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5 Reasons to Learn About Marriage Before Getting Married Marriage is one aspect of a person's life that greatly affects the person. Some people just like the concept of marriage because they like the idea of a beautiful bride in a beautiful white dress and a handsome groom in a suite. It feels good to imagine you are the one. Some others just hate the concept of marriage because of the high rate of failed marriages around.  Whichever group you belong to is not a satisfactory position to be in. You may say those whose marriages are working are just lucky. Well I do not agree with you on that because, some people whose marriages were going sour, did something to save it and it got saved. This suggests that those whose marriages are working know something that those whose marriages are failing do not.  However it is not enough to stay away from it because others failed at it or go into it because you like the idea since it is not about idealism but about what works and what does not. Therefore it is of great importance to get as much knowledge as you can before getting married or deciding against it. I will give you five solid reasons why you must know about marriage before you go into it **To appreciate marriage for what it is and not what you think it is** Many get knowledge about every other thing about life and leave marriage out. Thank God for some churches who organise marriage classes for those who are about to wed,. Even though many couples depend on that it is not the best timing because at that time many couples may be too excited to understand what they are being taught. It is best to know what you are about to do before your engagement. You shouldn't just get married because you are the only single one among your friends or because your parents and society seem to be satisfied with seeing you married. You must be married because you see it as something you want to do. **To make the right choice**  Making the choice of a partner is beyond looks and love. A good knowledge of marriage would help you determine who is fit for it and who you can work things out with.You can meet someone who you love and admire, who may not do well as your spouse.This may sound absurd but some have stubbornly found themselves entangled with the wrong spouse and either get divorced or frustrated. Marriage may not be a set of rules but certain basic rules must apply. When you understand what is involved in marriage, you will get to know what you want and the kind of spouse you can live with  This way your choice of a partner will be more appropriate. **To know how to handle issues on your own when you get there** In marriage there is no such thing as perfect, there has to be issues. As a matter of fact a marriage without issues is a marriage to fear.Surprising huh! It is what it is. What makes marriage stand up strong is the manner in which one handles the issues involved. Handling things the wrong way can make a big mess of your marriage. On the other hand if things are handled the right way, you will have the best marriage ever. A marriage counselor can only give you good guidance but you have to live the married life. **To discern between good and bad counsel**  It is so sad that some people have broken marriages because they listened to what they should not have listened to, and took actions they should not have taken. All these happened because they could not differentiate between good advice and bad advice. Not everyone you talk to about your marriage has the right approach. Some of them may have bad intentions towards your marriage while some may have good intentions but lack knowledge to put you through. Remember many have dated but not all have been married successfully. **To know how the mind of the opposite sex works** It is okay to say not all men are the same and not all women are the same but there are general things about manhood and womanhood that apply to every man and every woman. This can never be ruled out in marriage because, it is natural that your spouse is not of the same sex as you. So you can not treat your husband like a woman or treat your wife like a man. You have to treat them with caution based on the knowledge you have about their gender. With these reasons I believe it is clear that plonging into marriage before knowing about it wont help. Wishing you the best!

Two untrue sayings that sound so true. I grew up hearing people use certain statements.These sayings have been considered wise for many years. Maybe because they encourage people to stay in a comfort zone. I have noticed it is often associated with people who are lazy about moving forward or  those who are about to give up on the efforts they have been making.   One of these statements is the saying: what will be, will be, Really? Many things that were supposed to be never became.  The second is: If it is mine it will come to me. You must know that if all that is yours came to you, you will not need to do a thing. In fact you will be very wealthy by just doing nothing.  God created man to continue the creation process from where He stopped. That is what our thinking and imaginative ability is meant for.  Man is a being to dominate the world and that can not be achieved by doing nothing.  Many people have wasted their lives believing these lies and died unfulfilled. The wealth that would have covered the earth has followed many to their graves.  God gave every man that has ever lived something unique for his own world with no clashes. So there is no need to envy someone else. Just use your time to find your space. A hardworking and objective person thinking of ways to improve in life never finds time for envy. Envious people have three major problems. Firstly, they do not believe in themselves, secondly they are ignorant of their own capabilities, and thirdly they are too busy thinking about other people's achievements, so much that they do not have time to pursue their own goals. If you can find your usefulness and live it out. Envy and negativity will have no place in you.  Funny enough I too used to say, what will be, will be until I discovered that things do not work that way. The more I waited, the more nothing happened. Imagine that many inventors of the things we use today thought that way. How backward the world would have been.  The more you wait for what is yours to come the farther it goes from you.Life does not give you what you deserve but only gives you what you demand. Even when you do not demand it enough you do not get it.  You have to work it out, act it out, speak it out, look like it,  see it, be it and finally get it. The systems of the world are not designed for your property, so remember it's God first. Your God given purpose is what makes you relevant in your world. Once you know what makes you relevant your wealth flows in. It could be a talent, it could be an idea. Most times the idea may be so big that you do not even know how to go about it.  The best way to discover one's purpose is by finding out from the manufacturer,since you are carrying his dream. Apart from giving you the purpose He has also prepared the way in which you will go about it. Who is He, He is God. The one who created you.

Hello, I am a newbie I am happy to finally be here. My name is Agio and this is the first time I am posting on this platform. I just want to say hello to anyone who spends time reading this post. I must say thankyou. I came across a post that said many positive things about read.cash a month ago and I thought I need to share my thoughts here. And then I decided that I should waste no more time. I am one who enjoys writing, especially if it involves creativity.I also have a lot of personal experiences to share. One beautiful thing about reading someone else's story is that, you learn from someone else's experience. Sometimes someone else's story may teach you a lesson that will last you a lifetime. And to tell you the truth some stories are better read than experienced. So maybe with a good moral lesson you will never have to experience certain things or handle things better if you do. I am particularly interested in issues that arise in one's lovelife. Well let me leave all the information for the posts ahead. I just want to say thankyou for having me here. I look forward to learning from you and having you learn from me too.  See you around.