Let's talk about My Experience in Cheating, How I deal with this?

Do you once experience cheated by someone? Or you are the cheater? Because I, My self once experienced being a cheater but it's not what you think. I experience being a cheater on my Exams before Lol. And You already know about that because I include that to my article: The Time when you are still a Student, A moment to Remember

Anyways, In this article it is my Writing Prompt about Cheating by @JonicaBradley and Thanks to this prompt because I already had a topic to write about.

So let's talk about Cheating! The first That I will talk about with you is about:

My Experience in Cheating

At the young age, I was 13 years old when I experience being in a relationship. It's my First time so I don't know if How I handle relationship back then.

Fastforward, the ending of our relationship is not good. I caught him with another woman which is why I remember to him my Father when my Mom caught him with another woman reason why, I see my self to my Mom in that time.

It is not my Dream you know, this is not what I expect. Because when I was a kid, I dream my First will be my Husband too in the future. Like how I read fairy tales story, I will found my own Prince charming and be with him in the rest of my Life. But this is the reason why I wake my self into reality, that having a good love story ending will just in the book and Prince charming will never become true to life.

After that, My misfortune in love is still not end because same with my past Relationships, same reason and same mistake happened why I broke up with them and reason why I disgusted my self because I'm not good at looking for a right man.

And I think that Maybe because, it is also my Fault for being in a relationship early. I'm still young and I don't know what the real relationship is. Unlike to my boy Cousin, he is in a relationship with her Girlfriend since grade 5 and I can tell that the Girl is very lucky to have a boy like him to her life and that is what I am hoping for

My Another HOPIA (Hope ya) is I hope that I will be the first Girlfriend of my crush because he is still No Girlfriend since birth and I can't believe that even if I became in a relationship with 6 boys in the past, here I am still falling in love to him and I think that maybe it is also my fault why my Exs is Cheats to me because my feelings to them is not the same like what I feel to my Crush.

Who can't do that if you know the person that you love is still wants someone else, right? It's hurts them too.

How Cheating affect my Life?

My first Heartbreak affect me the most and I can tell that I also experience doing the typical things that other people do after they broke up with their partner like:

1. Losing Appetite to eat

Like I remember that I just eat small amount of rice and after that, I go to the school.

2.Blank Space

I remember that when I go to the school even if my self is still lost, my mind is floating in the air. Reason why my focus to my study is also affected.

3.Locking myself in the Room

Like when I go home, I just go change my uniform and then go to the bed and sleep early or watch a funny videos in Facebook.

4.Crying every night

I don't know why I do that thing. Crying because of just a boy?

And after a Days only I feel better already because I always think that 'I'm still young and I can still find a better man.'

But I don't know that there is still most worst thing than what I experience in my First Boyfriend my Father was caught cheating to my Mom who is in overseas.

I thought my Father is just focusing to his own work too, I thought he is different from the other father who also cheat to their wives. But that is just what I thought and I can't believe that he will do that to us. He is alcoholic drinker I know that and it became his hobby and I understand that because our Mother is Away but I didn't know that he will do that.

And because of that, It affect my behavior of course, I change my self and become a rebel daughter. Trust me, this is the most heart break for me than breaking up with my Boyfriend. I lost my world, I lost my self, I lost the old me, and I don't know my self that time. Because of that reason, I became a bad daughter. Who wants my Parents attention.

And because of this, It become the main reason why I don't trust guys anymore and until now I have a Trust Issues when it comes to relationship reason why I don't have a Boyfriend. Lol

How I deal my Experience in Cheating?

I don't know how I deal this situation but I become get used to it. Like it is not NEW and I'm not surprise anymore. This is how relationship is right? Like in this Generation, faithfulness and loyalty is not a thing to other people. Even some husband and wife, they are married already yet they still can cheat to their partner because of this Simple reason:

• They Find that they are not happy to the set-up of their life

• They are tired of their partners behavior

• They are still attracted to other girls/boys

So, I am on the stage that when I experience this again I will not hurt, I will not cry, I will not make my life misserable because of just because of Love. If I will caught my Boyfriend/Husband cheating to me in the future, I'll deliver him to his mistress. Why I will stay to someone who doesn't see me as a Woman? That who doesn't respect me right? I don't need someone like him to my life so when that will come, I will donate him to his mistress who is in need. Maging mabait tayo sa nangangailangan, kawawa eh.

I will make sure that if that time will comes, I'm stronger than before. Because I Love my self more than other people, I respect my self and I won't let myself ruined just because of some trash people lol. I deserved better and you that reading this, You deserved better. Okay? Know your worth.

Your Advise to People who are victims of Cheating?

Since you experience being hurt because of this, I just hope that you learned your lesson. That you will never do the same mistake again. It's okay to fall in love, it's okay to be drowned of love BUT you should know your limitation. Learn to love your self more than anyone else in this world because our self is the first person that knows about you, it is your ally to everything until you die and when time comes that you will get hurt again because of this, you will understand what I'm saying.

Your Advice to the Cheaters and Mistresses, or side chick or whatever you call it?

Learn to love yourself too. Don't let other people make you disgusted in this world. Specially, to those girls that are good at stealing someone's partner, Imagine how much your Mom carry you for 9 months, Imagine how much your mom suffered just because she wanted to give you a better life, her sacrifices in everything just for you yet you are become like that? Remember your dreams, your ambitions, your life after that and question yourself if 'It is worth it?'.

Conclusion:

Our Life is precious, It's okay to fall in love but we should learn to:

• Wait until we find someone who is better for us

• Accept that he/she is not for you

• Love our self more than anyone else and;

• Put God to the Center of your life

And oh! Remember that Cheating is a Choice and not a Mistake.

Don't reason that you don't mean to do it because in the first place, you didn't think the consequences before doing it. It is your choice that you hurt your love on, it is your choice that you become a cheater, it is your choice that you ruined your relationship with your partner because in the first place, you did not think what your partner felt when they will know that you are cheating.

Friendly Reminder:

1. In every problems there's a solution, so if you have a problem with your partner. Spend your time in focusing how to handle the mess and not just because of small problem, you will get drunk and go to the club to find a sl*t because that will never become a solution you will just becoming worst.

2. If you feel like you don't love your partner anymore, have a talk with Him/her and tell what you feel by that, they will understand. Not find someone else and you will just tell to them when they caught you.

And If ever your Partner will Forgive you, you should know that the pain that he/she experience to you will never fade away. Maybe, they will just forgive but never forget.

By that way, maybe we will avoid being a cheater. We should be careful in our decision in our life and if you think that being a victim of cheating is easy, You will never know how to affect their life because they will experience:

• Trauma

• Lost of trust

• They can also took their own life

• Their life will become Miserable

• Crazy

And they will not know how to start their life anymore.

Because falling inlove make us happy but at the same time, It is scary.

Thank you for reading my Article for today! I supposed to publish this earlier but I'm a little bit late because I'm not satisfied to the outcome of my previous article earlier because I don't know how to express my thoughts about cheating.

Words for to this topic:

According to number 7th in 10 commandments:

Thou Shalt not commit Adultery

-exodus 20:14

What do you think about this words from bible?

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