Happy Sunday everyone, today’s service was wonderful and I feel like sharing part of it with you all. The sermon wasn’t meant to be about relationships or marriage but a little explanation turned into a full sermon. The pastor intended to preach on the relationship with God and decided to use the relationship between man and woman as an example but it turned out to be a long talk.

siting the early days of his marriage as an example, he talked about the process he passed through in understanding his wife in the first few years of his marriage and how he adapted and come to be the loving husband he is today.

They say love is beautiful and amazing, but that's not always the case. It isn't easy for two people from different homes to come together as one. Different characters borne from different upbringings will always lead to arguments and disputes in the early days of marriage. When you are born into certain families, the way you think about things are most times not the same with a person who comes from a broken family. Also, our own parents play a huge role in making us who we are today.

No matter where you come from, you have a better chance of forming a union with someone from different background.

Different characters borne from different upbringings will always lead to arguments and disputes in the early days of marriage, even people of the same background can be difficult to live with.

So how do we ensure a successful marriage?

We need to know each other well before we get married.

CONVERSATION IS THE KEY TO KNOWING YOUR SPOUSE

In choosing your spouse, when it comes to conversing, choose someone who knows how to converse with you and talk things through until everything is fine, do not choose someone who can only be quiet or just stare at you even when you are quarrelling. Choosing this type of person can make a home unbearable, you will keep wondering what his/her mind is thinking of.

So here we are today, in love with someone who doesn't know how to love us the way we love them. We're so busy trying to fix them and in the process, we lose sight of who we truly are as individuals.

Mixed emotions and feelings, uncertainty and confusion can definitely turn your world upside down. We feel that 'because I love you, I need to change you', and that is not true. Love is about support and growth, not about fixing or changing a person.

We can't do anything about the past but we can change things for the better in the future. Sometimes talking is more effective than keeping everything bottled up inside you. It is important to have time for each other, always remembering that what matters most is what's best for both parties involved.

Be honest with your partner and try not to hurt them because you will eventually end up hurting yourself as well.

In a marriage, when the wife is from a home where her dad is a successful businessman or her mum is a member of parliament or when the husband is from a family of middle-class parents or when the wife used to be the breadwinner while the husband was the stay at home dad, there are high chances of a problem arising, especially in this side of planet earth.

In conclusion, Like every relationship, there will be fights and heated conversations that sometimes lead nowhere. Many times, we'll have to hold back a few tears as we wait for a solution. But overall, it won't be easy. However, with two individuals who love one another and trust each other, this relationship can go the distance.

 Thanks for Reading!

Disclaimer: All that is written above aren’t exactly the words spoken by the preacher, though the idea of what to write was birth from listening to him speak.