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Knowledge is Light We constantly seek the quest for knowledge, to know and know and know, trying to understand the operations of things, so we won't be ignorant of the happenings around us, getting to know more and much more about the things planted and placed In our lives is by far the reason for the constant growths the world experiences, the world would still be primitive if people had not taken it upon their selves to find out more about things, what in this soil, that is the crude for, what can the aluminum be used for, the fire can serve other purposes than just burning, can it be used to mold? The inquisitive of man is one of the greatest gift given. All isn't yet done, more are yet to be achieved, the world still has a long way to go, and in a 100years from now, we would see that our current development was only a pinch off civilization, even then they still would be inquisitive to know more. Knowledge is light and it's only through this light that we see more clearly and step confidently into the next generational advancement. So let's be more intentional this way when we come across something new, the minds welcomes it better because it has been expecting the new visitor, now it has arrived, being intentional also assures we pay more concentration. Are we ready to learn today? Life is full of learning and the day we die is the day we stop learning, everyday has something to teach, everyone has something to teach also. Our schools are another learning institution, because we would still learn should we decide to not go to school, however you'll not learn by the books and what those subjects has to teach, you wouldn't know biology, nor chemistry but then on your little end you've what you've learnt from life, just by continuous living. Mere living by every day has so many things we can learn from, but then it depends if we too are open to learn, go places, study and associate with people, learn from people, learn from environment, learn from challenges, learn from history, everything has somethings to teach, everyone has something to give out. Little babies as much as their thinking brain isn't well developed to think and act right, yet they learn. In no time they are trying to walk like they see everyone do, they know they too should be moving, so they try, also in no time they are trying to speak, mostly starting with the most common name they hear around the house The moms knows this and so they speak to them into saying "mama", definitely one day they would say mama, and the mothers would get excited, oh he said mama, he called my name, I'm like what do you expect, you didn't tell him "papa" more often, you always say " Say mama". Well that's a fight for another day. However this goes to show that learning starts right from birth and would extend till death. Well we would still learn afterlife, of course there is heaven to continue our learning. Don't know of the other place, don't know and don't care, heaven is all. So what are we learning today, what should we start learning, without learning I wonder how we would become an expert, everything has to be learnt, either via a personal study or knowledged passed down, either way the only way to be good at it is to start the learning process and pay good attention. Attention is our personal will to devote ourselves to learning, learning willingly is better than being compelled either via force or cajoled, learning willingly gives us a sense of responsibility, a need to act upon what is being taught. So many ambitions, everyone has it, we wish to be this or that, as kids so many doctor aspirants, so many lawyers, so many pilots and engineers but as we all grow up there begin to be a shift, now the shift is not because we don't love those professsion anymore, they are always valued professions but we can't learn about it as much as we should. Those mathematics became so hard that we feel like, if this is what it takes to fly a plane, please I'll just stick to my dancing, or those Physics like are you kidding me, I prefer to rather focus on acting, that is me and I do them with ease. However, nobody is getting anything easy in this life, maybe money is already luckily not a problem, maybe parents are wealthy so money isn't an issue, OK I admidt you have most of your problem solve cause money is an answer to most things, yet you must devote yourself to learning. A prince must learn to rule by watching his father and being taught, he won't and can't just rule because he has money, so many wrong decisions would lead to a ruin of the kingdom or worst a dethroning. The place of learning can not be bought, maybe money can get you the best teachers to learn from, but it still depend on your willingness to learn. Yes, what I'm I learning today is the question, what I'm I supposed to be learning to help me achieve this goal I'm aiming for, this sincere question has an answer in it that would help us know the next step to take. Learning comes with humility guys, you can't proud-learn, its a willing submission to the tutoring of another, let the world teach you, let people teach you, allow yourself learn from the birds flying and all other animals, learn from nature, do you know that its through learning from nature we are able to know the usefulness of some herbal plants. Everything teaches, everyone has something to teach also, but then everyone too must learn. What are you learning today? Thanks For Reading.

The Human Mind Inventions are awesome, some are so remarkable, you just be so amazed, yet nothing can beat the human mind, not even a computerize system can beat the human mind, let's not forget that all computerize system begat from the mind. Have you ever been in that position were you are amazed at the things you think, amazed at what you just did, everyday we keep seeing amazing ideas take over the world, talk about the talents, some individuals are so good at their crafts be it music, painters, writers, actors, engineers, doctors, so much more, they do it so well it looks magical, for amazing how Amazing is Ben Carson when he bisected the cojoined twins sharing same head. Up here in our heads is a land of unlimited possibilities, most of the Impossible thoughts that are currently realities were firstly created in the mind, it all has to start of from the mind, if it can be imagined then we have the first blueprint we could work with. Someone somewhere is out there thinking of something remarkable, something that would wow the whole of humanity, it doesn't necessarily mean the person is very brilliant, it can start off from something they saw which lead to the inspiration, or just out of the blue, our tongues can have restrictions but our minds have no restrictions, it imagines what it wants to imagine. Almost every single thing we can find today in the world were first from someone's head, nothing just happened, oh maybe somethings were are mistake which turn out amazing. However the was an intention first, though indirectly as the case is presently, but the key note is something was thought of and that was what had a hand in such discovery. So again kudos to the mind. Do you know that every winner was first a winner at heart, there's a place of I can do this. I'll give this a try and believing in yourself and the dream, you actually push on. Such win can yet again be accoladed to the mind. All starting from the mind, the home of imaginations. Similarly the losers too are accepting the defeat firstly in their head, I can't do this, I'll just quit, and so their actions begin to adjust to the current situation. Remember how they say you truly lose when you quit, so what gets you to quit, it has to be the acceptance of defeat, what gets you to keep pushing too, it has to be the acceptance of "I can do this". So many things we than talk about our minds, our imaginative power is so enormous, we can't measure it, that's the reason movies would continue to beat an existing one, cause of the continuous creative ideas, today someone thought of creating a film about zombies and everyone get thrilled, tomorrow someone is thinking of Alien and people are truly anticipating when they would see an alien in real life, the next time its super hero's with one awesome ability, or just a usual reality story done with a captivating story line, someone is just thinking and from their imagination amazement is birthed into reality. Let's not forget our minds is a doorway to the supernatural, meaning we can actually have thoughts that are above the physical, no need to get scared, its a hard place to enter, but it doesn't mean people don't experience it. Actually to every thing there is a deeper place, especially in the religious aspect, there is an extent we get to study the Bible or Quran or any book of your religion that you begin to want to go deeper, the Inquisition gets you to know more and wants to know much more and when you're totally in love some things would appear normally, yes it might be the supernatural force teaching you more. More reason why people prefer to be original, not cause being original makes us vulnerable, rather it brings out our individual uniqueness, uniqueness because we all won't think same way, a basic idea might be the intention but everyone is going to do it base on how their thought line is. Our imagination is the perspective we are going to flow with. We can't go ahead of our thoughts. Its our limit, moreover our imagination can do more than our physical abilities, we can't fly in real life scenario, but it's easy to fly in the mind, so we can't possible do more than we can imagine, remember the biblical quote, as far as the eyes can see I'll give unto you" now that eyes is our imagination. A big example to support this claim can be draw from the most recent covid pandemic. It was a tense up moment, So many ideas came through for the making of the covid vaccine, in fact the whole world were beckoning on the doctors, the pharmacist, the nurses, the lab technicians, the botanist, microbiologist, the chemist, the biochemist, in short the world beckoned on all who could get them the vaccine, but it wasn't a straight forward process, if not, someone would have discovered it long ago, I'm very much sure it got to the time they have to try improvising from what they feel, their imagination ran wide, yet someone imagination brought a result. How about that. We can work on our imaginative capacities, I mean how we perceive things and break it down, one of the most common ways is by reading books which help us broaden our scopes and ideas, books helps us get into the minds of people that also know, possible they know more than we do or they are only erring their view, either way it's a added advantage to you. Another way is via research, these research could be field work or internet search, anyways to get to know more. Another is by physically engaging in discussion with learned people, there is something when talking facially, you see the emotions and manner of delivery which helps you relate more to the topic, all theses would help our imaginative capacities. Your imagination is your drawing book, most of the worlds amazement currently, started off from that place. Grow your mind to the realms of doing the impossible. Thanks For Reading.

Our Fields Are Different, Although Same Earth I do try to pass across the people how not to judge others using your life scenarios only. Recently overheard someone say to another man "you are too lazy", I kept watching as they both argued, until the young man began to explain how much work he had done just this morning before he came to sleep outside, after much explanation the first man kept silent, then he said something that stuck with me, he said "Truly it appears like I didn't work, you can only know from what you see, but that doesn't make it the truth, you can't know someone else's truth, you only know your truth". I've learnt to encourage everyone in the things they do, different factors applies to different people. My plans should be different from yours, oh infact my plans can't be similar to yours, although we might both be intentional about getting a more productive day, or a better accumulated week in general, but even at that we can't possibly be having the same approach to it, cause already life has it ways of placing us in different case scenarios, I could decide to treat matters as a single man, while you can't do that, cause you have a wife involved, or then you're single but as a lady, while creates a different ball game entirely for you too. However we all must plan for the week ahead. Its paramount we understand what works for us as well as what don't. I have spoken to many experts in same field endeavors and they differently have their manual to go by, apparently they all have their mentors, and since it worked for them they stayed and built with that school of thought, no wonder you'll hear them say often, that following their personal approach doesn't ensure it'll work out for everyone equally as some things differentiates and changes our game entirely, well it doesn't mean we'll stop looking for better days, we got to try. A very good example has been the issue of sharing finances to cater for home affairs between the husband and wife, so both the husband and the wife are earners, how then do they ensure their money Is distributed to cater for the home, normally you'll think its simple, as they both must contribute and have a singular pause, I think they are in love so they should pump it into their purse, then carefully sort out things from there. Well, we can't be blinded to the fact that this has caused serious issues for some families, cause most times there's need for accountability, where one feels the other is outsmarting him or her in ratio spending. Others might just delegate areas for either to take care of, you settle the fees, and I'll settle the feeding, but then sometimes when ones pay is slow to come and you had to step in cause of the urgency, do you demand for the money back, wait how can a man demand his money from his wife, I can picture a wife needing her money back, but men with all the ego and love, it might feel we are angry, others families we see the men take it up regardless of the wife earning or not, and yet it still goes crazy sometimes, all this varies between homes, basically owing to the understanding between the couples, but then ones approach might not be your approach, or just the time isn't the right time for that approach yet. We need to know and know what works for us, therefore we plan. Beginning the new week, especially on a Sunday where we are expected to be resting against the Monday to Friday duties, is undoubtedly the best time to put your head to work, think and plan. It doesn't necessarily need to be until something strange or you meet up with someone who just opens up your mind to crazy possibilities, already it'll be better if we cultured it as soon as possible, make it an habit to ponder on life this far and life from henceforth. if it isn't yet going as planned, then believe me something can be done, we are humans but up there in our heads lies the power house of possibilities, we probably having gotten enough time to trash out the issue. It's no jokes this cut across all across of people, from young to old, the quest of success is an inbuilt human need, we've needed it from time past up till present and we would keep seeking it. As students we've been in a closed space with other people and have hoped to come out best, this we worked towards, as parents we have the sole responsibilities of seeing we train that child we brought to the world, this we worked towards, and it's normal we want to compare and ensure our kids are better than the rest we know, especially that of our close friends. At work, the competition continues, so we seek success everywhere and the human mind has mostly judge success from the angle of comparing to people around. So its time to start thinking ahead for the week, it has to get better, let's plan it out, for me I have my plans and I know I'll kick start it. However if it doesn't go as plan, I'll retreat, regroup and replan, the push again with double the energy, cause I feel like now it's going to work, my mindset is programmed to success this week, a lot of positive vibe I'm swallowing up, a lot of smiling to create a nice aura around me, a lot of growth learning process I'm willing to take. All I see is better, I know where I stand right now might not be where I hope to be, but then all i see is better and that better is what i plan for to get. God help us. Thanks For Reading.

Unhappy Marriages We have the awkward reasons behind marriages, some we frown at and so being so unacceptable. Especially when it comes to marriages that are being force mainly on the female child. The males get forced too but not as compared to the ladies. This form of slavery unfortunately happens also from parents, some parents because of money have in history sold their daughters to a financially capable man, it's not their concern if the girl loves him or not, they believe they are wiser and making the best choice for the girl, well in time they learn better. Money is a frustrating factor but not enough to predetermine someone else's life. However its no news that some people are married today not because they were in love or there was some kind of connection they felt, but because they had no choice than to agree to marry. Often its the ladies being forced into it, guys sometimes can be force into marriage but very rare. If anything should be forced, it shouldn't be marriage, marriage is for a life time, you really don't want to choose any reason more than happiness. You don't want to choose money over happiness, happiness is Paramount in this area. Money brings happiness but believe me when I say money doesn't sustain much when it comes to marriage. What other reason can be behind forceful marriage apart from money, kidnapping and pregnancy, these few has taken more percentage of this bad act. Two out of it are still in your choice to make, the other which is from kidnapping is really not in any ones power to change, we just pray that God always intervenes and stops this wicked act all around the world. The security agencies too has to be on the look out and take up this issues as serious as it should be, talk less of the trauma it brings. Such act has be have a severe penalty. Money has been the leading factor however to this act. Parents while they are still in full control of a child's action can think it best to decide for their kid, some with the motive of trying to give her a better life. Let's marry her off to the son of the prime minister, like in the movies just as the Cinderella's step family, mothers trying to offer their daughters to the 'prince charming " literally, but in actual sense they all want their kid to get married to someone who can support their financial state for life. At the expense of their kids personal opinion. No doubt poverty is a disease, its in every way bad, in fact there's no good thing about being poor, shun the ideology spreading round that it helps you to be humble, you are only faking yourself, then its not the real you, I have seen wealthy guys who are humble too, who care more about charity and hospitality than they do to show off and raise their ego. Its a personal choice to be good or bad, we all can distinguish between right or wrong so if someone picks wrong, who is to be blamed. So pray for money and don't be scared it'll make you bad. In fact its poverty than can make you bad. No doubt poverty has caused more harm than good, especially in this case of forceful marriages, marriage has been the saving grace of some family, its an avenue to go out and join with a greener pasture, both male and females alike. Funny enough nowadays its no more forceful, the children by themselves are looking for greener pastures, I seriously don't know where love has run off to in this generation, rarely you see someone wanting to endure, now its money before love, well that's a personal choice so I have no issues with that, what my article is meant to conflict today is the fact that some people are being forced into marriage out of their will and most probably would have to deal with the unhappiness or bad connection for as long as they stay together. Pregnancy too has brought out forceful marriages, these however is forced more on the male, they mostly are not prepared for the responsibility. The ladies too are not ready but then they care more about removing the shame of the child doesn't have a father, so they want to see to it that the guy takes is rightly place in both lives, her life and that of their unborn kid. Some irresponsible boys have run away leaving the girl to take care all by herself, this is bad. What do we prescribe as the best line of action?, do we say parents should not marry their kids and continue leaving in poverty, what if the child grows up to say she would have liked the idea as she's tired of this poverty lifestyle. How about the pregnancy, should they marry just because of the child, what about if they are not compatible and the marriage becomes a battle ground. See these two points, one has to think deep. Everyone has their personal opinion to it. However I have mine too, not saying it's the best or enforcing it, just what Will Travis sees fit. Firstly for the forceful marriage because of money, the issue of marry a child out because you see it best is more of a selfish reason for your benefit than it is for the child who can't yet decide for his or herself. At best keep it pending, then when they are old enough, express the idea to them along with the vivid reason and if its agreed by both parties then that's ok. Moreover its saves the parents later from hearing "you are the cause of all this troubles". The issues of pregnancy causing a forceful marriage has its bad no doubt, we know every kid should have the experience of a mother and father,however some union are more toxic to the child than they are beneficial, what if the man is an addict or a Prevert or the lady sleeps around regularly, do you feel its best to get married to such person, the kid however most have both support from both the father and mother, but its not a must to get married, marriage comes from a connection and willingness. We all would prevent all these troubles if we just do the right thing and be faithful. Like I said earlier this article has my person opinion which is open for debate or can be constructively criticized. Main idea though is to stop Forcing Marriages. Thanks For Reading.

