Sometimes It's Hard To Be A Woman

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To all my female readers, have you ever said to yourself “Sometimes it's hard to be a woman?”. I always say this to myself every time I am feeling down, I felt like a woman has more sufferings than men (Don't get me wrong, this is just how I feel sometimes). We have to undergo a lot of pain and complications.

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When I got pregnant, I cried upon knowing it because I am not ready but I have to be responsible for my actions. What's even funnier is that, when I already accepted that I'll have a baby soon, I want the baby gender to be a “boy” because I don't want her to experience the same way I am feeling about being a woman. But she's a girl, I cannot do anything about it so I will just do my best to teach her how to be tough so she can win whatever battles she may face in the future.

Why do I say that sometimes it's hard to be a woman?

Well as a woman we have this complicated thinking and attitude that are sometimes uncontrollable or is hard to control due to mood swings, overthinking, and other factors that can affect it.

It's hard to be a woman because.

We have to undergo a monthly period, this will make us sick sometimes bearing abdominal cramps, suffering dysmenorrhea, causing a hormonal imbalance that will lead to mood swings.

Sometimes it's hard to determine what we felt because even the slightest detail can make us upset especially if the menstrual period signs are coming.

We crave food like we are pregnant, we get annoyed at little things, we are very sensitive, and explode like a bomb for invalid reasons.

It's kinda tiring that we have to experience it every month. it's hard to be a woman.

It's hard to be a woman because.

When we got pregnant it's hard to carry it, especially when the baby bump is getting bigger. We are having a hard time wearing shoes and even more tying the shoelaces.

We experience morning sickness, like vomiting every morning when we smell something that the baby doesn't like the smell.

We are having a hard time sleep comfortably because it's hard to find a good position due to the big belly.

We will undergo physical changes like we get lousy and ugly because we refrain from applying skincare or any products that have a strong chemical that might affect the baby's health.

We suffer insecurities because we get ugly, we get darker armpit, bikini line, neck, and even our skin will lose its glow because some nutrients for the skin will be consumed by the baby (although not all experience this, some got pregnant blooming, and beautiful).

It's hard to be a woman because.

One of our feet will be in the grave when we deliver the baby, it's 50/50 but we endure the pain of labor..or the pain from an operation if we are in a complicated situation, we will undergo a Cesarean Section for the safety of the baby and us as well.

It's hard because after we give birth we are usually prone to postpartum depression, something that is related to our mental health.

After the pain we undergo, we will be forever accountable for the kid's welfare.. we will spend sleepless nights looking out for the baby's safety.

Sometimes we forgot to take care of ourselves anymore because we are too occupied taking care of the kids, husband, and household.

Yet we are required to look fresh and young so our partners or husband will not find another woman if we will get lousy.

It's hard to be a woman because.

We are prone to emotional distress due to some factors that we we're facing against society. How the society dictates how a woman should act and behave according to its gender.. although this time society is a bit open for gender equality.

When a working mom, takes off from work she still has to do a lot of chores in the house and take care of the kids, while the husband upon arriving home they can immediately have their rest. We need to do it so our kids will still feel a mother's love even if we are working, unlike husbands once they provide financial needs at home they already become a good fathers. While moms? They have to do a lot and sometimes it's not enough to be called a good mother.

Closing Thoughts

This is not a feminist article, it's just me voicing out what I felt sometimes if I am already worn out that most of the time I can say “Sometimes it's hard to be a woman”.

But for me the hardest part of being a woman is to make our way of thinking simple instead of being complicated.. sometimes we get too emotional over small things, that's why sometimes we vent our annoyance with our partners or boyfriend especially if they are being insensitive.

So boys if you wonder why your girlfriend is being grumpy, just think of it that she's having hormonal imbalance because we cannot get rid of it to our system caused by menstrual period.

But there is also a woman that they are overrated and making it always as excuses for their lapses, which bad and become toxic later on.

As always, thank you for reading!

Date Published: June 13, 2021


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Very well written. Well, both men and women have it hard out there, sometimes it's just a continuity of how hard you make it to be, but returning to the question, it is also important to know that men could go through a lot of thing and it is unseen because they are men but not how hard it turns out for women most times, totally agree with your write up.

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3 years ago

As I read your post, I keep seeing all the labour and toils of women. I'm proud to be a woman!!! And I pray that all women will live to reap the fruits of their labour.

