How Does It Feel To Be A Legal Wife?
Someone asked me this after I got wedded last July 23, 2022. I've been in a relationship with my ex-boyfriend who is my husband now for 11 years. We've been together for 10 years before he proposed to me last 2021, you can see his proposal video below.
I also wrote it here, I already had an idea that he will propose it's not that surprising since I hinted it. But what I didn't expect is that he will do it after we do a firing practice.
The proposal is really fun because I got to experience holding and firing a real gun. One of his childhood best friend is a police captain that is why we had access to their camp.
Then, just last July the wedding happens wonderfully. I am still about to share some of our photos soon if our edit photos from our photographer is out. It is still pending, for Pete's sake lmao.
So, let's get back to the question.. How does it feels to be a legal wife?
A friend asked me this question after I am finally a “Mrs” legally not just a live in partner.
Actually, the feeling is the same. No special feelings.. like I always tell my friend I am always a chill person. I don't get overwhelmed easily. My friend and my husband's friends shows more excitement than me, not because I am not happy, of course I am.. it's just that I am not the kind who shows overwhelming attitude. But I was really happy, I keep watching some of our photos that was taken by others after the wedding.
Nothing changes, like I still have the same mindset when I wasn't wedded yet which is to hustle more for the future to have our financial freedom goals. But there's this feeling that, finally.. we are done on our first project, so we can can move on to our next project which is to have our own house. Some people think that our roadmap maybe weird but we can't help it, we experience a lot of difficulties in our relationship including financial and family matters. But I don't mind as long as we will have a clear roadmap we will get there, like PVM always tell me.
Another thing is that, I felt more secure now.. emotionally and in marital status as I will have all the rights as legal wife. Although my husband never let me feel that I don't have the right way back when we're not yet legally married. Also, we will be covered with his insurance soon..so yeah, it's great 😃 He doesn't have wealth that I can after too haha anyway kidding aside..we will just build our wealth together.
But that's all, nothing fancy.
I am not like other woman who boast that they are something because their man marries them, it's not something to boast.. like who cares eh? If your man marries you then, congratulations but it's not a reason for you to let other woman who isn't wedded feels like they don't deserve it. Some Marites in the Philippines have that mindset which is very toxic.
Which is sometimes odd because mostly wedded couple are into more complicated situations than those who aren't. As some couple just got married because the woman got pregnant, instructed by their parents or followed tradition that they must marry right away ending they don't know each other's shortcomings yet. Marriage needs to be considered a lot before getting into it, because it's not like a hot food where you can spit whenever you like.
But seriously, I felt love above all as my ex-boyfriend shows his commitments to me.
Thank you for reading!
Kakakikig nemern yan. Congrats, Ate Eyb. Advantage lang naman talaga ng marriage ay yung rights mo as a wife legally, pero yung ganun pa din. Best wishes para inyo.