That Oliver Twist Those conversant with the Oliver twist tale could already get an overview of what I'm trying to elaborate here, the I want more, not contented, greed and selfish personality people exhibit. People tend to validate this saying with words like "never give up", "push for more, you relent now", "To whom much is given much is expected, so acquire more" The sayings are true motivation but should be used in context. A power hungry man, who could go to any length to acquire more grounds, not caring if it's at the detriments of others is clearly greedy, and needs to know his deeds are wrong. Leaving the politicians for a while, cause on this case scenario they mostly come to mind, we should also be aware that this lack of contentment occurs in most of individuals, it's a normal human need trying to be met, however people need to learn to stop. We never know how subtle and cunning this issue is, until it gets us into deep into us. Its quite understandable when we have very little to survive with, then we know you've got to try harder to get what you want, we can't be content while we are truly broke, especially when hungry, this issue of being contented should not be taught to an hungry man, you both might get into a fight or heated argument. However there are people with just enough yet greedy for much more. Greed in a sense of being selfish, hungered for more not withstanding how, what or who gets hurt in the process. Sometimes it's just good that we would be okay with what we have, I understand how being too comfortable can lead to laziness, which leads to no drive in ambition or pursuit. However if we can be contented with things then we can think better and make better choices. Being contented doesn't mean we are not going to keep pushing, it simply helps us kill the rush, kill the urge to make it as quick as possible. The reason why someone can say "I would not do this no matter the amount they are willing to pay" it is because they are not greedy, greedy people are not contented. So many people are victims of greed, it is quickly becoming a noticeable aspect of the country. It's almost like its a competition between everyone altogether, everyone is actively pushing to surpass the rest, the game is getting so heated that people don't care anymore of the means of getting. The oppression from all angles coming in strong. The guys and the ladies are not taking it lightly, greed to show off, greed to oppress, greed to get it all. Remember its a cunny attitude, we feel we are only trying to get a better life, but our true motive is off, likewise is our means of getting it off too. So many have disrespected their parents out of discontent. They are grown and are seeing how much more there is in the outside, they know of other families who enjoy luxury and they can't help but want to run into it, moreover with such luxury they'll have all their desires settled, so back home its a constant pressure, nothing done seems okay, its just the start. Such discomfort isn't the one that leads to the right approach, such heists can only lead to taking the short cuts, remember the popular saying about taking a short cut to success, apparently there are no short cut to success. Little children has one of the purest hearts, with maturity comes more thinking and desires, there are days we had little or nothing and still survived because we learnt the lifestyle of simplicity growing up. So when the time demands we can easily withdraw and mansage the available resources and she how best to make it multiply. However when discontentment has eaten deep and greed has taken a full hold of an individual, he or she can't phantom retreating to regroup, rather prefer to keep borrowing from a distant source just to keep up with appearances. Little do they know they are only drawing trouble close. Today men take this issue seriously especially in the quest of a better partner, because they are aware that things can't be rosy every time and should a short lag in time surface when they have little or nothing to keep bringing to the table, at least they need to know their supposed partner would be more of support and joint help to help him navigate through the current challenge. Having a discontent wife, you must be expecting a continuous nagging until you can make the impossible happen. This has lead many discontent women to being unfaithful. What do we have now, its not enough right, what is the plan to getting our needs met, what is our main motive of wanting more, isn't it really to oppress anyone, cause if the money quest were based on such, you can never be content. Everyday there is a reason to stand up and push harder, people are working and doing remarkable things, we must channel the urge the right way. Life isn't a competition with anyone, it's a neutral ground, rather the competition should be between you and your past. Know when to be contented, this helps us think well even in a world of constant competition. Cutting across all ages, cutting across both genders, the matter of contentment should be accepted by all. If not greed would keep letting us make the wrong decision. Humans needs would always be insatiable, this we learnt in school, however the best possible approach is to know when you are okay at least and with that you can still make the right choice to be good and do the right things. Most of the world's problems especially that of politics is as a result of greed, imaging being paid well enough for your elected job, but you still steal more, that greed has made people lost all. Be content guys, this way we can keep our decision on check. Thanks For Reading.

Make Friends On Saturdays Weekends are generally that one time to hang out and meet new people, however after a long fridays work session only few still make it out to go out, if you're in my category, you most probably may just want to lay down and relax rather than hit the road again, but you see Saturdays, what's your excuse on Saturday, oh laundry, how long would your chores and cleaning last, there stil would be enough time to go for fun. Sundays too but we are mostly careful on Sundays, not only cause it's a Holy day, you dont want to get an hangover the day before work, bet me you don't. So Saturdays it is. You hangout with friends, and possibly make new friends, which is good, infact very good, to a very large extent our friends especially those closest to us are the connect we need for a better future, those we call friends now are the people our kids may refer when they boast about their parents knowing great personalities in the society and across borders, so yes we need friends, you need them and I do also. However we can go about making everyone our friend, same way they can be of help, they can bring in total ruin, so we got to thread carefully. Some are close friends, some not so close, some you'd just keep greeting from time to time, some you know you've got to do away with, they can bring ruins. It has got to be a careful pick, more reason why its mandated for everyone to pick their friends and not the other way round, its not enough for someone to pick you, have you done your own analysis? Who do you call friends, who are those around you, the few people who make up your circle, what are they doing, what do they offer? All these and more questions are a major requirement to determine the possible future. When the Bible says "Show me your friend and I'll the you who you are" it wasn't lying, no not for a second. To a greater extent your association has enough to impact and influence your life with. Sequel to whatever you aim and desire for yourself, then your friends has to share same vision or better still be already capable of helping you with it. For example the matter of wealth, wealth is one of the major cause of friend selection, one moment you see someone cut ties with people he or she knew formerly and starts moving with another, its majorly as a result of money search, the next possible reason can then be relationship pursuit, maybe then followed by health reasons, but let's stick with the most common as well as the most interesting reason of them all, money reasons. Everyone needs money, you don't have to care about it, life on its own has made money a major requirement for us all to have, most hours of the day for grown ups is always filled with getting that thing called money, as so if there is a better offer, who wouldn't jump to it, wouldn't you? Meanwhile the most common means is through the help of a Friend. Friends from time immemorial has been the raising ladder of others. Have you ever been helped by a friend, have you ever helped a friend. Some people source of feeding today can be linked to a friends help. May be a job link was sent to you by a friend, or the use of veto power to place you in a paying position, some have also been giving capital by a capable Friend and this has become the turning point for them henceforth. Family is no doubt the best option because that way you don't really feel indebted to anyone, my father or mother's money is mine already, so I don't feel shy to receive it, but from a friend, I will feel like I owe you bro, or you can always count on me sis. For most of us whose parents didn't prepare millions already or a company space, we have to find it by other means, and one of the best available means is no doubt by association, meeting new people with great initiative, great minds, with good connections, that way we would can be helped. The world is created in such a way that there must be someone who knows a way, there would always be someone who has an answer to that tasking situation, if you can locate them and they are kind enough to let you in, that matter is resolved. However People have missed it by taking this means too serious that they cut ties with the people from their past for no good reason, if they were bad influence, like they lavish, or are always getting to trouble or likely to implicate you then cutting ties from them would be a good option, but situation where its just because they are poor, then you think nothing good can come out and cut ties, that isn't smart, humans are dynamic, therefore best technique is to be at peace with everyone, just be nice and still follow the plan, cut off people that draw you back and not because they are unfortunate now. Mindset is the fastest way of picking your association, how do they think, what is the joy giver, how do they truly feel towards you? Finding people who genuinely wants you to succeed is a blessing, its not easy to come by. Getting someone who is ready to open up his means of wealth for little or no reason for you, is someone worth praying for. That is kindness extraordinary, cause the normal man wants to be on top, while others are under, its more of a natural feeling, but finding someone who is high already and ready to raise you too, hold such person tight, and be grateful. Most especially we also have got to be useful to attract great minds, no one wants a parasite, what do you do, what do you bring to the table, are you also a fighter or you just need to be feed. Groom yourself to be worthy of greatness, the Bible also says "See a man diligent in whatever he does, he would be in a gathering of great people" , so we also have a role to play, rather than seek to find a rich friend. Nevertheless, God first guys, good association is a smart choice, but God can make it easier, moreover a good relationship with God is the best connection open to any man. Thanks For Reading.

Remembering A lot has happened, a lot is still happening, and it all gets stored as memories, we can't undo what has been done, we can only remember, and we feed off our feelings and emotions while we remember. Its good to make good memories, it's good to make each moment count, so after all is done and days have turned to years gone by, we can still smile as we remember. It's the after food for us, we feed of our memories, it feeds us with excitements, laughter, joy or even sadness, calm, anger, all dependent on the storylines of the happenings. We can't stop bad happenings, it can happen and it may not happen, we can only take Preventive measures, we can't stop good happenings too likewise, but we can intentionally make good memories to remember later. Have you noticed it feels like yesterday when you concluded high school, it feels like yesterday when you just got married, feels like yesterday when your children were born, now your suckling kids are grown and more stubborn lol. Indeed it feels like yesterday, so much to remember, so must to laugh about, so much to talk to someone about. Many things have played out in our lives so far, some we regret, some others we would do it over and over again if more opportunities arises. Gather memories while we still living, time flies, I can remember my activities of yesterday, like it was few seconds back, already its 24hours gone, minutes by minutes to the hours, to days and months to years, all of a sudden its old age with very little or nothing to excite us anymore. So much we want to do, so many places we wish to visit, if you can and you're capable of it,,then why not go for it. Not for any reason then for memories. Take pictures, save your videos, laugh with love ones, excite someone, take yourself out and as you do make sure to take photos, its all Gods gift to be alive and capable of having a nice treat. If you call it pride to treat yourself to a nice time because you don't want others who can't afford to feel bad, then i hope when all this don't matter anymore, you won't regret not doing it. I have talk to a few persons and noticed that one of the major reasons aside money that makes people not gather enough memories for themselves, is because they feel its best to keep a low profile as people would think you're a show off. They can go on a vacation and they decide not to, they can buy a very good car and be better comfortable but then people would think they are pompous, infact they just stay low and I'm always like I don't understand yet. I don't understand because I know there is a better way to take care of the situation rather than deprive oneself of life's goodies. First, keeping a low profile should be more of not making your adventures public, when you go out to fancy places, most of the people who you're protecting yourself from would not be there, so the only way they can get to know is when you upload the escapades online and that you can choose not to. Also if getting a good car, house or better lifestyle is a problem because of the people around you, then you're around a low mindset individuals, that is not a healthy and profitable place to reside, make plans to relocate if possible. There are places where good living and people's happiness is appreciated, over there you can find growth too. Another vital keynote to make is a fact that people won't stay forever. So as we keep making memories for ourselves, let's ensure to have enough memories with people that matters. The cars, the house, clothes, places can stay forever and can be remade, but people won't stay forever and cannot be remade, so when you see someone you love and cherish, try to make enough memories with them as much as you call, call them regularly, hangout, play, fight, get into troubles, help each other rise, they won't be there forever, no one would be here forever. Save up memories. One of the painful exits we can get is that of our parents, so many of us are lucky to have them still part of our life, no matter how hard it is to say, but they are not as young as they use to be, they are older and should be appreciated. Fees them with good memories if you can, make them smile. They are the true super heroes, everyone else came into our life along our life's journey, but they were there from the beginning. The memories we acquired from our younger ages was either from them or that they gave us to permission to experience. Therefore while making plans, also make plans to spoil them. They are very deserving of our time and resources. Life is short, not to get anyone scare but its just the truth, more reasons for us to act right, cause we are all in a movement in time, who knows when the time would elapse, so with each passing breath, life should be appreciated, and seen valuable. Value what you have and make each day count. Is there somethings you are meaning to do, maybe a business you're willing to try, a places you're meaning to try out. What's the reason for the drawback, if its not vivid enough, then close your eyes and do it, its an experience, it'll become a memory soon enough, rather than be pressure, just enjoy it. And say "It's all for the memories". You should be aware that God also wants us to be happy, he created all things for our pleasure, yes for your pleasure too. So you're in america and you have been meaning to visit the Philippine or vice versa, why not, he wants you to see the beauty all around the world. You have been meaning to have a full body massage, oh why not. You want to try out that Chinese dish, oh why not. If you are capable of it, then don't deprive yourself of the enjoyment. Life would continue, but we all can keep running forever, so while we are here, let's make the best off it. Gather enough loving memories. You deserve it. Thanks For Reading.