Nice write-up ma'am 👌

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3 years ago

I don't know if there is really an exact word to describe a woman because wee are beyond that. Loving this article @eybyoung so empowering

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3 years ago

Sometimes, it's hard to be a man because... women are so hard to figure out. They make us guess what's in their minds, they expect us to be like psychics. It's hard to be a man because when women show their tantrums, they will tell us guys, "it's natural, because our hormones dictate us to behave like this." But when we men also do "what our hormones tell us," women slap our faces.

It's so hard, really hard to be a man.

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3 years ago

You got it. Hahahaha

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3 years ago

Hahahaha that's how woman is, a complicated creatures. Sometimes we are trying our best to control it, just that sometimes it's uncontrollable especially when monthly period comes 🤣

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3 years ago

In that case, it's very unfair for us men.

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3 years ago

If you can't deal with women moods swings then just stay away from them, it's built in.. even us we are trying to get rid of those things but it's really hard, no joke on that.

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3 years ago

Totoo po. Mahirap po talaga maging babae. Maraming standards na dapat isaalang-alang. Dapat ganyan ka, dapat ganito ka dahil babae ka. Yan ang palagi kong naririnig.

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3 years ago

I am not yet finish reading this article but I am already writing this comment. I may not be biologically born as woman but I understand your sentiment. Being a woman itself is difficult. You experience monthly periods, unexplained mood swings, and even postpartum depression. But all of these hardships in your life makes you a woman. All women are incredible. Women can do things that men can't do. I salute all women. 🥰

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3 years ago

Am a guy but I really admire and respect all women, because they are stronger than guys. Everything they go through is pain Monthly period Lost of virginity Pregnancy Baby Delivery Stop of breastfeeding Menopause All this list of my are really painful to go through. Just that women all are too emotional

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3 years ago

Mahirap po talaga maging babae. Ikaw lahat magtatrabaho sa bahay. Tapos walang day off. Haha. Masakit tlaga sa puson pag nag menstruation. Tapos buwan buwan pa.

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3 years ago

Kaya nga, bakit ba ganon.. kahit Andyan asawa eh mas madami pa rin talaga rato ginagawa mga babae 🤦

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3 years ago

Oo nga kapatid ko nga sabi nya wala bang day off hahah tapos wala pang sahod. Mahirap maging babae. Kung ako, gugistuhin ko ako maghanap ng pera kasi mas madali mag work ng may sahod tapos magbibigay lanv ng pangkain hahaha

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3 years ago

Hahahha oo nga eh, kaso kahit ikaw pa mag trabaho need pa rin kumilos Pag uwi eh. Na try ko na yan di pwd lahat e asa sa lalaki 🤦

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3 years ago

Yun din naisip ko. Wala pa rin talaga tayong taks kahit ano pang gawin natin. Nakaatang na talaga satin ang ganung gawain hahah

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3 years ago

Sabi ko nga po minsan sa kapatid ko na lalaki "sana lang talaga kayo nalang nireregla!" HAHA. pag may mens po kasi ako, ansakit din talaga ng puson ko, minsan naiiyak talaga ako sa sakit, kaya naghahot compress nalang ako. Ayun, it helps naman. Kaya ko naman nasasabi sa brother ko yun, ako kasi taga luto dito samin, tapos inaasar nya ako lagi, iritang irita ako sa kanya haha. Kaya minsan naisip ko talaga, sana lalake nalang ako. Kastress din talaga ang society tsk. Lalo na dito sa Philippines. 😆

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3 years ago

Ako din Pag sobrang sakit nang puson ko nag hot compress ako eh.. para mawala din. Hirap noh?

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3 years ago

Ang hirap po talaga. Pero I have this friend na hindi sumasakit puson niya, kaya sabi ko sana all. Haha.

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3 years ago

Well, my friend, I have read somewhere that, if a person feels depressed or something underestimated towards himself or herself, they will start to search done reasons to blame them as constraints. I can also make many points that to be a man is hard. It just a comment I will go with only one example " When we see our child struggling to get up, we man just like to see our child getting up on their own, we let to stand on their own." When they fall we too like to hit them and say, try one more time my baby, but we can't . we too have emotions, we too have tears but we man can't show it to other family members because they rely on us. If we show our tears they will lose hope. It is hard to be a man. Normally, a woman crying but it is not for man". Well, my friend, you are not a man and see man are strong than us, but the situation is not.

