It is common for loneliness to be identified as something negative and harmful. This is because it is usually associated with sadness and despair. However, loneliness has a positive and necessary side, which often goes unnoticed. We say a hidden face because of the negative shadow that exists around this concept. When we are with other people, we often focus our attention on their presence, on the conversations we have with them. In this way, we overlook things that do not go unnoticed when we are alone. When we are alone we look around us, we notice many more details. Details such as landscapes, houses, other people.
In addition, learning to live with oneself is a very important exercise to know oneself as a person. Knowing how to enjoy the only company of the self will bring us strength and self-esteem. It will also teach us to respect ourselves. Being alone allows us to put problems in perspective and to analyze calmly what makes us happy and what makes us unhappy. A fundamental step to understand our feelings and attitudes, but also those of others. Something that will help us to improve interpersonal relationships and the capacity for empathy. If we do not know how to master loneliness, it will master us. It is wise, therefore, to spend moments in solitude, to get to know ourselves and to separate ourselves from the hustle and bustle of constant company.
In this way, we will strengthen ourselves as individuals and grow as people. Creativity is something that develops mainly when we are alone. A musician who does not know how to spend three hours or three days alone with himself will hardly be able to find in his spirit the notes he wants to capture on a staff. And he will hardly be able to compose, since the creative process almost always takes place without any kind of company. However, nothing is absolute and, of course, you can also be creative working in a group or with your partner, friends or family. As we can see, there are many people who sometimes see spending time alone as a positive thing, as well as the advantages it offers to the individual.
In the same vein, its negative connotations can be very serious and harmful, and can become very dangerous. However, it is also important to talk about the advantages of being alone from time to time and tolerating such loneliness. Loneliness is therefore beneficial when it is voluntary and temporary. It allows us to reflect calmly, get to know ourselves, discover our strengths and improve our attitudes. However, we should not let it take over our life and isolating ourselves continuously is not advisable for our mental health. Solitude, freely chosen at a specific moment in our lives, can act not only as a balm, but also as an effective therapy to reconnect with ourselves.
Finally, sometimes it is also a way to establish a healthy distance from what does not suit us, from what clouds, bothers or disturbs our inner peace. We are talking about what in psychology is often defined as "functional solitude", a concept that gives shape to something that more than one will be familiar with: the need to distance ourselves from an environment that is harmful or exhausting in order to find ourselves again and thus recover our psychological well-being. The chosen solitude, the healthy distance and a period of time dedicated to oneself is always healthy, necessary and cathartic. We are not talking about starting a period of isolation, in fact, it is not about escaping either. It is very simple: the key is to put aside what does not suit us.
Have you chosen solitude?
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An occasional detachment from the outside world and a few quite hours of solitude can do great things to our mental health.