What if someone knock on your door, then asked you if she can use your toilet as she really needed to pee. Would you let her in or will just make an excuse?
Today, a stranger called and asked me, if she can use our toilet. And because I was this kind of a person who don't know how to say NO, but a fan of excuses, instead of saying NO, I told her that our toilet is being occupied by my partner. Actually it's a lie, because my partner is currently taking care of our son. But because she's a stranger and I don't wanna offend her. I just told her that my partner just use our toilet as an excuse, and it take a couple of minutes before he came out. But to my surprise, she insisted that she will wait until my partner finish using it. I'd realize that my excuse is not an excuse for her, so I told her that I'll asked my partner first if he will let her in. And then I heard her yelled to her companions that our toilet is still occupied and she will wait. I felt a little strange, as I haven't seen them around. And why they come to our area without any reasons. Because mostly, the people who roam around here, sometimes have their products to offer. They asked people if they want to try their products and they are on promo/ sale, sometimes they offer WiFi services and etcera. But this group of people has nothing, I just saw them talking in a corner with their bag's. I'm not judging them but it's just a bit strange to see stranger people roaming around our area and not offering any products and services.
Anyway, I tell my partner about this girl and he says never let it in. As his mom keeps on reminding us, specially to me, to not let any one enter our house. Actually I know that, besides I really don't have any plan to let that girl in. The fact that she's a stranger is enough for me to hesitate entertaining her.
My mother-in-law actually keeps on telling me about this budol budol gang/ scammers, anyway base in the internet this is how to exactly define them.
“BUDOL-BUDOL” is a coined Hiligaynon word that refers to the swindling hurly-burly of a gang that convinces the target that inside the bulging bag there are bundles of peso bills (bank notes). A swindler is a person who gets the money or anything from someone by fraud or trickery- Sunstar
So they are this kind of people who trick their victims to let them enter it's house. Anyway I'm not judging them,( makikiihi lang budol budol gang na agad? lol!) It's just because I'm considering our safety too, specially that I have a baby. Since, I know most of us are already aware of our current situation. It ain't safe to let any stranger use our personal stuffs.
Anyway let's go back to my mother-in-law's story about the budol budol gang and how they trick their victims to succeed their bad intention.
Base on my mother-in-law, they will start making friends with you. Then they will start telling you some stories and when they got your trust, they will suddenly asked you a favour. Like, if they can use your toilet or if they ask some water to drink. Just like what happen to our neighbor.
Our neighbor is already a senior citizen, and she has a small sari sari store. One day a stranger person came, to buy a softdrinks in here store so she entertained it. Then the person starts chatting with our neighbor. Ask about this and about that, then it asked if our neighbor is with someone because he found that her place is so quite. Our neighbor said that she is with her two grandchild but they are currently having their afternoon nap. After a couple of minutes, the softdrinks was finished. The person came to ask a favour if he/ she can use our neighbors toilet as she suddenly felt that he needs it. And because our neighbor felt being comfortable to that person, she let in. But the next thing that happen she don't remember anymore. All she remember that after the person use their toilet, it leaves. But after an hour she found out that the money she earned from morning till that stranger came was gone. She says she really don't remember anything. She just felt being comfortable talking to that person and just keep on saying ok. And then she realized that she become a victim of a budol budol person. But she still lucky that the stranger didn't hurt her. As we all know, some of them also hurt their victim.
So the lesson was, don't easily trust a person. You can be nice to stranger, but don't put all your trust.
Anyway, I know some of you have heard about this kind of story, but I hope none of us will experience this. We just have to be more careful and be aware of our community problems.
Summary:
The girl didn't wait for my husband to finish using our toilet. After I told her that my husband is inside, I saw her with her companion talking and they immediately leave after they finish drinking their softdrinks. Maybe she can't hold her pee and she can't wait to our toilet to be unoccupied, I hope she can find a good house owner and let her use their toilet. Well, I'm a good person too, but not now lol.
This article is just an awareness to all of us. Thank you for reading and have a great day ahead, stay safe.
October 23, 2021 10:20
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Sometimes our kindnes may hurt us, I'm not saying that kindness always hurts and harm us. Being a kind person is really good but it can lead us into trouble too. I do not know the lady was really bad or not but you did the right thing. It is better to say NO sometimes than to regret later.