This nature always comes with justice, we may have weak point standing individually but when man and women get themselves as partners then it becomes perfect. When you git periods, there you will get someone to help you, when git pregnant there will be someone to stand by near you and say don't worry baby, out the princess is near to come. When a man likes to cry, he finds a shoulder to lead his head and drop tears.

This may be hard to see separately but when you get a partner that becomes your strength. Be optimistic.

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3 years ago

Yes, I agree on your point too. I know when it comes to family men are the lead foundation and if we tend to see them weaker family will likely lose its hope.. sorry if this sounds bias tho, just that sometimes we feel this way when we suffer unbearable pain..

I got a man who tried his best to support me in everything I am going through, at least I can see optimism with the future ahead 😊

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3 years ago

Naku, totoo talaga yan sis. Minsan nga naisip ko bakit pa ako naging babae. Noon pag may dalaw ako, halos hindi ako makagalaw sa sobrang sakit. Akala nila nag-eenarte lang ako. Hindi kaya madali magkaroon ng dysmenorrhea. Walang buwan yata na wala akong absent noong nag-aaral pa ako dahil lang sa dysmenorrhea. Dati noong teenager days ko, naiinggit ako sa kapatid kong lalaki. Malaya kasi siyang makapaglakwatsa samantalang ako dapat palaging nasa bahay lang. At ang pinaka worst ay yung hindi muna ako pinag-aral ng college pagkatapos ko ng high school. Ang reason ng papa ko ay dapat yung kuya ko muna dahil lalaki siya. Total naman daw babae ako, hindi ako ang maghahanapbuhay para sa pamilya ko.

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3 years ago

Yun nga eh may gender inequality kung sino dapat una pa aralin kasi mag asawa din daw nmn tayo..

Ako din before nanginginig pa minsan Pag sobrang sakit akala ko nga mawawala na yung dysmenorrhea Pag nanganak na di nmn pala lalo pa lumala dahil cs ako 😂

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3 years ago

Buti yung sa'kin sis nawala nong nanganak na ako.😊 Hindi na siya masyadong masakit kaya nakakagalaw na ako kahit merong dalaw.😁

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3 years ago

Sakin masakit pa rin sis eh, kala ko mawala na di pa rin pala dependi ata kasi yan haay.

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3 years ago

Isn't it amazing knowing that we are designed to be so delicate yet we are able to get through it all? This is the reason why we need a man. A man who will love us, not the other way around..

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3 years ago

Exactly, we need a man who can understand our hormonal imbalance because it's really hard to get rid of it.

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3 years ago

Same as you sis. I also told myself that it's so hard to be a woman. I haven't tried to feel pain during period but still it's hassle to have monthly periods. But when I got pregnant and felt the morning sickness, it was the hard stage of pregnancy. Until O need to undergo CS cause I my cervix got stocked at 2cm only and the pain was so much to bare. Women have lots of pain to went through and yeah totally hard it is.

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3 years ago

Same here sis, I was CS too and the pain is superb until now even if it's already 3yrs and half..

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3 years ago

Talaga sis. Masakit pa rin gang ngayon? Akin naman yung likod ko ang masakit talaga. Para ko palaging nagbubuhat ng mabigat. Tapos yung tahi ko naman, sumasakit pagka malamig ang panahon. Parang may ground na iwan.

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3 years ago

It's hard to be a woman, sis. But my hubby always tells me that women are stronger because we survive despite of all those things.

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3 years ago

Yes, tama of course we are strong despite we are fragile most of the time

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3 years ago

But there is also a woman that they are overrated and making it always as excuses for their lapses, which bad and become toxic later on.

😂😂

I onced be a toxic person before haha. Akala ko cool yon e. Pero ngayon minsan nalang ako toyoin kasi medyo tumatanda na ko haha. Pero tulad Sabi mo Yung hormonal imbalance natin hirap tlga. Yung tahi ko palagi pang nangangati Kasi malamig tapos likod ko masakit dahil cs nga ako 😂 Minsan dimo maipaliwanag Yung sakit NG likod mo sa asawa mo e. Kasi masakit tlga sya .

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3 years ago

Oo nga eh, ako din napaka toxic ko man din talaga dati hahaha..