The Necessity Of Spiritual Growth All living things were made to grow, plants and animals alike, it's very saddening and regardless as bad, when the growth process is altered. Because from its growth shows productivity. Ofcourse not all trees must be very tall, some trees growth process requires them to be short but fruitful, however the maturity must be noticable in its expansion, and this applies to the animals too, humans included. Now growth is essential, infact it's a basic characteristic of all living things, thou must grow. Well that's not all. We don't fold hands and watch our growth, we work towards our growths, just as healthy feeding contributes to the growth process of plants and animals. Now we must feed to grow, not just our bodies, but most importantly our the most essential aspect of our lives, our spirituality. We are spirits, as much as we are flesh, we also are 100% spirits. So we feed our bodies for growth, what can we feed our spirits with for growth, because this needs to grow, infact the bible made mention we making our spirit having dominion over our flesh as the best choice a man can make. This means we must pay more attention to the spiritual side of our lives. Very important. We are aware that we are not only made up of flesh and blood, we have an abstract self, a part of us not visible to the human eye but more powerful than we can imagine our strength to be. It's a 3 major compartment, that's the spirit, the soul and the body. The soul is a capture of our mind, will and emotion, it has a lot to speak of us, maybe on another article of mine, I'll soon share about the Soul. The soul is a very intelligent place to dwell, it expresses the deep things about us. Stay tuned. The body however is merely an identity, it has no power, it just respond to the orders of the soul, for example, If you will to drink, then your body would definitely do the work of going to buy the drink and the actual drinking of it. So the body has no say of its own, more reason why someone can undergo a rapid transformation, a weight lifter may be born slim but as far as his soul wishes to gym and he does accept the will, overtime the body conforms, or a students who wills to read, the body goes through the stress of reading in reality. So who is the boss. The Soul right? Remember i said there are 3 major areas to a human, and we have spoken of the body and soul, next and most importantly, especially sequel to the topic of discussion. The Spirit is unarguably the strongest. Its most powerful area of us but we rarely pay attention to him, so he remains dormant. Notice I use a he instead of an "it" as you'd expect, and that is because the spirit is a personality and not an object, the spirit is main power source that connects two worlds together, our world that's the natural and another world that's the sspirituality. Apparently being powerful is no longer about your muscular mass, nor is it your IQ, nor is it your family background, of course all these are edges that can help you in needed time, however in the true fight of power, its a fight only those who are spiritual can fight. We are aware of this fact, more reason sometimes, when somethings happen we hurry to call our religious leader because they are supposed to be spiritually strong, well we can be fully certain anyways, but it should be so, therefore we run to them and and most times they pray in their ways and the matter is resolved, just like that, your doubts just got cleared about supernatural happenings. We live in a world were strange things happen regularly, strange objects appear from no where, strange sickness and diseases never been recorded coming up, strange places being discovered, we would just stand in awe. Its a natural world that has being ruled by supernatural happenings, if we are to stand as fellow predators and not as preys, then we have to be spiritual too. It's not up for debate if you truly want to climb high and stand mighty in this world of tough competition. We all need to take our spirituality more serious. The competition is too much already, people are aspiring for just a one person position, if 100 people are fighting who do you think would get the offer, the magical one right, one that can change and twist the heart to his or her favour, you can be brilliant, or good looking, but when you compete against a spiritual person who can control life affairs, I bet you don't want to know the outcome. All this and more are reasons why we as humans need to be very spiritual, I'll be sharing ways to help boost our spirituality. Firstly we are spirits already, so we are not trying to invoke some external force to take over us, its who we are already, for example Our God is spirit, and those who must worship him must do so in truth and in spirit, it doesn't imply that we all must be possessed, we are already having spirits, we have to groom it to being powerful. Like Christians, our works is to firstly Accept Christ to come into our life and direct our life, then we begin to study, increase our believe, know more about the main supernatural Authority which is God and all he has to offer, this way with believe our spirituality begins to grow and you'll be shocked in no time, you'll be commanding the impossible. Truly, not Christians alone are spiritual people, witches too are, the Muslims too are, the Buddhist, in fact all religion offers a higher power compared to the human ability, where people can come under the authority and be secured. There are levels to spiritual growths, just as there are levels to exercises and work outs, the deeper we study and work on ourselves the stronger we are building our spirituality. Spirituality is more than mere believe, it gets to the point, you know for sure there is powers made available. Its not for the old alone, neither is it for the young alone, but for all, its a wise choice and anyone who chooses to grow spiritually, is helping his or herself gain powers. Grow your Spiritual life. Thanks For Reading.

Please How Do You Deal With Your Issues? I'll really appreciate your advice, for it's too my notice that all of us goes through a thing or two, though some more critical than the other but to everyone their issues are what get them bothered, and until the issue is cleared off or minimized at the least, our minds are not at rest. I've seen different tolerant level between people, when problem arises people have different mode to dealing with the problem especially at its early stage, some are more tensed, some calm, some get to work so early, some run away, different approaches to different people, it's sometimes interesting yet funny to see how we respond at times. Imagine when we were younger and was always disciplined by our parents, a friend of mine back then broke a plate in the house, a happened to be in the house with him on that faithful evening, oh sorry that evening wasn't faithful for him, I'll rather say on that crazy evening. I mean he spent the whole time trying to glue the broken ceramic pieces together, he was so tensed that i became tensed too. At first I didn't see it as a serious problem because if I were to be the one who broke a plate in my house, even at that young age, I'll simply pack it and await my moms arrival, then I'll let her know what happened. Even sometimes I forget until she starts looking for that particular plate, then I'll be like oh I broke it mistakenly sometime ago, it was nothing serious, my mom would always be like, I'm counting it, when you grow up, I'll make sure you buy dozens of plates for me, everything you've broken and we'll just laugh about it, but seeing my friends reaction to this simple mistake, I too became scared, I forgot we were suppose to play ball, we were waiting for his mom to come so he can be allowed out of the house, now we didn't want the mom to come anymore, please don't come now, infact don't come again. Wait, sorry come, but come later, later? NO 🥺. So yes, my friend wasn't dealing well with the situation, and we spent the whole time trying to glue a plate together, and ofcourse that wasn't going to work as the gum didn't stay, we could fit it back perfectly, some little gaps remained cause we could find those pieces of the plate, then we thought of throwing it out and pretending like it never happened, yes that's what we would do. Just then the mom knocked. Oops that was when the whole drama began, I too had not seen this side to my friend before and I wasn't liking it, not one bit, this dude started crying, for real. And the door keeps knocking bang bang bang, our hearts skips along side, bang bang bang. What do we do now, there is no time to start planning or drafting any plot, we can't keep mom waiting outside, brace yourself for impact as you open the door. Well he opened the door as my eyes stay glued to the drama about to unfold right before my eyes, my heart was skipping as though I was watching a suspense filled movie in a cold night. Fortunately, his mom just passed by and gone straight inside, we greeted and she replied but obviously she was tired, this was good and bad in a way, good in the sense that we were free from the expected anger, bad in the sense that it only postponed the worst till later, well I didn't care, we can go outside now, wait dude, let's not forget to throw away the plate. Until now I just realized years has gone by and I still didn't inquire from my friend how it all played out later, if truly his mom disciplined him or just overlooked it all, well I'll be furious knowing that nothing happened afterwards, after putting me through all those stress, lol. He is grown now though, I only found it funny when I remembered today, it had different ways of handling our life issues and it's sometimes based on our background, upbringing, or mindset, other reason may apply to why different people react differently to issues of life. Recently read about a young man, who lost millions and hes currently broke, oh infact he's now in debt, so he killed himself, apparently he couldn't bear the shame of being poor after being wealthy for a long time, at first I was seeing things from his perspective, though I still felt like ending ones life was a step too forward, but I knew it was painful indeed and it messes with ones mental health, one could almost run mad, like what kind of crazy mistakes could that be to lose such enormous amounts of wealth. Just then still on this discussion we learnt of a business tycoon who had same issues, oh his was worst when you see the amount lost and the humiliation faced, but he stayed. It wasn't an easy one no doubt, money could be lost in seconds but take years to recover, it was a long and frustrating process, but if he did it before, if he could get wealthy before, he can get wealthy again, and he knew it was easier for him this time, cause during his time of wealth he had connected with some high profile standing people, he had trusted customers, he had people he had helped one way or the other, he had his senses and principles that assisted him before, applying all this with the help of God he knew he would bounce back and yes he did bounce back, not easy of course, so many betrayals, but you need as little as one help to get you moving. So yes, we all have issues we are dealing with, but this process to dealing with it has proven best and more productive than the others, first relax cause its life, it wouldn't matter again once we die, so don't kill yourself about it, worst we die and it doesn't matter again, well don't die. Secondly think while you're calm, more often there is a way, there's always a way, most time we are only not taking actions, so think constructively, think smart. Then last and most importantly Pray, the spiritual governs the physical as I always say, so pray just incase its above your power and wisdom, in fact even when it is not beyond your powers, still pray its always better with God in it. Thanks For Reading.

It's More Rest And Fun This Weekend For some the weekends starts from Friday's evening, for others its Saturday mornings running to the Sunday's night, its rest time, even our creator rested on the seventh day, we too need to rest. 24 hrs a day sometimes look too short especially when we are sleeping or resting, before you could regain strength boom its morning again, so we often feel like it's too short, but when we are working during the day, we feel like the time is too long, you done this and that yet the time keep moving slowly, so we feel it's too short, all this makes us realize that the timing it's perfect, all God does is perfect, we'd just have to plan on it. So it's weekend and it's a rest time, what's your plans for it? Share quality time with someone this weekend, Life isn't complete if you don't share an experience from each areas of life. The quest for money has consumed our time, its what our day has become engrossed with, searching hard on the money. Yes its good as the bills won't pay itself off, and our needs are always insatiable, in order for us to keep living great, its only wise we work for money. However, all work and no play makes Jack ..... You know the rest. As much as we work, take out time to relax, enjoy and fill the beauty of life. So many of the elderly people have few regrets and many of which is as a result of not exploring life as they should, no site seeing, no hiking, no vacations, no beach hangout, its all been work, work, work. Work is good, but earth is our own too, don't you think it's great to see much for ourselves. Sometimes, just go out for a drink, take that special person out and have fun, I don't want to say treat everyday like it is your last, cause then you might be too conscious of your mood, so rather just enjoy yourself and be happy. The weekend as the name implies is the closing of the week, just like any other closing either in schools end of year, work closing, programs ending, there is always a sense of being in a celebration mood, same should apply to the weekend. There is no need to throw a party, no need to spend so much, just a little way of appreciating the efforts you've put in thus far, its been a long week and another is fast approaching, we want to take a break and just be happy. Get our minds away from the stress, forget the bad times, strategize again on how we would get the next week to be better. No better time to plan ahead, than a time when you have shifted the pressures away from your mind, yes some work was left undone at the office, but all that can wait, now is not the time to care about work and how pissed my employer might be, its me time, I'll deal with that later. If there is no reason to celebrate the week ending, then at least thank God for life, sip a drink and say lord I'm grateful, for yet another month I see, and weekend and of course payday is fast approaching again, nothing sweeter than the month end,when you get credited your hard earned money, enough to be grateful for, relax and be thankful. However way you want to have fun this weekend just be sure to know that you don't want to take actions you would regret later, its weekend doesn't mean you get away with anything you do. The court won't say you got drunk and drove at the night and unfortunately hit and run, but since its weekend you're pardon, you would be charge as much as any other day, so we need to be careful also, fun time doesn't mean to stop thinking. If you are not a strong drinker, the weekend is not a time to start learning, its not a time to travel away far from your location. Be cautious, wisdom don't need to take a break at weekends. Yes, wisdom don't need to take breaks, its just about catching up on fun to at least get you relaxed, it could be just to stay home to a movie, or to go visiting friends, or go clubbing just to dance and be lively, could be to go on dates, things you didn't have time to schedule cause you were very busy. Doing laundry doesn't necessarily apply, cause its work, I call it hard labour, lol, I just hate to do it, but I love wearing neat clothes, so I got no choice. Get done with it, be fast so you have other time for better things. You can be happy dear, find it. Sadly, few people don't know where or how to grab fun, they just look up to work day again as that is all they have to keep them occupied, they don't really have friends, they see and wish to get the experience others are having but they weren't brought up that way, they see fun as being unseruous about life, well life doesn't care about anyone too, it just plays its part as programmed, its our actions that brings us what we need off from life. We got one life to live, so we make the best off each moment. We do what we love to do, how we love to do it, we've been serious for most of the week, a bit of excitement won't kill anyone. Just some little fun, go dancing, go bowling, hang out with friends, do some crazy things that are without repercussions, see that you make someone happy too in the process, remember family too, and don't forget to plan the week ahead. Grab loads of fun this weekend, do so that you would have enough to look out for in the next week coming, gather enough memories from your exploits such that when you seat down, there are enough memories your mind can recapture to make you laugh through the stressful,you know it can also help with the traffic. Lol. Just have fun, it's the weekend, your time starts already. Thanks For Reading.

Controlling Sexual needs A very interesting matter I'm here to talk on today, it has to deal with you, well not just you alone, with me also, infact it has to deal with everyone. As humans we care for many things, but there are few things we really deeply crave for, among that is money, and among that is to satisfy our sexual needs, also family, career success, and so on, but for the case of this article I'll be dwelling more on our sexual needs. Wait, how do y'all control it and stay without having sex even when the urges are strong, or don't you stay? Lol, it's no jokes the world today don't bother about keeping oneself, yet its good we learn how to stay and keep our bodies, should you always give in at the slightest feel or urges, then there is a problem. For real you don't want to get addicted to it. Its worth being cautious, Don't look at me like that, I know you feel it too, we all do, moreover its the sweetest thing you can feel with your body, adding to the media constantly tempting us each time we go online or switch on the TV, its a normal phenomenon but the most sensitive too, you want to make sure you are in control at such times, few times it comes so strong and you just want to give in. So many then head up to an hotel to enjoy themselves, yes enjoy themselves,, its an enjoyment no doubt, fewer lucky ones have their spouse over. Sexual urge is one feeling that can get someone so intoxicated that they do the unthinkable. Oh I know I'm right, for example as mighty as king Herod Antipas was, he was ready to render so much to Salome cause she dance so enciting, or should I say seductively, Salome did request for John D Baptist head cause her mother prompted her to, and Herod whose sexual urges had the full control over his supposed wisdom took no hesitation to kill john just for her. Maybe we need to understand that herod is a king, who leads a mighty nation and he among any else should be wise, brave, emotionally intelligent, and as many kingly attributes as is requested, therefore if any should not be an example, we shouldn't think the great king herod would. If there is any time one must be very careful, more than others it must be that time he or she is with someone who drives them crazy, someone who can make them lose their cool. It happens to men and women alike, no one is exempted, the men are mostly victims no doubt, but the ladies too are victims. Some ladies also have sleepless nights over guys as guys do ladies, moreover who do you see cry most from emotions breakdown, so they do feel the sexual urges, men however are more hypnotized mainly cause of the wonderful female body make up. We are God creation and should be appreciated, but God has warned us severally and severely to beware and have self control. Who can be compared to Solomon in all wisdom and authority, King Solomon is one man whose wisdom got so famous around the earth, he could solve the hardest of cases in just seconds. But what was his weakness, what brought about a rift between him and his main source, yes he too got so consumed by the hands of Queen Sheba, who could have thought a wise man who knew better than to serve another God, would allows an idol temple in his kingdom. Did he suddenly forget to think things through, or he thought but still he just didn't care, I guess he knew but he just didn't care, what matters most is the enjoyment his urges keep craving for. Guess, I talked more about the male and it's making it look like the males are the only victims, well not so much, females too have their fair share, Photiphars wife implicated the females, if any woman should be an example worthy of emulation, second to Pharaoh's wife, the next should be photiphars wife, but getting so mesmerized by Joseph, she had to lure him and tried forcing him to lie with her, she also went as far as blackmailing him after refusing. Definitely someone's sexual urges can make them do the unthinkable. We all need to be careful, me inclusive, you inclusive. I apologize for stating mainly biblical stories, but just wanted to share events that we all can recall and easily relate too. Of course many more are happening in our world today. Already you can think on one or two occurrences that ones sexual urges has lead them into doing things they regret doing, personally we all have our various experience, some we overcome, few others we gave in, some others we are yet planning to do, well its a normal phenomenon but the most sensitive, and so it calls for one to be careful, like very careful. Can you say no in the heat of the moment? When all your senses are rising, and you feel like if I don't do this, this world is going to end, just then can you call it a quit and say I'm not doing anymore. Or for example, you are about to lie with someone and you notice you have no protection, can you say "its too risky, some other time maybe", or would you say " man I don't care, lets do this" and take the risk. Well it might interest you to know that over 99% would go ahead, with only one percent withdrawing, and that one percent is me and me alone, hahaha, just joking, but the ratio different would be a high margin, with so many people taking the risk, let's learn to control our sexual urges even in dire situations. Its the downfall of many mighty men, its the break of many marriages, the cause of many infidelity. We must all learn to deal with it early. Its no doubt the strongest weapon the enemy would likely use against you, most people feel money would be the greatest weapon to a woman while a man's greatest weakness would be a woman. Well men like money too, infact more than women do if we judge correctly, but the greatest weapon is no doubt our opposite sex, just the way you like him, just the way you like her, especially when the weather is demanding. Its enough to warn us about. Do you know it was a reason angels had to leave heaven and come dwell on earth after seeing some beautiful ladies, and it brought about the start of strange powers like magic, ornaments and so on, you'll understand more when you read the book of Enoch in the bible. Its a reason the mighty King David killed Uriah just to have his wife. Oh its a reason Samson the strong said out his power source, which lead to his death. If we don't see the need to control our sexual urges, then maybe we need to know how many unwanted pregnancies are coming in daily, some aborted and some left to grow, how many sexually transmitted diseases are still spreading. Oh talk about the emotional effect, how many people are wasting useful resources just to please someone they are mad over who is probably just playing with them for the gains alone, how many homes are separating everyday, so much damage. Not saying you shouldn't have sexual urges, in fact you can't not have it, its there and would forever be there, but control it. Explore with the right person but keep it on auto control, it saves a lot of troubles. Thanks For Reading.

