create new intimacy between the two of you.**
Thank you for reading.
Life is unfair
Crying most times may be for joy or sorrow, but we know tears are precious stream from a source only God understand.
Growing up wasn't funny for people like us who barely feed twice a day, trekking miles to school in pursuit for Education not knowing what fate tomorrow will tell, after all we were told that it is the key to unlock freedom from poverty, so promising to put an end to ordeals.
Some quitted young while some survived the trauma. Some logged out when the storm ranged against them in the middle of the journey. At the end we discovered that certification doesn't hold a place for places like our country home. Why then is the race? What then is Life?
Work I will say isn't synonymous to wealth but its worth it, some didn't even work AT ALL, yet their dreams came through, Hmmm, Life is generally Unfair!
It made us believe lots of philosophies and theories, some don't even hold grounds, and made us lost trust in the midst of trials. Life is still not fair!
Challenges are inevitable but when it comes often repeatedly it becomes a problem, some we wished they never come, but we didn't design them, life brought them so to teach us facts!
My conclusion is an opinion:
Life: A very good continuous story, properly scripted, Directed and screenshot Drama!
Time of life
There is time for everything in life. When you misuse your precious time, you misuse your destiny.
Time is a is very important that we need to manage the time, if you don't manage time you waste time. Every given opportunity that life has to offer make use of it, if you don't make use of your time people that knows how to make use of it will run ahead of you.
Don't be a spectator be a director. Spectators are the type of people that don't want to do anything, they always want to expect breakthrough doing nothing. They look at others success and fail to look at their own because nothing to show forth in their part. They have the hope that things would be alright but do nothing about it. Even their house rent, they can not pay but are expecting that someday some good Samaritan would come their way to bail them out. They serve their equals just for them to receive. A spectator can never be a director. If you are a spectator, you will be directed on what to do but you can not direct others.
When you understand this facts of life you will make good use of every given opportunity that comes your way. You can not be a director when you have not been directed. The journey of life is slow and steady, when you fail to work slowly you will rush to fail. Failure is always your friend when you settle for it. Show me a man that is a spectator, I will show you a man that is a failure.
LAZINESS
Laziness are for those that are not ready to rule with the time of life. Lazy people always give excuses when they fail. Sleep is meant for those that are lazy, when you love sleep this signifies that you love poverty. Sleep is for those that are not ready to run with the challenges of life because there are many obstacles and challenges to the road of success. So if you understand these challenges you will avoid them.
CHALLENGES OF LIFE
FEAR:
I am afraid that I will not make it.
SHYNESS:
I am shamed of going to school because most if my mates have graduated.
PLEASURE:
When your mates are studying and fighting on how to make it in life, you are enjoying the pleasures of life.
EXCESS TALK:
Wise people talk less, meditate and study more.
FIGHTING & QUARRELLING:
When you fight and quarrel, you give yourself a bad name.
Conclusion:
So it is stated that a good name is better than silver and gold. If we can avoid all these and maintain our name we are in the verge of success.
Thank you for reading.
How will life taste like without friends and family?
Certainly, such a life will be dull, and most likely end up in despair and regret. Sadly, many a people try to gain satisfaction from their work (or businesses) at the expense of their relationship with friends and family.
Fine, it's good to make money by simply working or doing business(es), but trying to make money without experiencing life with friends and family can be more suicidal than anyone can think of.
Laughter
Well, this too-good-to-be-true fact, is not far-fetched compared to what we have in our world today. A lot of persons barely laugh a day; they are enveloped in the busyness and challenges inherent in their environment, and failing to recognize that their happiness is their responsibility and of course, a choice-- that they must consciously make every day of their lives.
When one allows his or her physical environment to be the major determinant of his or her happiness, such a person is must likely to be hurting; because there's no perfect environment.
You'll have to create your happiness, and laughter can be a sure tool.
Pain
Pain is something that we all can relate to, as no one has ever passed through life without being touched by it in a way or another. We deal with our problem on our terms and try to make the best of it.
Some of us are lucky enough to have found our tribe and benefit of its support and love, while others struggle on their own, hoping that one day their suffering will end and they will be pain free.
Not many would care to think deeper and try to understand why often those who are sick prefer to isolate themselves. Most of the times their reasons are misunderstood which causes a bigger gap between them and their loved ones.
As they look from far at their friends' feed and scroll among hundreds of posts, all with happy faces, loneliness settles in. They wonder if their realize how lucky they are to be healthy and have a whole life ahead of them. We all take things for granted and forget to be grateful for what we have.
The talking drum
The talking drum is an instrument in the shape of an hourglass in Western Africa, It produce sounds like human
voice. It is attached to two drumheads by leather tension rope, so that the player can change the drum pitch by pressing the cords between his arm and his chest.
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The drum's pitch is varied to mimic the voice sound patterns. The tension of the drumhead varies: the opposite heads of the drum are bound by a specific tension chain. The tail of the drum lies between the handle and the ribs of the player so that, when the drumhead is pressed, the sound is greater than when it is relaxed;
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My Introduction
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I am a musician by profession. I sing,
play musical instruments like guitar
I also play keyboard
It is my pleasure joining you on the platform.
Cry of wolves
Rulers of the night, the wilderness is your home,
Man in his ignorance won't leave you alone,
Strong together you hunt for survival,
Man and his gun your only rival.
Mistress of the moon, shadows dancing on Northern skies,
I hear your torment and mournful cries,
Running, hunting, surviving, dying,
From frozen mountain tops I hear your crying.
Great warriors of the night,
I wish you strength and stamina,
Courage in your plight.
You are the heart of the wilderness,
Cool air and mountain snow,
You are part of this land but man is your foe.
So once again the dark night becomes black,
And howling is heard as wolves gather and pack,
With spirit and fight, stamina and charm,
Let no man destroy you, you mean them no harm.
Brave warriors of the night,
In the wilderness be,
Wise and cunning hunters,
Forever be free.
Let your howling join the earth,
May you hunt with no fear,
Let the mountains echo out,
The howl of wolves that fills the mountain air.
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