Ako din minsan di ko alam pag nasakit yung puson ko kung dahil sa coming regla ba or dahil sa tahi.. Minsan pag sobrang sakit na praning ako baka napano yung tahi sa loob.

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3 years ago

Thats correct sis.. so all we need sometimes is understanding.. kaya lagi tayo nassabihan, may "toyo" because if our moodswings. But sana maintindihan din nila mga pinagdadaanan natin

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3 years ago

Kaya nga hirap kaya kontrolin yung toyo natin di mapigilan kahit ayaw mo hahaha.. dahil sa mood swings

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3 years ago

Oo kaya.. yung tipong ayos ka kanina tas biglang magtataray or magagalit ka.haha

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3 years ago

Hahahaha oo nga yung ayos na ayos mood mo tas mamaya naasar kana minsan emotional pa 🤣

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3 years ago

And the hardest thing being a woman is ung d tau nkakapagsalita minsan ng deretsahan, we only give hints at mga lalake nman d naiiintindihan 😁.

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3 years ago

Hahahaha kaya nga, tas insensitive dula di nakaka gets ayun tampuhan na hahaha.

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3 years ago

Yes it is difficult to be a woman, I identify myself when you say that for small things we explode.

We accumulate bad times, day-to-day experiences that annoy us and in the end, like a balloon, we explode for not resisting anymore.

We face the selfish family and sometimes we ourselves are selfish, but most of us think more of the other first before ourselves.

Yes it is difficult to be a woman, when we cannot fix something broken in the house and there is no one to give you a hand and so every detail accumulates and then there are those who have the nerve to say that you are grumpy or that you stop stress.

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3 years ago

Yes, it's really hard to be a woman when nobody wants to understand us especially our man.. we need man who can keep up with our hormonal imbalance.

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3 years ago

Kudos to every woman out there, you guys are true heros

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3 years ago

Thank you for appreciating us!

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3 years ago

Indeed it is hard for sometime to be a girl. The society we live in become sad on baby girl's birth. The they always order a girl, what to do or what not to do. Dont go outside you are a girl, dont do that you are girl, don't make friends you are a girl. Then after that, a girl leaves her house just for an unknown person (arrange marriage). Sometimes her husband would be an alcoholic and violent, so she have to bear that too. Undergo labor pain. Nurturing her children all her life. Many more things to do.. Its very really hard to be a woman.

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3 years ago

Yeah, I am sad for those county who just marry of their daughter to unknown guys, they'll suffer later on if the man is not good.. it's really hard for us to be in this gender 😂

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3 years ago

Me, I even draft an article about this pero diko na tinuloy. Pang naaunfair-an lang ako kasi bakit babae lang, I mean I know men experience something too pero mas malala kasi sa mga girl ee. Yong pag may period ka tapos dysmenorrhea? Ang lagi kong tanong, bat ba ang hirap maging babae? Bat di nalang napunta sa lalaki ang ganito tapos tayo nalang ang manganganak. Para fair sana, kasi sa kanila magpa circumcise lang sila after a weeks okay na wala ng kasunod. Noon talaga hiniling ko pa na sana naging lalaki nalang ako. Kasi mahirap talagang maging babae. Minsan nga diko na din ma gets ang ugali ko, hahaha. Kakaasar.

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3 years ago

Ako din if ever may choice mamili nang gender sus lalaki talaga piliin ko.. pinaka mahirap para Sakin yung kontrolin yung emotional distress natin kasi madalas tayo nag overthink which is hindi healthy.. additional na lang yung literal pain sa katawan natin Pag nag means at nanganak.

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3 years ago

Yan na nga ee, if sana pwd tayong pumili ng kasarian narin natin no? Haysst, sakin din ung emotional ko diko ma control minsan. I want to be strong talaga.

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3 years ago

I totally agree with you. Being a woman is the most difficult role in this world. Given all the struggles of a woman, but there are still people that degrade the capacity of a woman.

Yet, women are distinguished to fit the standards of many people, because if you're not, you're struggles of being a woman is worthless..

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3 years ago

Exactly, but we should keep going and never mind what society dictates.. as long as we have family who can support us morally it's a great thing to have to endure this gender of ours.

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3 years ago

True. We should have our own way of living as women, made by God.

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3 years ago

Love it! Now tell me if women are weak. drops mic 😆

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3 years ago

Those who said woman are weak are much weaker than us.

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3 years ago

No doubt! Hehe

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