Sorry I Can't Please Everyone Trying to make everyone happy, trying so much to please the crowd, I just want everyone around me to be happy, well not so bad, as long as you don't expect everyone to do same to you. Overtime we've seen those who care so much, those with a pure heart get unappreciated. A thousand good you could have done yet that one singular wrong is what gets analyzed. People would always do what pleases them on the long run, regardless of what you or anyone feel, you could try so hard to live your life pleasing others or you could already sense it'll be a wasted journey cause you're likely going to be unappreciated by someone so insensitive. Truthfully this Mission is rather Impossible, when you're trying to please everyone, no one has fully accomplished this task, and not sure any one would. To achieve some great heights, we are sure to step on some toes, we are going to anger some people who are prepared to fight it out with us. Its a reason why many has made enemies, to get to the top some people has to go down, its not a wicked statement, no it's not, it's just a fact. Most of the corrections that the world has made till date to make the world a better place has always met opposition from people who were previously benefiting from the wrong happenings. When you try to please everyone by doing good, then expect a fight from those doing bad. And if vice versa, if you want to please those who are bad then remember that you'll hurt those who are good. The government might be elected to serve everyone but they are those who step on people toes more often. Have you ever realized that the government are always being criticized even when they are trying, yes sometimes its from an opposition party, but also it comes from the general public too. That goes as far to show that the government elected for the people still can't please all the people, so how much you who don't really care. The best we can do is to create product and services that would generally be good and serve humanity, this is the only legit way to please everyone. The inventors of mind blowing technology like electricity, aeroplane, vehicles,musical instruments, and the likes has very much Contributed to the happiness of the world, their works are currently vital to us as a nation and as individuals, they can choose to say " I pleased everyone and they would not be wrong ", but certainly there must be someone who would say " hey, you didn't please me, in fact its quite the opposite, I hate your invention ". Remember people have died from electrocution already, people have died from plane crashes, people have accidents and for the music instruments, some take it as noise and expect everyone to spend their time doing more useful things than music. Do you agree with me?, for these selected few, they wouldn't be happy with this inventions, though its has done more good yet it has got some side effects. The inventors are aware of the bad effect of their findings, but still decide to go ahead and make it, because truly its a great idea and has accepted the fact that not everyone would be pleased. What's that next big step you're trying to achieve, who are you trying so hard to not offend, how best can you help the situation, if there is no other alternative, I suggest you just go on with it. For example, as a newly employed staff in a company, you are likely going to step on some toes as you Stive to ascend the ladder of hierarchy, no more wants to remain on one position, Everyone wish to earn more, just as you are wishing, your colleagues too would. Now some were employed before you and some after you, some were employed together with you, so what makes you special to being selected for promotion. Do you wait when you have the key to unlocking something better because someone might be unhappy, how about the people who would be happy. If for no one, how about your family who are always praying and hoping on your success. Do you wait when you are burdened with a task to accomplish. Do you care to stop singing because someone said that your style of music is bad. Do you stop dancing because someone said he doesn't like your dance. Do you stop working because someone says you are disturbing her, if yes then you should stop eating because someone says you don't chew well. If God did not please everyone and a devil decided that he is not okay with the way things are going on around here, let's change it, plus a host a angels agreed to back him up, then you should know and understand that its rather impossible to please everyone, and you might never head anywhere if you seek the approval of every single person, you want their opinion in every matter, making your heart come second to what people say. Learn to act for yourself, others would try for themselves. No one has successfully pleased everyone, and no one would. Finding peace in rejection of some, knowing its okay for others to hate is good ideology. If everyone loves you then something is wrong, for Jesus who was the Prince of peace to be hated, then why would they like you who is also good, if the devil who is evil is hated, then why would they like you who is bad too?, wherever you fall in life, you have your fair share of opposition and it's fine. We were never created to please everyone, you can only try to make or support the creation of a product that serves humanity, but even the harmless product constitute environmental pollution, so its still have some criticism. Do what you have to do, if it's what you really want to do, then let nothing hinder you, moreover everyone else is doing their bid, no minding you too, so be yourself and do you. There would be people who are happy and forever grateful to you too, let that be your focus. So do you! Thanks For Reading.

Build The Mindset Of A Fighter How do fighters think? They've got someone to knock out, and they really wish to knock that opponent out, even if the opponent is a strong opposition, they still would find a way to get that opponent down, it's one mindset we need to build. As we know sometimes the life hurdles we face are so crazy we could go crazy, that's when we need the fighters mindset, cause certainly on the long run we would be alright. Now however is a major concern to many, now is the current feeling so many live on the now, but a fighter endures now and fights for later. As they say when the going gets tough only the tough get going. "its never over until its over" yet another fighters mindset we've got to have, for as much as we fall, be a good soldier to get back on your feet, every day is a good time to fight, did we just loose, oh that's bad, its OK to cry and be sad, but its not OK to spend time on it. Let's get back up see how we can win. A fighters mindset when he or she is in the ring or on the battlefield, is never to loose, you hear the slogan "No Retreat, No Surrender", it's a go for win, and should they loose, they regroup to plan to win. How often do you give up, are you still pushing or was the last defeat your last try? Are you not a fighter anymore?. Its always a new day after every successful 24 hours, it's a new awakening after every successful sleep and waking up, its just like you are reborn, same way it should be a fresh start after something bad has happen. Yes we dwell on it for a particular time, we cry, we beat ourselves up but then there comes a time we must get over it, pick up the pieces, receive the lessons and move on. We are all on a journey in time, no doubt somethings would weigh us down, we can't just help but rest for awhile, but the journey must continue. Sadly few has backed out and give up, better rewards however awaits those who continue to strive. Death is the ultimate finishing for everyone, no one exempted, in fact its the only acceptable finishing reason, any other reason to stop progressing is unacceptable. Few people have commited suicide off a great challenge and ended their life before the set time. Firstly the world is too big to think that you're the only one who has faced such challenges before. Why you? Its painful we must admit so we all pray to God to keep guiding us and saving us from bad wrath. Ending the life is rather a wrong choice of action. All hope is never lost. Think on hope, situations are known to change, the impossible is known to happen regularly, keep fighting in hope giving up and suicide should not be an option. Imagine the pain of loosing a job without having another option to fall back to, frustrating right. What then happens, is life over? Or does that means poverty is around the corner? No it doesn't, life has been known to respond to the seeds we sow. So start working, get thinking to what next, sow that interest to succeed on life, in no time it'll start paying off. So may have lost jobs and felt like it has all ended, but then began to fight through not accepting the so called fate, and today they are better than before, earning more than the previous. First it was bad, now it created an opportunity. Another aspect is being in a relationship, and things aren't just working out well, the experiences so far has been bitter and you feel like you're never going to find a right person or maybe you'll just settle for less, any guy or lady that comes your way you'll just marry, I don't care, I'll just bring down my standards, or just remain single forever, no one loves me, this and that, it can truly be a hard task finding someone to join with, but it can very much happen. Rather than give up or settle for less, or stay celibate, try bringing God into it, this plan is not old fashion. Moreover the idea of a life partner must be spiritual than you just using mere wisdom to pick. Pray about it, all hope is never lost. There is a major secret and it really work, and that is to trust on a supernatural power, to know that God exist and he is so powerful that he can make impossible happens, maybe when we realize that nothing really is impossible, then there might be a shift in thoughts. That thing we feel like even God would not do is something God can do. So when tough times comes, let's fight with the best weapon ever known to mankind, that is our faith - undying believe that God is able, when we accept this, it'll be magical from henceforth. I feel personally that the world would swallow anyone up who is not powerful, I know we have police and soldiers and as many force agencies to help fight injustice and stand for the weak populace, but we are in a world where most battles fought are more spiritual than physical, you hear of many people controlling high positions and you think to join in like it requires just mere wisdom and hardworking but then you see their fortifications and just relax to live your innocent lives, no jokes the bad powers are more rampant, but it doesn't mean there are more powerful, God is more powerful and all powers are his, so bank on him rather, Tap from God, be powerful through him, its the best way to fight. Two things are captured here and they are firstly to have a fighters mindset which entails not accepting defeat, to get up should we loose and plan to win, then seek power, power from the best source which of course is God Almighty. With these two in place, you already are a super human, you can set your mind on things and you get it, you can use faith to make the impossible happen, it's no charade. Its real. If no scientists in all their wisdom can create any animal, then it tells us our formation is not scientific or from any big bang theory, but there is a God, the best source of power for any fighter. As far as life is concern, you really want to be on his side. Thanks For Reading.

Overthinking Have you know someone who over thinks everything, or probably are you the overthinker? Being an overthinker can give you the two sides to a person or an action which may be correct or may be incorrect, they don't feel anything happens so casually, there has got to be a reason for it, an intention, why would this just happen, on the long run you may discover that you were right or you may discover the matter isn't even that serious, you only took it out of context. That's why Its advisable we don't act based on a hunch, wait until its clarified, then we can act and see better. Overthinkers in a relationship is often trouble, we have seen many innocent actions misread, and life happens in such a way you see what you want to see, when you start suspecting someone off something, then is the time it appears as though that person is guilty, cause his actions unknowingly may be conforming to your hunch, but it's all because that's what you wish to see, and so you pay attention to those little detailed that wouldn't mean much in the normal sense. It probably isn't the first times such scenarios have happened but you are angry now cause you are suspicious. Overthinking isn't bad, no it isn't, when you feel some kind of way its good you pay attention and try thinking deep, bring in the past scenarios and see if it adds up, wait and see what keeps happening, if at all your suspicions could be right or not, should you refuse to do so, you may be taken for a fool and hurt on the long run. However the issue with overthinkers is when they take actions base on what they think without really being sure. It's just an hunch, you haven't cleared it out with the person, you haven't heard or self discover their side to the story, rather you took actions anyways. It may be shocking to discover how many relationships or mutual understanding has been ruined only cause they overthinked and read false meaning to things. Imagine a man leaving the house secretly because we was trying to plan a surprise party or having to leave the house in time he didn't regularly leave, but his intentions were to plans a surprise for you so he can't tell you off his true intentions, rather tells you a lie and later find out, an overthinker of course is already thinking of the worst, he is cheating on me, and it's not wrong to think it, no its not. However suspicions cause for investigation, not an outright disengagement of things, now you feel he's cheating on you and you got so angry and this anger led you into doing the unthinkable, maybe you left the relationship and ended it with a fight, or did a payback by cheating with someone else, anger can often direct us into the craziest of things. It doesn't change the fact that you haven't discover the main truth before taking such actions, when we take crazy actions only to soon discover the truth and the truth was only harmless, what then do you do. You're now the guilty one. It's bad when an overthinker has a low self esteem also, they dont accept every good that comes their way, they feel they don't deserve it and start putting their guards out. Why would she give this to me, hmm maybe she's using it to get me cool so she can be free to do what she wants to do. Why is he so nice to me all of a sudden, is he trying to get to bed with me. Not believing you naturally deserve love, so anytime it comes you put your guards up and become extra arrogant, could you just relax and enjoy yourself, just be smart about it. What happens when an Overthinker is a jealous one, oh my God, it's so funny, they could actually be extra protective of the littlest of things, as little as you smiling to their younger sister, why is he smiling at her like that, I don't like this. To make matter worst, when he or she talks to your friend or ask about your friend, it's so funny how that can change the mood for a long time, especially when that friend indeed is cute. But it could only be a kind gesture and not any fishy intentions. But you wouldn't see it so cause you overthink. Imagine coming home to see both of them talking, omg just don't burn down the house. In all it's good we think about what's happening, overthinking is too extra, just think, it's ok to just think, but never take drastic measures following what you only thought about, like you've got to be certain, you've got to be sure and unless you got concrete proof, the next best thing could just be to talk it out. Here it from the person first, see what truly happened, how it truly happens and then you can act afterwards. Most often you discover its only your psychic mode setting in again, you've got to take it easy, Overthinking is that bad but you should be in control, dont let it lead you into crazy deeds. Thanks For Reading.

