While I was reading my friend article @Jumper-01 this morning, the title of this article popped up from my mind because I could grab what he trying to say there and also feel there is more to it. The title of the article says we should leave places better than we found them, he is trying to tell us that wherever we may find ourselves, we should try to make an impact on people there be it a romantic relationship or friendship. In his write up, he made mention of a statement which goes thus, " if you leave, you will never find a person who is better than me".
This statement must have been heard very well especially for those who have been involved in a romantic relationship before. It sounds like a curse to me or let me just conclude that it is a curse (I said to me personally), it might sound the same to you too to some extent but it is totally wrong to say so.
People who are betrayed or feel cheated on while in a relationship with someone and the relationship end up collapsing are those who do say such statements with the mindset that the person will never meet someone as good as they were. Hmm, why not say it the proper way by saying "if you leave me, you will never find someone like me", this statement is better, compared to the first one. Nobody can be like you but many people are better than you do, know this and know peace.
It's only when we are trying to motivate ourselves and proclaim to have self-love for ourselves, that's when we tell people that no person is better than us but deep down we know we aren't close to anything better. I am saying these from a romantic relationship aspect and I think it applies to other areas of life too.
Why all these my rants?
Many must have started saying my articles these days is more of me venting my anger out but I am only saying the truth π π . For instance, two lovers who are in a relationship, after so many months or years, break up occur and why the breakup? let's say the lady was the one that lead to the breakup by lacking in some things and the guy has kept repeating the same thing into her ears so as not to allow that to happen again but it still happens, and because of this the guy breaks up with her because he can no longer take it from her, truth be said the lady must be faithful and upright in all her ways, but why can't she try to be better in that aspect the guy kept nagging on before the break up happen?
Note the word better there. Ok, let's say is the guy that led to the breakup and the lady could no longer take it and she break up with the guy. The same questions go thus, why can't the guy try to be better in that aspect that the lady kept nagging on before the break-up happened?
All I tried to bring out from those instances is that why can't you be better and be the best in that relationship in order not to allow statements like "if you leave me, you will never find someone better than me". The guy who left you today for one reason or the other will surely get a lady who is better than you do, the lady who left you today will surely get a better guy who is better than you do.
The fact remains that only God does not have who we can compare with him nor better than him but we humans have a lot of replacement and a better spare part should in case we mess up with someone. Many will be crying bitterly whenever they are heartbroken and will say all sorts of weird things and negative things about the other person, it is bad, leave such person alone and never think anything good will never come across to him or her.
Don't wish them bad rather find your strength back and move on, look back to those things that might have caused the earlier breakup and work towards getting better.
I will only laugh if someone I have been in a friendship with come to me and tell me I will never see someone who is better than him or her because I know millions of people are outside there and are a million times better.
I am not talking out of anger π π , I only felt we all should know this and have a change of mind towards cheap issues like this, I appreciate your time for reading this and I am sure you were able to grab one or two things from this.
Thanks to jumper-01 for this inspiration, God bless you.
Also, a big thanks to my latest sponsor @Oikawa, I really appreciate it. Also to HappyBoy and FarmGirl for the renewal of sponsorship, God bless you guys for me.
Remain blessed till I write again.
Bye for now π₯°π₯°π₯°.
16th November 2021.
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Everyone is replaceable o, whether you are replaced with someone better or worse. Most people who say that just say it so they don't leave them and most relationships be it friendship or whatever requires good communication, some issues can be solved but they don't want to trash it out.