We Are All Unique In Our Different Ways One thing we can all agree on is the fact that God is so creative, we can see it clearly in our world, no two people are completely identical yet in our individualism we are great. The wonders a single man can create, the art, the culture, the languages, the skins, everything different but very much lovely. Every animal, every plants, every humans all unique and very valuable, each playing vital roles in the successful operation of the worlds process. We are indeed all unique in our different ways. Truthfully I love you just the way you are, life wouldn't be interesting if you weren't different, life would be so predictable and uninteresting if we were all alike, but the fact that there are some unique attributes peculiar to you alone, makes living so intriguing. Some people you already misses so much, you remembered them for the things they do. Probably how they solved problem so fast, or how troublesome they were, how they made you laugh, how they spoke, their sense of humor, any reason unique to them. We are all different and these difference is the spice of life. Life wouldn't be fun if there were no comedians around us, some might say we need to be serious and focused on our goal, but then we have seen that entertainment is a aspect of life that's just as good as the rest. Life wouldn't be interesting if there was electricians, power has become a necessary and basic commodity to life. We need specialist who can make it work, same goes for the doctors, musicians, actors and actress, all professions and all kinds of people, plus those you feel are so not important, they all add to the spice of life. However, some people add bad spices to life, it's different no doubt but it would do more good for that spice to be thrown away rather than added to the general life ground. Some attitude we don't find funny at all, we don't find entertaining, nor beneficial in any way or fun, such as stealing, killing, corruption, wickedness of any form, these attitudes are possessed by some individuals, and they are the reason for the mayhem and Chaos that roam our day. This difference in nature should be apprehended and chastised to changing and should not be celebrated. Some of our difference can be unique to some families, sometimes because of the gene and other times because of similar experiences the family has been through together, so they all grew into having such attribute, could be inherited or could be environmental, traits like disrespect or respect, good or bad cooking, late coming or early arrival, things we got use to growing up, either affected by our parents actions or because of our environment. These shapes us to what we can now allign with ourselves, however this can still be worked on into changing for the better, it's all discipline and mindset. That difference in you is what is either making people come back to spend more time with you or making them run away from you, same way you also love to be around certain people and for some others you just know that you won't like to see them again after the first encounter. So our difference is our attraction as well as our repellant, you might not have an issue but not everyone would like you, some people would still not feel your energy and so you guys won't flow together, not necessarily become enemies or disagreeing every time, you guys just don't connect, no hard feelings. Still playing a big role in our relationship is this Beauty of our differences. Your spouse is definitely different from you no doubt, no two people are the same, not even a twin, but his or her difference is so appealing and complimenting to you that its a perfect match, her words and encouragement keeps you going and focused, his supports and ideas brings you the answers to your prayers, though there are quarrels and disagreement sometimes but it doesn't becloud the fact that you need that person close to you. Its such a pleasant difference you can't hope for anyone else. The world is engulfed in differences, our perfect God made it so, its not all water, neither is it all land. Its not all flying birds, neither is it all creeping reptiles, or fierce looking animals, yet we have some loving looking pets for ourselves. Its not all tall tress, we still have fine grasses, its not all fruits giving plants like the oranges, apples, we still have plants bringing edible foods like rice, bananas, bean and the likes, all these and more differences were created to spice up the earth and make living here a remarkable experience. Finally talk about us, our difference and how it has completely changed our view to things for the better. We have the Caucasians, the Arabs, the Asians, The Blacks, The Indians, so many and you just can't help but love them for who they are, can you remember loving the Chinese movies that teaches the world how to fight, well I still got beaten, the Indians movies that taught us to sing in serious situations, the Philippines movies that thought us about love and betrayal, the Nigerian movies that taught us comedy and occultism, the Hollywood movies that showed us a lot of crimes, love, super heroes, so many things peculiar to each and every one of us, our difference can be a reason for war, but also it can be a reason to love more and foster peace. I hope we choose to love more. God in his infinite wisdom made us different, also decided its best we have different languages, we could feel like it would only cause confusion and fighting, but it could in the same way foster more love and bond. Moreover families fight also sometimes worse than an outside conflict and remember how your parents would take good care of visitors, could feed them the larger meat and you'll be like what, lol. So we can choose to love our differences rather than hate and fight. I love you guys, just the way you are. However remember as written in the third paragraph, some differences are bad spices, so that should be adjusted. The goal is one love all across the world. Thanks For Reading.

Everyone Needs Help It's never enough to show Kindness, each breaking day is a huge opportunity to show love again. So many people go through a lot day in and day, it's only good that we offer goodness to the world. Generally be kind to people who are in need of help if you are in a position to assist. Don't hold back cause nothing is certain, we all need help one way or the other, even the richest man still need some kind of help his money can't buy, this is what often make us turn to a supreme being, cause God is the only one so powerful and needs no help whatsoever from anyone yet he never gets tired of helping anyone, his store never runs out. Basically one truth is that we all need help, no man has got it all, and no one will, someone needs someone, everybody needs Somebody, without the help of someone, we may never get to the stage we are in presently. So we all need help, if you feel you need nobody to help you anymore, then its clear you don't wish to aim higher to being like some certain people doing much better or you're just comfortable, we need help to go higher, it can be money, information, connection and so on but in all this someone needs to assist, so yes we all need help. Some person however need help more than we do, maybe not money alone but mostly money, they pray daily for help because things just sort of happened unplanned and unprepared for, now they are feeling helpless with much responsibilities to cater for, I'm focusing on the widows on this article. Its never easy having to raise a family on your own especially as a woman. I don't mean women are weaker, just stating they are not supposed to be stressed so much. More reason why women don't do some certain kind of straining jobs, like bricklaying, construction heavy lifting and the like, and we must respect them for the sweet delicatel people that they are. This is another reason to want to help a widow woman who is undergoing undue stress cause she lost her husband. It doesn't really matter if they have a child or are barren, the pain of losing the one you love is already enough pain, it's not a time to tell them to be strong only, but still help them to be strong, if you are capable let's help them find a reason to smile. Children who forgets their parents are another cause for concern, especially when the parents are old or alone and still leave them to work like they are still young, is no way a right move to take. Have you met a widow later, have you seen one recently. How often do they slide into thoughts, how often do they lose their happiness suddenly when they are reminded, the depression is real and pronounced, some however take solace in the comfort of their kids, others are not so lucky, however my main issue is the women who can't feed or get basic needs because of their husband loss, now they are conformed into the little they can, and adding to the emotional stress to the money need, in no time few has completely lost, some has found no reason to keep on living. Its true, some are strong enough to push through others are not so strong, either ways they deserve to be happy so let's be extra kind to them. A big shout out also to all the single moms who are putting their time, resources in fact putting their all to ensure they train up their child in the best possible way, it's not all single mom who are divorced for trivial matters, some needed to let off for the greater good, probably their safety and that of their kids, the supposed husband could be an addict or player and it was bad for a home and kid So they left, some reasons are tangible. However if matters are resolvable, then its better it be resolved as either party can't play the others role as the other would. A man is best suited for a father and a woman mother, and every child deserves such experience, but if need be its best being separate, then its best for the child too. We tend to be natural kind to women, their nature makes it so, however we need to be extra kind to widows, its never their fault to experience such ordeal, so many of them unlike the men refuses to remarry and many still refuses to have anything to do with any other man, the level of commitment is always worth applauding, some with kids focus on training their kids and that's what their life gets centred about, and they do a good job. If you are in a position to help you should do it and do it well because God too is intentionall about them. Oh yes, we can't speak same for every beggar though because few of them are only lazy and not incapacitated, they have what it takes to earn but chooses to take the other route, but for widows is not so, life caught them bad and helpless, so do well to give a helping hand if you can. Thanks For Reading.

There Can Be More! Today's topic unlike the others is not saying we need to get up and start working, its not saying you need to get wealthy or healthy or go get the necessary knowledge, we've heard all that, now we are talking what next, after you've done all and yes very successful, what next, after we've gotten all what our heart desires us to get, then what next, do we just relax and and keep spending off our already gathered wealth. Most times we set Marks for ourselves and if we could surpass that mark we could feel a sense of accomplishment, a need to rest. Do we know that being wealthy means more task, having more increased and income than your previous doesn't give room for idleness or resting, rather it means "hey double up" yes hop hop, its popularly echoed to whom much is given, much is expected, so when y'all seem like it's time to enjoy and work no more, you've got to quickly correct such notions, Its not time to work no more, though you should enjoy, rather it's time to put in more efforts, by that you can seal such level of increase. It's not just enough to rise to a certain level, we still need to work hard to maintain that level, if not we may drop. Sometimes it takes luck to reach our goal and mark, but it takes mastery and consistency to turn that luck into a well deserved accomplishment. Get thinking on how to do more, on how to get more, what can be added, what can be improved on, there's always room for more, it isn't the end road, the world is a continuous growing market, just when you think you're the best, there comes another who is and has done better, you would be amazed for real. We need to constantly motivate ourselves into doing more, get more, think on achieving more, this are the ways to get more. There's always room for more, remembering back in the days, the inventions present and how we thought we've seen it all, fast forward to date we clearly can see that they are no where to be found. Could remember the times when BlackBerry was the trend, if you haven't gotten any of those phones back then, then you're not yet a big boy or girl, it was impossible to imagine another phone who could contend with them, talk less of a phone that would make them totally invisible, but today we've seen it, a clear depict of why we should continuously be on our toes, ready to overtake and maintain our top position. The world today is crazy and only crazy ones are celebrated. The normal guys treat things cautiously, don't stress, sometimes we let it come to us, why pursue as though our lives depend on it, at least we aren't poor, so why put in those crazy efforts, sometimes we here "dont kill yourself over that job, though its not advisable to work in detriment to your health, yet only those who can work crazily would see the huge reward of their crazy investments. There are guys who dont sleep the regular 8 hours, they are up working, you sure don't expect to get same results with them or do you? Yes its wrong, yes it's risky, yes the doctor said it's not advisable, yes we know, however those who have taken the risk has seen the reward, it's called risk for that reason, indeed it was favourable to some others as they took the risk only to fail and regret their actions, maybe their health got affected, maybe the went bankrupt, or maybe all what they've been putting effort into didn't work out as hoped, now they have to either start again or give up. These we see everyday and the rewards we can also testify to. There are always more, only it isn't a easy way to grabbing. Work hard and when you start becoming successful work harder, like my father always its not over till it's over. Infact desires are contagious, that's why people are mostly encouraged to go for what they have passion for, this way our desires can keep fueling our energy, at least if every thing is going against your likeness, and you feel like quiting, there comes your passion keeping you going. Its advantageous no doubt, but you must agree that not everyone works currently where their passion lies, so what then, do they quit at the sight of inconvenience, no way they have to sell motivate themselves to keep moving. There is more where it comes from, success is as a mine, you keep digging and you keep getting, it's as natural as that, never relent, never stop pushing. To whom much is given, much is expected, so keep pushing for more. Are you happy with yourself, you can be happier, are you not happy, still you can be happy, it's all in the consistency and not giving up. The world is filled with great thinkers, you would be amazed at what next idea would storm the earth, those who feel they have secured the lead and are resting would awake to see they have gone far behind. Success is a non stop activity, we keep pushing. Thanks For Reading.

Its Our Time Our Decision It your timing so therefore it's your decision, inasmuch as everyone has their 24hours generally, but we can't spend it similarly. Some awaken as early as 5am, so are still in bed till 7 am, some others sleep at day so they can work at night, and guess what we are all doing fine, so no one can certainly say "here goes how you should spend your time, if not you can not be successful " no one can say these, as we all have different approaches that works fine for us, even if it's for the time being. When we say your life is in your hands, just what we mean is that you have the sole ownership of how you use your time, which obviously would turn our later to determine the future of everyone. Pretty much the only two things we really have, no one came into the world with clothes or houses, our betrothed didn't come belonging to us from our birth, the only thing that way handed to us was our ticking time and our choices, how we choose to use this both would determine what we possess afterwards. Its a serious issue to take note and carefully learn to use it wisely. Its our life and the choices are ours, don't be cagoled into giving your true powers to people who would only lead you astray, any outcome that comes in our life is solely our doing, we must own up to taking responsibility for every actions and position, no one else, its our life choice and our time. Every seconds of the day is used in doing what we chooses to, if you're in your place of work, if you are just walking up then you choose to walk, what you are doing now has a level of your acceptance. You play a vital role in your life. Many are happy today for the choices they took a long time ago, as it is currently paying off. Everyday we have decisions to make, these decision are the reason why we are were we are today, today are a reflection of what we planned out and the choices we took. Time is life, time is really not a thing, if it was then there would have been some abnormalities, but every day same events, day and night switching up, it's same from your first day till date, however our time starts from birth and it ends at death, so in another sense i wouldn't be wrong if I call time "Life", so same way we are treating life to be important as no one really wants to die, and no one wants to keep living life poor so also we must treat our time. How we deal with our timing would determine the result we would be getting later on. Its called planting and Harvest, these are separate and different time, a time to plant and a time to harvest, all these must happen in their own time, you can't harvest without planting, in fact more than anticipating the harvest we must spend more focus on the timing to plant, this is the most essential. By planting, I don't really mean the farming cultivation process, that's along it but its a more generalized term to say we must prepare, we must all prepare rightly. And there is a timing for that, we all want to enjoy the result thereafter but we are lazy to work for it. Understand the timing and you your time well. Decisions are the mind make up of everyone, You've got it, I've got it, its what makes us own our life, we are freemen, we are not slaves, as so we can do what we want and yes be ready to take full responsibilities for our actions. Few have chosen to do a certain thing, make a certain decision and they are still answering for it till date, for instance a man choosing to apply for a job he just stumbled on and instead of walking away he "decided" to give it a try and that earned him a paying job, a job presently paying up his bills, he can only be greatful that he made that choice that faithful day. Another example would be a teenage high school sweethearts who forgo now have a baby from an unwanted pregnancy, they could have chosen not to be sexually active, seeing they were young and lacking finances, yet they Choose to, our choices has our reactions to offer back at us. What are the decisions we are looking to take today, Every time has got us making choices, choices that would hopefully bring good news but its rather inevitable that we make few bad decision. Anyways we move. Its time and choice, we have it all, its our main and oldest possession therefore more focus to using it well must be a aim. We grew to start loving, we had gone up to a certain age before we knew what hate means, someone bought our clothes, in fact everything else came secondary, but the main primary gift we truly have is time and choice. Almost like a game, our time is ticking. Make an intentional decision to utilize our time well by trying to make right choices, learn from the mistakes of wrong decision just as long as there is a foreseeable greatness to gain. Every great person we see and know today have made good use of their time, don't joke with it, its what we truly have from inception, we came having just Time and our ability to decide for ourselves. Use both well. Thanks For Reading

Changing Your Reasoning Changes Your Life When seeing to make a change in our lives, we look at what needs changing, overtime it's been discovered that the true changes are needed to happen firstly in our mindset, if we can transform the mind, then we can transform our lives. I would like to address few mentalities among the many stereotypes that are wrong and detrimental to us personally and to the world as a whole collectively. Its said that as far as the eyes can see is all you can get, some things we accept to be possible some other things we have tagged as rather impossible, since they are apparently impossible then why pursue it. The main limitation hasn't been external forces, it can be but that's not the main causes of limitations, the main limitation I say is ourselves, our mentality is the Ariel photograph, then as we work in line with what we see then we can start achieving. We rarely know the full measures of our potentials, things we can do and as long as we aren't aware, we would keep on moving slow. Reasons why they say knowledge is light, everyday is a good time to learn something new and build yourself to increase your understanding. We know already that no one was born to know it all, its all a process, those out there doing great things, achieving bigger feet are not superhumans or genetically separated to be superb compared to the rest of the word. No rather it's all about devotion oneself to learning and learning well, it's how much you know you can give out. So the mentality of segmenting outstanding people to being more of a human than you is wrong, they have only learnt to be what they are. The learning process is open to everyone. Already I feel like we all should look at ourselves as the main actor of this movie called life, moreover we only know ourselves, but after growing up with so much hope and aspirations, its funny to see that few people would want to give up easily, and find a silly excuse to relents, hearing words like "its not my destiny, I've tried my best, I'll just accept it as it comes, moreover everyone would die someday", such words as this completely makes me what to talk to you for long hours. No one is created different, we were all brought into the world by a woman and as we grow from infancy here. No one came in to be big and a genius all at once, so let's learn, we can be anything we set our minds to be. Also Relationships mentality are also an area to consider revaluation, it's not suppose to be an hospitals to cure your issues, if you have issues that you don't like, then work it out, its bad to find someone to fill the areas. Why put someone else through the labour of taking care of you, as if you are the only one that matters, how about the other, who takes care of them. Finding a man to sort out your financial issues is bad, making this the basis of search would mostly lead to a wrong choice. Finding a girl to cure your sexual urges is bad too, what happens when you've both gotten so use to each other and she doesn't excite you as before, how would you stay faithful? Relationship has more to look out for, than finding someone to settle our various needs, both parties should be whole, not become a burden for the other. You just got your heart broken and now you're searching for someone to help amend the heart, who is a glue, you had better heal yourself first, let it go and not but the next guy or lady through hell because of your trust issues, or heart brokenness, be well and enough to know that you are right for another person before jumping to a relationship, you'll do this if you care for the person as much. Looking around today, we begin to wonder how much level of nasty attitudes are spreading around, do these people have parents, how did they manage to get bad to this level. More than an environmental factor, believe me when I say home training has more functions to a childs life. Trying to grow them with love and all level of consciousness to see them be better people is a Paramount quest. More than our jobs and desires, our kids come first so if we can devote to train them well, most of the worlds corruption and crime would be depreciated. Yet another mentality to change is in the area of training up our kids, Who said it's wrong to discipline a child, the Bible said plainly that "Spare the rod and spoil the child", children are naturally naughty, not because they are bad but they are not aware of what's right to do and what's not right. Things easily skip their minds because they seek for fun mostly, but that fear knowing that dad or mom or aunt has warned me this is bad and should I do it again, I'll be trashed would definitely stick to them more. A stage is coming where parents would have little dominance on their kids and so the manner of approach to correcting them would also change, but it still doesn't stop the parents from doing what's right and speaking out against the wrongs. Firstly to think there is no God is funny, then not choose not to serve the creator of everyone and everything is more absurd. He said " I am the lord your God and thou shall serve no other God beside me". Its a mandate, not forcefully though, the choice is ours, however since we all know there is more to live, there is more to our 120 years on earth, there is a place after here that is more important than here, so it's only rational we follow the words of our creator who knows more than us all combined and be the best. Serving God has more to offer us both here on earth and after earth. Undoubtedly its the best choice any can make. There are more wrong stereotypes eating deep into our society, and they have caused more harm than good,,it has changed our mentality badly, and the newer generations are growing to accepting the culture. We however must seek to be different, knowing what's wrong or right and rehabilitating our mentality. Success is ours, as much as we believe possible we can achieve. Thanks For Reading.

It Pains More Coming From Love So many things gets to us, quite painful infact, but some hurts deeper than some others. When we seat to reason deep we realize that the occurrence that hurt us deeper were actually less than what others have done to us in previous times, so it's not about what happened sometimes, most times it's the person, those we love and have confided in, when they turn their back on us,,even for the slightest moment, that little sting of betrayal, hurts deeper than hundreds of causal friends and stranger throwing darts at us. More reason we too have got to cherish the relationship you have with others, so we don't hurt them as it would likely hurt deeper. We've have brought them closer to our heart, we've placed them far closer than most others. They sure know how to get our extreme feelings, when they make us happy, we are very happy, and when they get us annoyed, they still do it so well that we get very angry. Ever wonder why people don't deal with heartbreak so well, this is it. Some more fragile heart begin to think to suicide when they get heartbroken, some cry for weeks, many looks for ways to destroy things, but looking back to past experience, someone somewhere, maybe a causal friend must have picked a fight with them, or done something so bad to them, but it didn't take them much time to forget, they easily forgave but when the one whom they loved did similar, it was hell. Mom could easily tell me to let go of my vex towards someone who got me annoyed, but when I'm angry with mom, I don't see who can calm me down, I could go that day angry until I talk to myself or like always until she apologizes. They are so important to us, they push us to the extreme, positively and sadly negatively too. We don't fully know how far you can go, or how angry you can get, or how risky a step you can take until a person you love is involved, they show us our abilities and endurance strength. Many of our worst moments was when you love said something bad to you. Its because we pay more attention to what they do, a crowd of people can speak but you'll remember in details every single word that comes out from that special one who holds a space in your heart. You probably would have heard someone say "if you want peace of mind don't check her phone or don't check his phone", cause you'll most probably see something you wouldn't like, as much as this is true yet we still look for that perfect opportunity to check through their phones, simply because we want them to care and take us special same way we do to them. Its funny how we think we can deal with it but when it finally happens, here we are feeling too bad, we have to be emotionally intelligent especially in the affairs concerning those who we care a lot for, they can make us do and undo a crazy load of things. However all these isn't enough reason to start expecting the worst from everyone, if we colonize every one into being the same, we may never be open to experience a change, mind you people are different, Open communication is key to preventing the hurt. Sometimes we've got to let some people in and see what they've brought to the table, only this time we are little more careful, yet open minded to give and receive love. When someone is special to you, that hate should leave the room for them, for their sake and sake of the relationship shared, that hate should exit the room for them. They deserve that much. Ofcourse no one is supernatural enough to know how to please you just the way you love to be please, they might be trying their best to please you but you are feeling like they aren't trying or doing quite the opposite. Remember that our mother's or our spouse didn't just get to know unique things about us, some of the things they know about us was as a result of we telling them. This is my best food, oh I don't like this, oh can you do this again cause I love it, and they begin to take note, ordinary they aren't going to just know. Expect that anyone can hurt you, accept this so when it finally happens, the anger rate would be reduces and you both can quickest iron things out. The trick about this is that when they hurt us we don't quickly forgive as we do when another causal person does and it shouldn't be so. These people matter more to you, and at such we are always eager to know and hear from them, its rather impossible to coexist without some quarrel or fight occurring at first. We are quick to say to ordinary people "oh its fine, you know I don't know how to hold grudes, after that day I had already forgiven you, so they can say " oh you're too kind, God bless you" as if they really care,well they don't, those who care are family and friends, but if they were the one to annoy us, would it be easy for us to say, oh I have forgiven you, or would you keep it in mind. Those who should easily be forgiven are not but those who don't really matter are readily forgiven. Like I don't care if you are angry with me or not, I don't really know you, I can choose to apologize just to fulfill all righteous, but deep down I don't care if you accept or not, however there are those who care, but the fight is still on till date. That's a trick. The emotional difference between those we care for and those we don't care as much for are all just to make life interesting, your hurtful memories are the stories you probably shared with people more often, well became its interesting to talk about, except you feel embarrassed based on how it all played out. Those who matter should not be let loose because of trivial matters, they should be worth more than that. However in cases of betrayal or even death threats, its best we apply wisdom and cut ties, more than we care for them we care for ourselves more, the bible never told me to love my neighbour more than myself, he said like myself, note he said "I should" Well I'm still trying, but now its me before any family and friends. Maybe when I have kids I'll reconsider. I'll love more than I do myself, that I know. Those we love hurt us the most, we must try to forgive because we understand the trick, if another person did same we would have forgiven long ago, so why the daily with those we love, who deserves our forgiveness more. Make peace today. Thanks For Reading.

Can You Keep Something Confidential? We all have that one friend that has a running mouth, they can't keep a secret as promised, time has displayed their nature, now we are being careful at what to say to them and what not to say cause the next mouth we may be hearing it could be in the mouth of another. However there are others who we can truly confide in, although they could fail us because they are human after all, but then we know they tried, unlike others who would let off such information at the slightest remembrance to it. Knowing how to hold words are great attitude. Keeping a secret can be likened to a snake hiding, a green snake hiding in a midst of green grass can't be easily detected or a brown snakes crawling admits sands, it can strike and still get away easily, keeping secrets are just like this, sometimes it's needed while other times is wrong to keep. More dependent on who is involved, and why such information should be withheld, from this we can determine if you are being smart and good keeping the secret or you're being quite the opposite. Its no news that relationship should be built on trust, understanding and openness, secrets are often going to turn around to taunt the Union and if the love isn't strong, then its breaks and ends that's way. All grasses should be cleared, plain and smooth to the best of both abilities. Yet it's often hard to find relationship where both parties are not hiding something already, and the fear of the damage such information can do is heartbreaking to the one who is guilty of it, talk less of telling it now in reality, it's mission impossible. Are some secrets good to be withheld in a relationship? Yes, but for a little time, I'm not talking about matters of little relevance, I mean those secrets that are great threat to the union such as cheating, health issues, finances, blood group and similar. There are perfect time for everything, some people would say "No just tell him or her, you can't be waiting for a perfect time", I find this untrue, our emotional states has often lead to different response to issues, he can't already be in a bad mood or she is having a bad guy and you decide it's the best time to pop up the matter, are you trying to lead her to depression or make him hit you? There are good times for all these, it is dependent on your partner too, especially if they have a good way of dealing with tough times, then you can say and pray they receive it quite alright. Friendship is quite different, these people are close to you but somethings have played out or is about to play out, things you know would hurt them, now there's a secret you have hanging on your chest. With friendship I feel its better you just do yourself a favour by speaking out and apologizing, but first make sure you are truly sorry and won't be guilty anymore then go ahead, you don't want to be a hypocrite trust me. Friends has quite a tenser way of dealing with issues, that's more reason why you want to be careful as well as having done the right thing as quick as possible. A friend can decide not to forgive and revenge cause its friendship, you are not a couple who loves each other and can't hurt each other, a friend doesn't see you as himself or else they are naturally just kind. Your partner who truly loves you is ready to forgive more than a friend. For the sake of being good, you want to come clean, but there after you need to be careful as you can never really trust the words. Moreover not all friendship would last for a lifetime, some distance would break or just very little communication from time to time, so you just have to relieve yourself off the pressure of holding it secrets and get it over with. As guys sometimes be ready to take a punch. Now talking about things future intentions, some people tend to keep it a secret till when the action is finally done, yeah like a snake, keep everyone in a dark then suddenly surprise. This is good most times especially when you understand the people you are around. All around the world we have good people as well as bad, we have those who would spoil your plans out of envy and those who would support it, but how can you tell, the safest option is to keep it hiding till it's done. Some times too its not good to hide plans as it proves lack of trust especially to your partner. Some relationships has broken off completely because they said out the secret and the partner who they told could not accept to continue with it, so they ended it, this sometimes is not because of the timing but the partner was hurt so bad and that was the best solution to him or her. So you can choose to apologize, wait for them to forgive or just move on, if you committed an offence you should expect and receive the consequences rather than run away from it. Truly relationships foster more in an environment where there is openness and faithfulness, we wouldn't go through the troubles of hiding our dirty little secrets if we did the right thing and remain faithful to our promise. So more than trying to learn to deal with our hiding secrets, it's better we try to avoid the actions that would lead to keeping secrets from those you really care about. An exception to future intentions especially if its a big plan and their actions or energy can ruin it, we all have to be cautious with things we hope to accomplish, not all smiling faces are smiling hearts. Thanks For Reading.

Make That Love Work Love is crazy, love is insane, we would be insane to expect only sane things from a relationship. Many people have gone narrating their troubles or relationships drama to a therapist or someone more experienced, and all they did was to laugh, like what did you expect in the first place. It doesn't always go as we think or plan it, but however since its love, a matter of the heart, we must make it work, we owe as much to our partner, for commitment sake we all to put in our best shot. What's making the love deteriorate, find it and amend it, more so look for ways to spice it up, let things get more exciting, more intriguing, love is fun, don't miss out from the fun love has to offer. Its probably a lot of time spent already but do you remember how it all started, when you both just started the journey of love, the constant calls, the text and meeting up, the love was thrilling, we went to bed craving for the next day, our dreams was engulfed about our partners, nothing else matter much, we found a new source of joy and we were swimming in the moment, oh I'll love you forever, I can't spend a day without you, you are my world, lol, few years afterwards all the thrill and excitement are no where to be found, and funny how we blame it on the kids, or on jobs or on life situations. Yet there are more busy people who still enjoy their relationship like they just started yesterday. Love is never secluded to a certain age nor is it restricted to some certain issues, even the very poor still find ways in their own little space to make their love life worth envying, you don't necessarily need the costly vacations nor do you need a trip to the resort to make the experience memorable, all what is required is the both of your willingness to make it work, the man and the woman both channeling their desires to see each other happy, that does the trick. Of course, we can't push aside the place of sex, sex is a very important aspect to the marriage, its designed by God for the sole purpose of spicing up the emotions, as couples it must, not should but its a must to explore it to the fullest, it boosts the love. Much more than money can go, a good sex would surely create a stronger bond. You never get too old for it, for couples its a divinely ordained act, why stop being happy, why stop. Everyone else would stay for a short while, the only person who is going to stay with you till death would and should be your spouse, therefore nothing should be strong enough to stop your love level, everyday is an opportunity to create a whole new different feel. We are dynamic as humans so we can never run out of creativity. Today we are feeling like we this is the height of it all, nothing can cause a greater excitement than this, then boom you see what another couple is doing and you see that something better can still happen, be open to learning new things that can spice things up. Fights doesn't mean a decline in love, infact if twisted right, it can bring a closer bond than that which previously existed. Fights are mere misunderstanding between couples who are truly in love, because couples who are truly in love would still act within the confinement of not wanting to hurt their partners, so the wrong they could end up committing would be something they both can resolve in a sit out. I don't see how couples who are truly in love would still go ahead to lay with another person, maybe if someone can explain better to me, but that act is so painful and would most likely lead to a complete termination of the Union. No matter the misunderstanding, true love still makes us act in the zone of not wanting to hurt our partner. Doesn't mean all couples break up when the discover their partner infidelity, some have forgiven and are still together till date but the statistics is not adding to their favour as most couples calls it a quit. Its very painful you must agree. The question today is what can I do to spice up my relationship, it's Monday and work is most stressful today, what do you have planned to relief him or her of the stress. Would you get a gift today, do you plan to susprise him or her today. Have you taken your calendar to single a day or a week out just for the both of you, worry less about the kids, in fact they need to learn so when they grow, they can learn the secret to why their dad and mom stayed stronger together over the years. Its as simple as wanting to see your partner happy, this only brings the zeal and the ideas that would foster the bond. You need to be happy and so also do your spouse, don't wait for him or her to do it first, its not a game, its a joint life already, if your partner isn't romantic, then teach him or her, sooner they would learn and reciprocate, you'll be amazed as to how soon they can transform. We are dynamic as humans, change is something everyone is capable off. Never get tired, loving up on your partner is as good as loving up on yourself, moreover when they are happy, you too is happy. Spice it up, make plans today. Thanks for reading.

Uncertainties The high risk in uncertainties, risk has sure made a lot of people, on the other hand it has destroyed, maybe have concluded it to be wrong, others has said life would be meaningless if we don't take the risk, now we stuck in the middle. However we've come up with a possible solution which is to make the risk a calculative one, meaning to weigh the options, if the fail consequences would be daring, then there's no need testing the waters. No matter what we say, you can never stop everyone from taking crazy risk, our minds operate differently, and it sure do work for some people. Many want to take that risk now, but are scared, and the fear is a good now in this case, they are only being careful, the fear allows them think deep about their intended actions. Like how about if it works out? What if it doesn't work out? We can't be certain of the future If we don't try, would if be good or bad, would our situation change or would it stay the same would forever remain unknown if we don't try it out. That why sometimes its ideal we take some insane steps, just do it, whatever the outcome might be we would deal with it, but this thing is what I'm going to do. So many talents stay hidden with little or no one knowing what they have to offer, still refusing to take that crazy step to push themselves to fame. Some times we are complete, we have everything in place already, all we needed to do is go, but probably to scared to. Everyday we see people rising from the gutters, people we never thought possible. We see those we tagged as very poor suddenly rising to be very rich, and what could be the cause of the sudden change, no doubt it was from a drastic action, they did something new, something different, maybe it was that same thing we know them to do, but they should have done it in a different way. Of course we don't do things a different way and expect a different result, yes they might have been consistent, but such consistency has taught something new, and this new added knowledge is paying off big time. No one can fully know if what they do today would be the breaking point for them. I particularly am i fan of Reality Competition, be it music, dance, acting, pageantry, fighting, whatever the competition is, especially the competitions that are famous, I mean those that have great things in store for the contestant and help them stay popular from henceforth, I just love to watch it. Because these people are the regular people, living normal lives, no fame, no public attention, but just from a singular decision to try out the offer, give it a shot, we can see where they are today, its a lesson to learn, try taking that risk sometimes, you'd never know. So many business ideas, maybe the money to finance is an issue, but more than that,the zeal to push it is low. We sometimes know what to do next, but for really no logical reason, we Still relent. It could be to submit the proposal to a friend, an office or simple contact someone for financial aid, but these we haven't yet done, slowly and slowly time is going and the excitement we formerly got from thinking about the possibilities of it working is deteriorating. More reason why we need to act fast and on time is because, at first when the idea is still new and fresh to mind, there is this level of faith and believe and it can help with the push, feeding you the right motivation, but as we let it waste more time, we just slowly lose interest, things just begin to feel normal once more. Taking risk is a dice roll no doubt, so we want to be careful, we don't want to take risk that would ruin us if it goes bad. For example gambling with a very vital money, should it go well at the end doesn't change the fact that it was a foolish action. So many have lost their parents hard earn tuition fee just because they had a serious hunch that one game would pull through. Not even for a football match where the biggest team is playing the smallest team, as long as it is in the world of anything can happen, make sure not to risk that little money that is very vital to you. Its not worth the risk, your peace is more important. How about if I end up embarrassing myself in public, like in the case of a competition. Be sure to believe in yourself, not just that alone to grow yourself to be capable and competent enough to seize the win. Most times we have watch the TV and have seen some celebrities do their stuff and you feel like "I know I can do better", and maybe of course you can do better, but how do you get celebrated or noticed to be better if still we don't do the needful. Such people we celebrate knew the steps they took before getting to the top, maybe are still scared to embark on the journey. Life is just as the soil it has, our talents and abilities being the seed, if we sow it right, be sure that in due time we would be reaping the harvest. No one has two heads, not the greatest of all time, not the president of your nation, not the richest man in the world, not the most beautiful girl you have seen, not the most good looking guy you have ever met, not your pastors, not you neither. Everyone stands equal chance to be what they aim to be, but the only separation is between those who were bolder to actually take the step to change something or at least try, and those who just could, they knew better than to take the risk. In summary, don't risk what you don't want to lose, risk on what your heart crave for,, moreover what's there to lose, risk applying for that job you know you can do despite of your qualification, risk going for that competition and doing what you love to do best, risk bringing that business ideas to life, risk calling that special one you haven't yet forgotten and might be embarrassed, risk shooting your shots. Risk leaving this life with no regrets, just do it. Thanks For Reading.

More Reasons To Read We all know Reading is a sure way to acquiring knowledge, often times we don't see the necessary need to read, as long as we went to school, or we are doing fine for ourselves, then why should I bother myself with reading. It wouldn't be a lie to call Reading a survival skill, so many people have either been save, rescues, or simply adapted only cause they read on how to overcome the situation. Readers are enlightened people, they acquire valuable knowledge, some of which they don't know where they would apply it now, but it would surely come in handy soon. People around the world have written down their deepest thoughts and findings, you could never feel what they felt if you don't read it. Reading is profitable in all sense, with each passing letters there is a value added knowledge. Allow the mind gain by reading, expose it to more forms of learning, it helps. By Reading I means every form of written works, both hard copies and soft copies, any works just as long as it was actually scripted, yeah including this article you're reading currently, what's so special about reading and reading books. Over here on Read.cash we have thousands of people signed up to engage in one way or the other, but that notwithstanding, they all must read. I see people flock the bookstore to pick out a novel or a magazine or anything just to read and catch fun and I'm like don't you have movies, don't you just see the news, why must we read, what's so special about reading that's got people still engaging till date. Writing and Reading is by far one of the oldest tradition, and it doesn't seem to want to evolve soon, its looking like one action that would last till the end of days, there are no better ways to do it, your eyes has got to see it for itself, your mind and Brain has got to comprehend it as best as possible. Different people can come up to read an article but they can't all comprehend same way, except when the notion is straightforward and has no technicalities. So its often better and more interesting you can tell the emotions through the countenance of the reader, what's makes reading so intriguing? I have gotten few importance to why we should read, I can't say if that's the reason people are reading currently, but it sure is a good reason, and if you're reading this, it'll encourage you to do more, and like wise encourage someone else to start reading, reading enhances the mind, if more and more people starts reading, it can only push the surroundings forward and ahead. Reading is the one time you could just be lost to the world of another, it works closely with the brain which has to be in character, the brain creates the setting from your vision, for example, you could be reading on ancient times and as you get soaked deeper in the book, you begin to get your inner vision sharpen, not because you want to see the letters more clearly, no rather because your mind is about to create a stage play of whatever you're reading and this way you'll better comprehend. Be it a well written news on war, politics, crime any thing, as long as the brain comprehend the mind would act the part. Such an amazing feeling, how we get in the mood and feel that exact emotions the writer expects us to feel. No wonder the ladies fell in love with romantic novels, like it almost felt like all the ladies were reading, out of curiousity, i wanted to find out what could be in that got the ladies exchanging books every week, buy it was romantic, few weirder ladies but mainly romantic. It brings out that inner emotions unknowingly to you, well you were not cajoled into reading so you're more relaxed to read and enjoy every bit of it. Few minutes into the read and your emotions are tuned to suit the read. Sometimes I hear people speak so intelligently and I'm like wow, I like that, but they learnt all what they have spoken, moreover you can't possibly give out what you don't have in, so they took it in by reading. One trickling thing over here is the fact that the writer doesn't necessarily have to be able to speak like that in reality before he can write it down, it could just be a researched word inputed, but that reader who has read numerous books having different vocabulary and intentionally worked on utilizing it for a better speech, would speak better than the writer. More reason writers too needs to be active readers too. It really calm the nerves when you relax and read, the fact you're reading helps the mind focus and takes it off the worries of the mind. Like so much might be going on presently, but as soon as you pick up something interesting and you're enjoying it, you're mind is not going to be bothered for that moment, which would send calmness down the entire body. Also this also support for a healthier sleep. A calm body for a better sleep. I think we should read more. Reading helps us appreciate the wonders of Gods creativity, how well sophisticated our minds can be. Haven't you read mind blowing books, something you likely went on and on again, repeating the read. Can you see how spectacular peoples mind can be, just created something awesome. Reading helps you know how much uniqueness is existing in the world today, we have seen and appreciated many of the film actors, screamed for many of the singers, but those who read, knows how to appreciate a great article, one they have connected with really deep. Of course this sense of appreciation and letting people know how much impact their work has created positively would lead to a better world, cause it'll be a motivation to do more. The reading habit is a good habit one many should imbibe, apart from true life occurrences, the many others are just imported from the abstract creative world of the mind and utilized well in reality to give people something to smile about. Kudos to all the writers out there and those who are taking out time to read. Looking for a good habit? Pick a book today. Thanks For Reading.

Are You Truly Loyal? Are you truly loyal or it's all a means to getting your way out. I've seen so many persons appear so loyal only to turn out to be arrogant and proud when they finally attain their intended height, day by day people are seeking for a way to having a better life and it doesn't matter what they have to do as long as it fetches them their desired results at last. However it truly pays to be loyal not because you're forced into it, but because you know the benefits of being loyal, as much as some people are fooled, others may never be fooled, they have their ways of knowing those who truly are loyal or not, if your greed is all there is, you may never pass such test. Loyalty cut across may grounds, from business, to family, to relationships, to plans, to friends, in loyalty we find diligence and strength to stay and wait. Loyalty is a more of a gift, you can't buy true loyalty from anyone, people who buy loyalty would surely lose it when a higher bidder comes, but when there is a conviction as to why you need to be loyal to someone or to a cause then it would take more than a money or force to pull you away. Its the backbone of every solid relationship, where two or more people are gathered there is meant to be misunderstanding, but loyalty to the mission keeps them striving and going for the goal, when couples fight what makes them return back without external damages is cause of Loyalty from both side. Actions speak louder than words, so those loyalty speak louder than promises. So much we can promise when we are in need, times when we are humble not because we are naturally humble but there's something we need so we have to play the card. Everyone has a good level of ego, we all love to be on top with everyone giving up our due respect, however sometimes we have to let go of our ego and be humble to receive. Well its alright, its a smart action, to understand when to be humble and when to take back your pride, but wait a moment and be in the shoes of the person offering the help. How would you feel to help someone who you think is loyal only to rise him or her and see it was all a disguise. Many promises we can make, oh if you help me with this, I will never forget you, I would do this in return, I would bla bla bla, but just when the deal is done, zoom off we go, and it feel like the helper is now the pest. Some of us must have lend money or something to someone in time past with them promising to return in a set time, now its well past the due date and you are calling, they are making it look like you're disturbing, you also feel like letting go, you've learnt your lesson. Much more than promising, please be truly loyal. Time would show who is truly loyal, it can't be guessed or believed based on promises, when the going get tough, tough enough to sieve away many of the so called friends or spouse and sometimes family, then your eyes would be open to the fact that your real circle comprises of very few people, mom, dad and few others. Yes, mom and dad has been proven all over the world to be your die hard fan, supporting you genuinely without any strings attached. Siblings,most times but not always. Friends too can be loyal but then we have to be very careful, experience has thought the world a lot I guess. Wealthy guys have a lot to battle with the issue of loyalty, they see fake love everyone, people wanting to prove their loyalty to them whereas they know they just want to be helped. You can't blame the rich from always being strict and hard to approach, most of them weren't that way from the onset but people have given them some bitter experience so enough that they decide to adjust to certain kind of lifestyle to protect and prevent more unwanted happenings from occurring anymore. The rich also need help some times but then they don't see anymore willing to go the extra mile for them, people seize the opportunity to exploit more. The remedy to the aforementioned is to help without expecting anything in return, yes we know, but the fact that as humans our needs are insatiable would always make us wish that our needs comes easier, its always easier to ask a favour than to render one. Getting a loyal person is hard to the rich, many people are asking with the promise of loyalty, but when you have played your part, expecting the other person to reciprocate, would the loyalty continue. As much as loyalty is required to our person to person relationship, its also needed to our ambitions, we have our various goals and aspirations, it's not just enough to have it in mind, we need an undying passion to see it accomplished, this is loyalty to the dream. What happens when things are not going as planned, what do we do, do we quickly run off to the new plan that would be easier to operate, or we seek to make it work, we require loyalty to the dream to make it work. If you see someone who is truly loyal to you, do appreciate them, some friends are just awesome, always supporting you in whatever you do, they can come over in the rain just because you called them over. They have put you in their heart and really want to see you succeed, appreciate your family whose loyalty has been from your birth, up till date and still counting. Each relationship needs loyalty to keep moving smoothly, Loyalty to the dream has always yield good results and would continue to. Loyalty is a gift, true loyalty can't be bought. More importantly are you also loyal? You should be too. Thanks For Reading.

Why So Shy ? Some attitude I see reasons to, some others I don't see any reasons too, as much as it's a normal human trait, its neccessary we learn otherwise. Shyness has got a lot of downsides, it's good we know how to do away with it. Being shy is something we all have experienced, many are still experiencing, it's just a normal occurrence, we can liken it to anger, jealousy and so on, there are many attributes we posses as humans, some good and some not so good, we just have to learn in the course of life. We can adjust to changing the things we don't like and see to improve on the characters we like and are good for us. Its not enough for us to grow up and increase in heights, we must also see to increase in personalities, and push to be better, attributes like shyness don't have much goodness to offer, its best then that we look to being more bold and outspoken, this has more benefits for us as humans. Children are more prone to be shy in time past, you could literary see them cry when ask to talk in a crowd, they were only comfortable at home, it was fun though, as they grew some of them became bolder while few others still haven't dealt with their shyness. However the children of nowadays are bolder in terms of percentage ratings, now we get to see a lot of children doing big things and doing it well, many are already stars and can speak well on an interview, we the older ones who were shy at that age begin to regret, lol, we could have used that opportunity to start up, because everyone love children, if a kid does something its more probable that he would get more accolades compared to an adult, but most of us were shy, well some of us are still shy. Do you imagine how many opportunities we have lost, places we have to go but were busy being afriad of embarrassing ourselves, people we had to talk to but we were stuttering, it sends a signal like we are not capable of handling matters. When we see people speak and appear boldly, we often thing they are super humans, only until later before we realize that there's nothing special to it, we were only being shy for nothing, like being shy for absolutely nothing, we are all humans, we all alike, and prone to mistake and embarrassment, so there's completely no use being shy. Why are you shy? Have you gotten a reason why it's OK to be shy, when we understand that there are no benefits to being and staying shy, then we can start looking for ways to stop it. If we still feel its normal to be shy and since everyone experiences it, then why do we have to strain ourselves to change it, then we might just keep nursing the habit. Shyness is bad, quite normal though but not beneficial. Some have said shyness makes one calm and quiet and its good, but that's not true, shy people are quiet and calm because they are afraid and have no option than to be quiet and calm and not because its their character. Bold people too can be quiet and calm if they choose too and not because they are afraid, yet when the need arise they can speak out too. So many people are talented with bright ideas, but the reason why they are yet hidden is because they are shy to come out, so many auditions they could have attended, so many competitions they would have won, but shyness of people would not make them take such great steps. Shyness is slightly of a low self esteem, slightly because they could be sure of their worth and proud of theirselves but just the fear of embarrassment is a reason why they are distancing themselves off the bold steps. Few others have gotten job interviews but they lost it because they were not outspoken. Many can't lead people who were place behind them to lead, their leadership capacities has been stained not because they are incapable but they can't face people to talk and direct them. Little by little it begins to be pronounced and the subjects or apprentices begin to see their leader as incapable as he can't relate with them and this can cost them the role. All because of shyness that has not been dealt with. There are so many people who are looking up to you, if at all then your kids would very much look up to you, for such reasons we must see to adjust all traits that might not be worthy of emulation. Shyness can linger for a longer time and be more pronounce that people can tell, however we need to tell people to be more outspoken, and how best than to set an example by yourself. Overcoming Shyness is possible, when you realize that we are all humans, no one is big enough to make your heart skip or stutter at their presence. Groom yourselves to becoming bolder, a bold person is more capable of grabbing opportunities. Be Bold, seek to overcome shyness. Thanks For Reading.

Its Weekends! Got Any Plans? Been a crazy first week of the year, I do sincerely hope I could rest through the Saturday and sunday cause Monday through Friday comes again and we all set out once more. Here I am on a Saturday still stressing my self out, little did i forget Saturdays doesn't get us to rest all through cause we spend most of the time preparing ourselves for the new week coming. Just this time the work load is on a different kind, this time we can sleep off while trying to do our laundry and there's no one to call our attention to the assignments we left undone, or the lectures we are to attend soon, or the task our boss expects us to have done. Nevertheless, the work doesn't do itself, we got to take care of the laundry ourselves cause it's our personal belongings, there after I arranged the house, arranging isn't the issue here, the issue is when you begin to see so many things you have left undone and you need to do. You could be sweeping the dirt off the floor when you notice the refrigerator is so dirty, already your mind just registers another work load to add to the pre-existing ones. Or maybe while you are tidying up, you get to notice a cloth you've been looking for, now you've got to possibly wash it too. So I really count the Saturday daytime as a total rest time, I feel like its work time, only difference is we are home, well not everyone is home, for some there are work to do Saturdays and for few more there are works to do tomorrow's Sunday also, and it goes on and on and on, I only hope they find time to rest as proper etiquette requires, we can't work all through like our lives depends on it and not find time to rest, rest is key, infact rest is a needed tool for us all, we rest in order to work more efficiently, as a boss its paramount we know our workers rest is part of the to do list. Basically fun time kick starts from Friday night, like they say its turn up time, you could be out all nights of the week but when its Friday you'll definitely know there is a big difference. However our turn up on Friday's has often lead to hangovers and such hangover could cost us not getting our selves till late Saturday evenings, so what time is left to prepare with. Over here you need the sun to get your clothes dried, so when you wash at night you may need a gigantic fan to help you dry it or better still you wait until Sunday, hopefully you're done and ready before Monday. How is your sundays like? For me, its church morning, for those of us who sing in the church, we have got to be early, and by that I mean more early than the rest of the church members, moreover if we are late to church before the ministration there's no need making it to the rehearsals done. Sundays are fun too when you have good friends you are hoping to meet in church, after the service you have time to hang around and catch up before heading home. There was a time when church was my major fun during the week, I mean I spend the week looking up to Sunday, cause we had lot of fun activities as well as I got lot of friends there. Then my Sunday clothes was different, it was a special bag used to package the clothes, you can't see me wear those clothes to any wear, it's only to church and very important parties, then I rarely go to parties so it's mostly church. Unlike now that I wear any cloth anytime, now I go out more often, most to important places and I got to look good. Still I can't wear my casual wears to church as I do for friendly visits. But then you may catch me wearing that Sunday cloth on a monday or Wednesday or any time of the week, fully dressed, its the life of a grown up. I'll like to know how your weekend is going, smoothly I presume, how much work have you done through the Saturdays morning, did you clear the lawn, were the dishes so much, did you do the laundry and press your clothes, did you spend more time attending to the kids, were you active in the kitchen, or did you sleep it through, we all have got our different ways of spending our time, in all remember its weekends, if you don't have fun now, I wonder when? Let's see to make the best of the day, at least you've got the evening and night to make the best out of the day, following by sunday. Have fun guys, however be careful out there. I don't have much plans for the weekends myself, I most probably would spend it with friends, talking and eating, they had better prepare something nice to eat, lol, I really do miss my pal, it's been a crazy week as I earlier said, they too have been busy. Thank God for the holidays season just concluded, we had lots and lots of massive fun. Now the holidays is over, its left for us to create time for fun off our busy schedules. Life should be enjoyed as much as we plan to succeed. Spend quality time this weekend having fun, even if its with family and friends or stepping out for some extra kind of enjoyable time. Happy Weekend guys. Thanks For Reading.

What Are You Preserving? There's always something about us individually that makes us stand out, There are a certain images or personalities we look to preserve, we want people to see us that way, infact we spend so much time trying to preserve it. For example an athlete may be looking to preserve is image as a good sportsman, now everything he does must align with the main aim and objectives of being a good sportsman. No wonder there are certain things they love doing initially but they had to cut off from it totally, not cause they got tired, no rather because they have something more valuable to protect. Life itself is full of different sides to oneself, everyday we explore, different opportunities, trying new things every now and then, its really isn't easy finding oneself, however when we do, when we have made up our mind on where and what to focus, we begin to conform our life and culture to supporting that dream. Funny how most of the great personalities we have today were formally having the most unadmirable personalities, but as soon as they discovered and accepted what they really aim for, especially when the mind is fixed, it becomes easier to preserve. Indeed its safest to know yourself earlier so we can preserve earlier too. Simply because we don't know what tomorrow holds or what we may become tomorrow, it's better we play safe from the onset. Playing safe from the onset entails keeping a good attitude, well behaved in and out, so when we finally get our footings it'll be easier to link the past and the present together. It would be easier for a respectable citizen of a state to be voted for as the mayor compared to that thug who has once terrorized the town. In another way it'll be easier for that bad guy to become an pop star compared to that good guy who's so quiet, you see each road has its linkings. Its more like a planned lifestyle, only that we don't know from the beginning, infact we were not informed we have something more valuable as a personality to preserve, by which everyone around us would know us for, all what we were taught was to be good, hardworking, good Reading habits, respectful, lovable and those general good traits a kid should have, true it helped, much more if we knew it would be a life time something, not something we can end once we live our parents house. A lot of us already have attitude and characters we can't change, we've gotten so used to it already. Fast forward to the future, the work doesn't get easier, infact it gets harder, now the world knows and identifies you with a particular traits or personality exhibition, and you've got to preserve it, like it or not, be you very popular or just an insider, there are at least a person who looks up to you. Even if it happens to be one person only, it still is enough reason to be up and doing, cause from a person begat a generation, and from a generation begat more generations which in turn would spread all around the world. So we are all opportune to teach, let's teach right. Indeed preserving a prestige or identity is never easy, especially when there are other lives paying attention to you, we've got to ensure that we do a good job, at least to make the world a better place. In the world today we clearly can see how celebrities are idolized, people don't mind going the extra miles to see those humans they idolize, all to scream and faint, for some others they have built an habit of following the footsteps of the celebrities, so that celebrity whom luckily is aware he now has fans, must learn how to be good at what he does and portray good examples, even if they may be faking it. More reason why its good to build it early so it comes real and part of you. Preservation is for everyone to do though as individuals. Maybe when we begin to realize we are more important than we assume, then we can take up the need to preserve our nature aright. What happens then when people care less about their life and what they exhibit to the world at large? It leads to increase crime rate, increase immortality, possibly increase case of death. Cause the thieves stealing, the killers and rapist don't think much about preserving their name and image, so they keep influencing other both knowingly and unknowingly, and this is not good for the society at large. I put it to us that we are more important than we think or know, its paramount we look to preserve each other, We can only help the world by keeping our own end of the bargain, make the world a better place by keeping a good personality and preserving it. It's also worthy to know and note that people can change, oh yea change is constant, so that personality you are looking to transform is very possible, may not be easy, but it's very possible. So let's see to be good and uphold uprightness and godly characters, cause we are more important than we think or know. Thanks For Reading.

Going With The Plan Till The Latter End I got plans, you've got plans, however life happens and plans begins to slightly change, notwithstanding there are those particular few who see their plans till the tail end, it's a matter of rugged determination, not settling for anything less, maybe some bends here and there but in all the main aim and objectives must be actualized. Growing up, we all had our aspirations, what we looked out for, things we said we must achieve, most of us went as far as wanting to own a plane, some others becoming the president of the country. I guess you wanted to be spider man, I had once fantasied about flying from my storey building to the next street, well I guess i was old enough to keep it as fantasy and not try it in reality. However when I say don't settle for less, I'm not telling you to pick up your childhood dreams, that were unrealistic. Now we have grown, we see life more clearly and other things makes more sense than others, we work now with drafted plans and not mere fantasy. Owning a plane is nice, but how possible is it when you don't have the funds to buy a car yet, we start from here and keep growing, more reason why we set goals and try so had to achieve them, one bit at a time. Call me stubborn, call be adamant, it still won't change the drive, set the focus and maintain the vision. This is what I want, nothing less, nothing around, that's is what I want. It gives a sense of fulfilment when it's finally achieved. Moreover knowing what is really wanted enables us to push with focus. Not being tossed tro and fro without any finite direction. What is it we really seek to achieve is what makes or break us. Every one has their individual drives and passion, what we seek to achieve, maybe when it comes, we can then set a new record to achieve. This helps our actions, as we are not confuse, we understand the mandate, we know the assignment. Ever wonder what insane drive could keep people late at night, working hard, or out on the field training for an act, why some great inventions took years of consistency and constant practices without backing out, if there was no set goal, they could have easily be contented with the little achievement they could grab. Already people would still hail them for the few they have done, but deep down they know they haven't yet reach their mark and so they can't fully self acclaim the praise. True victory comes from within, we need to know we said it and we did it. Of course no pressure, its never a do or die affair, its just to push ourselves to be the best we can be. It's a sweet feeling to set a record and achieve it, it also boost our morale, to show that we can achieve whatever we set our hearts to achieve. A student whose heart is fixed on a 80% minimum can be happy with a 75% score as it shows his improvements, but knows that is not the main goal as he is fixed at 80%, that 80% is the main mark, so its more effort, when he comes, he can finally say yes I did it. We all need to set marks for ourselves, not one that are impossible to us yet, but one that are quite achievable but yet worth celebrating, then we can keep climbing up from there. We ought not to bring our standards down, except on occasions when we know it's best we revisit the drawing board to make reasonable adjustment, one that still would be satisfactory. Bringing down the standards doesn't give as much feel of achievements as it should, it comes quite to easy. As humans we value what we know took us effort to get, then we can beat our chest in victory, I am great, I am a winner, I am an achiever, we can't be scared of pushing hard, we are not lazy to bring down our standards, these is what I want and that is what I get. There are various areas we seek to not settle for less and one of the major areas are that of career and ofcourse you guessed right our life partner. In the area of career, we have what we plan to achieve, and how we hope it turns out to be in a specific time duration. We have it all planned, we have set the goals, 10 years from now, its so so so, in 5 years time, these and that should have been in place, we have it boldly crested on our hearts, now we can run with the vision, don't think to accept less, we don't want to say whatever comes we receive, we refuse to be mediocre about our career quest, no doubt it's not always easy, but we are worth the challenge. Also very important is that of our life partner, firstly we can't accept to spend a life time with who we don't love, its not a business arrangement, it's a personal life choice, and so its your choice. You very much have your options, what your hearts desires, anyone short of your desire is not going to give as much affection as you need to get a happy lifetime henceforth. If any choice can be settled for less, I guess its definitely not going to be this one. Its better to place more strict desires on the character than facial looks though, however the man or lady should be appealing to you, we all deserve the happiness we crave, who says you can get that happiness. Come on don't settle for less. If its possible then you can do it, we just have to see it possible first. More reason why we need to associate ourselves with people who have gone ahead and done the things we desire. These would help us see it achievable too then we can push with better hope, these would also help us keep the vision, rather than settle for help we are more motivated to get what we aim. What's the harm in trying your best, whatever the outcome is, life would continue and each day is another fighting chance. Keep the fire burning. You're the best, don't settle for less. Thanks For Reading.

Taking Preventive Measures There are tasks to accomplish every single day, some more harmful than the other, if we harm ourselves while undergoing a task, then we won't be able to do more tasks ahead. The jobs are important, whatever it is that you want to do is important, at least its important to you, even if it's a fun party, but more important than any task is you, you are more important cause the task also needs you to be well so you can do more. So take preventive measures at all times, your safety first, not only on work spaces, even on your chilling grounds, at home, learn to take those little preventive measures more seriously, as little as switching off all electrical appliances, as little as buying a contraceptive, as little as saying No to someone or something you don't feel good about. The popular saying of "Prevention is better than cure" is still valid till date, it has to be prevention before cure, seeking to cure has cost more than what we should have originally spent in trying to prevent. Funny that most times the prevention doesn't require money, rather it simply needs an adjustment in nature, all we need to do is to change sometimes and that's all. But you see we humans, same way we are the most sensible creatures, we can also be the most stubborn, animals has sometime notice a threat and retreat, humans no much, we can still continue and hope to be lucky. Luck is good, but its better to do this such that you don't require luck to make it work. Let's quickly talk on the few prevention we need to take seriously, already you are familiar with it, then what is the issues, we all know what the right thing to do is, but why then? One good reason to our stubbornness is trying to feel among. Lot of things we do not because we like it but because it boosts our ego in presence of friends. Most people wouldn't be smoking today nor get drunk regularly if their friends has not encite it into them. Talk less of sleeping with multiple partners, some people don't really enjoy this but just so they get to be hyped as the baddest in the hood. However lifestyle is a personal choice, though try your best that it doesn't become a danger to your life. Remember how it is in the world now, with the Corona virus everywhere, we have heard of preventive measures we can take to ensure we aren't affect, neither affect another person. Much more than the vaccine has helped, we all can't deny the fact that prevention has help much more people, cause they didn't get affected in the first instance, so there was no need to get cured. In fact more precautionary measures were taken, that's more reason for the compulsory vaccination so we could be more immune. Many died during the course of being infected by the virus and it shows how it's better to prevent it in the first place than to cure it. Don't Drink And Drive, Just a daily reminder though. As much as the best plan is to be sober at all times, we have grown to accept the fact that people just love to get intoxicated. So let's find a remedy for these people too and that rememdy is that you don't drink and drive. If there are plans to drink as you like just make sure you can book a taxi, the uber preferably cause the taxi park might be far from your location. Rather how about ensuring one of you is sober enough to lead you guys home safely. But in a case where all this are not put in place and you feel the best plan is to drive by yourself, that idea should be discarded. I feel like we should be told that such action as drinking and driving is more of a wicked action than it is a risky action. Its risky because it endangers your life, that is you put your own life risk, but that's not all, this action is also very wicked cause many times the casualties isn't just the drunk involved, an innocent can be affected, injured or killed, so we have to see it that way. Every life is precious. So don't endanger someone's life because of your enjoyment. Yet another little Preventive measure is having protected sex before marriage. Still no recent rumor right. Yeah its best not having sex at all until marriage, but the world we live has a mind of its own, more reason for the continuous unwanted pregnancy or the sexually transmitted diseases? One thing common about these actions we are told to prevent is the fact that they are all tagged as enjoyments. And cause its fun or sweet to indulge,we deep down really want to do it and hope to get away it, but just as I wrote earlier, you can't bank on luck, so rather than hope, why not just do the right thing. In these case the prevention is so cheap, get a condom or abstain completely, the cure on the other hand is not so cheap. Of course the cost of aborting would be costlier than that of buying protectives for safer sex, or if you decide to take care of the child, that is a longrr time of spending, you really want to prepared for a baby and not just fortunate to get one. Talk about the cost for curing a sexually transmitted diseases, so much compared to buying protectives. Some diseases too can't be cure yet can be suppressed to ease its effect. The cure is costlier when compared to preventing, so much time we would saved if we decide it's best to adjust our lifestyle to be better prevent unwanted happenings. Regularly checking up is a little task we can do to and it'll in turn help us mightily. The human body is not a machine, yes but we still need to care for the body. Everyone must have fallen sick some day and we saw the doctor who came to ourlpaid. Its completely normal to run a check up in ones body, that way we are not in the dark about health. Drinking water too as simple as it is, is very vital but has been discarded many times. Just as food in sufficient amount is needed, water too is needed. However water is readily removed from the body via several ways like sweat, unrine, so since water leaves more, then it should be introduced more into the body. Much prevention we need to be serious about. Share the insight to as many so they are aware that life is precious and we must intentionally seek to improve our health. As we are looking to improve our health, we can't afford to lose more. There are quite other actions to prevent before it leads to us needing a cure, for example "Smokers are liable to die young, yet the numbers still increases. So our stubbornness too need to be curb. Its prevention first, hopefully we won't have a need a cure. Safety precautions should be put in place. Thanks For Reading.